#are not Just girls and have Some amount of being non-binary or Also A Man in them. you all knowthat right

[whenyoucomeback]

my day be so. okay i guess. and then BOOM randomly REALLY stressed about how many of my self inserts look super feminine.

[genderqueerdykes]

whats your banner about? /genq btw cuz i personally havent seen anything abt that so if u could fill me in on it id appreciate that

/not forced to answer, im just curious abt it

hey sure i'm happy to elaborate!

it's in response to the amount of folks who deem it okay to refuse to let transmascs and men into non binary and queer spaces because mascs and men "scare women and enbies" or are "unsafe to be around" or even "look too cis and make people uncomfortable". i've seen a massive pushback lately to completely and totally remove transmascs and men from the queer community because men are "dangerous". the same hatred and vitriol that people have for cishet men is being applied to trans men. ESPECIALLY straight trans men. straight trans men are treated like absolute shit and are labeled as dangerous and predatory.

i've also had the unfortunate displeasure of overhearing MANY queer folks that trans men aren't queer or trans, we're just "confused" or "butch lesbians". like i have heard this from other trans people. it's an unfortunate reality that some people literally refuse to see trans men and mascs as queer, because for some reason people view queerness as feminine or gender neutral only. i've literally heard people say that trans men can't call ourselves trannies because we're not trans. like i have seriously been told by numerous people that trans men AREN'T trans, and that "that's not what being trans means." i've met so many people who think the only way to be trans is transfem and it's been painful

i've unfortunately befriended several transfems who would gladly go on tirades and rants about how transmascs and men bring a "bad light" to the community, that trans men and mascs are insufferable and dangerous to be around because testosterone can "turn you into a monster," and i've even been told that i'm ruining my body. i've been told that people don't view me as trans because nobody WANTS to be a man for anything but nefarious reasons. many people say that trans men want to be men so they can engage in the patriarchy and oppress other people. i've been told by some people that they believed i transitioned so i could "have more power"

i got tired of seeing people think it's okay to ostracize trans men because they have trauma they need to work on. people blame the entirety of men and manhood on their problems, and project it on to trans men. it's sad and insidious. i've heard from SO MANY trans mascs and men who literally just do not feel comfortable in any queer spaces they try to attend because of how ostracized they feel, or how people would bully them and tell them they were just a confused butch lesbian, tomboy, or masculine girl.

hope that made sense to you! some people have really charged and heated opinions about trans men and mascs and if we belong in the queer community. i got sick of it. femininity, womanhood and gender neutrality are not the only ways to be queer

[alphajocklover]

You know, you just talked about that "Big Dick Energy" thing, but I must admit, I have follow-up questions.

Under which terms that "accumulation" of "masculine enregy" happens, and for whom ? 'Cause you see, I'm a male-leaning non-binary guy, so it means that I qualify close to "man", yet disavows most masculine acts. Am I at risk of a "Big Dick Energy" explosion, or is my gender identity a sufficient deterrent (if true, it would open up a whole lot of other questions) ?

I'm sorry to go all science-y on you for a silly Tumblr post, but I need to know if I could be affected !

I should have known bringing up BDG would lead to some more questions. It’s a confusing, and honestly strange phenomenon I don’t know everything about. But I’ll do my best to explain it to you.

Everyone in the world has two special energies that are inside them. Not one, two. See, just as there is a masculine energy, there is also a feminine energy. There’s even some argument that there’s an androgynous energy but people can’t quite seem to agree on that. What we know for sure is that everyone has both masculine and feminine energy, even the manliest man and the girliest girl. The difference is how much of said energy someone produces. A very manly man makes little feminine energy and lots of masculine energy, and a girly girl does the opposite. Some people, like you, make fairly equal amounts of both, which makes you something that’s not one or the other.

Now, this energy accumulates when someone who naturally makes enough of this energy doesn’t expel it. BDG energy is expelled by doing something masculine. Usually a person naturally does this, since as the energy builds up a person has a natural urge to do such things. But when someone has these urges yet ignores them for whatever reason? That’s when the build up really begins to change someone.

You probably won’t end up like the guy from our last post. Being non-binary you probably make about equal amounts of masculine and feminine energy and use those energies enough throughout your daily life. But… you may still want to be careful. See, masculine and feminine energies can be… transferred between people. It’s sort of like how some people donate blood. Some people can donate masculine or feminine energy to another person. They usually need some training and an immense amount of built up energy to do so, but it is possible to do it, and I’ve recently heard of a few groups doing so by force, using energy to convert people to their cause.

So be careful out there. And maybe avoid any particular manly group of men for a while, or they may make you join them

**hey guys, didn’t expect to be posting about BDE again so soon but I can never turn down an interesting post idea. I’ve got a lot of different transformation methods now don’t I? Maybe one day I’ll figure out how they all fit together. Hope you enjoy!**

[faerghusfucker]

What are your lgbt headcanons for fe3h? You can only do some characters if u want like just ur favorites 👉👈

i truly think that all these bitches are gay in some capacity. not a cishet human being present in that damn monastery.

my most thought-about one is transmasc felix because i think it deepens his conflict with his dad in a really cool way :3 i have a whole post on that one lol it means a lot to me

i’m also a TRANSFEM HUBERT FAN!!!!!!! i’ve been wanting to draw her post-war after she’s able to transition. helena von vestra will be the most esteemed pegasus knight in all of adrestia

non-binary linhardt is also one that i adore. i choose to believe that his baggy pants are a skirt instead bc there’s a piece of official art where it looks like that and skirt linhardt means everything to me. idc that in his 3D model it’s obviously pants. skirt lin is canon TO ME. he gives so little of a fuck abt what anyone thinks that that extends to his gender too.

@medicallyfascinating just posted a really awesome allo-aro ferdinand headcanon that i have stolen bc they’re the CEO of ferdinand in my mind.

i think that ingrid is a LESBIAN and she only has the amount of paired endings with men that she does bc of compulsive heterosexuality and the “need” for a husband that’s been ingrained in her. even despite her pursuing knighthood and rejecting her father’s wishes, i think she still feels a lot of internal pressure to marry and so she just chooses whichever man she happens to be closest to. i think dorothea was her gay awakening but she’s not ready for all that.

speaking of dorothea. BISEXUAL IN EVERY SENSE OF THE WORD and she pulls too. she is the human being with the MOST game in all of garreg mach, move over sylvain.

balthus loves milfs and ALSO dilfs. i think he wants jeralt.

all three of the lords are bi because you can tell they all have a fat crush on byleth the entire game. especially dimitri and edelgard. azure moon is practically a love story with the way it’s set up. the fact that dimileth cant canonically be mlm is one of 3H’s greatest flaws and i mean that completely seriously.

dedue has probably been a lot of people’s awakenings. especially ashe’s. i think ashe had never really been attracted to many people before meeting dedue. i’m so normal about them actually.

contrary to popular belief i like to keep yuri’s canon bi-ness because i think he takes pride in being able to make any relationship he’s in scandalous. as a man who looks a lot like a woman there’s really no way to win in a heteronormative society (which fodlan absolutely is) and i think yuri has some fun with that. embraces it even.

i think lorenz is the most deeply repressed individual known to man. he looks for a wife as if looking for a business partner. he can’t even conceive of sexuality at all. i don’t know what he is because i don’t think HE knows what he is. this never changes for him.

leonie is my beloved butch. however i do think she and felix getting platonic married and becoming clowns together is fucking awesome. keep it up guys.

hilda’s pan i think. she flirts with everything that moves. sylvain as well but he’s slow to learn. i think he had a crush on glenn and then felix but rationalized it to himself by saying both of them look like girls so of course he’s into them. but it’s deeper than that. he doesn’t wanna unpack that tho he has a job to do.

ignatz and raphael are the definition of a qpr to me. just a good pair of buddies. i love them. i think they’re both aro but judging by that flayn support ignatz is NOT ace. i know he’s a little freak. love him tho 💓

i think lysithea is pan but she doesn’t feel like she’s good enough for girls :[ they’re all so much better at being girl and doing girl things than her. same with marianne and bernie i feel like. they’re all very insecure and it comes out in different ways.

mercedes being transfem is smth i like a lot :3 i think her finding support within her church to transition would be rlly nice and sweet.

annette to me is ace allo and likes guys. i really like how all her best ships are just guys who love to hear her sing and hang out :3 it’s so cutesy.

jeritza is GAY GAY HOMOSEXUAL GAY. he wants m!byleth so bad it makes him look STUPID. byletza is my otp those two are so beautiful and freaky together

byleth is pan. enough said

i think i got like a good portion of the cast but if there’s anyone else you’re curious about, hit me up. if i don’t have anything specific in mind already ill make something up, no one is off limits. i love gay ppl

[wetcatspellcaster]

To preface this ask, I did search through older posts to see if you had answered this, because I love your fics but I also love reading your opinions on things because you are smart and have good taste. So: what were your thoughts on Solas pre-Veilguard? I saw that you mentioned you don't care as much as they want you to, but I'm curious why, if you don't mind sharing? Thanks!

ooofft, why do i feel like this is kicking a hornet's nest? but you'll also have seen how quickly i answered this, anon, so I don't mind giving my opinion - especially when i'm sick and bored and feeling sorry for myself.

putting it under the cut so I don't die though x

TLDR I just... think he's ok? fine? I don't hate him, but I also don't.... care?

In more depth, I think I understand the appeal of the Solas romance in terms of its immortal/mortal dynamics (I mean, I lowkey used that dynamic to finish the ending of my own inquisition fic, and I read a decent amount of Solas/Trevelyan back in the day when I ran out of other things to read), but I've never been able to give full buy-in or finish a romanced playthrough in-game, based on Solas' personality. shallowness of who I find attractive in games aside... I like Solas well enough as a companion and I find his character has the potential interesting, but I find his Inquisition romance dynamic extremely limiting, frustrating, and very much... just not for me.

I know the Shipping Diskhorse, and so I know a lot of the complaints I have already have arguments crafted against them. I don't need an argument, because I just don't care that much. A lot of people have opinions why he condescends, his explaining things to you, keeping secrets from you, etc. It's totally fine! I like those kinds of characters (I wrote for the Darkling! I get it!) Some of it isn't even 'his' (Solas, the fictional man's) fault!! Some of it's just dragon age writing!!! Like, I didn't enjoy Solas being racist, but then, Dorian was ok was slavery, and so was Anders with the One Guy He Didn't Like, so I can't even really call him out on that. I get frustrated that Solas repeatedly decides he is the only one equipped to take on problems on his own, rather than the proven-to-be hypercompetent women around him, who only can't handle those problems because he decides they're not worthy of trust and deliberately keeps them in the dark.... but that complaint literally only exists, because I play exclusively female characters in Dragon Age. He can condescend the male and non-binary characters too!!! If I ever let him!!!

So in short, this is an extremely personal taste thing. I think enjoyment of Solas is undermined by it being reliant on the Solavellan romance, and I think the Solavellan romance is undermined (for me ) by the fact that it is deepened and approval is met through agreement, rather than challenge or upfront debate. I think Solas is a character for whom I mourn the loss of the rivalmance mechanic (which I didn't even use in DA2).

Sometimes you don't want to agree with the man!!! You kind of want to ruin his life a little!!!! Which is fine!!! many, many people have headcanoned and written their way out of that corner, or imagined alternatives! It's why so much of the modern girl in thedas fic INVOLVED antagonising and challenging Solas, and it's why Veilguard (I'm convinced) encouraged that dynamic with Rook -

It just didn't work for me, personally. if I was to pinpoint my exact 'turn off' point, it was the way he talks about the Dalish, which I'm sure has it's share of sympathetic readings but, in my eyes... it's just him being needlessly cruel, about a diaspora culture he's responsible for - and responsibility was with him, even before all the lore choices made by Veilguard. No matter how much you mourn your own culture, I don't think dissing an entire ethnic group is quite The Way. And he's dissing it, to his girlfriend who is from that culture! (if you've read my inquisition fic, you know my feelings on this. and lord knows, enough people gave Sera shit, for the exact same thing.)

I don't not see it. To be frank, I accidentally (by which i mean, it wasn't planned from the beginning) put a Solavellan romance throughline in my Inquisition fic, because once I began writing, I started to fully understand what my Lavellan and Solas would have in common. But if you've read that fic, you know they don't end up together. Because I wanted challenge, and I wanted friction, and I didn't want endless pining or acceptance for a man who ultimately isn't always that nice to you, and gives you no real reason to yearn that hard!!! I kind of wanted that man to fumble the baddie, and be humbled by that instead!!!!!! which is my preferred flavour actually!!!! alongside Solas/Trevelyan which.... wow. is that another hornet's nest in the distance? should I aim for it, with my foot?

And I think that, Solas' fandom (which totally makes sense, again this is personal taste nothing more) and Solas' canon writing (woof. to veilguard) is so reliant on you buying into Solavellan, that if you don't.... Solas really is just.... kind of there. I mean, my INQUISITOR (super hot, hypercompetent lady, love of life light of my heart) was also... just kind of there, according to veilguard. Her dialogue was sooooo UNDERWHELMING, and once again, she had no options but to be Solas' advocate, when actually, that woman disagreed with pretty much everything he ever said!

I don't want to kiss him. I don't want to redeem him, because his redemption arc seems so based in a self-sacrificing love I cannot buy into personally, even while appreciating the flavour for other people. He's just kind of there to me.

[theanalyzerguy]

Why Transgender People Need Gender-Affirming Care (Essay I wrote for school)

According to the Human Rights Campaign, twenty-two states have passed laws that ban minors from receiving gender-affirming care. Gender-affirming care which includes, puberty blockers, synthetic hormones, and surgeries, are a safe and effective way to treat gender dysphoria, which is distress that results from having one’s gender identity not match their sex assigned at birth. The HRC states that, “Every single major medical organization, including the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Medical Association and the American Psychiatric Association, supports the provision of age-appropriate, gender-affirming care for transgender and non-binary people.” It is essential for transgender people to receive gender-affirming care because it decreases the risk of substance abuse, improves mental health, and gives them the opportunity to be who they truly are. 

It is evident that transgender people are at a higher risk of substance abuse and mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety. According to one study, the use of any type of drug was 3.6 times more likely in transgender people than in cisgender people. Additionally, 47% of transgender adults reported binge-drinking in the last three months compared to 17% of the general population (Shannonhouse). However, a study also shows that gender-affirming surgeries can decrease the risk of substance abuse. A 35% decrease of past year tobacco smoking was found in transgender people who had one or more gender-affirming surgeries and a significant decrease in the odds of past-month binge alcohol abuse was observed when patients got all the surgeries they desired (“New Study Shows”). According to Columbia Psychiatry, “It is well documented that TGNB adolescents and young adults experience anxiety and depression, as well as suicidal ideation, at a much higher rate than their cisgender peers.” In 2020, the Trevor Project found that 54% of young people who identified as transgender seriously considered suicide, and 29% made an attempt on their lives. Despite this, numerous research studies have shown that gender-affirming care leads to improved mental health for transgender youth (Matouk and Wald). In addition to the numerous mental health benefits of letting transgender people access gender-affirming care, this care also allows transgender people to be who they really are. For example, Jaime Raines started testosterone when he was 17 years old. He describes how life was like before and after he started transitioning. “The two are incomparable really, life before transitioning felt like a struggle and I was constantly feeling uncomfortable and embarrassed about how I looked and how people perceived me. Life after, life now, is just me actually living my life as me” (“This transgender man”). 

Opponents of gender-affirming care argue that sex change drugs, meaning synthetic versions of testosterone and estrogen, are radical and experimental treatments. They state that these treatments are mutilating people’s bodies and that teenagers are not capable of consenting to these treatments (Surgeons). Furthermore, they attest that hormones are given to minors too quickly without any formal procedures to make sure it is in the best interest of the patient and sometimes even surgeries, such as double mastectomies, are being performed (Denny). Challengers to gender-affirming care also allege that some patients have underlying mental health conditions, such as anxiety or depression, which are not being treated (Denny). They claim being transgender is a social contagion because of the amount of people now identifying that way. They also claim that it is mostly teenage girls that want this type of medical intervention because identifying this way is a collective behavior that is commonly seen in people who do not feel comfortable with their bodies (Surgeons). Lastly, they argue that many people regret transitioning and go on to detransition.

Proponents of gender-affirming care argue that hormones have been given to transgender people for decades. The first gender clinic in America was opened in 1966 and these hormones have been given to cisgender people long before that to help with certain conditions, such as menopause (Rosenthal). These hormones are safe for adolescents and adults as long as they are being monitored by a medical professional. Hormones are not usually prescribed until a patient turns eighteen. If they are prescribed in adolescence, it is with parental permission and support after going through the informed consent process (HRC Foundation). Double mastectomies are rarely performed on minors. If these surgeries are performed on 16- or 17-year-olds it is with parental support after talking to therapists, and surgeons. Surgeries involving genitalia are never performed on those under 18 (HRC Foundation). Anyone who wants to receive gender-affirming care is required to speak to a mental health professional before and during their transition. Dysphoria can worsen existing mental health conditions such as anxiety or depression. After talking to the patient, a doctor will make the decision regarding transitioning and if it will help the patient’s mental health (HRC Foundation). The idea that being transgender is a “social contagion” is called “Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria.” GRD has been thoroughly debunked and over 120 medical associations have issued statements calling for the elimination of this term (HRC Foundation). A study done by the American Academy of Pediatrics found that youth assigned female at birth are no more likely to identify as transgender then those assigned male at birth. Lastly, several studies have shown that the percentage of someone de-transitioning is quite rare. The regret rate of transition is as low as 1 or 2 percent (HRC Foundation).

In conclusion, gender-affirming care is life-saving care for transgender individuals. This care is safe, effective, and can be life changing. It decreases the risk of substance abuse, suicide, anxiety, depression, and allows transgender people to be who they truly are. If “to shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are” (Bennett), then should not everyone have a chance to shine their brightest light?

Works Cited

Bennett, Roy T. “Be Who You Truly Are.” The Light in the Heart, 25 Nov. 2018, thelightintheheart.wordpress.com/2018/11/25/be-who-you-truly-are-2/. Accessed 9 Dec. 2023.

Denny, Doreen. “Exposing the Lie of Gender-Affirming Care.” Restoring America, 13 Mar. 2023, www.washingtonexaminer.com/restoring-america/community-family/exposing-the-lie-of-gender-affirming-care?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Pmax_USA_High-Intent-Audience-Signals&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAmZGrBhAnEiwAo9qHiX8vNakZ_bQiz5rDsC-HxFlMyaTmQ2zs8cLde-oqFOfouZYQCoGxIxoCBo8QAvD_BwE. Accessed 9 Dec. 2023.

HRC Foundation. “Get the Facts on Gender-Affirming Care.” Human Rights Campaign, 22 Mar. 2023, www.hrc.org/resources/get-the-facts-on-gender-affirming-care. Accessed 6 Dec. 2023.

Matouk, Kareen, and Melina Wald. “Gender-Affirming Care Saves Lives.” Columbia University Department of Psychiatry, 30 Mar. 2022, www.columbiapsychiatry.org/news/gender-affirming-care-saves-lives. Accessed 27 Nov. 2023.

“New Study Shows Transgender People Who Receive Gender-Affirming Surgery Are Significantly Less Likely to Experience Psychological Distress or Suicidal Ideation - Fenway Health: Health Care Is a Right, Not a Privilege.” Fenway Health, 28 Apr. 2021, fenwayhealth.org/new-study-shows-transgender-people-who-receive-gender-affirming-surgery-are-significantly-less-likely-to-experience-psychological-distress-or-suicidal-ideation/. Accessed 27 Nov. 2023.

Rosenthal, G. Samantha. “Gender-Affirming Care Has a Long History in the US – and Not Just for Transgender People.” The Conversation, 27 Mar. 2023, theconversation.com/gender-affirming-care-has-a-long-history-in-the-us-and-not-just-for-transgender-people-201752. Accessed 6 Dec. 2023.

Shannonhouse, Rebecca. “Substance Use Disorder in Transgender and Nonbinary People.” WebMD, 21 Apr. 2022, www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/substance-use-disorder-transgender-nonbinary. Accessed 9 Dec. 2023.

Surgeons, Association of American Physicians &. “Transgenderism: The New Medical Standard?” AAPS | Association of American Physicians and Surgeons, 25 Feb. 2023, aapsonline.org/transgenderism-the-new-medical-standard/. Accessed 6 Dec. 2023.

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“This Transgender Man Documented His Amazing Journey on YouTube for over Five Years.” The Irish News, 8 July 2017, www.irishnews.com/magazine/daily/2017/07/08/news/this-transgender-man-documented-his-amazing-journey-on-youtube-for-over-five-years-1079578/. Accessed 9 Dec. 2023.

“Youth Assigned Female at Birth Are No More Likely to Identify as Transgender or Gender Diverse than Those Assigned Male at Birth: Study.” Www.aap.org, 3 Aug. 2022, www.aap.org/en/news-room/news-releases/pediatrics2/2022/youth-assigned-female-at-birth-are-no-more-likely-to-identify-as-transgender-or-gender-diverse-than-those-assigned-male-at-birth-study/. Accessed 9 Dec. 2023.

[yourbigendergremlet]

Here is a bunch of rambles ive vollected over a few months instead of posting them in seperate posts

Feeling dysphoric about my face not being masculine, putting my hair down because it makes me feel masculine, i hate hair in my face, all my headbands to hold my hair back have bows on it, rip off the bows, wear is like a sweatband

Manly ✨

Even if i was ever gonna come out to my family as bigender, they wouldn't just say it is terrible, they would just tell me that im making no sense because i am still female, a part of me is still that, but they just wouldn't get that a part of me is also male, they would just say it was a tomboy. If they continue to misgender me, they aren't exactly wrong because i am still female so calling me she/her is still not wrong so i cant get that angry about it

Feeling dysphoria? I just made a new album in my gallery and copied any images that made me feel like a guy into there and named it "i am a big strong beautiful manly man"

Felt like a guy today but went to church and was gonna sit in the mens side but then felt extremely uncomfortable so i went to the women's side but i also felt uncomfortable with myself there and aaaagh

Me making braclets with my pride flags but my family dont know that thy are pride flags because they dont know the bigender and genderfluid flags 😎

Complaining to my little brother about our mum not letting me buy men's clothes and freely shopping in the men's section with him because he has not yet been tainted by our parents and older sister's views and feeling amazing even though he still knows nothing about lgbt stuffs

Me thinking of a plan to ask my little brother what his views on the lgtvs are but descreetly so that if he doesnt like it he wont tell mother 0.0

Conversation switches to "lgbt people bad", me goes completely silent 0.0 me: "haha yeah thats weird..." when talked directly to desperately trying to switch topic while not outing myself

My sister wants to try new nail polish but already has some on so asks my little brother to do it on him, parents being like "nooo he's a boyyyy" and my sister being like "yeah guys wear nail polish now tho but he still isnt gonna be able to be a girl" and me being there like "yeah, he can put on nail polish" and internally screaming that guys can be girls if they are aaaa

Hahaha internalised transphobia :D for a while there

Me: am i actually genderfluid or am i actually bigender? Am i faking it? Am i pretending to relate to genderfluid and ftm trans people? Am i only just female and male or am i non binary also a bit??? Am i duel weilding my genders or am i fluctuating between them right now i have no clue??????? Is that why im feeling like thisssss???

Me going out somewhere, analysing how guys walk and act differently to girls and taking mental notes

Walking two steps like how people say guys walk and feeling absolutely on top of the world before going back to normal

Hoping im being subtle in trying to lower my voice so my family dont question it (and horribly failing at being subtle why is lowering your voice a bit so hard??)

Tumblr recomending me a suspicious amount of transgender posts before i had started properly questioning my gender or even thought about it

If i was a AMAB, being bigender would be so much easier becuase it's easier to just wear a skirt or dress and look distinctly feminine and then wear other stuff and look distinctly masculine but as a AFAB when you wear male clothes you still look female but who just bought something from the male section instead of looking like a guy

My mum speaking arabic and using the masculine versions of words for me as a joke but me internally pretending that she is using my correct pronouns 🥲

Me considering getting the school trousers so i can wear that sometimes instead of my skirt but also its my last year and no point spending money on uncomfortable trousers ill never wear again if its only for one year

So in church, women wear something called an isharba which is a headscarf meant to cover your hair to be modest.

Ive noticed that on days where im feeling like a girl, i can wear the isharba theoughout the mass but on days where im feeling like a guy i feel very uncomfortable wearing it and dont usually wear it in the mass. On some days i can wear it on and off throughout as well. It's intresting how my gender also effects something like wearing a head scarf, but i guess it can also be kinda like skirts in that sense? It was also a very subconcious feeling and even when i wasnt aware of what gender i was that day i would sometimes feel uncomfortable

Some days i feel more comfortable with the label bigender, and sometime im more comfortable with the label genderfluid and it's weird

Today im feeling more masculine, but also not fully so im more between he/they. But also there is a small twinge of feminine but only a small amount.

So i dont really feel like he/him, but i dont like they/them for myself, but then also im not he/she because there isnt a lot of she in me but im not he/him because i dont feel fully like a guy.

Im not none of them because i am all of them but to varying degrees to the extent where im not comfortable with any of the pronouns no matter how they are balanced. Idk? Are people just not meant to refer to me when i feel like this????

A very specific feeling i want to experience is wearing a dress while looking like a boy, i really want to have the feeling of being a cis boy wearing a dress so much

I didn't realise how important having facial and body hair was to me until my mum and sister kept saying that i should shave it. I really really love my body and facial hair and i really want even a small beard but my mum and sister made me shave my tiny moustache hairs and unibrow for christmas and tried to get me to shave my leg and arm hair and i feel super dysphoric without it being there anymore

That moment of delusion where i pretend to myself that the soft fabricy present my sister got for me was a binder and fantasise about it but its just a jumper in reality

My sister was talking about starfield and how stupid it was that you could put pronouns "why not just have it male and female lol" and i tried to laugh along but really just could not make it sound energetic and i felt kinda sick

Ive recently had the epithany that as a bigenderfluid person i am still allowed to be a femboy or a tomboy and that being feminine doesnt necessarily make me a girl that day and i am still a guy and-

[demolitionsoulmate]

my gender

This is gonna be a long rant abt my gender so you do have to read it. I just need to say it.

Ok so ive been question my gender/sexuality for like 3-4 years now and i this was kinda it

Oh i'm a bi girl -> im pan girl -> lesbian -> pan she/they still a girl but queerer

Then like i was more worried about trying to figure out my sexuality right cause like i wanted to be kissed before my 16th (that didn't happen) 

Then like maybe mid 2022 i started thinking about gender and i knew 2 trans people but i was kinda like no that can't be me flashforward to march 2023 i got in to will wood and i was like ‘no way i'm in anyway trans but if i could be him i would’ and i like said to myself that i just thought he was attractive?? Then the same thing happened with the character jesse st james from glee which was even weird because there was no way i would want to date him, so thats when she/they pronouns came in i put it in my bio. Then kids from my class found out and made fun of it so i changed em back to she/her. 

Then since like september last year it feels like minimum weekly i’d either not be able to stop thinking abt gender or take way too many ‘what's my gender quizzes’ 

And like i feel its alway been in the day of my head, but its becoming more prevalent since then ive been like could i be non binary, genderfluid pintrest boards. At the beginning of the year i cut my hair again, which felt so good,.

So now somedays im having thoughts like ‘oh my fucking god why cant i drink something and be a guy’ ‘please for fucks sake’ though im nor sure id like to be a man im not 100% sure im a girl (im moving further from that). But like if there was like a magical thing i could drink do idk that would turn every inch into like robert smith between 1983-2004 id do it so quickly omg. 

And like it kinda hurts that i'm not idk (and ive never felt this for any girl celebrities)

And i kinda think they are also there those thoughts but some days theyre less i thinks thats just cus im distracting myself though i dont know i could be fluid. 

But i dont want to be any guy like the men in my family most of them are big i cant think of a better word then buffheads more so my dad but i could just not want to be like them i dont have a good relationship 

I dont think i HATE being a girl- i don't love it i like some parts but i dont think its things exclusive to girls say cause gender norms n stuff. 

I dont know if i have dysphoria because that fluctuates but im vision impaired so if i dont try and look at my body i forget some of it exists i really dont like my boobs or how clothes sit on my body think i like okay with having a cups (that i could easly hide if i wanted to  i dont but that cause also be cause by the pain they cause me.

My waist i like but only because that's the part of my body thats skinnest like my body was less shapely but that skinny id be elated.

But especially o the days i think abt it more but also all the time i do wish for more masc features eg adams apple more angular face bigger hands etc etc.Voices of weird one because my voice is in mezzo soprano range my speaking voice however in chest voice is kinda low  but I was self-conscious about it growing up because it made me stand out in different even though really it wasn't I think I just thought people were staring at me for no reason.  I think I only like my voice when I'm singing when I'm acting because I can imagine myself playing characters who aren't me but idk but if it was lower like high baritone or tenor id be like so fucking happy.

And like i Kind of want to try dressing differently but I can't because a I don't want my family to know certain pieces of clothing would be mens Not that they have a problem with it I'm assuming they could though but they probably just want to talk about it and I would not but also like  I remember one time I was at the shop called Factorie  and I wanted to get the Black Parade t-shirt but it was a mens shirt  and my god the amount of anxiety I had and the amount of people that I felt were staring at me I almost had a panic attack. 

And like I feel like if I ever did do anything about gender irl  I'd run away from everyone I know and cut of connections again not because I feel like they'd be bad about it but just I've built this thing around myself so long and I don't think I could even my queer friends like i dont know  my parents I'd feel like I'd be letting them down, and like 

But also so much for my childhood makes sense

Like when I was about 8 I got eczema for the first time and my first thought was ‘oh im turning into a boy… shit what am I gonna tell my parents’  which I don't even know why my brain made that jump but i hated my boobs sometimes more then others Once they got past a certain size,  when I had a pixie cut and a couple people in the street would mistake me for a boy felt exposed ‘like shh don't tell’ 

But I was also such a girly todder/ child  from like ages four Tube8 I would pride myself on being the girlest girl never wearing pants  because I kind of think it was trying to win that competition but I don't know         

I don't think anybody read this whole thing but if you did help me out or don't I don't care but I just needed to vent this 

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[stormyoceans]

we are expecting gmmtv 2024 in october. what's your list of manifestations? share with us, dear!

GMMTV 2024 HAPPENING IN OCTOBER CAUGHT ME COMPLETELY UNPREPARED TBH LIKE LAST YEAR I HAD A WHOLE LIST OF PREDICTIONS AND THINGS I WANTED TO SEE AND RN IM MOSTLY LIKE ???????? JIMMYSEA AND THEN ???????????????????

i also don’t know how to feel about the line up being announced before last twilight and 23.5 even got the chance to air (unless we’re getting last twilight replacing hidden agenda which means it would start on october 1st, but i do not dare to hope), however i thought about it a little and here’s a very rough list of my hopes and dreams that im gonna actualize with the power of manifestation and delusion:

JIMMYSEA NEW SERIES DIRECTED BY P’JOJO. LISTEN I DON’T CARE IF IT’S UNLIKELY FOR THEM TO GET A SHOW 3 YEARS IN A ROW MY CLOWN WIG IS ON MY SHOES ARE SQUEAKING MY MAKE UP IS IN PLACE. the amount of p’jojo+jimmysea online interactions we’ve got since p’jojo visited them on the last twilight set is just TOO SUSPICIOUS to be meaning nothing I WANT TO BELIEVE. that being said, i feel like it will probably be an ensamble cast kind of series, so im praying for the medical drama QL of my dreams with jimmysea + earthmix OR the heist QL of my dreams with jimmysea + forcebook. im not picky though I REALLY JUST WANT A NEW PROJECT FOR JIMMYSEA AS A PAIRING but also..

SOME SOLO PROJECT FOR BOTH JIMMY AND SEA. they’re both great actors and sea in particular is able to portray an insane range of emotions so it’s time for GMMTV to start giving him more roles.

regardless of whatever happens with jimmysea, i do want earthmix and forcebook to have a new series next year.

PAPANG AS THE MAIN LEAD IN A BL. do i believe this is gonna happen? sadly, no. will i still be manifesting this every single day from here to october? DAMN RIGHT I WILL MY MAN DESERVES IT. actually i said this before but i think GMMTV should just give me papang+guy+pond+pepper in a BL. MY MEN DESERVE IT.

AT LEAST 2 GLs BUT PREFERABLY MORE. freenbecky got me gagged with their upcoming sci-fi movie and period drama series, so i think GMMTV should step up their game and give us ALL THE GIRLS. im frankly starving for more GLs so i don’t really have any specific plot i want to see, i just want the genre to thrive and be allowed to explore different stuff like BL has started to do. if i really had to pick tho, i would love to have a sizzy series (maybe with janaye and ciizejane) and to have prigkhing and piploy in a GL. and namtan. and jamie.

QL exploring other sexualities and gender identities. just give me ace main characters, trans main characters, non-binary main characters, ALL THE DIFFERENT QUEER MAIN CHARACTERS!!!!!!!

i want to say enigma season 2 because it was actually a great show but with bright leaving GMMTV i don’t think i should get my hopes up ;;;;;;; unless they recast his character since he appeared for 5 seconds at the end of the series.

these are the main things that come to my mind for now, but im sure that by the time october comes im gonna have some more!!!!

[rosiewitchescottage]

There's no question but there's a worrying amount of inappropriately non child friendly activity going on in some of these sessions, and that certainly can't be allowed to go unchallenged for a moment. (And that's before we get to to the 'queer' books aimed at children, with a worrying amount of sexual detail.)

But there's another dimension that's just as serious, and explains why they're doing this with young children who have growing, impressionable minds, rather than with the elderly, who are less likely to fall for the BS.

The Drag Queen Story Hours are very much aimed at 'queering' children.

A lot of the books used have content about being gender fluid, non binary etc.

And why? Because the aim is to get a generation growing up with the belief that gender is based on nothing objective. It's just a performance.

Queer Theory considers the Gender Binary to be an invention of Capitalism (Private Ownership)

So that men can be at work with the money and power, and the women at home, doing the unpaid labour of raising children, who will become the future work force.

Incredible, isn't it? 😳

And let's face it, there's absolutely no need for all the non binary and gender fluid malarkey.

We've known for decades that a woman or girl only needs to be female - She can be feminine, but she can also be masculine or androgynous.

A man or boy only needs to be male. He can be masculine, but he can also be feminine or androgynous.

It's total BS to suggest that being a male man/boy or a female woman/girl is somehow 'restrictive'. Why? How?

Granted, it may have been in earlier times, when traditional gender roles were expected to be adhered to.

Today though, you're more likely to be advised against traditional gender roles than for them.

A man can be a drag queen, a cross dresser. He can enjoy his feminine side, He can play a character.

He can explore androgyny, and all whilst being a man (or boy) simply by being male.

A woman can be butch masculine. She can enjoy sports, cars and other traditionally masculine pursuits. The majority of people don't care a damn about it.

And she can also explore androgyny. All whilst remaining a woman or girl, simply by being female.

Women/girls are no longer steered away from traditionally masculine things, in fact quite the opposite.

And there's more encouragement than there used to be for men/boys to explore traditionally feminine things.

There really is only one reason why people keep pretending that Manhood and Womanhood don't have an objective definition, and/or that the entire concept of gender is nothing but a performance.

An extremely unwholesome political angle.

And heaven forbid that they express it in plain English. The rest of us might understand what they're up to. 🙄

A simple answer to a simple question.

[pally-plate]

I am gay, but depending on what definition(s) you use, I could be considered polysexual. Hell, I could even be considered a gay polysexual, depending on how you define each of those terms. In fact, I did used to label myself as a gay polysexual for a long time. but then I started getting harassed for it.

I was told that my labels were "contradictory" and that the MLM flag "wasn't for me," if I was attracted to more than one single gender. I was told I could only have one or the other, so which would it be, polysexual or gay?

Besides these being extremely fucking shitty things to say to a complete and total stranger online (or anyone), it's also just not true.

Labels mean different things to everyone. And when I say everyone, I mean literally every single person. To one person, the label gay means a binary man who only loves binary men. To another, the label is a lot looser and less restrictive; it could mean any non-woman who loves other non-women, whether exclusively or not.

I use the second definition. I am attracted to all genders, every single one, except binary women. There is one gender I'm not attracted to, that gender being any woman, cis or trans, and if they are a binary girl, I'm not into them. For example, could I be attracted to a:

Demi-girl? Yes.

Bigender person who is a binary woman alongside another gender? Probably.

Genderfluid person who is sometimes a binary girl? Iffy.

Binary girl? No.

Nonbinary person who uses she/her pronouns? Sure, why not.

As you can see, each of these gender identities come with a different level of attraction, if any. Sexuality is fuckin' complicated for some people, man. And I am definitely one of the people it's complicated for.

Like I was saying earlier before I got distracted writing about who I'm attracted to, attraction label definitions are different for everyone.

To me, 'polysexual' is a term for someone who likes any amount of genders, as long as it's not all of them, and it's more than two.

To me, gay is a term for any gender besides a binary woman who loves other people of any gender that are not binary women, usually exclusively (it's exclusive in my case.) Under my definition, you don't have to be a binary man who only loves other binary men. You could be literally any gender under the sun, as long as you're not a binary woman.

(And (of course!!!) these are just MY definitions, I'm not putting out there what I think the """rules""" should be.)

So, as you can see here, there's quite a bit of overlap in polysexuality and being gay. TO ME. I know that other people will have different definitions, and that's ok! It's a good thing actually!

[whyyoualwayssoradical]

Idk how much experience you may have with this but lately I've been thinking about how most men I know somehow can't clock transwomen as fast as I can and I'm wondering if male's like don't have as strong of a recognition of sex as women do? And maybe that's part of why a lot of transwomen think they pass when it's very obvious to us 🤔

personally i've been able to clock just about every trans person i've come across, either IRL or online just from something as small as a reddit post. most of them are pretty obvious. there's like probably 30-50 trans people at my work and i can clock all of them at first glance (there's two people I am unsure of) and only one of them knows i'm trans because i told one transman that i trust, when i told him he asked if i was transmale or transfemale.

from what i've experienced, males are atrocious at pattern recognition when it comes to people because they literally just have "man, boy (potential man), woman/girl" is how they categorize people it seems. i've heard radfems talk about how part of the reason males are worse at it might be because they don't need it to survive as much, but girls and women need to be able to accurately ID a male, in any circumstance, to survive in modern society.

for me, again personally, the only people that have really clocked me have been lesbians and gay men. most straight people seem to be completely clueless, more so men than women. i do claim i pass but when i say that i mean like in most everyday situations like going to the grocery store or to get food or something almost everyone will assume i'm a "woman" even though i'm not one. i definitely think there are plenty of women who have clocked me and just not said anything/played nice. i think any woman that spent any amount of time talking with me or hanging out with me would figure it out sooner or later, but i generally tell any close friends if we're actively talking/hanging out that much because i don't want to and don't mean to deceive them.

some anecdotes from personal experience:

i have been targeted by powerful men before because they, for some reason, legitimately thought i was female. a woman who "worked" for them also thought i was. that situation made me legit fear for my life.

the most common question i got asked at whole foods anytime i mentioned i didn't feel well, multiple women would ask if i was on my period, to which i would say just no it's just stomach cramps or w/e was making me feel crappy.

most women that do suspect me to be not what i appear usually think i'm non-binary or a transman if they ever want to ask anything.

i was disallowed from doing something at a different whole foods because they said it couldn't be a woman doing it if the other person was a man (overnights require min 2 people present). this rule miraculously disappeared after the pandemic hit and we didn't have the staff to do otherwise. i had volunteered to be the second person since i already came in early so it was no big deal to come in earlier, but they were like no it cant be a man and a woman if there's only 2 people.

this isn't me trying to say "oh i pass sooo much better" or anything like that, because i doubt i pass that particularly well but also at the same time i often struggle to make sense of what i do experience. i can't imagine this many people doing all of this just to validate me and i don't go around telling people i'm a woman, however my documentation all reflects "F". these experiences are generally why i will say i "pass" and also why i use the term "assimilated transsexual".

i think being bullied so much by boys and men plus getting into radical feminism drastically improved my human sex pattern recognition. i definitely used to not be as good at it as i am now. i can look at myself and pick out my male features fairly easily. i have had more androgynous features most of my life than anything else.

it does blow my mind when i see quite clearly men wearing makeup saying they pass and are hotter/sexier than women, because i feel like any look into the mirror would reveal otherwise... which the same could totally be said about me, maybe i look like a clown too and everyone is just nice to me who knows, but i almost never wear makeup, i've only worn it on special occasions and it's usually just eye makeup, nothing else.

[lapsed-bookworm]

I left a nonbinary answer, but I didn't want to get into a lot of particulars (some were covered more in depth in the notes already). [I managed to figure out I was nonbinary before I realized that I was also intersex. Nonbinary does not automatically equal intersex, and intersex does not automatically equal nonbinary.] It did include some of an intersex answer as well:

It might be more of an influence from me being intersex, but I don't consider myself to have a sex-and-gender unit. Or - I don't use the sex binary to describe my gender, though I was assigned a sex at birth and couldn't escape early socialization that relied on tying 'female = girl-becomes-woman' and 'male = boy-becomes-man' together. The ability to update my 'gender' marker on official forms with either an M or an F doesn't actually relate to my gender, for example. Information that focuses on a very particular MTF or FTM trajectory doesn't account for my intersex experiences or experiences with genderfluidity.

Additionally, I've run into the following:

Supposedly, intersex people don't exist because sex is only male or female. (How do they define sex? I know it when I see it, more or less.)

Or, intersex people do exist, but it's only very specific ideas of people born with a penis and a vagina (with a slight possibility of completely functional reproductive systems that's maybe influenced by some sort of fictional porn).

Or, intersex people don't exist because they're shuffled into the category of cisgender people, especially noticeable in the past few years when it comes to bills and laws that carve out exemptions for intersex minors to access medical care that's denied to transgender minors. (These are mostly called trans bills without any mention of intersex advocacy.)

Or, intersex people do exist because they're naturally nonbinary. (Which may also overlap with conflating sex-and-gender terms when talking about animals and plants. Sometimes this gets into automatically sorting intersex folks in with nonbinary folks in a way that ignores the possibility of intersex men and intersex women existing.)

Or, historically intersex people didn't exist because that old myth or whatever it is actually belongs to transgender people. (Some people are open to a certain amount of vagueness or cross-application, but other people are fiercely protective of only-trans interpretations in a way that almost borders on presenting intersex people springing up out of nowhere in the past few decades.)

Or, intersex people do exist because they're diagnosed at birth. (This usually focuses on genital based ideas of intersex in a way that discounts the possibility of finding out that one's intersex 'later in life', but this also sometimes gets into whether someone can be assigned X at birth. Some places didn't allow that until recently, if at all, and the absolute conviction that all intersex people have been able to be assigned X at birth can come across like intersex people shouldn't have any stake in F or M markers on their paperwork.)

Or, intersex people don't exist because they're just cisgender people with certain medical conditions. (Sometimes this looks like non-intersex people gatekeeping who counts as intersex based on a list of medical diagnoses, so they can affect the perception of who supposedly counts as intersex contrary to what the intersex community has decided. Sometimes this looks like non-intersex people approaching an intersex person like a disabled person and wanting proof - name your specific diagnosis, give me an exact history of infant or childhood surgeries, what are your chromosomes, tell me if you use HRT or not.)

Or, intersex people do exist because they're hashtag transition goals. (I've seen people take up using bigenital instead, but I once ran into someone who had a very specific penis-and-vagina mental image that they want to describe as 'transitioning to intersex', possibly back during the discourse around what to call this instead.)

❗️❗️ This is asked entirely in good faith. This post is intended to open dialogue and help with solidarity and understanding. ❗️❗️

I would like to hear specifically from intersex people how the system of perisexism/interphobia uniquely targets and affects you. Things that you feel other demographics do not experience. Reblogs and replies are very encouraged! If you would prefer, you could dm or send an ask to be added anonymously by me.

This is in the spirit of wanting to understand. I am listening. I encourage all perisex people to not speak on this topic and let intersex people do the talking here. Reblog the post to spread it, but please say nothing.

Any and all people who are intersex are encouraged to participate. This is not agab-locked. No matter your official diagnosis status, or your specific variation, if you are intersex, this post is for you. Even if you have already posted on the transgender posts, you may still post here. Your thoughts and opinions are welcome here.

This is not bait to start a fight. I will block without hesitation anyone who is actively being a shithead on this post. I want to hear and uplift your voices by getting it directly from you.

Click this to access the trans fem and trans women version of this post.

Click this to access the trans masc and trans men version of this post.

Click this to access the nonbinary version of this post.

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

Feminine Nonbinary Identities! A Guide

I’ll be listing some labels for some nonbinary and feminine nonbinary gender identities, and hopefully I can help some of y’all with questioning! This list is very long so putting it under a cut btw

If you’ve been raised as female:

First off, I know a lot of you who have been raised as female are questioning “what if it’s just internalised misogyny?” so for that I suggest reading this post by @/transmasc-culture-is! It’s not about the same topic exactly but it’s pretty helpful

Basically, ask yourself— “do I feel weird being called a girl because I think being female is bad or because I’m not 100% female?” etc. It can be hard to tell your feelings but this can help determine why you feel weird being referred to as something

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On to the identities!

First, let’s go over some general identities you need to understand before understanding the more specific labels. If you know the basics of whay nonbinary, genderqueer, etc means, you can skip to the next section!

Nonbinary - A gender which does not fit the male/female binary, or a disconnect from the binary. This disconnect can be different for each person, so even if you’re slightly male or female, but feel a disconnect from the binary, you can still be nonbinary!

Genderqueer - An umbrella term with a similar meaning to non-binary. It can be used to describe a queer or non-normative experience with their gender. It can also be used to describe any gender identities other than man and woman, thus outside of the gender binary.

Agender - Entirely lacking a gender or complete genderlessness. It falls under the non-binary umbrella in which one is not male, female, or any other gender.

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Now let’s get into gender fluidity and gender flux identities!

Genderfluid - Gender changes over time.

A genderfluid person’s gender can change at random or it may vary in response to different circumstances! One's gender can change over the course of hours, days, weeks, months, or years. Some genderfluid people can be fluid between all genders, or a large amount of genders. Other genderfluid people are fluid between a small handful of genders.

Many people mistakenly think that genderfluid people are like a light switch between male and female, but not all are! Some people are only fluid between male and nonbinary identities, or only two genders, or only feminine genders—it doesn’t make them any less genderfluid!

Genderflux - An umbrella term for gender identities in which the gender’s intensity varies over time.

So you’re probably thinking—what’s the difference between fluid and flux? Well, fluid is when the gender changes, flux is when the intensity of the gender changes!

Genderflor - A form of genderfluidity that never encompasses masculine or feminine genders. Fluidity between any range of non-binary genders, unaligned genders, and genderlessness, but never binary man or woman or connection to masculinity or femininity.

Genderfloren - Never binary man or woman, but fluidity between nonbinary, masculine but never male, and feminine but never female genders.

Fluidflux - A gender that moves between two or more genders and also fluctuates in intensity. Sometimes described as the combination of both genderfluid and genderflux identities.

Nonbinaryflux -  A nonbinaryflux individual can fluctuate from any nonbinary gender to and from male and female.

Agenderflux - A subset of genderflux where an individual feels no particular connection with any gender (agender) as well as fluctuating between having masculine and feminine gender identity.

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Now, on to some feminine identities!

Genderfae - Genderfae is a form of genderfluidity that never encompasses feeling masculine. This is different from the binary gender female because its fluidity may include genders other than male and female, for example, nonbinary genders. So basically, genderfae people are fluid between female, feminine and unaligned or nonbinary genders

Genderfaer - A form of gender fluidity between female, feminine, nonbinary and masculine genders, but never feels 100% male. Basically, fluid between all genders except fully male

Girlflux - Girlflux is a subset of gender flux, in which a person can experience varying degrees of femaleness. For example, one could feel 0% (agender), 50% (demigirl), 100% (woman). The intensity can fluctuate over any period of time.

Girlflux is a form of genderfluidity and a subset of genderflux which is a term used to describe any person’s gender idenity fluctuating. Girlflux is a specific gender identity off of genderflux, but can be any binary or nonbinary gender.

Demigirl - A gender identity describing someone who partially, but not fully, identifies as a girl. So one half of their gender might be female, and another nonbinary/agender/ something else entirely.

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I hope this helped some of you! And if you have any questions, feel free to send me an ask :)

[if-confessions]

For me it personally depends. Im bi, so it doesn't really bother me either way. But, sometimes it can feel like some gender selectable characters were initially written as a cisgender men. But that's not the case all the time, there are quite a few ifs that do the whole gender selectability thing quite well though. Like previous anon said sometimes it can also feel like with gender locked ros that the female ROs are kind of more of an afterthought for the author than the female ROs who are not given as much development (this is not in all instances, but in some). I'm a sucker for powerful women and soft men as well so I would love to see more of that as well as characters who subvert gender roles/archetypes. I've seen some ifs who have a mixture of gender locked and gender selectable characters, so I think that's a good balance. I personally prefer writing mostly gender locked ros because it's a lot less work for me personally and have maybe 1 or 2 gender selectable options if I must, but most of the time they just end up being gender locked. As much as I would love to make all of my ros gender selectable the amount of coding would be too overwhelming for me and some characters just don't really work as gender selectable. I'm a demi-girl so for my Non-Binary characters, I always prefer to keep them gender locked because they have entirely different experiences than a cisgender man or woman would have in terms of gender and other factors. I think would take a very nuanced perspective to make F/M/NB gender selectability work in a way that doesn't just make it seem like the NB option was added as an optional third gender or afterthought. This is just something I was thinking, it's in no way an attack on any author. As I said writers can write as they wish, but I think this discussion about gender selectability is really interesting so I thought I would give my two cents!

Reply to this ask and this ask and this ask

[old comments in tags: I have not been commenting on those because I rarely choose a romantic route. But this conversation is both interesting and important /]

[superb-owl-sunday]

Watching the Rise of the Titans movie and I'll be documenting all of my thoughts/reactions here. [Spoiler Warning]

So instead of reblogging every new update, I'm just going to have this post up on my phone as I watch and type my reactions in a bullet list format.

Nari's human disguise is so cute. As someone who does have a cottagecore aesthetic, I want to cosplay her so bad

Are Skrael and/or Belroc non-binary coded? Regardless, I'm also obsessed and I want to fuck Skrael and be Belroc.

STEVE CARING ABOUT JIM BEING HURT YESSSS!!! My god his redemption has probably been one of the greatest there is because he doesn't just suddenly go from being a bully to a completely good person. You can see the gradual shift in learning better throughout the shows which is awesome.

IN NEW YOOOOOOORRRRRRRK!!!!!! CONCRETE JUNGLE WHERE DREAMS ARE MADE OFFFFFFFFFFFFF!!!!!

The mugshot montage reminded me of season 1 of trollhunters when toby and Jim were arrested at the museum.

STRICKLER PUT A RING ON IT??? HE'S THE ONLY DILF IVE EVER ACTUALLY AGREED WAS HOT WYM I CAN'T HAVE HIM??? well I'm still really happy about his arc over the series probably one of my favorite character growths.

Eli my guy got his growth spurt!!! As an 18 year old who is still 5'0", I'm happy but envious for him

So I went into this movie without watching any trailers or promo, but I doubt anything could have prepared me for the existence of mpreg. In fact, I wasn't going to document my reactions until I saw that.

NAMURA!!!!!!!!! MY BELOVED!!!!!! I CAN STILL THIRST FOR YOU WITHOUT GUILT

The coach teacher just called the kids zoomers so I have to dock one point from my final rating just because of that. Unforgivable

Those husky animation models suck lmao

Oh fuck the titans got power ranger zords!!

God why did they include the mpreg??? This movie would have been perfect without it.... After that plot point being revisited only one time I'm already beyond done with it

Like it's bringing me back to the v*ltron days where they're was a suspiciously high amount of klance omegaverse and mpreg fics and art created and it physically hurts because Steve and Keith's voice actor is the same person meaning this is especially cursed to me since I was unfortunately in the v*ltron fandom and remember all of that

But like on another note, how old are these characters again??? I haven't checked any wikis because of spoilers but is Steve an adult??? I know aja might be technically a lot older than 18 because alien but is whatever age she is equivalent to an adult as far as emotionally and physically in Akaridion development??? IS THIS A TEEN (M)PREGNANCY IN A KIDS SHOW????

Like bruh I saw a singular post on here before going into the movie that was like "rott spoilers without context" and there was a pregnant belly but I was absolutely not expecting the actual context of it. I'll find the post after I finish and edit this post to tag the creator right here: @makoden

This entire post is just gonna be me ranting about mpreg huh

Anyway I love the whole roundtable allusion to the legends of king arthur (not the toa version but the one he's based off)

THERE'S 3 TO 5 BABIES????? I need to take a break bruh this is just too much

Alright I've taken a 30 minute break got some food and did some things i love (decompressed by tactile stimming with some owl plushies and watched some videos on my favorite owl, Garu. He lives in Japan with his owner and is a domesticated eagle owl who basically just acts like a sky cat. If anyone else needs some eye bleach, here is their YouTube channel)

Blinky and ARRRGHHH!!! saying their "if one of us doesn't make it" talk my god one of them is going to die I can see it and I will be utterly crushed. Jim can't lose another father figure and Toby can't lose his wingman again I will riot if this happens

On a similar but unrelated to the movie note, can we just talk about how toa started with Jim having 0 dads and (if strickler and blinky live to the end) will end with 2 dads? Like I just really feel happy for him that he has two dads who actually figured out how to put the past behind them to not have any infighting between them so that both of them are healthy father figures. Jim has already been through literal hell and back losing his actual humanity in the process so if he loses one of them, I'm going to be really pissed because at this point, this is just Jim torture porn. Y'all know how as SpongeBob SquarePants went on, the show just became Squidward torture porn? It's starting to feel that way for toa and I really hope they cut the shit by the ending

Jlaire is such a good ship but like I feel like it's too perfect they never disagree with each other

YESSSSSSS Someone finally doesn't treat toby like a fat waste of space who messes stuff up!!! I think out of all the characters that would have been most deserving of a rewrite, it's Toby. Sometimes I just feel he's only comic relief and any heartfelt moments he's had in the series was also born of stupidity (ie his flour baby project being unharmed was seen by him as divine intervention from his parents but was actually just Eli and Steve behind the scenes).

Ohhhhh yesssssss Archie's father!!! I was hoping I'd see him again because we got so little of him last

Ooooooooooh Asian trollmarket!!!!!

Oh never mind slavery trollmarket

Bruh titanic camelot

I feel like we're not seeing enough of the villains because I completely forgot about the power ranger zord things

NAMORA NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MY LAST CRUSHHHH

STRICKLER NO NOT YOU TOO PLEASE

WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

THE ONLY TWO CHARACTERS I SIMP FOR ON THIS SHOW DIED WITHIN FIVE MINUTES OF EACH OTHER

THAT WHOLE ASS RANT I WROTE IS COMING TRUE FUCK THIS MOVIE THIS SERIES IS JUST JIM TORTURE PORN

WAIT JIM'S SPERM DONOR INFO?

Oh thank God I don't want to know anything about that person

For the record, I call that man Jim's sperm donor because he has no business being called a father to him. All he did was donate some swimmers to the creation of him and give him abandonment issues

Oh another blind troll elder???? This fucker is just if vendel was a bad guy

Bruh I was grieving

PACIFIC RIM WITH GUN ROBOT VEX AND THE BELROCZORD? I've never seen that movie but I know the reference

Bruh Blinky doesn't read horoscopes? Does he realize conspiracy theories are just the manly version of horoscopes?

NO DON'T KILL VEX STOP KO-ING FOUND FAMILY MEMBERS

Oh thank God he's okay

NO NOT ARCHIE AND CHARLEMAGNE OH MY GOD

oh never mind they're just gonna coup de tat I believe in them :))

But I want to see him again

But I'm glad to see vex

Yay they're in arcadia!

But yeah I wondered why the trolls and Merlin didn't keep the whole "daylight doesn't hurt trolls" feature from the eternal night but now Guillermo del Toro I see you were playing the long con in that just to kill my girl Namora :(((

Oooooh I love the animation of the Narizord over Chihuahua!! It looks very good and realistic (if only they could have put some of that into those huskies from before smh)

Bruh the character designs of the arcane order are so good I want to be them

Nari making sure the Skraelzord doesn't crush the bus

DAMN DOUBLE HOMICIDE

Bruh I'm just glad we finally have an answer on why arcadia had everything going on as opposed to literally anywhere else!! I always found that as a weird coincidence for plot convince.

BRUH WERE BACK TO THE MPREG IM SO JEALOUS I FORGOT ABOUT THAT EVEN THOUGH IT WAS BECAUSE I WAS GRIEVING THE LOSS OF MY LOVELIES.

Oh that's real convenient that the ninth configuration meant all of them. Way to not decide which character gets more attention. Though it probably was a smart way to not have any infighting in the fandom between each character's stan group.

Bruh I just realized where is Barbera did they just ditch her on the Camelot ship???

And where are the other trolls that migrated at the end of trollhunters s3? They said something about new jersey but obviously Jim and the other main characters got on Camelot instead.... This feels like a plot hole

And we never learned the process of how changelings are made and bonded to humans and stuff. We just know it's super painful but I'm curious ffs!!!!

THE DONT THINK BECOME HERO SPEECH ALL SAID TOGETHER!!!

BRUH THEY REALLY HAD TO SHOW HIM GIVING BIRTH??????? WAS THAT AN ABSOLUTE MUST??????

Plus the main audience for this series is little children (the rating for the movie is literally TV-Y7) so even though my adult ass is not in the target audience, I STILL DONT UNDERSTAND WHY WOULD MPREG AND ANAL BIRTH WOULD BE AN IMPORTANT THING TO 7 YEAR OLDS???? THIS IS A LITERAL FETISH HIDDEN IN KIDS CONTENT ITS ELSAGATE ALL OVER AGAIN Y'ALL 😭😭😭😭😭

Though it's probably hypocritical of me to think fetishes don't belong in kids tv when I've openly admitted to thirsting for strickler and namora

HUZZAH

NEW AMULET WAZ GOOD????

STAB THAT BITCH JIM

WAIT NO I SAID STAB NOT GET STABBED

Alright good job just missed the directions at first but you fixed it

SEVEN KIDS?????????

T O B Y ????????????

W A I T NO

N O

IS HE ACTUALLY

OH MY GOD THERE'S HOPE

NO THERE ISN'T

F U C K THIS SHIT THEY REALLY JUST HAD HIM TO BE BULLIED THEN KILLED

Y'ALL IM ACTUALLY CRYING THIS NEVER HAPPENS

I NEVER ACTUALLY GET SO EMOTIONAL OVER MEDIA THAT I CRY IT ONLY HAPPENED ONCE AT THE END OF VOLTRON BUT AHHHHHHHH

W A I T

HE'S GONNA BE BROUGHT BACK?????

HOLD UP THEY'RE JUST GONNA BRING ALL THOSE DEAD PEOPLE BACK??????

WAIT IS HE

BLINKY CALLED HIM A SON

HOLD ON IS THIS GOING TO BE A CLIFFHANGER???????????

BRUH THEY REALLY JUST CAN'T END THE SERIES WITHOUT CLIFFHANGERS like there's always an open ending

TROLLHUNTER TOBY????? You know what forget the whole rants I had on how toby was written they just redeemed it all

And that's all! I'd rate it a 6.5/10 because it's definitely the weakest of all the sequels but still had amazing animation and some good plot points. It's just really hard to look over the bad stuff enough to rate it any higher.