#even this is difficult for me to explain

[solshii]

could you tell us more about qpr? I'm really interested in the concept would love to learn more about it

hey anon, thank you for asking <333 all of you might have to sit tight for this one, i ramble a lot 😭💔

TL;DR though, I describe QPRs (queer platonic relationships) to be more intimate than traditional platonic relationships, but it doesn't make them romantic because they don't have the expectations and boundaries that one entails.

QPRs by definition are non-romantic intimate and committed relationships.

It's normally found within aromantic communities but the people within QPRs don't have to be aro to be in one. I'm unlabelled, but I have related to both allo and aro experiences so be aware that this is the perspective I'm speaking from

It can be difficult to understand what they are exactly because from the outside looking in, it really does just look like a romantic relationship because the partners within it could treat and feel for each other in a manner that is traditionally perceived as romantic. (e.g: cuddling, kissing, some may even move in together and get married)

But I think one of the important things that helped me understand QPRs is this concept I see discussed in aromantic communities called amatonormativity; it includes the idea that romantic relationships are greater than platonic friendships or are seen as the next step from it (i.e if you feel anything for someone that's not seen as traditionally platonic, you have romantic feelings), and also other things but this is most relevant to the topic

Essentially it causes relationships to be pushed into this strict binary of "platonic" or "romantic". And wherever your relationship with someone is, you're expected to adhere to this default template of how your relationship is supposed to look like — romantic relationships are intimate closeness that is more valued and special, and platonic relationships cannot breach that.

I find that people often make assumptions of how they and their partner/friend should act based on those templates. It's like a quiet agreement that causes you to not communicate your expectations and boundaries because you assume it's all common sense, and that the other person is already aware of those just by the nature of your relationship.

I think that QPRs practically rip those templates and expectations apart, it pushes your relationship out of that box into this shapeless blob that you have to shape yourself, and it pushes you to actually voice out your expectations and boundaries

I want people to understand that QPRs aren't "lesser" than romantic relationships just because they are non-romantic, nor are they "greater" than platonic relationships just because they are more intimate. They're simply just another way relationships can take shape and I've seen people describe it as the "nonbinary" of relationships lol

There's no singular answer to what people do in QPRS and what it's like, because it doesn't have a template like platonic and romantic relationships do. It's something you build from the bottom up, you go into it with expectations set by you and your partner/s, not with expectations society laid out for you. Every QPR is different because it's so individualised and it's as special and unique as the people within it

(Speaking of amatonormativity notice how i really don't have a good way to describe platonic relationships besides "non-romantic" lmao 😭✌️it's so ingrained into us that it makes topics regarding platonic and romantic tricky to discuss)

If you ask me how it's like to be in my own QPR, it is more intimate than my platonic friendships. I feel absolutely yucked out at the thought of doing the things I do with Archer with them because I genuinely see all of them like my own siblings lol

But in comparison to my romantic relationships, it still feels so... Different? None of my romantic "relationships" really felt real to me and were usually like situationships where I can tell the person was into me and wanted me to be their girlfriend, but I just felt like I was being forced to act in a superficial way that doesn't feel authentic to me.

With Archer, I don't feel like I have to perform as a girlfriend in our relationship and I don't feel like I'm stepping out of line for wanting to be intimate with him. I feel like I could just be me and do the things that comes naturally to me, iykwim?

And it feels like Archer also has the space to do the things that comes naturally to him too, and I'm not upset if he's not doing the things I would've expected a boyfriend to do because he's not my boyfriend (at least not in a romantic sense. While I'm more comfortable calling him my partner, I know calling him my boyfriend would be something I'll feel is right in the future)

We move and guide our relationship in a way that follows our own pace, boundaries and expectations, it's something that grows and changes with us, it's open communication about wants, needs and feelings, and most importantly I don't feel like I'm being too much nor am I being too little. I feel really secure with Archer and everything I have with him is really all that I've wanted

i hope you learned something from me<33

[iztea]

i think one of my biggest pet peeves is when you're trying to explain or delve deeper into a topic that's *a bit* more complex or challenging with someone and they immediately cut you off and resort to making jokes about their head hurting or dumbing it down to a cartoonish level for,,, comedic effect i guess

[fate-defiant]

something something Mytho's entire character being, as @schafpudel so eloquently put it, associated with self destruction; something something the heartless princes inability to connect with the world and care; something something the raven!Mytho's hair trigger temper and capricioussness; something something Drosselemeyer's personality and what his life and interpersonal relationships must've looked like when he was still a mortal human man; something something Mytho's entire being as an expression of trauma, of loneliness, of psychological struggles of his author.

[defiledtomb]

merry xmas! im drinking rum with aleks and listening to some really old techno. i blurted everything about ouro and all the tough things surrounding, and its future, and i got so excited i yelled and yodeled into the dead and dark forest. it's been such. such a good christmas. 2025 got nothing on me. we live we die and we fucking live again. hold my hand. giggle with me. have some zacapa. i love you

[clumsypuppy]

i feel like im not making any sense but does anyone else feel like there are stories that let u run with them and ones that spell everything out for you

[hawkeyeslaughter]

blacked out and when i came to and there were tears on my face and this was on my screen

i’m SORRY if you’ve sent me a request they’re either in progress or on my to do list i’m just insanely unwell over them <3

[megthemariner]

I was possessed with the sudden need to see them. doing this

Finished

[flowerytale]

me: haven't posted regularly for a while. also me: convinced that everyone on this site hates me for this reason. the whole world: *barely noticed I ever existed *

[snobgoblin]

that saying has stuck with me lately. that like. "the way to overcome childhood trauma is to feel the emotion you were not allowed to feel" and they used anger as their example. i think ive already been doing this in a way? I wasn't allowed to feel alive as a kid. I wasn't a person. and it reminds me of just this, falling in love with the concept of being alive, the concept of being a person ive been doing over these past few years. I dunno

[raiiny-bay]

attempting to learn particle systems.....

[death-rebirth-senshi]

Tbh the more I think about it the more I don't even agree that "does Omelas having a suffering kid make it more credible?" is solely an indictment of an inability to imagine a perfect utopia without there being some catch or dark underbelly.

Why does your imagination fall short? Why is it so easy to imagine that these happy people are doing something heinous behind the scenes, like taking pleasure in hurting a child? She gives an answer, a point of view, and I think there is a genuine frustration. I think she is genuinely going, when you think of a perfect utopia where everyone is happy, why are people often immediately skeptical and looking for holes? Why do people often imagine something fairytale-esque? Why do people so often imagine everyone must be stupid in such a world, that people are secretly unhappy?

And, you know, glancing at the wiki, the work seems to be in conversation with specific, kind of insufferable instances of this exact hypothetical being used.

And I kind of get that like. The inclusion of a hidden abused child that adults insist must be abandoned and abused and that most kids see the injustice of but many eventually grow up to tell themselves excuses of how "well, this is the way it has to be" is still sort of condemning a skeptical reader, and I get how walking away from omelas means to walk away from this entire hypothetical and imagine a different world rather than believe that a perfect world without a suffering child is true just because you've been told so. The metaphor is certainly there.

But simultaneously I don't agree that it's just walking away from the hypothetical. It isn't just, here you go edgelords, I gave omelas something terrible to make it more realistic, are you satisfied? There are reasons beyond a lack of imagination to be doubtful, and there are reasons beyond not accepting the "banality of evil" to find the idea of the secret suffering child compelling and, almost certainly, familiar. Maybe you've even been that hypothetical suffering child, told that your mistreatment is just and necessary for others to prosper.

I also don't think walking away possibly being read as acceptance of the framework isn't a little bit on purpose as well. I think going, "what, I'm supposed to believe this framework just because the author said so?" is a response she's purposefully trying to provoke in people! "I would save the kid anyway" is protesting against the framework of Omelas as much as "walking away" is. The hypothetical omelas likely sparks your desire to fix things, encourages you to come up with solutions, to think about what you'd do, a want to build a better world that doesn't involve the child's suffering, and going "Omelas is just a hypothetical it's not about finding a solution and you're stupid if you say you'd try to save the child" is also I think incredibly reductive, and I think it's a take that bothers me so much more because it so quickly contradicts itself and refuses to engage with a good chunk of the story put forth.

She's not just criticizing a disbelief in perfect happiness, she's also stoking your desire for one. She almost certainly put in a suffering child because most people would respond with wanting to save it.

Or maybe I'm crazy and this is nothing. Maybe I don't even believe this 100%. You'll never catch me

[wellthatsclever]

When you find out the seed oils stay lodged in your fat so even when you DO lose weight, you will feel shitty while burning it off because it's basically dirty fuel

[tsuyalovebot]

monday storytime. one of my friends borrowed my phone to look for a specific twitter account and the first thing that popped up on my feed was apparently an aesthetic lewd manga panel.

i wonder how it looked to her. me, her chill asexual friend, following a twitter account that posts aesthetic lewds.

she was very confused and i told her i look at them for inspiration, and realized halfway that she doesn't know i have a tumblr blog. i didn't explain any further and took my phone back. she didn't ask anything else.

fyi, the lewd was inspiring. it very much reminds me of caleb. gets the brain juice working to write more fics for him! :]

[fullbrave]

[in the weariest thor impression you’ve ever heard] hey let’s do get help

[hotfudgecherryrosy]

im tired of scrolling through my code because java sucks

im going to use evil programming methods

edit: predictably, this broke my code

[maliciousalice]

Hear me out (or don't... it's fine I'm just venting and mean) yeah um I don't believe Chakotay was saved in Prod*gy s2.