#But I'd love to see them interact too...
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kyouka-supremacy · 1 month ago
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It's kinda funny how Atsushi and Chuuya have so many similarities but they haven't even met each other properly yet
Yet another reason why Wan is the superior bsd medium
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shriimpcandle · 6 months ago
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Redraw of two characters I like 💦
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cappybawa106 · 25 days ago
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👿💉"This might hurt a bit..."
✉️🩹"...I'll put the band-aid on for you... if that's ok."
I've been wanting to draw Kurode and Willmesh in their lords Vitamin Puro outfits ever since they were first shown!
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Since Kuromi and Mell's outfit can also glow in the dark, I wanted to do something similar by using some neon color pencils. And I used the Vivid filter on my camera to make those colors pop! (Hopefully their bright enough to see)
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THEY'RE SO CUTE AND PRETTY OMG I WANT MELL TO GIVE ME A CHECK UP LIKE IMAGINE IF THAT WAS POSSIBLE I WOULD BE GOING TO THE DOCTORS ALL THE TIME
#They said It's their first day on the job bro I'm cooked. Pray for me 😔🙏#By the way Kuromi and Mell has been interacting a lot in Vitamin puro and The Colorful Blooming in Harmonyland (they both talk in this one)#It's ironic considering Kurode and Will haven't interacted at all since ep3 😭#Back to MellKuro#In Vitamin puro Kuromi protects Mell during the song “Hop! Step! Jump! Spring!” where all the workers dance disorderly#And after that Mell holds back Kuromi from lashing out at them it was so cute ♡#I loved seeing them dance to “V plus V” together I love to imagine Kurowill doing it together too ^^#It's one of my favorite songs from this parade#In the Colorful Blooming... there's a secret flower garden and what's special abt it is that the flowers bloom from music!#And that's basically what Hello Kitty. Mell and Kuromi do!#Kuromi and Mell complement each other on how they sing and them making flustered giggles after made me smile#OH and at the end of the show where they leave sometimes Kuromi and Mell hold hands while exiting 🥺🥺🥺💞💞#Kuromi and Mell are an underrated pair I'd really love to see more interactions between those two more!!#I want to draw Kurowill in the outfits Mellkuro wore in the colorful blooming#The outfits are actually reused from a puroland show called Puroflower market (I think that's what it's called)#The only difference in their outfits are the shoes and Mell has skinnier legs in Colorful Blooming#Ok that's enough info-dumping I think you should watch both shows for yourselves#Speaking of Harmonyland. I want to see what's going on with nakayoku festival#I want to hear what Myunna and Kurode are chatting about I already saw someone post the Puruth and Hallritt one#fragaria memories#my art#fragmem#frmm#fragari art#fragaria sanrio#kurode#willmesh
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hellonerf · 9 months ago
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unusual face post where i don't bring up caname marriage. all of their gangstalia childhood photos have been shown! i've been very captivated by their answers
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the question is virtually the same for each of them with different wordings. here lord and owner have a goal for their future. between a distinguished admirable grown up and a welcoming hotel runner. meanwhile hero and parrain's answer are like. so vague. [(i?) can be anything] and [(be?) me] makes me laugh. what are these kids even saying? such blatant different personality dynamics. i actually don't have any coherent words i just point at a difference and go wowwww coool(keys jingling in front of me). but really. how sweet!!! the different similar answers
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starpros-sunshine · 10 months ago
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Eichi gives away the mask so easily because it was never meant to be an "engagement ring" like you delulu wataeis imagined it to be lmao. It was wataru saying that he will continue playing tsumugi clown role in fine and won't leave it for hokuto's mother troupe after graduation. Do you dumb fucks even read the stories? Eichi didn't even understand tf that mask meant when wataru gave it to him and wataru referenced fucking tsumugi in his "proporsal". I dunno why the f you think it's ok to lie about "! EnDiNG wItH wAtAeI EnGaGeMEnT" when the chapter it happened wasn't even close to the end of ep:link. Cope
PS: how do you live with the fact that Eichi clearly admitted to never being in love in his life and Wataru said that even though Eichi likes him, he still can easily discard him for the sake of his objectives?
I love you anon thank you for giving me a nice reason to ramble again beautiful ask 10/10 I'm sorry this is probably not how you hoped this would go but this is such a funny block of text delightful really thank you for the enrichment please marry me
But okay yes now to get down to the actual ask just to disclaim I am solely relying on translations seeing as I do not speak japanese well enough to understant the original text so if anyone has anything to add to this or to correct me on please feel free to do so.
Now to get started I'm not sure if one could say Eichi gave away the mask "So easily" seeing as he claimed that it was "a hard choice to make"? Which, as one might know, implies unease with an idea and pondering and debating and a general amount of thinking behind a decision so? I know this isn't really the main focus of this ask but I'm just a tad miffed with the semantics of it is all. And in either case giving the mask back to Wataru while expecting it back still shows a certain degree of trust in their relationship it wouldn't have been such a big deal for him (as it apparently was) if the mask didn't have a lot of sentimental value to him (the both of them really if we look at the whole exchange).
Now to the claim that the mask was "only" Watarus promise to stay with fine and "continue playing Tsumugis clown role". This is not entirely incorrect. Regarding the acting troupe and staying with fine bit at least.
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I'm assuming this bit in EP:Link Deadend/7 is what you are referencing, and I see where you're coming from. But the bluebird line
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from literally three dialogue lines further down, which references this line of dialogue (notorious Eichi line everyone should be familiar with)
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kind of somewhat really recontextualises that? Because you see this is a reference to a fairytale about a pair of siblings and they get sent out by a nice fairy to find the bluebird of happiness for her sad daughter to make her happy again so they both go on an adventure and travel far and search and search but they can not find the bluebird of happiness and then when they return home again, disappointed because they couldn't find the blue bird, they realise only one night has actually passed and the journey was probably just a dream. But then their eyes fall upon their pet dove in it's cage which appears blue all of a sudden and so they gift it to the fairies sad daughter which becomes happy again and sets the bird free. The real bluebird of happiness is a dove. At least in the version of the story I'm familiar with but I mean everyone sees the symbolism right? It's. very hard to miss.
And then dropping this?
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I'm not sure how to say this properly but in the overall context this makes it pretty clear that Tsumugi has nothing to do with this anymore this is Fully between Wataru and Eichi. And I am the last person to dismiss Tsumugis significance in the course of Wataeis relationship as characters I will be among the first to protest when someone dismisses the importance of Tsumugis and Eichis relationship in favour of some image they have of Wataei but he has nothing to do with this one.
Yes Tsumugi gets namedropped but - again - I don't really see how that would lessen the sentiment Wataru is triying to convey here? Because. Yes. Why wouldn't he mention Tsumugi?
The entire conversation pretty much boils down to "Yes I was initially only in this because I thought I could replace Tsumugis role in your life and then I wanted to leave but we have spent so much time together that I realised that that is definitely not working out because I really do love you. I love you as a teammate; I love you as a friend; I love you as a person and I am very angry at myself for not managing to get that into your head. So please allow me to stay with you for as long as you'll have me." And then also Eichi not understanding because he has the emotional self awareness of a very emotionally unaware loaf of bread and also because he hates himself that is a very big thing about his character huge part of his character arc actually that he. you know? Hates himself? And feels guitly for his actions during the war? And doesn't think he deserves love and companionship? Which is why Wataru wanting to stay with him for him and not for some twisted form of revenge is such an alien concept to him? Because he is projecting his insecurities onto Wataru? As one is wont to do when they hate themself? "EiChi Didn'T eVen UnDErStanD WhAt tf ThAT Mask MEAnt" Yeah. That's. That's the point? So he can think about it and come to that conclusion himself which works as a keymoment in his characters journey from hating life and himself to enjoying being alive and wanting to live on because of the people he's surrounded with? He literally explains why he didn't immediately understand the mask during the EP:Link Epilogue/4
And to get back to the "I dunno why the f you think it's ok to lie about "! EnDiNG wItH wAtAeI EnGaGeMEnT" about which I have two things to say:
"Lying" implies further intent and an effort. Neither of which exist in this case.
He literally went down on one knee while making a big proclamation of offering himself to Eichi with a very personal item that works as a symbol for their commitment to each other on a starlit rooftop. The comparison writes itself.
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3. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joke
And then I expected there to be a proper reason given and instead you proceed to follow that up with "when the chapter it happened wasn't even close to the end of ep:link". I know the shame is on me for expecting something sensical from an ask which has been near constant in it's lack of correct statements but such is human nature I suppose. And you are not wrong. Deadend/7 isn't very close to the end of EP:Link. That is true.
But do you know what Is very close to the end of EP:Link? The Epilogue Chapters 3-5.
Do you know what the content of those chapters is? I do. Very well actually :)
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(Eichi literally explains why he didn't get it)
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So if this answers your "Do you dumb fucks even read the stories?" questions, Yes. And I think I'm a lot better at it than you. So I'd say I'm coping quite well over here :p
PS: Regarding your PS, I take the "I've never been in love before so I wouldn't know" comment with a lot of humour actually as an aroace person who's emotional self awareness also ends at "good" and "Not good" I think it's very funny all things considered especially because he mentioned the loving Wataru thing several times before that and I'm generally of the belief that actions speak louder than words and also am in a happy long term relationship with the concept of "Reading Subtext". So please excuse me for not breaking down in tears everytime someone reminds me of that one singuar line of text in one of my favourite all time enstars stories that came out three years ago which also brought us the single best card set in the entire game
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as well as absolute banger dialogue such as
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Among others <33
And there are soooooo many other examples of wataei dialogue that simply make me swoon but I have already had to take out so many of the one's I wish I could put here so this wouldn't get "Do you love the colour of the sky" long
And also, regarding your "Wataru said that even though Eichi likes him, he still can easily discard him for the sake of his objectives" I'll just say that no he absolutely could not. I mean he'd say that and if pull comes to shove and he has no other option then he might seriously consider it but may I mention that Wataru was gone for a few days at most but really not that long of a time during Sanctuary and Eichi stopped considering being a normal rational person that doesn't leave helpless 17 year olds in the midst of a construction site. Very different situation but I feel like it's worth mentioninh here. Another example is Eichis almost not being able to go through with the war because of Wataru. Wataru had to actively come and tell Eichi to go through with it. Wataru isn't the reason Eichi started the war, that is wrong, but he is the reason Eichi almost didn't finish it. and during the war era that was his Main objective. Again I'm part of the fraction "actions speak louder than words" Show don't tell and all that, but even the words are pushing it.
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And that concludes my essay :)
#I so won this#there were so many pictures and quotes I wanted to include but the limit..... :'(#if any of you were wondering I am still as insane about them as I ever was#thank you anon really genuinely and fully this has been a blast#if anyone reads the whole thing....mwah let's run off into the ocean together#or something like that idk but it is appreciated#they are my everything they really are#I'm very enamoured with the ''Cope''#Cope with what? I have nothing to cope with? well nothing wataei related at least#or the ''How do you live with the fact'' yadda yadda#How am I supposed to live with it it's funny i think it's very funny#You really trust what enstars characters say and take it at face value without examining the subtext further? amateur mistake#it's so passionate too anon i admire you#imagine disliking something so intensely you sent a very wordy ask to someone because of a silly post they made#I wish I had that much vigor in me#I mean i'd be too polite to even if I did but still it has somehting admireable to it#thanks to you i got to reread some of my favourite wataei interactions so now I think the last three hours were three hours well spent :)#genuinely thank you for the enrichment#I hope youll have a nice day we might not see eye to eye on this and I'm also objectively better at reading these stories and understanding#the characters but I still hope you'll have a nice day#as good karma or something#I'm currently still on that dopamine high from writing this i think it's obvious#best mood I've been in in ages I love talking about wataei#okay good I'll conclude the tags I've already stretched this post out so far i might as well spare the poor tag reader#but then again if you have read the post this far what's a few more tags to you#I really like the fact that the real bluebird is a dove it's soooooooo#it's good it's really good in the overall context#wataei#eichi tenshouin#hibiki wataru
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dafpork · 8 days ago
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repeating myself here, but for good reason: the Silliness of the dafpork dynamic, however you determine the definition of Silliness, is really so integral to me and i think a big part of what makes them so special and personal. and i think that's a big reason why i was so afraid to post even the most innocuous stuff on main--even if they're not being clingy or cute together in a drawing, even in the comics where they're bickering like children or just being Themselves, there's this undercurrent of love beneath it that feels so comparatively intimate. they can have their moments of Unabashed Earnest, and they stand out much more and feel more special when you have them being dumb together to contrast it with... it's hard to pin down and they're hard to pin down, and that's why i love 'em, y'know? the variations on their dynamic is boundless, and so is their love, and so is their hijinks. they're not easily squeezed into an identifiable little box, and while i think that can trip some people up, i think it works to such a great strength with them. it's why i have trouble doing ask memes or drawing prompts with them (though i should try more!), because Dafpork Is Dafpork--they have minds and emotions and dispositions of their own and this blog functions to just sit back and observe what that all is, rather than force it. and that's how you get such a broad spectrum of Stuff, too; them being cute together, or being obnoxious, whether at each other or with each other, or they're not quite anything at all because the only one who knows what they are is each other. there's just truly so much and i really don't think it can be condensed into a bite sized trope or sweeping label.. and considering Daffy's anarchy and Porky's stubbornness, that feels very fitting. maybe it's a reason as to why it's difficult for some people to get on board with them, but i feel like it's such a great strength, and it's a great motivator to spread their gospel all the more, too! to try and get people to understand! so thank you for reading this, because if you're here then it shows you're curious and want to uncover more about them. me too!
#I KNOW I KEEP SAYING THIS but i'm in a I Wanna Talk About Pig and Duck mood today#i'm really trying to embrace... gosh i don't know how to say this without sounding conceited so please pardon my lofty wording here#but i'm trying to embrace being a bit of a pioneer with them yknow? i have to beat 'nobody's doing what you're doing so you need to stop#because it's wrong' out of my head#like that was why i was so mortified with this not-so-double dafpork life.. i can't be a respected industry artist and also... DRAW CARTOON#CHARACTERS *KISSING*!! I CAN'T WRITE DEEP SCHOLARLY ANALYSES ABOUT THESE CARTOONS AND THEIR HISTORY AND APPLY IT TO MY PIG AND DUCK SANDBOX#ON THE SIDE!#...why not?#stifling myself is only going to encourage others to do the same and considering i am absolutely desperate for dafpork interactions that's#not a good goal!#and i'm not completely out of the woods. i'm keeping all of this to tumblr and discord#but it's progress#i just really want others to see Their Greatness and it's been effective! never did i think i'd be using this blog#but i want MOREEEEE i want random people who don't even care about these guys to like them and talk about them#i want people to be able to feel what i feel about them and i can't force people to#but i can maintain my quest of hopefully articulating the full extent of the love i have for them#which is very difficult... but that love is infinite which means i have infinite chances to do so#BUT ANYWAY. again reflecting on how i wanna do so much with these guys but the more conventional stuff like ask games and drawing prompts#are tough for me because i have a hard time fitting them into those prompts. their personalities are too big for that? i guess? it's weird#to describe. and it stinks because i want to do these things! and i mean i'm sure i can if i look hard enough#it's just hard bc i wanna talk about them but i have so much in my head i don't know where to start and prompt games aren't as helpful as#they could be. and a lot of what i do want to talk about i gotta keep a surprise somewhat/way too far along in the actor au to make much#sense right now#i'll figure it out someday though#📝#but anyway if you want to talk about the pig and duck with me this is your chance! my inbox is always open
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aroaessidhe · 3 months ago
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2025 reads / storygraph
Love Points To You
YA contemporary coming of age
an artist struggling to get used to the idea of moving in with her new stepmother & stepsister can't wait to go away to art school
when her ipad is destroyed, her rich classmate offers to buy her a replacement in exchange for concept art for an otome game she’s developing, and as they work on the game, they start to fall for each other
while she tries to get used to her new family situation, and the fact that her parents seem to be more invested in her stepsister’s future while ignoring hers
bi ace MC, bi demi LI
#Love Points To You#aroaessidhe 2025 reads#asexual books#sapphic books#demisexual books#I thought this was pretty good overall!#It’s very much a coming of age kind of story with as much focus on her family relationship as the romance which I appreciate.#I like how their romance developed pretty casually into dating rather than being all in love all of a sudden#- and all the moments of bonding over otome games and both being acespec and both speaking Mandarin#I like how the conflicts with her stepsister/art rival/family etc were quite grounded and mostly resolved (semi) maturely#and not all overblown into drama despite Lynda’s petty explosive personality.#( and honestly; love some girls who are kinda petty and pretentious and stubborn and oblivious)#That is - until the end she kinda fucks up with everyone and pretty quickly realises she’s in the wrong; I feel like it was a bit overdone?#I understand why she felt and acted that way but it was all very fast paced and a bit of a contrast to the rest of the book#where things were handled with more nuance and maturity.#And oh my god if you found out that a potential investor wants you to change the game’s pairing to straight#why would you not think that’s a dealbreaker? like how could you have any other reaction? I know she realises she was wrong to#react that way pretty much immediately but it felt a little too much like it was there to create a conflict rather than being natural#My favourite part of the book was her developing friendship with her stepsister. made me tear up fr#(this also backtracks a little at the end with the final conflict in a way that felt a little overdone but whatever)#I put some specific art opinions and asexual opinions in my storygraph review (in link above) but a main point for each lol:#She has a sticker shop that’s mentioned a few times but no details…. is this via print or demand or is making/sending them herself#because that's a MASSIVE amount of admin that I'd expect to see depicted in some form. i have experience. lol#Generally speaking I liked the depiction of asexuality she already identifies as such and it’s not brought up all the time#but it does effect how she interacts with the world / thinks about people from time to time#- her dad says “even though you're not interested in dating this applies to you too” & she thinks: “I'm asexual not dead"#- which.. oof. unnecessarily arophobic. I know it’s probably unintentional on the author’s part and I’m used to brushing that aside#- because it’s so common in romance books but I’m gonna be honest it soured my opinion on the rest of the book a bit.#it also felt at odds with her otherwise having various anti-amatonormative thoughts and feelings about various things.#that and the slightly too much conflict in the very end i didn't love but everything else about the book i thought was rly good
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shikai-the-storyteller · 2 months ago
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I miss my old high school friends and classmates o(-(
#i talk#I miss my old dude friends too#I wish they hadn't grown up to be dumbasses#and the ones who were still chill moved away / I lost touch with#I regret not getting closer with one gal in high school who I ADORED#She was so cool and also the first Bi person I ever knew. though at the time that thought didnt cross my mind#I didnt care about labels then or now but back then I also just straight up didnt give them thought lmao#''labels?? sexuality??? who cares I'm cramming for finals''#anyways. she was so cool but I cannot for the life of me find her anywhere online#not even frickin LinkedIn (/neg I hate that place)#Gal straight up vanished after high school and honestly? mad respect but also [redacted] I MISS YOU#YOU WERE SO COOL AND I LOVED YOUR STORIES AND YOUR CONFIDENCE#AND I WISH WE HAD CLASSES TOGETHER SO WE COULDVE HUNG OUT AND BEEN CLOSER#we only had 1 class together in high school and 1 in middle school. I think?#I remember I told my Japanese classmates I would genuinely miss all of them#and a lot of them were startled by how earnest I was about it#because like. we all get alone but the whole class wasnt friends with each other#but I dunno man. maybe it's just a matter of loving what'a familiar#but I do care a lot about people even the ones I dont interact with much#I dunno just feeling a bit sad and nostalgic tonight after seeing that FE post#At least I'm still friends with my best friends#I've known her over half my life and honestly god forbid one of us moves or something#because I think I'd instantly drop dead in genuine despair#aghhh#interacting with people has become so exhausting over the past few years#but I'm trying my best#Trying to let my friends know I love and care about them#instead of dropping off the face of the planet for weeks or months#but it's a major work in progress#Anyways that's enough oversharing for the next year or two
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cannibalcreeps · 1 year ago
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Again, this is asking a lot from Bethesda, and I wouldn't worry if they didn't consider or think of this.
But it would be so, absolutely so amazing if they had a sleazy scummy antagonistic Ghoul whose trying to take advantage of the fact that Lucy is naive and new to the world to oversell things, who doesnt affect the plot of the story but is a recurring character, possibly a merchant of type.
Just so we get a nice variety of Ghouls, as a fun treat.
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sysig · 1 year ago
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Good to see you again ♥ (Patreon)
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sculptambitio · 6 months ago
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/ I know that technically it would be impossible bc of many reasons, but I keep seeing cute fanart of D.io having met/raised tiny G.iorno and I can't help but think of dad-Diego as he's sort of an alternative universe version of Dio (or well, he replaces the antagonistic place that D.io would have normally taken in the universe in which S.teel B.all R.un takes place had it not been a reboot of the universe.) and proud D.iego on a horse carrying little g.iorno in his arm since both love animals AND IM EMOTIONAL!!!
#;ooc#ooc#REALISTICALLY SPEAKING- even if og d.io had for some reason kept custody of g.iorno; he would prob have been a terrible dad#but im a bit conflicted because of the interactions they have in the games if u put them in the same team#and also bc of d.io's own conflicted relationship with his own father making me think that it could be the opposite#that he wouldn't be as terrible to his own son-#but then i think about the fact that even with all the love in the world from his adoptive dad and j.onathan#he still wanted to wreck their lives (specially j.onathan's)#so im like;; mmmmmm#i think it would be a conflicted thing#something about feeling a sense of pride in regards to g.iorno but#more in the sense of; g.iorno being a reflection of himself; so i mean he would feel pride but in a#selfish sort of manner#i cant quite put it into words but; it would be a very layered dynamic of father-son#especially bc g.iorno turned out to be a very righteous person having zero hesitation to sacrifice himself for others#meanwhile d.io would NEVER#so albeit g.iorno is super clever and smart; a matter of pride; his ideals and character is against dio's#ANYHOW!! back to d.iego UIGTFBRUGB#d.iego isn't inherently pure evil i'd say- but he also isnt a good person definitely#and his way of seeing the world would clash with g.iorno's#but in a silly type of au; i find fanart where d.io takes care of little g.iorno to be too sweet😭😭😭#its like when i see fanart of j.otaro with lil j.olyne; its too cute!!#i know it might look a bit ooc BUT!!! dad diego summoning lil dinosaurs for g.iorno to interact with#since he's also so linked to animals#SOBBING
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sillyfudgemonkeys · 1 year ago
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Me, at my coworker: I finished both Kyoshi novels. Coworker: Uh oh. How you holding up? Me: I thinking about walking into traffic
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miyano-shiho4869 · 1 year ago
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I watched movie 27! it was very fun I had a great time
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skrunksthatwunk · 2 years ago
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light-wrath-paradise · 6 months ago
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I'll be real when I started a book club as a part of our university's queer club I wasn't expecting literally everyone there to be interested pretty much exclusively in lighthearted romance books, ie the exact genre that makes me want to climb onto a pyre and call myself Jeanne d'Arc.
#it's like love and light but what. what is there to discuss about a coffee shop easily digestible romance book. what do you need#to discuss about it. there's nothing. this is empty. it's popcorn. there's very little to discuss about an average slasher movie#and just like that there is very little to discuss about a calm cozy relaxing heartwarming comfy domestic romance#and I'm not pissing on the genre here I'm just still confused and frustrated because i have no idea what to do#because hey. it's torture for me to read. i feel like I'm losing my life with every word. I'd rather be reading about opium#wait that sounds actually interesting. I'd rather be reading about engineering and geometry.#AND for some ungodly reason the members of the book club want to get to know us; the hosts#like no I'm not your friend I'll never be your friend I'd never be your friend i want you 2 meters away from me at all times#it's nothing against them but I have a role. the role is a member of the coordination team.#they have a role too - they are the people using this service. they're members. they're clients; essentially#i provide a service out of my own free will. you could say that i AM a service. you don't get to know your doctor.#you don't become friends with your social worker. you aren't besties with your therapist. im no different#the person i am outside of these events is something completely different than what i am during them.#my personhood ceases to exist the moment an event is held and it revisits my body when i leave the event#and as a person I don't like meeting new people and i don't like getting to know new people and i function the best when i#regularly see like 5 different people and when everyone else is a casual acquaintance only interacted with during group events#like i like our members but they scare me ok? because they want me to be a person and they want to get to know ne#but there's nothing in me and if there was i wouldn't want them to know because i don't want to be a person to them at all#and mainly i just. have no idea what to do because there's no way to make these meetings last more than 10 minutes#because they all want to read. cozy romance. which is my personal horrible no good nightmare and literally the opposite of#the reason for starting the club but hey. I'm not a person and I don't get a say in this.
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weaselle · 1 year ago
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had an interaction with a cat at my mother's friend's house (we dropped by to feed her while my mom's friend was out of town) and my mother said "i was surprised how much that cat liked you, she doesn't usually let people pet her but she followed you around and let you pet her a lot"
and in explaining to her my interaction with the cat i put into words a thing i'd never put into words before, having always automatically understood what i was doing. But once i put it into words my mother said she'd never thought of that and it felt like something worth sharing here.
This cat did a typical cat thing where she sniffed my fingers i was holding out, and then acted like she wanted me to pet her, but then when i started to move to pet her, moved her head away slightly to prevent it.
I instinctively understand this interaction, and stopped trying to pet her and moved back to a neutral position and waited to see if she would re-initiate an interaction.
Because this is basically a consent test. This is how a cat can assess "how closely are you paying attention to what i'm telling you" and "how respectful of my boundaries are you".
If i am responsive to her yes/no game, moving to pet her when she indicates i can, stopping immediately when she seems to change her mind, then she knows she can trust me to understand her, and also to respect her choices. That's what i did, so then she knew she could trust me and relax around me and enjoy my company. She was actually a very friendly and social little cat, who clearly wanted to make friends with me.
But if i had insisted on trying to pet her when she seemed to change her mind instead of simply understanding that she didn't want to be pet in that moment, she would have known she couldn't trust me to understand or respect her, and she would have treated me like she has to treat 90% of the people who visit that house, evidently.
I work mostly with dogs these days, but i grew up with cats too, and am generally good with animals. Many shy animals will also do this same "sniff sniff okay touch me nope just kidding" routine, especially if they've had experiences with people that make establishing that kind of communication and trust important to them.
And in fact, a lot of animals will do some version of this kind of consent test in a whole variety of situations. When well socialized dogs do that thing where they are rough housing and then they both stop suddenly for a moment until one of them play bows or makes a little pouncing motion and then they fly back into rough housing mode, that's what they are doing, they are doing a consent check-in, like "whoah this is getting wild, are you still in? are we still playing, is this still a good time for you?"
anyway, that's why this lovely little cat followed me around asking me to pet her the whole time we were visiting that house, because i showed her that i understood her signals and respected her boundaries, which is something i see a lot of both men and women not doing when interacting with cats and dogs.
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