#behaviour self development

[errs-other-other-blog-again]

The children yearn for mortal peril

[dead-generations]

it's interesting talking to young men on the internet because they are, by a large majority, motivated by a gleeful and unfocused ressentiment towards basically everyone and everything. there is really very little concern for truth but more notably there is a semi-concious rejection of usefulness of action and of making things better.

the appeal of policies, actions or rhetoric is that punishment and cruelty are inflicted, that people and entities are laid low. they are not motivated by a desire for better things to happen, but for worse things to happen to those they resent. And they like being angry and resentful, they like it more than they like any hobby or activity or product.

[yoursoulvisions]

"Idea generators" and "implementation masters" by birth day

Depending on their birth day, there are people who generate ideas and those who bring them to life. This isn’t about "strength" or "weakness" in the usual sense. It’s about different roles in our big world.

"Igniters" (born on the 1st, 10th, 19th, 28th) These guys are like the first ray of sunshine! Leaders, innovators, idea generators. Impulsive, creative, always in motion. They can take someone else’s idea and turn it upside down, creating something completely new. Engines of progress, nothing less! But without those who implement their ideas, they are just a spark.

"Implementation masters" (born on the 2nd, 11th, 20th, 29th) Ideal partners, helpers, those who turn chaos into order. It is they who bring brilliant ideas to perfection. They know how to create comfort and harmony around them. But it’s very important for them not to take on a mountain of responsibility. Otherwise, they risk burning out.

"Inspirers" (born on the 3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th) Creative personalities with incredible charisma. They know how to light a fire in the hearts of others. Often strive for management, capable of creating and leading their own business. But they need depth! It is necessary to find their passion, become an expert in their field – and then the world will be at their feet.

"Strategists" (born on the 4th, 13th, 22nd, 31st) Reliable, persistent, systemic. They prefer a clear plan to impulsivity and chaos. They don’t like sudden changes, but if they take on a task, they will see it through to the end. They need inspirers from the outside. Exception: the 13th, these guys are more mobile and flexible.

"Communicators" (born on the 5th, 14th, 23rd) The life of the party, diplomats, natural negotiators. They easily find common ground with anyone. Brave, decisive, always on the move. But they often abandon what they started halfway through. They need a reliable partner who can back them up.

"Keepers of comfort" (born on the 6th, 15th, 24th) They value comfort and harmony. They need support and motivation to unleash their potential. They often settle for less. But if they take on a task, they will do everything at the highest level!

"Intuitives" (born on the 7th, 16th, 25th) A restless soul. Idea generators, with incredible intuition. Routine is their main enemy. They come up with ideas, launch them, but finishing them is a task for others.

"Business people" (born on the 8th, 17th, 26th) Excellent organizers, know how to build systems and make difficult decisions. They value stability, don’t like change. It’s important for them to learn to see opportunities around them, not to dwell on the past. An inspiring partner nearby is what they need for success!

"Defenders" (born on the 9th, 18th, 27th) Strong leaders, capable of leading others. They can take responsibility for others, protect the weak. They motivate, inspire, and push other people towards change.

P.s. As a representative of the 4s, I want to add that my main motivators for active work, creating new content for this blog, writing songs and poems (one of my hobbies), are 1s, 3s, and 9s. But the people whose tasks I often finish or whose problems I solve are 7s.

Be a bit of a numerologist, analyze yourself and the people around you. Are you your own motivator and a motivator for others, or do you need an inspirer to create something new?

[inkandintent]

Human Behavior Truth: Most people don’t fear failure. They fear being seen starting small. But the strongest people? They start anyway. Quietly. Relentlessly.

[raviollies]

i watched a playthrough of needy girl overdose

[agirlwithglam]

may i please get a letter with affirmation and reassurance that i can and will quit negative habits and addictions and get better?

💌

hi sweets! of course, i’d love to send a letter to you <3

valentines love letter … to a special someone!

dear anonie,

of course it will get better. of course you will get better. you care about yourself, don't you? you care about the people around you. you care enough to write that message and ask for a letter like this. the fact that you care is proof enough that you are capable of quitting any negative repeating cycles or addictions.

spend time with those people you care about, spend time doing more things that make you forget your addiction. spend time discovering new hobbies, even if you think you won't like them or won't be good at them, try. just try.

and slowly by slowly, you will start to find the beautiful things in life to fall in love with. things that make life worth living and experiencing. things that fill you up with joy and happiness and positivity.

xoxo, Vanilla

[kkoct-ik]

i kinda wish i had a reading list to plug for non-pathological multiplicity and the variance of human identity and sense of self...

[books-and-dragons]

I'm so sorry, I'm kinda drunk and dropping another idea, do with it whatever ye will.

Yknow how in the beginning of the game, Sojiro tells Ren he won't take care of him when he gets sick?

Consider: he's not used to city germs/being that closely shoved against other people on the train. He DOES start to get sick around Kamoshida's Palace, powers through it, and then is SUPER sick just after it's over.

He plans on sucking it up and hiding it, but Futaba hears his hacking coughs over her bug even when he's upstairs, followed by wheezing, maybe even a little weeping. He's constantly in and out of the bathroom, and he's starting to run out of tissues.

Futaba nervously texts Sojiro that the kid they took in sounds awful. Sojiro is gruff at first and says he's not a baby, he can take care of himself. She responds by sending him the audio and suddenly Dad Instincts kick in

y/n

obviously it's a YES, our brainrots continue because early-game ren and sojiro dynamics break my heart every time how dare you get me so invested in this idea, this post got too long so it's going under a read more

listen listen look i love sojiro and the coffee family okay, but early-game?? sojiro could catch these hands

ren has already been though so much by the time he arrives in tokyo, to then be put into a dusty old attic like a spare part would absolutely fit in with ren's own perception of himself at that stage. it would be almost too easy for him to put his own health on the backburner kinda like he's already used to it

very used to not taking up space, 'not being a bother', and then sojiro really reinforces this message when ren first gets to leblanc- so when ren inevitably gets ill a month into his probation, it's already doomed for maladaption

tokyo would be such a breeding ground for sickness compared to the countryside, and ren just doesn't have the consitution to deal with it. the dusty attic and poor eating habits don't help matters, and then we have the stress of kamoshida and the metaverse?? ren is not having a Good Time™

at first it's something he thinks he can shrug off, and is adamant that ignoring it is the way to go. a cold, it's nothing, he can handle this alone, no need to bother anyone else with it.

inevitably, he gets worse, because that's what happens when you don't rest and let yourself recover. a tickly cough becomes a tightness in his chest, mild congestion shifts into an attack on his senses and blurriness- but maybe that's the dizziness. he's not really sleeping, either.

it's something that's becoming increasingly difficult to brush off and hide, he even relented to finally getting some medicine (nothing as strong as he needs by this point, that would eat too much into his limited funds, but some painkillers to take the edge off). once or twice he's tempted to stay off school, at morgana's insistence, or a too close call where he definitely blacked out for a minute, but then sojiro's voice will ring in his head 'i won't be the one looking after you if you get sick', 'your parents got rid of you for being a pain in the ass', and all his worst insecurities come rushing back and he's resolved to deal with it on his own

meanwhile, futaba's been making use of her hidden audio bugs- normally they're a comfort for her in the daytime, but since the new kid- ren- has been staying at the cafe (part-timer her ass, how gullible does sojiro think she is?!), she's been listening more frequently. when ren gets sick, she figures it out quickly.

time goes on, he's not getting better- he's actually getting worse- and futaba starts to wonder if she's the only one who knows

(there's something in his sharp contrasts- the quiet kid who shuffles through the cafe and takes sojiro's scolding, to the coughing kid who cries into the silence of night when he thinks there's nobody there to see it- that stabs through her numbness. it feels like a companion to her own ghost)

one night she swears the kid gets up to be sick, and there's hardly any sound heard from the attic all night. if nobody's gonna help ren, then she will (futaba used to like helping, once upon a time).

she texts sojiro the next day, when ren doesn't say anything again, and goes off to school with what she bets is a fake assurance on his face

and you're so right, sojiro dismisses her concern really easily, claims the kid can 'take care of himself' and he won't 'baby' the part-timer. insists ren needs to learn some disipline, then maybe he'll stay out of trouble

frustration wells in futaba- if she was less fixated on what was going on with ren, she'd register it's one of the first changes of mood she's had for months- and she responds with nothing but an audio clip, an attached explanation that this is just from the past few days- it's been going on for weeks, then she waits, and hears the distant sound of her compilation through one of the bugs, a hitched breath from sojiro, curse words under his breath-

for all his earlier postulating about not helping ren if he gets sick, sojiro is immeditely struck with a pang of concern- it sounded bad, and if futaba's words were anything to go by, this had been going on for a while. the kid's at school now (at school, being as ill as that and he was still going to class-), so sojiro will talk to him when he gets back. there's a chance he goes a bit too over the top, between the variation of medicines he purchases, supplies he grabbed from home- if you accused him for over-compensating after maybe being too harsh on the kid in the beginning, you'd be right

and you just know ren would be so resistent at first to help, or even just the offer of staying off school. in his sickness-induced fugue, ren's filter-less in rattling off how he can't stay off, what will the students and teachers think, and he has work that afternoon, and a test soon, and he doesn't want to get in the way-

sojiro's heart just shatters

this kid, whose been silently carring the weight of the world and has apparently been falling to pieces for weeks now and sojiro didn't even notice?

(a part of it reminds him too much of the other kid he's got at home, the countless ways he's already failed futaba, and now ren too? he feels useless)

sojiro focuses on what he can do, and that's making the kid rest. work will understand, school can wait, ren isn't an inconvenience, he guides the kid to bed, calls takemi immediately (who rushes over, despite the fact she's technically closed at this hour, and refuses to take any payment),

even still, there's this stilted awkwardness between them when the quiet pushes on too long- they hardly know each other, afterall. sojiro is still figuring out the 'caring for kids' thing, and ren isn't familiar with any kind of parental affection, so some of sojiro's care veers a bit too close to clinical or mechanic, and ren still struggles to communicate what kind of help he needs, but it's enough for now.

for now, sojiro is there. he's trying, and at least ren's getting some colour back on his skin. for now, ren's willing to take a few days off and have some medicine, but he's over-apologetic and definitely tries to make up for his sickness once he's healed. it's gonna take them both a while yet, but luckily there's always their guardian hacker, ready and able to call them out when needed (and maybe some day she'll be able to keep an eye on ren and sojiro in person)

[ratsnoot]

Rattoo ideas 🐭

[blursy]

Embracing the Goddess Within: Rediscovering Your Feminine Essence

Today, we embark on a journey to celebrate the enchanting world of feminine energy. As the stars twinkle in the night sky and the moon casts its gentle glow, we embrace the beauty and power that comes with being a feminine woman. The Magic of Feminine Energy Femininity is like a mysterious melody that resonates within our souls. It is a potent energy that emanates from the depths of our being,…

[unsolicitedadvicecatlady]

Sowing, Reaping

Sow a thought, reap an act, sow an act, reap a habit, sow a habit, reap a character, sow a character, reap a destiny.

[disabilities-disabilities]

Disabilities refer to impairments that may limit a person's physical, cognitive, sensory, or mental abilities to perform tasks or participate fully in everyday life. Disabilities can vary widely in nature and severity, and they can be temporary or permanent. Here are some common types of disabilities:

Physical disabilities: These involve impairments that affect mobility or physical functioning, such as paralysis, limb loss, or muscular dystrophy.

Sensory disabilities: These include impairments related to sight, hearing, or both. Blindness, low vision, deafness, and hearing loss fall into this category.

Cognitive disabilities: These affect cognitive functions, such as learning, memory, problem-solving, and comprehension. Conditions like dyslexia, ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), and intellectual disabilities are examples.

Psychiatric or mental health disabilities: These involve conditions that affect a person's mental well-being and functioning, such as depression, anxiety disorders, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia.

Developmental disabilities: These typically manifest during infancy or childhood and impact physical, learning, language, or behavior development. Examples include autism spectrum disorder and Down syndrome.

Chronic illnesses: While not always considered disabilities in the traditional sense, chronic illnesses such as diabetes, multiple sclerosis, and fibromyalgia can significantly impact a person's daily life and functioning.

Acquired disabilities: These result from injury, illness, or other factors later in life, such as traumatic brain injury (TBI), stroke, or spinal cord injury.

It's important to recognize that each individual's experience of disability is unique, and it's essential to consider their specific abilities, challenges, and needs. Additionally, the concept of disability is evolving, with a growing emphasis on accessibility, inclusion, and the social model of disability, which focuses on removing barriers to participation rather than just addressing impairments.

[humannaturenewsletter]

Sometimes, the scary path is the only one you can take.

[simptasia]

being in the DS9 fandom, you'll discover there are so many ways for people to be wrong about julian bashir

[dead-generations]

I do wonder how Peter Watts would react to knowing that many people, including myself, read Blindsight and had no trouble imaging they are Siri Keeton. because he is literally me

[agirlwithglam]

hiya! any chance i could get a letter about how i will achieve my goals be the best version of myself? i'm scared i'm going to go back to my old ways...

hii luv ! of course you can get a letter <3

valentines love letter … to a special someone!

dear anonie,

you are more than capable of becoming the best version of yourself. and you don't have to wait to achieve anything to become her now! actually, just by thinking about how your dreamself will act right now and doing that is being your dream self.

and honey, come on of course you will achieve your goals. why is there even doubt? do you know your full potential? do you know what you can do when you believe you can and tap into it fully? if anyone else can do it, so can you. so. can. you. remember to love and care for yourself on this beautiful journey because its you who's holding your hand and helping you get through this!

with love, vanilla ❤