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Tiger the housecat

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Finished "Apprentice to the Villain"

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POV: you only see maps for the first few pages of your new book

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It's frustrating being an introvert for multiple reasons, but lately I've identified one main reason.

When I'm having conversations with people, they don't have the patience to recognize that a second of silence doesn't make the conversation awkward or mean that I have nothing to say.

How do I respond if you don't give me a second to even process what you just said? And so, I've noticed that without an immediate response, people assume I have nothing to say. They either continue talking or proceed to end the conversation. Even worse, they make assumptions about your "silence" and move on.

As someone who hates interrupting when they speak, I give my partners on conversation the chance to voice their though. I expect the same in return.

If you're conversing with an introvert (talking at an introvert, really), and a word hadn't been uttered form them, consider thinking, "Have I even given them a chance to respond? So we can have an actual conversation?"

Questions like, "Do you know what I mean?", "Does that make sense?", "What do your think?" only work when you actually want to hear the answer. If you don't want the answer, don't ask. If you don't want to engage in actual conversation, don't talk to me. Just don't be surprised if you don't give me the chance to respond, then claim that I don't talk a lot. You just talk too much; and that doesn't make me eager to have a conversation with you in the first place.

Please refrain from making judgement about people being shy, reserved, etc, unless you're giving them the chance to open up. Some of us don't like interrupting others. Some of us don't think at lightening speeds on a superficial level. Deep thinking requires time, reflection, and pondering. So understand that it's okay if some people just want to listen actively. Understand it's okay if some people have little to say but show great interest. Understand that it's okay for the pause in conversation because people have to think before responding.

Understand that not everyone is willing to interject while you voice your thoughts just so they can have the opportunity to voice theirs. I don't view that as being bold, I view it as disrespectful and unnecessary. If we all give each other due time to respond and be good conversationalists, there's no need to interrupt or interject to feel heard.

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Some people are never ready to hear what you think. They just assume and take it as fact. Whatever you say about yourself with knowledge of who you are is dwarfed and silenced by their large ego of the idea of who they think you are.

Until they are ready to listen and accept their egos, they will never hear you.

It is up to you to realize this and not internalize it. You may have taken so long to find your voice, too long to not have people listen. Surround yourself with people who listen. Surround yourself with people who hear you.

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New Flex~

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"When people let their guard down, you see their true inner child. Sometimes funny, other times bratty, and so on. We make it okay for children to be selfish, to cry, to play, and to be blatantly honest. Yet when a "grown adult" does the same, it's not okay. At what point does this behavior become not okay. 18? 21?

At what point does being an adult turn to masking certain instinctual reactions? At what point does one feel that it is not okay to cry, to play, to be selfish, to be honest?

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Can stoicism and religion coexist?

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"Our fears are our states of mind. When we think of situations as fact vs reaction, the latter is what we can control. Our reactions in the present and the future. Fear is an emotion that converts into reaction; sometimes lack thereof. To bring fear out in the open, confront it, and tear it apart with what is tangible is the only real way to destroy it.

Letting the fear take control only leaves you with regret and shame once the emotion itself has passed. In this life, there is actually very little we can control. Yet what we can is ourselves, and it is a great power.

Take ownership of yourself. Take control. Listen to your body. Work with it and let it grow."

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"Do you ever wonder how people can keep talking? Not why...but how? I keep on listening, but I'm just wondering how they can do that without getting tired. It's impressive."

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"No one is perfect. Most people are just trying their best."