#how invalidating

[justanotherignot]

@traceofexistence asked for these and I was more than happy to do it.

[mofsblog]

"This is some gay shit" Good. Silly. Fair enough. Doesn't inherently invalidate other interpretations of the relationship. Honestly yeah, it is kind of gay regardless of their canonical relationship status

"There's literally no platonic explanation for th-" WRONG!! KILLING YOU WITH AMATANORMATIVITY KILLING LOBSTERS 🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞

[ocean-breeze-pier]

I really despise how gendered stuff is and how it comes back to bite you in the ass as a trans person. And I don’t mean in the typical “feminine afab” “masculine amab” way that’s imposed on us based on our agab. Yes of course this sucks but I mean it in a different way. I hate that being a binary trans person means binary assumptions are placed on me. As a trans guy it’s assumed I want facial hair when I don’t. It’s assumed I want short hair when I don’t. It’s assumed I will have “male interests” (whatever the fuck that means) and I don’t. Which of course is where Those™️ types of trans people will appear and accuse me of not really being trans.

It’s annoying that I don’t get the privilege of being gnc because I’m a trans guy that doesn’t pass which is used against me. There are medical and personal and financial reasons I’m not taking hormones and some people seem to think I need to compensate by conforming to masculinity. I hate that I’m being forced into a box just like I was when I used to think I was cis. Part of this is why I didn’t realize I was a trans guy for awhile. I thought I had to be nonbinary bc I didn’t deserve to identify as a trans guy since I didn’t look like one. And people push that rhetoric and it’s so harmful. It literally delayed me realizing who I truly am.

Just let trans people exist however they want. I don’t want to have to alter everything about me to be seen as a man. I want to be seen as a man right now because I am one.

[m0ther-of-p3arl]

girl if you EVER go 'men dni...... BUT TRANS MEN ARE OK THO' i swear to god i will punch you across the fucking face

[elkian]

So I never really questioned Kabru and Mithrun's dynamic given what's coming up, but that episode really emphasized some stuff to me. We know already that long-lived races, particularly elves, have a tendency to dismiss the other groups as being childlike. But the sheer infantilization that everyone, and specifically Kabru, have to deal with in that episode really hammers it home.

When Kabru mentions his adoption, pretty much all of the Canaries start immediately treating him like a toddler. And we know from flashbacks in the manga that he received pretty much the same treatment from his adopter - I wouldn't say he was quite treated like a favored pet, but it's much closer to that than any kind of healthy relationship dynamic.

So when Mithrun stands up, gets in his face, looks him eye-to-eye and says: "You're plotting something. I'm going to find out what.", that? That is the first time in this scene - maybe in his life - that an elf takes Kabru seriously. Mithrun has his own thing going on, but regardless of his reasoning, he addresses Kabru as a person and an adult. As someone with complex motivations who could potentially trip him up. I don't doubt Kabru has in the past used that infantilization to his advantage, but it's blatantly obvious that he doesn't enjoy it. Who would? So Mithrun starting their relationship by treating Kabru as a peer explains a lot about their dynamic down the line, in my opinion.

Kabru doesn't have to prove his humanity, his personhood, his adulthood to this man, one of a group infamous for how they treat younger species. It must feel like one hell of a paradigm shift.

EDIT: I've seen it pointed out on this post and others that Kabru also shows Mithrun understanding and decency and sees him in a way that others haven't been and I think that's a very important parallel and good point.

[so-i-did-this-thing]

It's so isolating being a trans person with trans headcanons in a fandom. The ship may be popular, but the trans headcanons seldom are.

So, while folks argue whether or not the ship might end up canon, you just get another petty reminder that a trans reading will never, ever come to pass in your current fandoms, and very likely never in any future fandoms.

[ganondoodle]

🤝being sick of that damn goat man

Though mine are probably more basic because I just think they were cowards and should have made his design more monstery, WHERE'S THE TAIL AND PAWS HUH.

see at first i even liked his design (just that though, in the tutorial i called him being a twist villain bc i had way too much faith into the writing lmao), but man going back through my stream recordings i was trying to be so nice to the game until the very end, i really didnt want to accept how much i disliked evrything lol, at least now i feel free to just yell about how much i hate it

anywaym they dIDNT EVEN GIVE HIM GOAT EYES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! COWARDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GOAT EYES! TWO THUMBS! LIGHT FERN HAIR APPENDAGE! HOOVES! TAIL! FULLY FURRED! (he looks too smooth in canon, fuckimg smooth yoda ass rauru)

[kithmet]

see, i really love when buddie fight. i love it because within fighting (and especially because their dynamic relies heavily on the unspoken) there's this element of, "oh, finally they're communicating, even if it's fighting! they're saying these things out loud! progression is being made!" and it's not pretty, but life isn't always pretty. i love the messiness of a satisfying fight, where both are dealing with their own shit and misstepping how they're handling a situation, or throwing words around carelessly, or projecting onto each other. people who love each other as much as they do don't go into an argument that intense without knowing that in the end, things will be okay again. buck even said this in s4: "it's easy to lash out on the person that you know is always going to forgive you." i think subconsciously they know that sure, they might fight, but they will always be okay.

that being said. yeah, i love when they fight, but i do often hate how people talk about it. there's always this strange element of viewers trying to choose sides, which completely misses the point the show is trying to make whenever it depicts raw emotions and how those complicated feelings can intersect in relationships to spark conflict, conflict where nuance does exist. and this happens time and time again on the show and the aftermath—people are always so forgiving towards one of them, and less forgiving towards the other. yes, when times are tough, buck gets self-centred and unable to see past his own hurt, and yes, eddie hates seeing that gets mean about it. we've seen this during the lawsuit! we've seen it before eddie left for texas! and we're seeing it again now after bobby died. this is a consistent character trait for both of them, it's a thread that has remained true in their relationship and will probably continue to remain true because it's somewhere where they don't mesh well. it's juicy! but i don't think one of them is more or less right for feeling the way they do. the point is that they feel what they feel, and they get past it always despite clashing. and ultimately the whole concept of "choosing sides" when two characters clash is rooted in projection or relatability (or protection) of one character, which honestly lacks empathy and understanding of the fight itself, both character's motivations, and their relationship dynamics. the writers don't want you to choose sides. they want you to understand that sometimes situations are complicated and as humans, we butt heads but still love each other no matter what. it's really not a hard concept to grasp. and yet... we as a fandom go in circles about this topic every single time they fight.

[dailyjermasparkle]

I've seen a lot of stuff going down on tumblr and I just wanted to let you all know that all aromantic, asexual, and aroace people are valid members of the LBGTQIA+ community. It doesn't matter if they are cishet or not.

[xeemaee]

Back on my Kabru-was-raised-catholic bs because his whole “am I secretly a monster thing” just screams of catholic guilt to me and I’m gonna project onto him

[burrythebusy]

Seeing some people (comments, posts, general discussion) talk about Hirano’s love like it is inherently lesser, not as strong and "incompatible" with Kagiura’s tells me all I need to know about yall bc regardless of what you thought before (questionably), there's no way you read chapter 29 and came to this conclusion

[lyculuscaelus]

So lately I’ve been seeing a lot of posts asking people to stop trying to make Odysseus look nice in their works cuz he’s a “messed-up person in the mythology”. Your opinion is valid however I have but one thing to point out:

You want to know who started all this? Who started to “make Odysseus look nice” in the first place?

It’s Homer. It’s nobody else but Homer himself.

A non-Homeric Odysseus would try to murder people out of his own interests. He’d murder Palamedes without remorse (and we’d be cheering over this but it’s a murder after all), he’d attempt to murder Diomedes just to get the Palladium himself, he’d volunteer to kill Astyanax…meanwhile you wouldn’t find any mention of either Palamedes or Nauplius in Homer’s poems, neither did he mention anything abt the Palladium heist (and Diomedes necessity did not happen until Conon’s version), the death of Astyanax, the distribution of war prizes, etc. And all the details in the Odyssey seemed to deny the existence of Nauplius’s vengeance at all, so Odysseus would not take any of the blame.

A non-Homeric Odysseus would be depicted as “cruel, treacherous”, meanwhile in book 10 of the Iliad Odysseus was not mentioned to have killed anyone during the marauding, neither did he promise Dolan anything at all. The negative interpretations are denied by these details subtly put by Homer.

A non-Homeric Odysseus would be widely known as a “coward” for only shooting arrows from afar. But Homer gave him a spear and had him absolutely slaying in both the Iliad and the Odyssey. That part of Ajax’s speech was invalid already.

Most importantly—a non-Homeric Odysseus would be having kids everywhere else, and the loyalty to his own wife as seen in the Odyssey is no where to be found. Meanwhile his lineage was a single-son line made by Zeus in the Odyssey, and his love for Penelope was one of his main drives, especially seen in book 5 of the Odyssey. He loved his family as a loving parent—something you don’t get to see in most of the non-Homeric writings—for most of the time they followed a different tradition indeed, in which Odysseus wasn’t half as nice as in the Odyssey.

TL;DR: in case you haven’t noticed, the characterization of the Homeric Odysseus was quite different from a non-Homeric version of Odysseus. It’s not that Homer didn’t know of the existence of other versions—he knew them too well, which is why in his version of the story, you don’t get to see any mention of them.

[bucksboobs]

I do think at some point in the not too distant future, the 911 fandom, at least on Tumblr, is going to have to reckon with the fact that despite M!slash being the main driving force of the fandom, gay men like myself are in the vast minority (I think a recent poll put us at something like 6% but it didn’t separate bisexuals by gender so it’s hard to say how many mlm are actually in the fandom) and in the same way being a gay man doesn’t exempt him from being incidentally or purposefully misogynistic, being some other flavor of the rainbow doesn’t prevent someone from perpetuating homophobia against men who love men.

At some point the jokes about how Tommy is just here for dick or should just get dick and move on (when he’s already made it very clear that he wants a relationship with Buck) are going to start to sound like hypersexual stereotypes of gay men. At some point the constant push to get them to break up as soon as possible and for Tommy to die or get shipped off to Arizona or wherever is going to seem less like regular ship hate and more like wanting a gay male character to be punished for daring to seek a relationship with a man in the first place. We obviously aren’t there yet but I do think we should be aware that it is fast approaching.

[khaoala]

oh no, p'jojo said kantbison are a lovers to enemies story. kantbison are doomed.

firstkhao characters whenever they have the slight attempt of animosity between the two of them:

[yourresidentstanlover]

Stan was normal. 

He’d always been normal. He wasn’t like Ford. He knew when people were being sarcastic, he knew not to take everything literally. That’s why he protected Ford, because he was the ‘normal’ one.

Nevermind the fact that he felt like he didn’t understand what people were saying sometimes, despite the fact that there was nothing physically wrong with his ears. Ignore the issue of him not being able to focus on his work for more than a minute before getting distracted. And the times that he felt like crying because everything was too damn loud? Not important, that’s what. It’s stupid whenever he breaks down crying because he’s overwhelmed and upset– he shouldn’t be crying, he’s a man, dammit!

Sometimes he’d sit in his chair like a frog, but that didn’t mean he wasn’t normal, he just liked to be a little silly sometimes. And so what if the texture of Brussels sprouts made him gag, most kids hated vegetables anyways. 

What do you mean he shouldn’t be getting so attached to people he barely knew? And just… ignore the inability to tell the difference between romantic attraction and platonic affection, that’s not relevant here!

Stan was told so himself: Ma said he’s a normal kid. He’s not like his brother.

But let’s just gloss over the fact that Stan always felt like an outsider whenever he was having a conversation. That he had to think about how long he should look into someone’s eyes before looking away. And the times when he was told that the questions that he asked were inappropriate? Eh, he was just a kid, kids say dumb shit all of the time. Just don’t look at the fact that he tends to blurt out painfully honest truths sometimes. Don’t look at when he would overshare to a point where he made everyone uncomfortable. People overshare all the time, it’s fine. And the fact that he seemed to never shut up? Probably just the sugar in those Asbest O’s. He should probably quit chewing on those hoodie strings…

As Stan got older, he found himself becoming more ‘normal’ but… feeling more terrible. It’s hard to talk to people in a normal way. Sitting in chairs normally sucks. Eye contact is an awful thing to figure out. It doesn’t feel too great to stop moving his arms around.

…Maybe he wasn’t all that normal, after all…

[bixels]

I'm not getting into The Giving Tree discourse...