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Random wisdom/shower thoughts or crazy rambles, whichever you take it as.

Everything in it's truest form is a contradiction.

Two things that can be opposing or seemingly opposing can co-exist in certain situations. (like in the quantum realm)

A lie can hold some truth but a truth can hold no lie.

past events haunt the present.

technically, when you say "oops, I lied" when you made an accidental mistake, the "opps, I lied" is the lie not your mistake, a lie is a purposeful hiding of the truth, you were just misremembering or misinformed.

the chances of having absolutely nothing in common with someone are lower than having everything in common with someone.

the third commandment of "Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain" is more likely referring to do not say you are acting for god, abuse god's name, use it as an excuse, say something and pass it off as god's word or using god to give your words power and not saying "don't say god damnit" because let's be real, what would an all powerful being care more about, you using their name as an expletive or claiming false power and slandering their name?

to sort out who truly care about a cause and those who pretend they do, look and see who actually does something productive for it or those who are trying to look morally superior.

sometimes both sides are wrong.

war can have victors, but in the end both sides always have lost.

Grass may be greener on the other side, but sometimes it's dead on both sides.

Giving up and realizing when to quit isn't always failure or taking the easy way out, but understanding the limits of your abilities and opening yourself to figure out a new path and solution.

everything is consequential, in someway shape or form it may seem small, but think of it like this, you drop a pencil, won't affect anyone right? well, guess what? now everyone is living in a timeline where you dropped the pencil. so if you ever feel small and insignificant, remember that in the grand scheme of things, you effecting the timeline everyone is living in, even in the most micro of ways.

no one can choose what cards they are dealt in life, but they sure can choose how to play them, but no matter what the game always ends the same, so it's not about the end but the playing itself.

Life can be considered easy in the sense of just don't die, but the hard part is the things in life that try to hinder that.

You may be a speck in the grand-scale of the universe, but you are also a one piece of everything, a speck of the universe that is able to look back at itself and observe, not many parts of the universe can do that, sure there are an estimated ~20 quintillion (20 x 10¹⁸) animals on earth but even that's very few in comparison to the whole universe.

others try to look for life beyond the stars, but some of them forget about the life that already exists around them.

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Shower thought

for an non-binary to be considered a lesbian, that means we are using the definition in a homosexual or homoromantic (yes, I am not excluding gay/lesbian/wlw/mlm aces, though I don't know where homoromantic heterosexuals or homoromantic bisexuals exactly count as in his scenario) XX individual attracted to other XX individuals and/or individuals who identify as female in general. or they are just a femby (feminine non-binary) and wish to use a feminine address to describe their attraction to other feminine individuals.

which means for a non-binary to be able to call [her/him/them/ext]self a lesbian, technically means a transman, if he so wishes to, can call technically himself a lesbian as well... Which... is absolutely convoluted as fuck but linguistics for you, but also one way to piss certain people (likely mainly those protective of labels, likes to get their ducks in a row with words and those chill with transgender but not nonbinary probably) off for shits and giggles.

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Random hot take:

I think people need to be understanding of both sides of an argument, yes sometimes it really is one is an dipshit and one is 100% in the right and the other in the wrong, but not always.

Like, yeah, this one cop got an emergency alert to an house (apparently the signal got marked at the wrong house, but that's a technology error) and accidentally shot the homeowner, is it bad he shot an innocent man, yes, is it REASONABLE to think that the individual pointing a gun at you to the house you got called at is the threat that the call was about YES. should the officer be held accountable for his mistake, absolutely, regardless of circumstances he caused bodily harm due to misjudgment, but should he be considered in the wrong? No, that was a very logical conclusion to make, yes his conclusion was wrong, but it wasn't illogical to assume that if you got an emergency alert at a house and see an armed individual point a gun at you to put two and two together and assume that's the threat and you are in a life or death situation.

This may be an extreme example but still, there are two sides of every story and it's not always black and white.

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Random hot take:

I'm Non-binary but even I have to agree with the conservatives that someone accidentally misgendering you or messing up your pronouns isn't something to throw out of proportion, accidents happen, there is a VERY clear difference from an unknowing mistake and a malicious misgendering to demean and degrade someone. Cis people get misgendered too, genderqueer people can accidentally misgender other genderqueer people, it happens! Heck, not everyone speaks English, so it could just be an linguistic error.

I AM not saying it is wrong to feel upset over being misgendered, but I am saying that you're not in the right to take a small mistake out of proportion, it doesn't help anyone, it makes them less likely to learn and want to engage, and likely will encourage and brew a negative view on you and others who share your gender identity, don't underestimate the power of pure spite, if someone makes a mistake it is much better to be polite and gently correct them, if it's even worth the time, people are more receptive to a polite correction than anger, if they continuously do it, react rudely or doing it maliciously is an obvious different story and you are in the right to defend and stand up for yourself and/or pick your battles.

However, always keep in mind that patience does a lot better at forging acceptance than aggression, don't be afraid to confrontational when necessary, but also be patient and empathetic to others, if you accidentally misgendered someone you would likely feel very bad and likely worse if it upset that person which doesn't really do anyone any good, there is a possibility that they will feel the same way, or they could just be a bigot but again, remember that's not a guarantee to be the case. Think it like self-defense, you have the right to defend yourself and others but not use more excessive force than necessary.

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Random thought of the day:

Gender roles usually only harmful if they are forced upon others or taken as fact, willingly engaging and finding contentment in it is fine, forcing others to play a part they don't want to play is wrong.

Taking it as fact is also wrong, and it's not just supporting misogynistic ideals, but it also harms men as well. It creates more social isolation, less support, the inability to reach out about their problems, silent suffering, and also fathers ARE important to childhood development! Stop bashing and underappreciating fathers and putting mothers on a pedestal of can do no wrong or best and only parent, single fathers deserve credit and recognition, stay-at-home dads should be seen acceptable, father's showing affection to their children (expessially their sons) shouldn't be taken as weird, heck having strained relationship with your mother shouldn't be considered taboo.

This is not to try and enforce the whole mother-father requirement and discrediting same-sex couples, but a general observation of fathers being undercredited and not being given the same respect and importance in childhood development by society as mothers often are.

Also, a bit slightly off topic but still on the same ballpark, but we need more respect to adoptive parents and step-parents in general, the idea you can't love and care for a child that is not your own is bogus, those bonds are very real and very valid and shouldn't be held to less value than a biological relation. Non-nuclear families are valid and okay and shouldn't be bashed, sure sometimes not ideal expessially in cases where it wasn't an active wanted choice such as losing a spouse and having to raise your children by yourself, losing your parents and having to be raised by your grandparents and dealing with both the grief of your grandparents losing their child and you losing your parents, being put into foster care and being uprooted from your home, but also there is nothing morally wrong or shameful about it, it's not a failure to be a single parent, it's not a failure to have same-sex parents, it's not a failure to lose your parents young, it's not a failure to not have a child who is biological not yours, or whatever reason or experience you are having, life is life and not everyone is going to experience it the same way but it doesn't mean there is any valid reason to feel shame over it, if someone says you should, just tell them to go fuck themselves, individuals who have nothing better to do with their lives than to put others down over very trivial matters, don't deserve to be acknowledged.

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Random thought of the day:

Personal fuck you to everyone who doesn't take male victims of sexual assault, domestic violence, sexual harassment, abuse, and other stereotypical "female victim" crimes seriously or believes they are non existent or thinks that they are not as bad as female victims.

Double personal fuck you if you think this only happens to gay men and female abusers/rapists/perpetrators don't exist.

Triple fuck you if you ever said something to a male victim that you wouldn't dare say to a female victim.

Quadruple fuck you if you didn't provide any support to someone who you knew was a victim and didn't treat it seriously because they were a man.

Sexism goes both ways.

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Hot take of the day:

Gay and straight relationships are not too different as people make them out to be in all honesty, sure the dynamic may be altered but it doesn't mean it always does, but the basic and honesty major fundamentals of companionship, love, affection, wish to form a family group (if they desire children), are still there. Stop treating it as foreign or exotic, it's no fundamentally different than any other mutually loving romantic relationship.

Also, sorry Peggy Sue, but two men kissing doesn't affect you at all, they wouldn't want to kiss you anyway. Sorry, Gary Terry, but those two ladies being more interested in each other than you is none of your business, that is not an insult to your masculinity.

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Random thought of the day:

Hot take: If non-straight sexualities should not be taught in school (I mean during sex-ed or just basic nothing explicit "yes this exists and this is okay" specifically) then straight sexuality and sex in general shouldn't either.

Also, more Asexuality acceptance please, I personally think sex is absolutely abhorrent and vile (though I don't judge if that's personally your thing, it's your life) and I think the child's comfort in such topics should be considered and parents and educators shouldn't have to force kids to have to listen to that if they don't want to and genuinely have no interest in participating in it, or maybe just tell them what they need to look out for to stay safe from sexual abuse, assault or grooming.

Again, just my two cents.

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Basically Mlp episode 1

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Random Satirical Thought for the moment

ah, yes, the she/he vs they debate, but have you considered the she/he/they or the more tedious and funnier with rhyming bonus points She, he or non-binary?

(this might have been more funnier in my head)

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Random Thought for today:

People say "oh, you're more than just you Autism" but honestly, I haven't found anything about me that isn't somehow linked in my autism in anyway shape or form, basically a walking textbook example. So, I am autism incarnate. Fear me, neurotypicals my autism is too much for you normies to handle

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Random thought for today:

but when the hypothetical of "what will you do with unlimited money" question comes up, It makes me a bit sad that I don't, NOT because I want to be rich/wealthy nor do I want to buy a lot of things nor am I even in a currently a bad financial position, but because I just want to be able to donate to every [legitimate for an actual good cause, obviously] charity, homeless person and gofundme. Like, chances are if I did have unlimited money and was out on my own, I'll be living a total cheapskate lifestyle (because why would I not? Feels like a waste of money to get expensive things and live a luxurious lifestyle when I can just spend on what I need to just be comfortable), but just using the money to donate to everything.

Also top surgery for my non-binary goals and college tuition, but mostly just donations or maybe run a non-profit free housing, (probably already exists in some form, but still) where the goal is to try to help the individuals to eventually become financially, emotionally and mentally stable enough to be self-sufficient to be able to live on their own (which is important for a more satisfying and fulfilling life, and actually self-betterment and success also I'm a firm believer in the teaching people how to fish metaphor) so basically the purpose is to give them the necessities to live to give them a better chance and more easier time at getting to their own self-made better place, like trying to get them a job (finding ways of transport to the workplace, having a chance to clean up and give them interviewing attire, trying to find a job that aligns with their skillset, ect) working on furthering their education, giving them medical care, helping them sign up for disability, unemployment, or other welfare benefits, all in all just a way to help them on their feet so they can live the life they want to live.

Honestly, I don't really understand why rich people go out of their way to buy expensive things or overly unnecessary things (like small things or collections I understand, I'm autistic I like collecting certain things too, but I don't understand the whole 9 superduper expensive cars or the massive flatscreen TV sort of thing) when it can be more used for things that actually do something. Though I am not saying it should be individuals responsibility to do what the government should be doing, that's more of a failure on the system than the people, but I do agree it is a natural responsibility to help others for a societal betterment, not in a communistic or collectivism way (those do not work well and I am a strong individualist who believes everyone has the right to live peacefully and make their own decisions and not have their fate predetermined or not be able to play their delt cards the way they wish to, any consequence of your actions should be from an action of your free-will and not an external contribution that forced that action) but in a philanthropist equality type of sentiment. I am not sure if there are many people who would do this if they had unlimited money, but that's my 2 cents on that hypothetical question.