#(especially in queer spaces)

[thealphabard]

I feel like I've said this quite a lot the last few months, but as far as anyone in my past is concerned, I'm a whole new ass person. I'm happy and have found myself in the best way possible and, for some reason, that infuriates the toxic people who have long since left my life.

[quariian]

In the midst of the chaos of the world I have decided to get on dating apps. And wow as an introverted person is it hard to do The Thing™. But also why do I gotta pay so much money to use the damn thing?

[mikehasfleas]

Most annoying thing to remember is that you're litterally just a homosapien. You're just a very smart animal. If you feel like shit, imagine you're an exotic pet for some alien species and do what they'd do to keep you healthy. You gotta be well cared for. Animal abuse is a crime for a reason

"My pet human, Greg, hasn't left his bed in a long time. He's just scrolling his phone all day" Greg needs enrichment. Add enrichment in his enclosure and take him on walks

"Greg has been super lethargic and sad recently for seemingly no reason" Greg need vitamins, take him outside for some vitamin D and fresh air. Perhaps a picnic

"Greg won't sleep even though he's been super lethargic" Greg needs a schedule, especially for the lights in his enclosure.

"Greg has been super distant recently and keeps crying to sad music" Humans are pack animals, he needs to hug another human and hang out. Perhaps pack bond with a rock together

"Greg has been flailing around and panicking, his breathing is way faster than it should be" Greg is overwhelmed. Take Greg out of the situation and give him time to calm down. Perhaps somewhere cozy with tea and a movie

"Greg won't do what he needs to do" Train him. Humans do great with positive reinforcement, give him little treats when he's doing good

"Greg he's been super anxious and tired, he can't seem to enjoy his days" Humans needs to move around. Give Greg something to exercise with. Things like stretching, weight lifting, walking, or even dancing will help

"Even though I've taken really good care of Greg, he still has been having issues" Greg is ill, take him to the doctor. You might need a specialist (therapist, optometrist, oncologist, etc)

I know it feels patronizing, and I know it feels embarrassing or that you're "just giving into the clichés", but you are literally just a creature. You need to sleep/eat on time, you need enrichment, and you need to take care of your social needs. Humans are complicated animals, but they are also beautiful and all deserve proper care. This obviously isn't a perfect analogy, nothing is, but if you saw your friend taking care of their pet the way you take care of yourself, would you be concerned?

[aropride]

the "i love weird unpalatable queerness" leaving tumblr users' bodies when they see a polyamorous person

[frozen-planet]

part 1 of IDK where I draw DJ in the silly outfits I put them in on roblox.....

[aroaessidhe]

aro & ace books: trans aspecs

trans rights readathon is on now, and I realised it's been a minute since I made a trans aspec books post, so here's some of the latest ones I've read!

previous posts: part 1 / part 2 / nonbinary YA / nonbinary A

Pluralities - contemporary/sci-fi novella - aro-coded transmasc MC

Compound Fracture - YA thriller - arospec trans boy MC

The Sapling Cage - YA fantasy - demisexual trans girl MC (+aroace SC)

The Evolving Truth of Ever-Stronger Will - YA contemporary - demi-aroace nonbinary MC

The Summer Love Strategy - YA contemporary - demi-aroace trans girl LI

Life Underwater - contemporary - grey-aro ace trans man MC

Be The Sea - scifi - nonbinary demisexual MC

Blessed by the Cupid Distribution System - romance novella - demisexual trans girl MC

The Space Ace of Mangleby Flat - contemporary - demisexual trans woman LI (& ace MC)

#aspec books / aspec database / tumblr masterpost

info included here is brief! please see my database for full details of the books

[urghblergh]

Let.them.grow.old.together. 👏

Ref

Headcanon that Cardassian skin wrinkles differently/later in life than Human skin, 'cause it's tougher/thicker. Cue: Garak being super captivated by Julian's face and how it changes. So cute. 🤲🥲

[paupelou]

[valyrfia]

to my fellow cis lesbians: gender critical people are so quick to use us as scapegoats and claim they’re “defending lesbian rights” to push their outdated (and incorrect) belief that gender is binary, which is why we the cis lesbians have to be the most outspoken group on trans rights. go to marches with a lesbian AND a trans flag draped around your shoulders, be the person in the room to call out gender critical rhetoric when you see it. if we’re the group they’re supposedly ‘protecting’ with these anti trans laws and rulings, make it abundantly clear how much we disagree with this ‘protection’. trans women who are solely attracted to women are lesbians. simple as. a sapphic relationship can include a trans woman, or multiple.

“oh but i don’t want to sleep with someone with a penis-” no one is ASKING YOU TO. that is a personal choice and preference that is as simple as any other. it does not negate the fact that the gender critical hysteria is a harmful movement that we need to be on the front lines of fighting, especially since they can’t keep our names out of their mouths.

also to be cynical and appeal to those of you who may just be out for themselves: do you really think this hysteria will stop at trans people? there’s already return of “a natural family” and “save the kids” rhetoric, and coming for anything outside of a binary norm is a slippery slope right back to heteronormativity. they won’t spare you just because you stood by and let them come after trans people!

[bodhrancomedy]

*Trying to look for quick and easy recipes on BBC Good Food especially soups*

*Every single recipe including unclear instructions, secret prep, incredibly long prep or completely alien language of cookery*

Me, a severely ADHD autistic with major cookery sensory issues, dyscalculia, and rapidly worsening intrusive thoughts about poisoning myself or others accidentally:

[urfavcrime]

dsmp is still SO insane to me. still not completely convinced it wasn't a social experiment. it is something that can never be replicated again due to the really specific circumstances that attributed to it's creation and popularity

[bookwyrmsbuttons]

[leikeliscomet]

June's coming up and i know i should feel excited or happy for pride month but i dont. I'm not looking forward to another yearly wave of queerphobia against multiple groups dressed up as 'discourse' along with continued antiblackness and being told to get over it bc labels are useless and infighting is bad or whatever. I have some things planned offline and online, but i feel like i need to brace myself instead of celebrate and that isnt good i fear

[watcherintheweyr]

desperately need people to understand that alicent is a victim but she’s also an abuser and a perpetrator

that she actively makes choices to harm other women because of jealousy and envy and the greed deep in her bones because submitting to suffering didn’t get her what those women fight to grasp for themselves.

she is absolutely a victim, in show.

that doesn’t change that she abused rhaenyra and her children, her own son, most likely helaena given how she flinches every time her mother touches her, and is actively weaponizing the patriarchy of westeros against other women- rhaenyra primarily, but also mysaria and dyana.

she isn’t the moral, righteous force of good that even she thinks she is, she’s a wounded woman directing all of the rot, pain, and fury inside her at the wrong people and forces.

[orion-kenobi]

I’ve reached the point in ds9 where Kira and Odo are officially a couple and I have some thoughts.

I think the reason I don’t fully hate it is because they already had such a good friendship so it’s not like they don’t have chemistry but the reason I kind of hate it is also because they already had such a good friendship. Their relationship isn’t any less loving or good if they’re just friends. Plus, it was one sided for most of the show so it seems kind of weird that Kira is suddenly fully on board with dating Odo (especially considering his actions earlier in the season). Had the execution been better I might feel more positively about it but to me the way it happened doesn’t make much sense for either of them.

I also don’t really think the way Odo feels about Kira is necessarily romantic. I think she’s the person he’s closest to and he loves her so very, very much platonically but from what he’s observed and been told he’s kind of just assumed that if he’s (choosing to present himself as) a guy and she’s a girl and he loves her then that must mean he’s attracted to her. I know a ton of people interpret their relationship as queer and I’m inclined to do the same but no matter how I look at it I still think the execution is weird.

So I guess my biggest issue with it is the way it was handled and not the relationship itself, if that makes sense?

I also have a whole thing about how it seems like the writers are trying to fix Odo/ prove Odo’s personhood or that he has feelings by making him have sex or date when we already know Odo has feelings (Lwaxana, anyone?) and sex doesn’t make someone…humanoid, in this case but that’s a rant for another time.

[waitmyturtles]

“Troye Sivan had words for straight people who have gotten ‘way too comfortable” discussing gay celebrities and their sex lives — especially those who are fond of throwing around the term twink.

‘This is a general note: if you say twink when you meant to say f@ggot, that’s still a slur,’ the Rush singer said in a September 15 TikTok video. ‘That’s like our word. I don’t think straight people should be using that.’”