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The other night husband and I were watching a documentary about the yeti where they were doing DNA analysis of samples of supposed yeti fur, and every one of them came back as bears.

Anyway, the next night we watched a thing about some pig man who is supposed to live in Vermont. People said it had claws and a pig nose but walked upright like a man. Now, I happen to know that sideshows used to shave bears and present them as pig men. So every piece of evidence they gave of this monster sounds to me like a bear with mange.

So now the running joke in our house is that everything is bears. Aliens? Bears. Loch Ness monster? Bear. Every cryptozoological mystery is just a very crafty bear.

Bears. They’re everywhere. Be wary. Anyone or anything could be a bear.

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please be aware,

if you repeatedly have scary thoughts about identity and what would happen to you if you don't know who you are, and this fear leads to to persistently searching for identity? and making sure Repeatedly that you're absolutely correct and right because you have scary thoughts about being wrong?

my pal, that is intrusive thoughts and obsessive compulsions. those can be themed around anything, including identity. and yes, this can absolutely cause you to split repeatedly.

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Befriending an artist who you deeply admire probably never ceases entirely to feel totally bewildering and surreal.

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“Love is a sacrament that should be taken kneeling”

—Oscar Wilde

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Thinking im finally alone and suddenly i hear an alter like "ACTUALLY IM HERE TOO"

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acceptable ways to correct yourself if you misgender a trans person

“I went to the store with her–him”

“He and I–sorry she and I went to the movies”

“He’s–I mean they’re a big fan of Marvel Comics”

not acceptable ways to correct yourself if you misgender a trans person

“She really likes–oh my god I mean he, I’m so sorry, I just don’t have it down yet, you need to give me time, I mean, I’m getting it, I promise, it’s just so hard sometimes, and I don’t even know where that came from, and I’m so sorry, I really didn’t mean to, you just have to go easy on me, I’ve never done this before, it’s just, I’m getting it, it won’t happen again, it’s just hard, you get it, right?”

this has been a psa

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don’t punish yourself for things not going as planned

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#PBS teaches kindness and inclusion, which are threats to abusive paternalism.

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Today's Doonesbury cartoon.

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My father was never very good with plurals and I fear I've followed in his feetsteep.

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a system can be “multiple people in one body” if a system feels that describes them best. anti endos need to stop dictating how other people view their system, regardless of origin, they can't tell people how to see their own plurality, each system can describe themselves differently, and we believe we are more than one in a body because there is no "central identity" "one person we are part of" that one person literally does not exist for us, force that nudge toward fusion somewhere else, not here.

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it's almost pride month again. what a great reminder for Please Be Normal about these people:

- aromantic people who aren't asexual.

- asexual people who aren't aromantic.

- cishet aromantic and cishet asexual people.

- aromantic men in general.

- intersex people who are trans.

- intersex people who are are cis.

- intersex people who are cistrans/tris and those who are neither.

- intersex people who are cishet.

- intersex people in general.

- nonbinary people who don't personally identify as transfem or transmasc.

- nonbinary people who don't want to be androgynous.

- cis people who use neopronouns and/or xenogenders while still feeling cis fits just fine.

- people who feel gender dysphoria or misgendered when referred to by they/them, especially after telling you not to use they/them.

⚠️ Do not use they/them if talking about me to others in reblogs/comments. I have neopronouns in my pinned post ⚠️

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please remember to not shame yourself over whoever you split.

your brain needed them for a reasons, so please be kind to yourself

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Headmate who keeps accidentally using ‘we’ in front of people who aren’t supposed to know