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How do I Make a Decision?

When you’re trying to make a difficult decision, bear the following points in mind:

1. Ask yourself if you will look back and feel proud of yourself in a month, a year, or 10 years from now. That should influence the choice you make.

2. Think about the strategies you used when making decisions in the past. What worked and what didn’t? Apply that information to your current decision.

3. Try and quieten the voices around you and listen to your heart.

4. Take your time. Rushed decisions are rarely good decisions. Don’t act in haste.

5. Think about the impact it will have on others, especially those who are closest to you.

6. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Few decisions are irrevocable – and living without risk is a life half lived. If nothing else, we can always learn from our mistakes.

7. Talk it over with people who know you well – and are willing to be honest and speak the truth (and who won’t only say what you want to hear.)

8. Ask yourself: What’s the worst thing that could happen? What are the chances it will happen? And can I survive if it all falls apart?

9. Get as much information as possible. Try to see the problem from every angle, and think about every possible outcome and effect.

10. Take time out and walk away from the decision. Opting for some space usually brings a new, and more objective, perspective.

11. Be brutally honest with yourself. Don’t sugar coat the truth, or try to kid yourself.

12. If you have to talk yourself into making a decision, then the chances are that it’s not a good decision.

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my new thing whenever an embarrassing memory jumps up out of some backwater neuron to t-bone my present-day thought process is to declare a statute of limitations. like i can burn down an entire building in the state where i live and the law deems it both unfair and illegal to prosecute me after six years have passed, i think that thing i said in high school can be expunged from my record.

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Good Girl

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Reblog if your blog is safe for trans followers.

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What to Write in your Journal to Move on

When we are struggling with something traumatic, or something we experienced that it’s hard to get beyond, writing things down in a journal can help. Here are some suggestions of what to write about:

1. A description of what happened.

2. How it left you feeling.

3. Who was there and what they said and did.

4. What you wish had happened instead.

5. The reasons why you find it hard to let go.

6. Small steps you could take to start to move on.

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6 Steps in Learning to Love Yourself

1. See the good in your past. There will always be things that we wish had never happened; there will always be bad memories and things that we regret. But they are part of who you are – so accept that they have happened and celebrate the person they’ve allowed you to become.

2. Invest time in the things that bring you happiness. It’s important to identify the things that you enjoy, and that make you come alive, and are all a part of “you”. Spending time on those things will help to raise your self-esteem, as you’re valuing yourself when you pursue happiness.

3. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. We all make mistakes - and when we think of them we cringe. But that doesn’t make you any worse than other people. Just try to learn what you can, and then move on with your life.

4. Stop criticising yourself. So often we’re really our own worst enemy. We look for our flaws, and we put ourselves down – instead of being understanding of our own limitations. It’s time to change that behaviour – so start loving yourself.

5. Listen to your instincts and intuitions. If you want to love yourself, you must listen to yourself. Pay attention to those instincts and your instant gut reaction – and trust that you are right when you hear that inner voice.

6. Appreciate your life. Of course there are things that you wish that you could change. But some things are good, and are worth appreciating. So, focus on, appreciate, and make lots of your strengths.

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"Please be patient with me. Sometimes when I’m quiet it’s because I need to figure myself out. It’s not because I don’t want to talk. Sometimes there are no words for my thoughts." - Kamla Bolanos

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Members of the audience find themselves becoming part of the show

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She sent you nudes? Cool - praise the fuck out of her and make her feel as good as she deserves to feel.

1. Don’t save them without her consent.

2. Do not fucking dare share them.

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NGL, Tumblr, I am struggling this morning. Everything feels heavier than it should (my body included).

I love autumn but I hate that this happens with predictable regularity. Like my brain wants to shut down so it makes me sad so I want to sleep.

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The worst thing in the entire world is when you’re sweeping a big pile of dirt into a dustpan and it leaves that little coke line of grit behind. No matter how you position your pan or your broom and no matter how many times you sweep over it your outcome cannot change. As immovable as fate. I hate it so

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I love hypnosis

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Time to switch this thing off a while. See you later.

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Bro nimja is a pedophile don't use his shit

Wait really? Got any sources? Wasn't aware of that.

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Onions have sprouted in the fridge

What do?

Go outside to land you own or get a large pot full of dirt.

dig onion-sized hole

bury onion up to the green part

water it as long like once a week as the weather is above freezing

once the weather gets into "freezing" stop watering, let the top die off.

it will come back in spring.

water all summer '22

in fall '22, wait for tops to get yellow and wilty

pull out onions. there will be more than you planted.

allow to 'cure' in a cool, dry place for a few days until outside is papery, like you'd see in the store.

Enjoy SO MANY FREE ONION.