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Hey desisters: you're not less valid because you didn't take medical steps and only socially transitioned. You still deserve support and care.

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Thinking about detransition doesn’t mean you were wrong. It means you’re listening to yourself and your body.

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Growing up AFAB can be hard & complicated - it feels like the world is out to get women. Its okay if transitioning felt like survival, and its okay if you choose to let that go and embrace being a woman. The only person who decides what gender means to you is YOU!

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Thank you for this blog!! 💖

Thank you for this message! I'm glad you've found this blog helpful or that it's spoken to you in any way.

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You don't have to prove your reasons for detransitioning to anyone. Your experience is valid, even if it's messy or hard to explain.

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You still deserve care, support, and respect - no matter where you are on your gender journey.

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If you had any surgeries, don't forget to ask your doctor about long-term care needs or warning signs to watch for <3

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Hey detrans men - you're allowed to re-enter manhood without shame. Your experience doesn't make you less of a man

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For those who are wanting to begin the path of detransitioning, know that's your choice, and your choice alone. But know there is nothing wrong with choosing to detransition. It doesn't make you a bad person, it doesn't mean you were wrong - it just means you're brave to say "this isn't working for me."

Talk to your doctor, your therapist, or whatever care team you have about any questions you have, but if you're looking for some questions to ask, here's a few you might start with:

If I stop hormones, will there be withdrawal symptoms or risks I should know about?

What changes should I expect as I stop or lower my hormones?

Are there any long-term health effects I should look out for?

What kinds of follow-up care would be useful during this process?

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Its okay to take breaks from queer spaces that feel triggering or exclusionary. Your mental health comes first <3

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Medical care during detransition can be overwhelming, confusing, and isolating... but it doesn't have to be! You have the right to ask questions, take your time, and find providers who listen to you with respect and empathy <3

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You're allowed to change your mind! That doesn't mean you were faking anything. It means you're listening to yourself, and that's brave!

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You don't have to love your body to treat it gently. Start with "this is my body, and it loves me."

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You don’t owe anyone a full explanation of your journey. Your presence alone enriches the community.

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Could you explain what being detrans is to me? I can’t find anything besides terf bullshit on the matter. I’m probably looking at it incorrectly but I genuinely don’t understand how someone could fake their gender for years and randomly decide to switch back, from my perspective as someone who’s known their (trans)gender identity since toddlerhood.

hello! yes i can!

detrans people are not "faking" their gender during the time they are transitioning. generally speaking, what happens is a person who thought transition was right for them finds out it is not. not every person who wants to transition or takes HRT finds out that it's right for them- there's no way to predict the changes that come with HRT, even if you're familiar with its effects. hormones affect everyone differently, and maybe someone starts undergoing HRT only to find out that it does not give them the effects its looking for.

many people socially transition and find that they do not being addressed the way they thought they would. many folks find that dressing, sounding and acting certain ways just aren't for them. again, nobody can predict what will happen during transition, and nobody can predict exactly how they would feel if they are seen or addressed by a certain way. sometimes transitioning to a gender that doesn't suit them makes them find an appreciation for another gender that they perhaps previously felt dysphoric or neutral about

many detrans people are actually still trans- many of which being nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, multigender, and more. there are so many reasons why someone may transition, some people even detransition to avoid transphobia. some people transition in very transphobic areas and find the pressure too much, and go back to being stealth or closeted. try not to assume that the person is "faking" anything- it feels real to them at the time. just because someone changes their mind does not mean they were faking anything

identity can and does change. i didn't know i was trans until i was 18 or 19 year old. not everyone figures out they're trans during childhood. i had to be told what the word transgender even was at my local college's pride group. i had never heard it before. this doesn't make me any less of a trans person, nor anyone else. detrans people are human just like anyone else. just because someone doesn't figure out their identity right away doesn't mean they're faking anything. just because someone changes their mind after finding out something wasn't right for them doesn't mean they were faking

there is nothing wrong with being detrans. the terves you see online are a small, vocal minority. in reality, i know many detrans people who are still trans or gender non conforming, way more than i've ever met who have detransitioned and become hateful towards trans folk. the topic deserves to be approached with grace, kindness and respect- it may be worth reading into these subreddits, as opposed to using tumblr for this one. these two subs do not allow transphobia, terf or gender critical ideologies:

r/detransition_support

r/actual_detrans

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Its more than okay if parts of your appearance bring up complicated feelings. You're allowed to take your time.

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Whatever your experiences are with detransitioning, they're entirely valid. If you feel like you were failed by the medical system or your peers, or if you feel like it was just a step on your journey, or you're somewhere in between - those are all valid feelings to have. Nobody can tell you where you're allowed to stand on it.