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Beware SeekingArrangements.com

Hello ladies! 

For any university sugar babies out there, I just wanted to send a little heads up. Just recently SeekingArrangements.com tried to pull a fast one on me. They were trying to tell me that due to my school’s email policy they could not send my university student reactivation email. This was a complete lie because I was receiving emails from other sugaring meet up websites (including THEM). Once I informed them about this, magically my reactivation email appeared in my inbox a day later. 

Not everyone will run into this issue... hopefully no one else will run into this issue. However, I do want to make it known just in case they try to do this to someone else. Do not let this website fool you into thinking it is your school keeping emails from you. More likely than not, it is SeekingArrangements.com preventing you from receiving reactivation emails from them to force/dupe you into paying full price. 

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When you find the right SD...

It’s happened. 

It took months and months of shifting through the salt to finally find a real SD. I’ve been seeing him a few times now and I feel confident that this is going to be a long term arrangement. It’s $700 per meet with $1000 a month in jewelry of my choice, usually diamonds or pearls, hundreds of dollars for luxury spas and he’s taking me under his wing and mentoring me in his business. 

I could seriously cry right now. 

When you find the right SD...you just know. 

Never settle for less, ladies. You deserve what you’re worth.

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POT for #2

I met with another POT just this morning at a coffeehouse. This one is of Eastern European origin, he’s a year older than John, and a little less attractive. I’ll refer to him as Euro. He seems nice enough. I love how much he cares about his dog, and he hinted around at the possibility of $6k a month, however we really didn’t get into talking numbers since this was just the first meeting. I’ll believe him giving me $6k a month when I actually have the cash in my hands. Euro wants to set up a dinner meeting, so I’ll be sending him a text following up on this a little later, and hopefully we’ll get down to negotiating some decent numbers. I’ve got my fingers crossed, but I’m also staying realistic about it too. 

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POT Creeping Into An SD

I’ve met up with a POT last week. I enjoyed his personality and, even better, his age is close to my own (he’s also not bad looking too.) My only concern is the allowance we’ve both agreed to tonight. Here’s the lowdown: 

We’ll call this POT/SD: John (haha, oh how original). John is a trauma center doctor. A well paid doctor. In other words, John is exactly what I’m looking for financially. However, John’s schedule is abysmal. Just yesterday he worked a 25 1/2 hour shift. That’s a day and then some! So setting up a one time a month allowance for a set amount of meet ups is not practical for him. 

We decided on the per meet method. I’m okay with this, and this works better for him. However, I made a stupid agreement of $300 per meet. I’m insanely afraid I may have shorted myself here. But then again, I do enjoy his company and he’s very attentive to my safety and needs. 

John’s already given me money tonight too, which is fantastic since we didn’t do anything except have dinner. I’m definitely going to keep him around to be my sugar daddy, at least until something much better presents itself. 

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Per Meets

It’s such a pain wasting time with salts. I have a POT that is offering $500 per meet. The fact that it’s not a monthly allowance worries me a little. I’ve sent him a message back trying to figure out details, like how often, will it be long term, etc. 

I know that I’ve read a lot of advice blogs suggesting not to do the “per meet” payment as that’s more like an escort than a sugar baby, but I’m wondering if this payment method isn’t so bad. I mean, it seems like it would be nice to have the money spread out throughout the month. 

If anyone would like to chime in what they think about “per meet” payments versus allowances, please do. I’m curious how other SBs feel about this. I mean, would you agree to cash allowance per meet? Why or why not?

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What makes a successful sugar baby?

Not escort, not cam girl, not stripper, not spoiled girlfriend and not trophy wife, but SUGAR BABY. Reading through the tag, there are some very thin lines between say an escort and a sugar baby; mostly because you girls have no fucking clue what it is you actually want and you don’t know your boundaries until it is too late. I know this from experience. 

So without further audeu, this is what in my opinion makes a successful sugar baby, 

-Knowing your goals, and not losing site of them. Was first goal when starting the sugaring lifestyle to pay off your credit cards? Two months later, have you? It’s okay to treat yourself with your own hard earned sugar cash once in a while and ball out, lord knows I have, but at the end of the day, your bills are still making their way to your mailbox, and that Fendi bag is just sitting on your floor.

-Saving your money. It’s okay to spend your allowance, on bills, food, entertainment, clothes. But only if you are saving at least half or a ¾ of your allowance. I have an envelope in my room that is my no touching money. Any money that goes in that envelope I am never allowed to touch, but that’s just the way I do it. Develop a strong will power.

-Try not to lie too much. Do you think these sugar daddies don’t have spokeo? Do you think these sugar daddies don’t have enough money to hire a private investigator and find out everything about your life in 30 minutes? STOP BEING DUMB AND STOP LISTENING TO BITCHES WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN SUGAR BABIES. There of course should be a mutual line that both of you should never cross, but if I was a very successful and well known millionare. I would want to know exactly who I was sponsoring and making sure she wasn’t someone crazy/someone who could potentially ruin my life/career. Think about it!!!

-Someone who has the confidence of a pageant contestant and a politician. This lifestyle is not for the faint of heart. If you are insecure in the slightest bit, just stop. Society is VERY judgmental about this lifestyle. People who you thought were the closest to you, will call you a gold digger, prostitute, hooker etc and you just have to turn your nose up and pay them no mind. They don’t understand the lifestyle of a sex worker. Morally, if you can’t handle having a double life and lying to people, then stop. The money is not worth it.

-Not telling a soul. Do not tell your best friend, sibling, roommate, co-worker or mother about this lifestyle unless you have briefed them for months about it. People do not respect sex workers, they just don’t. Also, having all that money makes people around you jealous. In the past, I’ve never told anyone that I am a sugar baby but I do act as if I am well off friends have asked me to buy them things that they would pay me back but never have. Small stuff like coffee, a bottle, food, etc but they all promised to pay me and they never did. Basically taking me on for a ride, well not anymore. 

-Act poor be rich. This is the hardest thing for me to grasp. Now that I have all this money, it is so difficult for me not to look at the super expensive shoes online, knowing that I can afford this shit. It is so hard for me not to wear my Dolce and Gabbana suit jacket with my celine bag in front of my friends while they are wearing Wal-mart and Joyce Leslie. When people think you have no $$$, they don’t take advantage, as we all know, being sugar babies and all lol 

-Knowing that not every man she meets is sugar daddy material. There are tons of salts/meat suits on the websites. They go not give a flying fuck about you. They see you as a young, naive, vessel that they can stick their non existent dick in for five hours and only give you $200 to compensate. 

-Knowing that finding a sugar daddy is easy, keeping him is hard work. There is a 5:1 ratio of sugar babies to sugar daddies on the websites. These men have choices. There are girls out there who are willing to do twice as much as your for half the price. Prove that you are worth it. You could land a sugar daddy who is generous enough to give you a 5k allowance, but he ends it with you after two months, that is not a successful sugar baby in my opinion. The girl who lands a sugar daddy who helps her out with 2k a month, in addition to gifts, travel, and extra cash here or there that have been together for 7 months is a successful sugar baby to me. 

- Always being happy and cheerful but at the same time being real with your sd. You want new shoes? Take a picture and send it to your sd saying “Aren’t these the most beautiful shoes you have ever seen?” If he is a real sd he would ask how much. 

-Find out why your married sugar daddy is looking for a sb. I think this is one of the key to being a successful sugar baby. One that girls do not share on here but have found out on their own. Knowing this information you can slowly exploit it to your benefit. Some of the “tips” these “girls” are giving out are COMPLETE AND UTTER BULLSHIT. I laugh because you guys can’t actually believe that shit works in real life. Especially when you land a real sugar daddy. This man is a person. He has feelings. Like Drake said “I’m not saying I’m the nicest, I just live life like it.”  

-Be you. Don’t be me, don’t try to be a celebrity, be you. Make your sd fall in love with you. Develop a real sugar relationship with your sd. This man could hold the key to your future. He knows things and has been through life. Want to start a business, he could help. Trying to get into medical school, he can write a letter of recommendation. Want to see an opera in Manhattan, he can take you there. Being real is what has gotten me thus far with Four. 

There are many more aspects of what makes a successful sugar baby but I’ll let these points just marinate in your brains for a little bit.

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Tips for College Sugar Babies

All sugar babies have different reasons for sugaring. But college babies usually have something in common: we’re all trying to get through school.

Unlike some other SBs, we have to constantly differentiate from needs and wants - like, I really want the Louis Vuitton Neverfull GM, but I need to pay for my summer tuition and monthly bills. Oftentimes, our SDs are very helpful with this, but sometimes they need a hint as to how they can really help, and what to get a struggling college girl as opposed to a sugar baby who isn’t drowning in student debt. 

Here are a few tips for gifts from your SDs and POTs to get you that can help ease the struggle for SBs attending school:

- A laptop (also, ladies, please note: a MacBook is not necessarily the best laptop out there for you, and is kind of a big-ticket item; there are lots of other options out there which will give you more bang for your buck and can even be smaller and cuter!)

- A tablet (this can actually be used in place of a laptop if you take the time to learn about using school and business-related apps - message me if you need help with that - and is generally cheaper than a new laptop so it’s a great gift to hint at if you’re starting a new relationship)

- Gift cards to your school bookstore or convenience stores

- Tuition (obviously)

- Gift cards/re-loadable or auto-reload cards to your favorite places to eat on and off campus (these are a GODSEND - use it to buy breakfast on your way to class, or grab supper with the girls in between allowances… seriously, one of the best gifts you can receive, and will save your ass when you don’t have cash for groceries)

- Gift cards to a local bookstore (great for doing research on your topic when you need to write a paper)

- Spa packages (because we’ve all got to take time to unwind)

- Magazine subscriptions/Netflix/anything else you use to relax at the end of a long day of classes

- Groceries, gift cards or membership cards to your favorite grocery store

- Comfy lounge-wear for studying and hanging out (think VS Pink)

- A smartphone (so you can access your emails and schoolwork on the go)

- Getting him to cover the bill for your smartphone (mine is $60-$100 monthly and having someone else take care of it is a load off my mind)

- A gym membership or passes to your favorite exercise classes (I hate working out on campus, and most guys won’t say no to this one!)

- A stylish school bag 

Along with tuition, rent and a car are also really great things for an SD to pay for, but that generally comes with longer term relationships and these ideas are meant for college SBs who are new-ish to the bowl or who are still a little inexperienced.  

Some other tips for college babies:

- If he buys you a big ticket item (really expensive bag or shoes, high-end clothing, etc) take excellent care of it and save the receipts if you can. Keep expensive bags in their dust bags when not in use, and be cautious with them when you wear them; keep clothes clean and stain-free; only wear the shoes when necessary and keep clear of any scuffs. Really expensive things, when taken care of properly, can have great resale value. Although it sucks selling luxurious gifts, especially if you’ve become fond of them, when you’re stuck in a rut and can’t pay your rent or tuition, you’ll be grateful you were cautious with your high-end items.

- A lot of SDs love to hear that you’re doing well in school. If you’re constantly updating him on your marks on exams, projects, and papers, or whining about how bored you are of studying, ask for an incentive - maybe a shopping trip if you ace your final exams, or a fun night out with him when you finally finish your 10 page paper. Motivation like that makes it fun for both of you - he’ll love to hear you’re doing well, and you’ll have some great reasons to get your homework done.

- Try to get money for tuition etc. in person rather than have him pay it into your school account. Many schools allow the person depositing tuition money to see all of your personal info, so if you’re not on that level with your SD, ask him for a cheque or cash instead. 

- Always be grateful for whatever an SD helps you with. If he buys you a laptop, send off a quick email saying “Guess what I’m sending this from - thanks so much!!!”. The more appreciative you are, the more your SD will be willing to help you when you need it.

- Keep your head on straight when your SD asks what you’d like for a gift (for your birthday, Christmas, etc). If he offers to buy you a handbag that is equivalent to 3 months rent, which you don’t think you’ll be able to pay, offer that as an option instead. 

- Save as much of your allowance as you can. Sure, go shopping a bit with it, but make sure you save some out of every month. Sugar does not last forever, even if you think he’s a fantastic Sugar Daddy. Your relationship can end at any given moment, and if you can’t afford all of your bills without your Sugar Daddy, you’re going to be screwed. Always make sure you have enough in your savings account to pay for a few month’s rent and your tuition on your own - if not, you run the risk of dropping out of school in order to pay off your debts, which is a tough situation to be in. 

I know this post kind of points out all the less-luxurious-and-not-as-fun perks of being a Sugar Baby, but I think it’s important to maximize your sugar relationship to suit your current needs. Expensive and stylish gifts are nice, but personally, I’d rather have my rent paid and my car fixed any day. That being said, treat yourself to some fun stuff every once in a while, and go wild on the shopping trip he offers after you ace your Physics exam - you’re only this young and cute once, so enjoy it!

I hope this helped some of you college babes! Feel free to message me if you have any questions :) 

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When Negotiations Start

I have a few POT’s lined up. I’m still trying to assess whether most of them are worth it or pure salt. Most I have found to be salty.But there is one guy that has moved beyond the getting-to-know-you stage and brought up allowance numbers. His range is on the lower end of decent ($1200 - $1600 a month), in my opinion. I was thinking about countering him with $2000, but I don’t want to come across as greedy. Maybe if I mention the majority of the money would be going toward school? I just hate to over-step my boundaries, you know? I mean, $1200 a month is better than no-thousand a month. lol

Edit. $2000 + perks is a go! Now I just need to get the money in my hands. Haha!

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I’ve been going through the tag and some of you ladies ask shit in text posts and never get responses. I’ve seen a lot about organization of money, POT/SD questions, so I’m gonna help you out, sugars. I have a checklist that I do every month, so I not only keep goal...

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Square Cash and Taxes

I noticed a lot of ladies are using Square Cash to receive money. I find this an interesting choice as it obviously leaves a paper trail. I’m considering using this method as well under the intentions of accepting payments for “freelance make-up artist services.” I’m curious if funds received through Square Cash is being accepted under similar pseudo-jobs for tax purposes. Does any SBs reading this use Square Cash?

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A Lackluster Encounter

I would like to thank eastcoastsw and sugarmath for the feedback. This has definitely helped in my decision making and since broadening my search to other cities, I have been getting some promising messages from prospects that are 300k+. 

The date on Tuesday turned out to be more lackluster than anything. I’m a little disappointed about it, but not too disappointed. I learned that his income is commissioned sales and don’t trust that type of income to be consistent. Not only that, but I was so bored with him. He had a lot of talk about his punk-ish youth, but I think most of that has shriveled up and died away into just plain DULLNESS. I won’t be pursuing this POT further. 

However, I’ve been chatting with a new guy that lives about two hours away from where I am and he’s bringing in 500k with a career in law. He seems to be much more interesting and seems to have a genuine interest in taking care of his SB. I have my fingers crossed on this one, but I’m still waiting for him to send me pictures. 

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The Trouble with Finding POTs

I’m sifting through the prospects on SA and finding most of them to be drab. I don’t know if all the sugar babies out there have this problem or if it’s just the area I live in, but I’m finding it a little disheartening. It’s not their looks that is the problem, it’s the financials. Most of these guys don’t seem to make enough to support a baby well enough, in my opinion. ($50k annual income?)

However, I meet with a POT this Tuesday. I’m hoping things go well because I sure could use the extra thousands in my hand soon. I’m communicating with a few other POTs but not sure if they are going to go anywhere. All the guys that seem to contact me seem to be very timid or reluctant. Not sure if any others are having this trouble or not. I hate to be the aggressive one and steamroll them into meeting in person, but I don’t want chat back and forth for three weeks either.

Has any SBs out there experienced these things? What have you done to overcome it?