#anti... cheating?

[blueberrytwoberry]

as much as i do love laka, hina, and kainalu on rescue hi surf... the cheating plot is just wearing me out. i've gotten to the point of wincing with dread and going for the skip forward button whenever will shows up on my screen because, honestly, "what about the pain the cheater feels after cheating? haven't you thought about how sad cheaters are when they get caught cheating and no longer have someone to cheat on? isn't that sad for them, that their betrayal of a partner's trust has consequences? have you considered that cheaters cheat because they're just so in love?" as a thesis statement for the show has me like

[sirenalpha]

unpopular opinion, but Frank Langdon wouldn't cheat, not with Mel or anyone else, he won't even leave his wife, if they get divorced it will have to be Abby who leaves him not the other way around, and if Mel tried to get him to cheat on Abby with her, he would actually think worse of her for it

I'm gonna be honest, I think this assumption he would cheat comes from the same place as calling him dirtbag hot comes from, he's a hot guy and an addict so obviously he must be capable of cheating

I also think some of it comes from overlaying romance tropes onto kingdon whether they come from fanfic or published romance novels

but I don't think it's accurate to his character as he is portrayed on the show, this dude is committed to his wife and children

we as outside audience members can totally see that his marriage is on the rocks and I'm sure he subconsciously can tell that he's not doing the right thing as he's asking people for their opinions on the dog in addition to probably making up for the addiction he can't admit to and this anxiety is why he comes up with at least three things to do for his wife or kids: the dog, salmon dinner, and the birkin

but I'm pretty sure Langdon thinks he's doing all the right things, his wife likes dogs and his kid said he would help take care of it so the dog is a good thing for the family, he's going to cook dinner, he's going to try and get his wife the fancy expensive bag

he is committed to his marriage and family, no he doesn't appreciate his wife's work when it comes to child rearing, but he is not apathetic to her, he is thinking about her and speaking of her at work in a busy high stress environment, he could be in the ER and completely focused on work as a workaholic and completely blocking out any thought of his home life, but he's not, he's thinking of his wife, he talks about his wife and kids as much as McKay talks about her son

and he is not complaining or disparaging about his wife or kids, like the worst thing he says about her is an implication she doesn't work as hard as him because he's a doctor but it's not a complaint she doesn't work enough, pretty much everything he says is about getting his wife and kids something they want even if he hasn't thought through the consequences or doesn't understand why they want it, he is actively trying to make them happy and engage positively with them

this is not a cheater, he doesn't feel unfulfilled in his relationship nor do I think he would seek out cheating for the thrill as he has his work in the ER for that which seems to be all he can manage considering how antsy he gets whenever addiction is mentioned nor do I think he feels completely entitled to his marriage and kids because why would he be trying to make up for things and doing grand gestures if he felt totally secure in these relationships? He does not act like he thinks he can get away with anything and expect his wife to still stay with him

Also, Langdon wears a bracelet made by his kid as the only personalized and colorful item in his entire outfit, he loves his kid enough to wear it even though it's not his personal style and when he calls to talk to Tanner after the death of two kids for a pick me up, he does not prioritize his emotions over him, he speaks calmly to Tanner and when Tanner asks if he can sing his song to him, Langdon says yeah I'd love to hear it, he's definitely not perfect like thinking a four year old can take care of a dog is expecting way too much out of a kid even if that kid is excited about and wants a dog, but he's going to know cheating would negatively impact his kids so he's not going to do it

the other thing is while he is an addict and stealing drugs, he otherwise cares about the rules, he originally gets ticked at Santos because she ignores procedure and treats patients before presenting which she does repeatedly in one day and his responses escalate in turn, maybe it's the ADHD he may or may not have where he needs external structure to stay on task, or he could just be compensating for the stealing, he's breaking this one rule and now he needs to follow every single other one and the big rule for marriage is you don't cheat on your partner

additionally, Langdon isn't an asshole because he doesn't care at all about other people, he banters and he doesn't speak the most sensitively out of all the doctors, but most of his gaffs come from not considering second order concerns, oh a patient comes in with a dnr a nurse didn't fax over in time? Waste of time and money who's running that facility but he doesn't complain further when it's pointed out the nurse is overworked and has other patients to see to while this one is being cared for by EMTs and the ER, oh this patient is dead why are they still using this bed get them moved to ICU but again doesn't argue further when Dana points out that Robby is helping the parents through the loss of their child, Langdon doesn't keep complaining or arguing after those things are pointed out, but cheating isn't a second order concern, it's immediately obvious why cheating on your partner is bad

all of this is why I think this idea of him being assumed a cheater vs people feeling the need to argue their case for Mel to be the other woman is coming from the fact he's an addict the same way dirtbag hot did (and probably also because he's a man)

there are a lot of stereotypes around addicts as if they have completely broken senses of morality and are inherently bad people so again even though Langdon is the most clean cut dude in the cast aside from the veteran, he gets called dirtbag hot not because of how he actually looks but because of the effect of having the label addict attached to him so of course the same can apply to his behavior, he stole drugs so he's capable of cheating on his wife when I don't think these are the same things especially not to Langdon himself and on the flip side, plenty of cheaters try to excuse and blame their behavior with substance use, but if he's not doing any cheating while using then I find it even less likely that he would do it after, why would he not try even harder to make even grander gestures to his wife once it's out in the open?

I think this is a contributing factor to why people who prefer Mel and Langdon to remain platonic got so heated on this topic at the beginning, there's an implication that shipping kingdon means that you think Langdon would cheat which is against his characterization in s1 which they don't like/agree with as making a character ooc is always going to bother some people and cheating specifically may be a particular hot button issue as it's a common deal breaker in relationships

and this assessment of kingdon shippers regarding their characterization of Langdon is accurate, there is clearly a chunk of kingdon shippers who actually are in it explicitly for the taboo of cheating between Langdon and Mel, this is the particular trope they like and are attracted to regardless of how it lines up with their individual characters and I think you should be aware in instances like this that you are prioritizing your trope preference over accurate characterization but people seem to be much more honest about this when it comes to Mel likely due to the confluence of factors of her being a woman, likely autistic as it's not confirmed in canon yet, and having explicitly said she doesn't like families being torn apart so people feel a greater need to justify going against her canon characterization

this is also where the overlaying of romance tropes from fandom or romance novels (and yes even shows like Grey's Anatomy) comes in, there are fics (even ones where Langdon is separated/divorced) where Langdon experiences an extreme attraction to Mel he's trying to resist and it's portrayed as overwhelming him, this is a romance trope and it does overhaul Langdon's character and Mel and Langdon's dynamic from within s1, he is obviously more overtly sexual in these portrayals as opposed to his clean cut and family focused characterization in the show

and it makes him more predatory towards Mel when clearly one of the things attracting people towards Mel and Langdon's platonic relationship as it is in canon is that an older man (even if it's only by two years) takes her seriously, accommodates her, supports her and is all around respectful of her, and if Langdon is a cheater and did all of those nice wonderful things to get into Mel's pants then he's neither respectful of his wife or Mel and it is a bastardization of his character and what they like about Mel and Langdon's relationship as presented in canon, it's again a prioritization of tropes over consistent characterization

and none of these larger issues will ever be completely resolved, fandom has always had splits between ships and with non-shippers, and flanderization of characters in general and to fit them to different tropes, this is just how fandom works, but I just think the Langdon being a cheater assumption is not coming through from his canon behavior any more than Mel being the other woman is coming from her canon characterization and that it's generally helpful to be aware of when you're prioritizing tropes over characterization

[beadelmare]

manifestation and shifting and all this stuff makes me genuinely so excited. like fym i can manifest anything i want and then if i happen to get bored i can just server hop into another fucking reality

[verboselocket38]

To be fair the only reason cheating is ok in recent episode is because it's supposed to parallel Stella & Stolas situation so he's feeling some type of way about it if they didn't have that going on I'm sure they'll be fine with killing them and also aren't they supposed to be a little emotionally grown right now according to Viv or something? 😗 maybe idk and super unpopular opinion don't come at me but cheating isn't a big deal like I heard one guy say once "Who hasn't cheated at least once" It doesn't take away hurt but it's very common and cheating isn't the worst thing someone can do imo genuinely not trying to start a fire but people act like cheating is a crime like how they treated that Berry dude or whatever with Sabrina Carpenter or the Try Guys dude (I don't know his name)

.....Dude what the hell?

Ok first off, just because the cheating is a parallel to Stella and Stolas doesnt mean that The cheating the husband did WAS OK!!!!

Second, if ANYONE says "cheating isnt a big deal 🙄" then they should not be in a relationship EVER. Because your breaking the trust of your partner and not only hurting your partner's feelings, but suprise suprise, YOUR HURTING THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU!!

JUST BECAUSE CHEATING ISNT "the worse thing a person can do" or "is common" DOES NOT MEAN ITS RIGHT! ITS STILL A BAD THING AND SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE A BAD THING.

Do you know the people who haven't cheated once or more when in a relationship? ALOT OF PEOPLE! The ones who do cheat are toxic who dont consider their partner's feelings or the people around them.

IF ANYONE CHEATS WITH YOU, DONT STAY WITH THEM! THEY JUST PROVEN THAT THEY DONT CARE ABOUT YOU FEELINGS WHILE SEEING SOMEONE BEHIND YOUR BACK! ANYONE WHO GETS CHEATED ON HAS THE RIGHT TO BE FURIOUS, SAD, EMBARESSED, HEARTBROKEN, OR ANY OTHER EMOTIONS THEY COULD FEEL WHEN THE PERSON THEY THOUGHT LOVED THEM DECIDED TO FIND SOMEONE ELSE IN THEIR PLACE!

Given how you worded this, you probably havent been cheated on in your life, and genually its a huge red flag to believe cheating is "No big deal."

If you still dont believe me, let me put it like this for the Stolas stans:

If Stolas cheated on Blitzø with Vassago or some other man whatever tf his name is, you'd probably be singing a different tune.

To end this, I just want to say don't come to my blog defending CHEATING and acting like its no big deal. Go somewhere else.

[chemsexholmes]

one thing worth noting in the conversation about whether or not college students have "become stupid" is that the attitude of the general public toward academic study has largely shifted in the past few decades away from education as a moral betterment (and also, implicitly, a status symbol), toward totally embracing the idea that education is the Thing that gets you Jobs. which of course is pushed by policymakers and academic institutions, because how else do you sell academic funding in a capitalistic society? but has created an ethos about education as something you have to drag your feet through in order to get your degree, which makes students feel more inclined to use LLM like chatgpt to complete their work because they fundamentally aren't connecting with the material.

[is-that-sand-in-my-waffles]

✨️Jedi positivity time✨️✨️

Reblog and add something you love about the Jedi Order or a specific member of the Order!

I love how the Jedi get to all live in a big multi-generational group where older members like Tera Sinube are basically communal grandparents to the initiates and padawans❤️

[m1ckeyb3rry]

what really fries me about people who use chatgpt on their homework in my classes is they get the wrong answer and then they text me and i tell them how to do it and they’re like “😱😱 how did you know how to do that ??” well maybe if you opened the slides instead of rushing to jerk off ai you would’ve realized that the professors tell you how to do what they want you to do 😭😭 you dumb fucks FKDKDNJSND LIKE ??

[valyrfia]

THEY CANT KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH ITTTTTT

THEY CANT KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH IT!

ITS FUCKING BENDY!!! THEY CANT KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH ITTTT

the fact that everyone and their mother can see that that mclaren wing is in fact moving under load and therefore completely illegal and yet NO ONE IS DOING ANYTHING ABOUT IT. @ FRED @ CH @ TOTO DO SOMETHING

[flooferland]

I find kernel level anti-cheats and generally client-side anticheats like BattleEye, EasyAntiCheat, and Vanguard really stupid, because they really aren't stopping cheaters, all they're doing is discouraging them while sacrificing performance, user privacy, Linux support, and generally risking accidentally banning casual user.

I started developing my own anti-cheat for a game and it hit me, you should never have any anti-cheat on the client. All anti-cheats should be server-side, because to this day players are still figuring out ways to bypass these anti-cheats, like using hardware-level exploits which are physically impossible to detect unless they start serving anti-cheats as AI-powered robots that are physically in your room looking at you while you game.

Think about it.. Wall hacks let you see other players through walls, easy solution right? Just don't tell the client where the other players are, do server-side calculations for occlusion, you already have a system for it to do it client-side since it saves performance not to render players that aren't on the screen. But nope, because it would slightly increase server costs, even if it makes cheating impossible to perform.

The number one rule in multiplayer is "NEVER TRUST THE CLIENT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE", and these huge game dev corporations are consistently not following it, then complain about having cheaters while going "Oh, it must be the Linux users!!! Not our flawed approach at anti-cheat!!!"

[annabelle--cane]

say it with me everybody: personal health is completely immaterial to morality, including mental health. leading a mentally unhealthy lifestyle (or what you perceive as a mentally unhealthy lifestyle) does not a bad person make. no one has to socialize, exercise, have healthy coping mechanisms, or lead (what you perceive as) a fulfilling life with fulfilling hobbies in the same way that no one has to go to the doctor to get a broken bone reset. both of those types of management of personal health are likely to be beneficial to the individual, but they are in no way moral requirements or debts owed to society. they do not actually say anything about a person's principles, personality, or actions towards others. additionally, people know themselves and their own situations better than you do. maybe a person judges that the physical and financial toll of going to the doctor outweigh the benefit of getting their bone reset, maybe a person just does not have the capacity to develop healthy coping mechanisms at this point in their life, and yes, maybe a person feels like they are totally fulfilled by "media based" hobbies alone and would feel no difference in their life if they picked up a loom. just like. let people be sick without accusing them of being representative of the lazy, degenerated state of modern society.

[sillygoofyqueer]

Deity Jester AU to come later today, for now take this random brainworm I had this morning: MDZS modern AU where Wei Wuxian and Lan Wangji get paired up for a school project to their equal dismay. Wei Wuxian tries to use ChatGPT because "oh em gee it's so much easier than having to sit around writing!" but every time he does this, Lan Wangji reads it and goes "no AI." because he's like a human AI detector and can tell that this lifeless slop is not written by a human. It gets to the point where it's taking up more time to try and get AI past Lan Wangji than just writing out his part, so Wei Wuxian finally, begrudgingly caves and writes up his part of the essay. Lan Wangji reads it and is like "this is the most beautiful writing I've ever seen" because it's just wild and fantastical and so obviously a sign of just humanity. Human intellect and thought processes. It may go off the rails at some points (Lan Wangji has the version history pulled up just to be sure that there hasn't been anything added in, and there are many instances of a completely insane paragraph being written only to be entirely deleted because the moral debate of nature versus nurture doesn't actually have anything to do with the historical battle of whenever the fuck), but it is brilliant. Cut to Lan Wangji trying to Pavlov Wei Wuxian into not using AI.

[chloe-et-al]

so let me get this straight you put out a teaser for the new and final season of your show where you have this love triangle and the song you decide to connect to one of the couples in said love triangle is daylight by taylor swift — a song that is about growing up and realising love is not supposed to be complicated and painful and while passion is fun, you want your love to be easy and gentle and soft and safe — and then you take it a step further and you use "but loving him was red" which is in direct contrast with "i once believed love would be burining red but its golden like daylight" AND YOU EXPECT ME NOT TO ROOT FOR THE DAYLIGHT COUPLE??? what are these people smoking you're going backwards on your own narrative mate

[faunandfloraas]

"I asked chat gpt what flavour cupcakes disney princesses would be" why can't you just make it up with your brain. Do you have no imagination?

[petrenocka]

I genuinely feel like the world where My Hero Academia didn't betray everything it stood for with the resolution of the Hospital War ark and everything that followed would've been a noticeably better world.

Not numerically better by the simplistic virtue of having one more good work of fiction in it. That shit genuinely could've changed the hearts and minds on a significant scale I feel.

But it chose not to.

[thefatesofspring]

For the longest I’ve been saying that Feyre was having an emotional affair with Rhysand from ACOMAF & she does what a typical cheater does when they stay with the person they don’t want to be with & cause issues for no reason & cause the person they don’t want to be with to be reactive from their/her antagonism (minus Tamlin not listening to Feyre saying she was drowning) & in ACOFAS Feyre literally confirms that she wanted Rhysand from ACOTAR!!! From when he was abusing her UTM!!!

OH MY FUCKING GOD!!!!!!!!!!

But at the same time you can tell Sarah Janet Maas retconned the fuck out of the series because the curse would not have been broken if she was wanting Rhysand whilst claiming to love Tamlin.

I can only imagine how Tamlin would feel if he ever heard that Feyre never really loved him🥺

Not only that but imagine him hearing that Feyre is taking the credit for killing Amarantha & also trying to give Rhysand the credit too🤮🥴🤢

[hyperactivewhore]

People who actually think Tyler cheated on Caroline with Hayley drive me insane.

It's 2024, people. Hayley was the only one clearly interested, Tyler looked uncomfortable as hell anytime she flirted with him and she was the one who didn't understand boundaries. Tyler adored Caroline, and Caroline adored him, until Hayley and Klaus ruined their relationship.

Like, I'm pretty sure Klaus was the one who slept with Hayley, the girl he thought Tyler had been unfaithful with on the girl he was currently in love with.