#Reciprocity

[hellyeahscarleteen]

"Nobody “owes” anyone sex. We don’t lend and borrow sex like we lend and borrow money or our favorite sweaters. But plenty of people consider or engage in sex or certain sexual activities out of feelings of obligation or duty. Obligatory sex usually feels crappy and boring at best, and horrible, emotionally and physically, at worst, especially over time if it becomes a habit. When we’re really not interested in partnered sex at all and agree to it, it may even feel like rape⁠. When our partner is doing their homework in their heads during sex rather than being fully present with us, or just saying yes to avoid an argument, it can feel pretty weird, and create some unhealthy patterns.

Maybe your partner performed oral sex⁠ for you, so you feel that – no matter what you want – you’re obliged to perform a similar or understood-to-be-equal activity. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is someone you feel you don’t deserve, or who is somehow above you, and sex seems like a good way to even the scales. Friends may push or pressure you to become sexually active⁠ or engage in sex for their own agendas. Perhaps your partner has had a level of previous sexual experience you feel you’ve got to live up to. Maybe it’s been a certain length of time at which point it seems sex should happen, by some arbitrary and invisible timeline, or it’s been a few weeks since you had sex, and even though you’re not in the mood, for whatever reason, you don’t want to leave your partner without sex from you.

If your partner performed oral sex for you, and they’re expecting something in return you aren’t interested in, then you can let them know you aren’t interested in whatever that is and fill them in on the things you ARE or may be interested in instead. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is someone you feel you don’t deserve, or who is somehow above you, then you deal with the esteem issues or relationship imbalances that are causing you to feel that way. If it’s been a certain length of time at which point it seems sex should happen, by some arbitrary and invisible timeline, then you can start talking to your partner about feeling that way, and discuss, between you, what both of your own individual timelines are and what you feel ready for and want. If it’s been a few weeks since you had sex, and you’re still not in the mood, start talking: look into why that might be, like relationship or sexual problems, stress, depression, low libido⁠, or just not feeling up to sex at this point in time. You owe your partner communication⁠ and honesty, not sexual favors, and they owe you patience and understanding."

Heather Corinna, Reciprocity, Reloaded

[mrs-trophy-wife]

If you desire something, it is already yours.

[fortuneaday]

[chefchatter]

Toasted Ham and Cheese Croissant Sandwiches: A Gourmet Guide

Ingredients

Meat

• 8 slices Deli ham, good

Produce

• 1 Micro greens

Condiments

• 4 tbsp Honey

• 3 tbsp Mustard, whole grain

Baking & Spices

• 1 tbsp Everything bagel seasoning

• 2 tbsp Mustard seeds, yellow

• 2 tbsp Mustard seeds, brown

• 1 small pinch Salt

Oils & Vinegars

• 1/4 cup Apple cider vinegar

Bread & Baked Goods

• 4 Croissants, large

Dairy

• 1 (6 oz) wedge roth's grand cru cheese, wedge

• 4 tbsp Fig butter

Liquids

• 2 tbsp Water

[hillscapecity]

WHERES THE EMOTIONAL SUPPORT TURTLE WHEN YOU NEED HIM

(Fic is Reciprocity by @the-peak-tmnt on a03!!!)

[up-the-anti]

"hey, wouldnt it be funny if this night was the last time we ever talked to each other?"

[softytothecore]

[beautyandlifestyleblog86]

Healthy Metabolism-Boosting Salmon and Veggie Bowl

Ingredients:

- 1 lb salmon fillet

- 1 tbsp olive oil

- 1/2 tsp dried oregano

- 1/4 tsp salt

- 1/4 tsp black pepper

- 1 cup broccoli florets

- 1 cup Brussels sprouts, trimmed and halved

- 1/2 cup chopped red onion

- 1 cup cooked brown rice

- 1 tbsp lemon juice

- 1 tbsp chopped fresh parsley (optional)

Instructions:

1. Preheat oven to 400°F (200°C).

2. In a small bowl, mix together olive oil, oregano, salt, and pepper.

3. Place salmon in a baking dish and brush with the marinade.

4. Toss broccoli, Brussels sprouts, and red onion with the remaining marinade.

5. Spread the vegetables around the salmon in the baking dish.

6. Bake for 20-25 minutes until salmon is cooked through and vegetables are tender-crisp.

7. Serve salmon and vegetables over cooked brown rice.

8. Drizzle with lemon juice and garnish with parsley (optional).

This recipe is full of nutrients to support a healthy metabolism, including protein from salmon, healthy fats from omega-3s, B vitamins from brown rice, fiber from vegetables, and essential micronutrients. Enjoy this delicious and nutritious meal!

[the-peak-tmnt]

Reciprocity Chapter 20: The Parade - Part V

Sorry this took 6 months...

Art by @othellovonrowan!

[chaikachi]

"So rather than try, she throws out her hands with a growl, grabs him by the lapels of his stupid coat. Lets the conversation crash to a halt as she pulls him into her space and…"

Hey... go read Reciprocity by @sigruned if you haven't already. It's phenomenal. bonus sketches under the cut

I sketched this in procreate initially cause I didn't think I would colour it. Ended up bringing it into sai and lost a bit of the emotion from the original sketch by having to redraw it, but oh well. 😔 Also a zoom in on the doodles in the corner inspired by another part of the fic's most recent chapter:

I support Ruby shaking Oscar (and/or Oz) like a pringles can whenever they're being cagey little jerks.

[liesandnights]

All she wanted was the effort that she gave.

[scoldingdarjeeling]

When Masking Makes You Invisible

The problem with having ADD (ADHD-I) and an atypical profile is that you mask your symptoms so well that even other people with ADHD start treating you like a neurotypical. This can create unbalanced relationships, where communication feels like a one-way street, and you often end up feeling overlooked or forgotten.

[ide-orfe]

Reciprocity: Chapter 19

“R-Raphael,” she gasped. “Oh my god, you saw—you— oh my god, I’m so sorry—” “It’s okay,” he told her calmly. “That wasn’t real.” Raph had expected to see relief in her eyes, maybe even a little embarrassment from having been so easily fooled. He was confused when, instead, his words were only met with an unmistakable look of pity.

I just cradled my face for a few minutes after finishing this chapter, what the fuck dude. Of course nobody believes him. Fuck. This poor kid is being gaslit by the whole world, and the world is being gaslit by that mf CEO. Bro please let this fucking guy get eaten by piranhas or something, he literally can't keep getting away with this bro. Please.

Reciprocity by @the-peak-tmnt

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He's cooked

[mrs-trophy-wife]

What you seek is seeking you.

[ciaomarie]

GIF by lousolversons

What do you do when the person who has unknowingly shaped your dreams and then made you part of his dreams disappears? And he's two feet away? I'd fade, too. I'd scream my grievances in a dumpster and wonder if I simply expected too much of someone. People die and leave you. People find a girlfriend and leave you. People are dealing with issues and leave you. And... maybe they were never really with you in the first place?