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Happy new year!

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Tangerines and Vodka+Champagne.

And a playful kitty~

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Sephi: It's not like I want to kiss you or anything...!

Ara: : Oh... Why don't you want to kiss me...? :'c

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Now children,

if you don't stop using the words "schizophrenic" and "anti-social" wrong, daddy WILL put you over his knee, and then you will get a stern scolding and a very long time out.

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To answer Daddy's question: I got accepted into Savannah College of the Arts and Design today! I've been struggling with depression for a few years, it's taken a big toll on my grades this semester. I feel a bit guilty about slipping so badly, but I passed everything. Barely. Thankfully. I have hope for the next semester, and something to look for to after graduation!

Oh boy! Congratulations! Daddy believes in you little anon!

Don't push yourself too hard, and remember to give yourself credit where credit is due! Sometimes the biggest challenge you'll face is your own disappointment, just remind yourself how strong you are for pushing past that invisible barrier and continuing to give it your all.

Even if its hard to see sometimes we both know you're overcoming a great struggle! Don't worry too much about grades, worry a little but just remember you tried your hardest and you're going to school for YOU, not for anyone else! Just focus on gaining the knowledge you want.

You passed, you got credit, so you win! No need to feel guilty! Hold onto that hope as tight as you can and keep it close to your heart. Daddy is rooting for you <3333

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this might not be the same for you as it is for me but

repeat after me:

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR GPA

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR GPA

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR GPA

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR GPA

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR GPA

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR GPA

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR GPA

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR GPA

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So kids, how was school today? Do you need to talk about it?

Daddy

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I just have to say, I love you guys so much! I am so glad you made this blog, it feels so wonderful and safe. you two are my favorite couple in the world.

Ara: Awww! That's wonderful! That's exactly what we were going for. Safety and love~ *Scoops into arms!*Sephi: Awww, thank you sweetie!<3 Both Ara and I do a lot of advice-giving and listening to everyone, be it on tumblr, messengers, or emails, so we thought it would be a good idea to maybe have somewhere that someone could go in order to reach both of us. That way no one gets unheard because one or the other is busy! Everyone is so important! (and I love you too dafkj)

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Childlet: mama's being mean to meeeee~

Ara: mama is always mean

Childlet: punish mama ;n;

Ara: hahahahahaha

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STOP. REWIND. REWORD.

“Not to be rude…”

“No offense but…”

“Don’t get upset…”

“Sorry, but…”

STOP. REWIND. REWORD.

If you need to put a “caution” in front of what you’re saying there’s probably a better way to say it.

Its one thing to say “I hope this doesn’t sound rude, I don’t mean it to be!” its another to just go “Not to be rude BUT”…

I mean, you’re not even trying AND you’re dismissing the other person’s feelings. That is, you’re preemptively saying ‘if you feel offended, then you shouldn’t.” and its a passive aggressive stunt to make the recipient the bad guy if it does sound rude and they perceive it as rude.

Its not a “get out of jail free” card, you can’t just throw it down and say whatever you want.

If you do mean it, which I do think a vast majority of you do, spend a little more time on it. Its like saying ‘thx’ instead of “Thank you.” Its a short cut. Again, go so far as to verbalize “I don’t want this to sound rude, I want to be helpful,” so on so forth…

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Fill so your followers can get to know you.

State your name: Juliann

State the name that your parents almost named you: Matthew! They thought I was a boy for most of the pregnancy.

Which of your relatives do you get along with the most? My dad probably? I suppose we understand each other the best, even if he’s had some less than healthy tendencies over my lifetime. Mom and I get along well too~ Though I think in some ways we clash on things. After that I would saaaay my cousin Marc. We’re really close~ though I think I’m more of a younger obnoxious sister. 

Did anything embarrassing happen this week? Gosh, probably? I may have made a fool of myself sleepy-talking in a livestream last night pf.

White chocolate or dark chocolate?  White! I don’t like chocolate that much so the more cocoa the less I like it— but I love me some white chocolate, yessir.

Do people praise you for your looks? People tell me I’m pretty~ and more often on what I’m wearing.

What is your favorite color of clothing to wear?  Browns, grays, beige, and hum “rose”? I like light, neutral colors~

What are some of your nicknames? Arafel, Ara, fel, Mana, Juls, stinker, peanut, pumpkin, princess, peapod…

How many bedrooms are in your house? 1

How many bathrooms? 1

Do you have a job? Being a student is my job //copout

Do you have a car? No but I finally have a license~ AND I HAVE A FOOT SCOOTER. I’ve had it for 10 years now, yiss.

Do you work out every week? Technically… I walk a lot, keep myself in shape.

Have you ever kissed someone you never saw again?  Nope

Have you ever sung in front of a crowd? Yes when I was like 10. I guess karaoke counts too but not by much that was a crowd of friends.

What kind of bathing suit do you wear? I actually have a bikini right now with little strings and its covered in puzzle pieces~! yiss.  

Do you like your eyes? I love my eyes they’re my favorite feature~

Do you think you are pretty? I think I’m average, that is… I have good traits and bad traits and so they even out. But I believe that some people think I’m pretty! Which is nice~

Who was the last person you talked to in person? Um, Seph but if that doesn’t count it was like… the lady at the grocery store.

How much money is in your account? Choosing not to answer this one.

Are you single? Nope

Do you want kids? Yes~

Tell me what your backpack looks like: I have a pink backpack with sandals on it, and it says ‘life is good’…  LIKE THIS!

What celebrity do you think is attractive? Matthew Gray Guble… >__> I think a lot of celebrities are attractive but very few are sexually attractive? But man, my dreams~

Are you dating the same person you dated last year? Yep

Has someone you were dating ever cheated on you? Yeah. I mean it wasn’t a “bad cheat” like it was an online boyfriend who kissed someone else, but it was the intention. Along with him ‘cybering’ with other chicks and pfff.

Have you ever cheated? And after he “cheated” I did once. Oh the mischievous cyber-blowjob! And then I felt terrible and told him and apologized and he continuously told me he could never trust me again. Ohhh the drama. 

Have you kissed someone whose name starts with a ‘J’? If I make out with myself.

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Aww yiss.

Mine are hazel! Brown on the inside green on the outside. Which makes it shift from brown to green depending on the light~

Sephis are like… blueish gray? They typically call it true gray, that is… she doesn’t have the gold on the inside like you see in most gray eyes! WHICH IS REALLY COOL FROM A GENETIC STANDPOINT. I GET REALLY EXCITED. Sneaky sneaky sneak link…

And to be fair here’s my photo too. In which my eyes look more brown than green and I have a snaggletooth. Everyone can laugh at me.

PS photos from a project called Clarity.

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I PRETEND FAINTED AND MY GIRLFRIEND SAID I WAS RUDE.

IT IS RUDE TO FAINT.

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Arafel started this meme… a while back (lol our ages/ok only like over a year). Thought I would post it for newly named Creeper!Anon. :) I love how she even got my spiffy glowing keyboard.

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Puzzling: I just realized what a stalker I was as a kid

I was in kindergarten and this 5th grader brought me napkins. With that tiny moment of kindness, I became convinced I would marry him one day.

So then I would watch him all the time and stare at him every lunch. I imagined our life together as I watched him eat from across the room.

He’s...

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Everything is answered with sephi

Anonymous asked you:

5, 6, 7, 8, 10, 14, 15, 19, 20, 21, 23, 36, 43, 46, 51, 52, 60, 61, 62, 65, 67, and 68 (sorry)

Curious anon is curious!

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Communication in relationships

IS VITAL.

No seriously, some people forget how very important that it is. I absolutely despise the phrase “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” What bull. John Lennon’s “Love means having to say you’re sorry every five minutes.” is closer to the reality! Not that you should constantly apologize, either.

Bringing up hurt feelings: Most importantly, never say “You said I was selfish!” when what they said was that “You used the last of my shampoo.” Poor example, but what I mean is: don’t put words in their mouth. Ever.

The best way to tell someone you’re hurt: “When you said/did this, I feel as if you were calling me (that)/saying I was (that).” The key of course is “I feel”. You are getting your feelings across without being accusatory, which is the first road down to an argument. You could even say “What did you mean when you said ___?” To make sure that you’re not getting the wrong idea. Some people don’t like a certain word or phrase. Sometimes you can call a friend/s.o. “bitch” (PLAYFULLY), sometimes they have a bad history with being called that. “Please don’t use that word around me. It makes me feel bad.” Should be enough. And please, be lenient if they forget a few times!

Last week my girlfriend said “Shh!” to me. I don’t remember what it was about, but I fell quiet. When she was finished with what she was doing, she looked alarmed and said: “I’m sorry I said ‘shh.’ I know I asked you not to say that to me, I wanted to make sure you knew I was just joking.” Now, I wasn’t upset at all by being told “Shh!” and she most likely knew that. But she felt it important to let me know that she wasn’t trying to use a double standard on me! I appreciated it so much. Aah I had more to say but I forgot.

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you’re allowed to contradict yourself

you’re allowed to seek attention or approval

you’re allowed to complain about something that’s bothering you

you’re allowed to express negative opinions

you’re allowed to be an ass sometimes

you’re allowed to talk about yourself

you’re allowed to fuck up