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Reading a Book with Feels Like Climbing a Mountain (With No Map) To You ?

Hey there, fellow scatterbrains (and honorary scatterbrains).

Let’s talk about something I’ve been struggling with lately: reading a book. I don’t mean textbooks or anything boring—those are a whole other nightmare. I mean books I actually want to read. Fiction, fantasy, self-help, memoirs—you name it. I love the idea of reading books, but sitting down and focusing long enough to actually finish one? That’s where things fall apart.

If you’ve got ADHD, you probably know exactly what I mean.

The ADHD Reading Struggle

So, here’s how it typically goes for me:

1. Excitement Stage

I hear about a new book, and suddenly it’s all I can think about. The cover looks amazing, the blurb hooks me, and I’m convinced this book will Change. My. Life. I rush to buy it—because waiting is not an option when you’ve got ADHD and a hyperfixation brewing.

2. Start Strong, Fizzle Fast

The book arrives, and I dive in with all the energy of a toddler on sugar. The first 10 pages? Amazing. I’m loving it. My brain is hooked. But then… something shiny distracts me. Maybe it’s my phone, maybe it’s the fact that I haven’t had a snack in two hours, or maybe it’s just that my brain decided to think about 25 other things at the same time.

3. The “Wait, What Did I Just Read?” Spiral

Even when I try to focus, my brain has other plans. I’ll read the same paragraph three times because halfway through, my mind wanders off. Suddenly I’m not in the story anymore—I’m wondering if my neighbor’s cat ever gets bored or planning what I’ll eat for breakfast tomorrow. When I snap back to reality, I have no clue what’s happening in the book, and I have to start over.

4. Abandonment

At some point, I inevitably put the book down. Not because I don’t like it, but because it feels like too much effort to keep going. I tell myself I’ll come back to it tomorrow, but “tomorrow” turns into next week, next month, or never. And then I feel guilty because how hard can it be to just read a book?!

Why This Happens

Here’s the thing:

Reading a book requires sustained focus, and that’s not exactly ADHD’s strong suit.

Our brains crave novelty and stimulation, so when a book slows down or doesn’t grab us instantly, it’s hard to stay engaged. Add in time blindness (aka forgetting how long you’ve been reading) and executive dysfunction (aka struggling to start or finish tasks), and you’ve got the perfect storm for an unfinished book pile. It’s not that we don’t want to read—it’s that our brains make it ridiculously hard to stick with it.

Tips That (Sometimes) Help

Over the years, I’ve found a few tricks that make reading a bit easier. They don’t work every time, but hey, progress is progress:

Audiobooks Are a Lifesaver

If focusing on a physical book feels impossible, try listening instead. Audiobooks let you “read” while doing other things, like cleaning or walking. Plus, a good narrator can make even a slow book feel exciting.

Choose ADHD-Friendly Books

Short chapters, fast-paced stories, or books with lots of dialogue work best for me. Bonus points if the book has a good cliffhanger at the end of every chapter.

Set a Timer

Sometimes I trick my brain into reading by telling myself, “Just 10 minutes.” More often than not, I’ll get sucked into the story and keep going after the timer ends.

Take Breaks

There’s no rule that says you have to finish a book in one sitting. Read a chapter, take a break, and come back when your brain feels ready.

Be Kind to Yourself

This is the most important tip. Struggling to read doesn’t make you lazy or less smart. Your brain just works differently, and that’s okay.

A Love Letter to My ADHD Readers

If you’re reading this and nodding along, please know you’re not alone. It’s not just you. The unfinished book pile? The frustration of reading the same sentence over and over? The guilt? Yeah, I get it.

You don’t need to read like everyone else. You just need to read like you.

But here’s the thing: you’re not failing. You’re navigating the world with a brain that’s wired for creativity, curiosity, and a million ideas at once. So maybe reading a book takes you longer. Or maybe you read differently—through audiobooks, podcasts, or summaries. That’s okay.

Until next time,

ScatterMindSage

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ADHD Mornings

Chaos, Coffee, and How to Tackle It

Mornings with ADHD are none other than, an adventure. For women especially, mornings can feel like a battle between what you planned to do and what your brain actually decides to do. It’s not laziness—it’s a whirlwind of distractions, time blindness, and decision fatigue before the day even starts.

Let’s break down what mornings look like for ADHD women, and then I’ll share some tips that have helped me (on my good days). And stick around—there’s a little letter full of love waiting for you at the end.

The ADHD Woman’s Morning Struggle

1. The Snooze Button Olympics

The alarm goes off, but getting out of bed feels like climbing Mount Everest. Your brain tells you, Five more minutes won’t hurt. (Spoiler: it’s never just five minutes.)

2. Decision Paralysis: What Comes First?

Should you shower first? Make coffee? Check emails? You bounce between tasks, starting one and then abandoning it halfway through because, suddenly, your brain remembers you need to reorganize the junk drawer.

3. The Distraction Spiral

You’re brushing your teeth when you notice a smudge on the mirror. You clean it, which leads to wiping the sink, which leads to rearranging your skincare products. Oh, and now you’re late.

4. Time Blindness

You thought you had an hour to get ready, but somehow it’s been 40 minutes, and you haven’t even picked an outfit. Cue the last-minute scramble.

Tackling the ADHD Morning Chaos

Here’s the truth: ADHD mornings will never be perfect, but there are ways to make them less chaotic.

1. Prep the Night Before

I know, I know. It’s hard to think ahead when you’re exhausted at night, but even small things—like laying out clothes or packing your bag—can make mornings less overwhelming.

2. Use Alarms Strategically

Set multiple alarms for different tasks, like “Time to shower” or “Leave the house.” Bonus tip: Label them with funny, motivating messages like “You Got This, Babe!”

3. Simplify Your Choices

Fewer decisions = less stress. Create a “go-to” breakfast, keep a capsule wardrobe of easy outfits, and use the same morning routine checklist every day.

4. Create a Morning Playlist

Weather Music or religious songs or even recitation of your Holy Book played in your favourite app can help keep you on track and make mundane tasks more enjoyable.

Bonus: Use time-based playlists (e.g., “Three tracks to get dressed”).

5. Let Go of Perfection

Your morning doesn’t have to look like a Pinterest board. If you can get out the door fed, dressed, and on time, that’s a win.

A Letter to ADHD Women

Dear You,

I know mornings are hard. They’re loud, messy, and full of a hundred tiny battles your brain doesn’t feel ready to fight. You beat yourself up because it seems like everyone else has their morning routine figured out, while yours feels like controlled chaos at best.

But here’s the thing: Your mornings don’t define you. The way you tackle your day isn’t a reflection of how strong, smart, or capable you are. It’s just a reflection of how beautifully unique your brain is.

Yes, you take the long way sometimes. Yes, your coffee gets cold while you get distracted cleaning a drawer. But you also have this amazing ability to make life interesting, to find joy in the small, random things that others overlook.

So, here’s my wish for you: On the mornings when everything goes wrong, I hope you give yourself grace. On the mornings when you hit snooze too many times or forget to pack lunch, I hope you laugh it off. And on the mornings when you do manage to follow your plan, I hope you celebrate like it’s a victory—because it is.

Your mornings might not be perfect, but neither is life. And in the imperfection, there’s magic.

With love,

ScatterMindSage

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A Day in the Life of a Woman Who Might Have ADHD

(But Doesn’t Know It Yet)

Hey there, friend,

So you wake up in the morning and promise yourself, Today is the day I’ll get my life together. You have a list (somewhere… if you can find it), and this is the day you’ll crush it. But before you even get out of bed, your brain starts playing tricks on you.

Sound familiar?

For years, I didn’t realize the chaos in my brain wasn’t “normal.” I just thought I was a little forgetful, a little lazy, and maybe not so great at this adulting thing. It wasn’t until much later that I realized: This isn’t just my personality—this might be ADHD.

Let’s take a walk through a “normal” day, and see if any of this feels like your life too.

The Morning Hustle (aka the First Test of the Day)

You wake up and immediately grab your phone. Not to get out of bed, of course. Just to check one quick thing. But somehow, that “quick thing” turns into 45 minutes of TikToks, and now you’re scrolling through Amazon looking at a candle warmer because obviously you need one.

The next thing you know, you’re late. You tell yourself, Okay, I just need to focus and get ready fast. But then… what do you focus on first? Coffee? Clothes? That one sock you lost last week that you suddenly have to find right now? Before you know it, you’re rushing out the door with mismatched shoes and the haunting suspicion you left the stove on.

Oh, and did you remember your keys? No? Cool, me neither.

Work: Where Productivity Meets Chaos

At work, things don’t get much better. You sit down at your desk, ready to tackle the day, but then your brain whispers, Should we clean out the email inbox from three years ago? And now, instead of doing the task that’s due at noon, you’re color-coding folders that no one will ever notice.

And meetings? Forget it. You’re nodding politely while your brain is thinking, What if squirrels had jobs? Like, actual tiny tools… wait, I should Google that later.

By the time your deadline hits, you’re scrambling, beating yourself up for procrastinating, but somehow pulling off a miracle in the last 10 minutes. (ADHD adrenaline for the win!)

Afternoon Slump: The Great Crash

Lunch comes around, and suddenly, you’re starving. You know you should eat something healthy, but the idea of planning a meal feels exhausting. So you grab the first thing you see—chips, leftover pizza, or whatever’s easiest—and tell yourself you’ll try harder tomorrow.

By mid-afternoon, the exhaustion hits. You’ve worked so hard to “keep it together” that now all you want to do is take a nap. Or maybe you go the other way and suddenly feel the urge to reorganize your entire house. (No, just me?)

Evenings: Time Just… Disappears

When the workday is done, you swear you’re going to relax. But first, you’ll just check one thing. And that one thing turns into ten tabs, a YouTube rabbit hole, and a hyperfixation on a random topic you didn’t even know you cared about until today.

You glance at the clock. How is it midnight? Weren’t you just scrolling for five minutes? And then comes the guilt spiral:

Why didn’t I do that one thing I meant to do?

Why can’t I get it together?

Why am I like this?

And then you fall asleep, promising tomorrow will be different.

You’re Not Lazy. You’re Not Broken.

For years, I thought I was just bad at life. I didn’t realize there was a reason I couldn’t keep track of time, finish tasks, or even remember what I walked into the kitchen for. I thought everyone else just tried harder, and I wasn’t good enough.

But here’s the truth: ADHD isn’t about laziness. It’s a brain that works differently, running a million miles an hour, bouncing between thoughts and ideas like a pinball machine. And for women, especially, it often gets missed. We’re told to “be more organized” or “just focus,” when really, we’re doing the best we can in a world that wasn’t built for brains like ours.

If this sounds like your life, let me tell you something I wish someone had told me years ago: You’re not alone, and there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not failing. You’re navigating a world that doesn’t always understand how amazing your brain really is.

So here’s my takeaway for you: Be kind to yourself. ADHD or not, your brain is doing its best. And if any of this feels like a page out of your life story, maybe it’s time to explore what’s really going on...

Until then, I’ll be over here, trying to remember where I put my phone.

ScatterMindSage

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Welcome to Hyper-Fixated and Curious

Hi there! I’m ScatterMindSage—a psychologist, a proud ADHD brain, and someone constantly driven by curiosity. Welcome to Hyper-Fixated and Curious, a space where I explore the kaleidoscope of thoughts, insights, and questions that swirl in my mind.

Why I Started This Blog

As someone with ADHD, I’ve always embraced the beauty of a wandering mind. One moment, I’m obsessing over the latest neuroscience breakthroughs, and the next, I’m researching the history of something completely random like medieval art or octopus behavior (yes, it’s a thing). ADHD has gifted me with an insatiable curiosity and a deep love for connecting seemingly unrelated dots. But let’s be honest—it’s not always easy to wrangle this energy into something productive.

That’s where this blog comes in. This is my outlet to channel my hyperfixations, share insights from psychology, and celebrate the quirks of neurodivergence. Whether you're here because you’re neurodivergent yourself, a psychology nerd, or just curious, you’re in the right place.

What You Can Expect

Here’s what I plan to share on Hyper-Fixated and Curious:

ADHD hyperfocus means I can’t stop until I’ve explored a topic fully. I’ll take you along for the ride.

As a psychologist, I love breaking down complex ideas about the brain, behavior, and mental health into digestible (and fun) pieces.

From my struggles with focus to my proudest “aha” moments, I’ll keep it real.

Because surviving is great, but thriving is the goal—even if it looks a little unconventional for us ADHD folks.

A Love Letter to the Wandering Mind

This blog is a celebration of curiosity. It's a reminder that there’s nothing wrong with thinking differently, jumping from idea to idea, or being endlessly fascinated by the world. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much” or you need to ��focus more,” let this space remind you: Your brain is beautiful exactly as it is.

So, join me on this adventure. Let’s explore, question, and celebrate the brilliance of curious, scattered minds together.

Until next time,

ScatterMindSage