#it's probably just a coincidence...

[dribs-and-drabbles]

This is a little something (she says and then writes nearly a thousand words) about Kawi and intimacy and his behaviour towards Pisaeng's affections in Be My Favourite ep 9. I've been thinking about it all week but wasn't sure if I wanted to use my precious free-time to make a post. However, on the cusp of the new ep, I realise I do want to get these thoughts out.

I realised from reading other people's perspectives of the ep that my initial assessment of how Kawi was behaving was perhaps clouded by the 'old lenses' that I was subconsciously watching the show through. For context, I wasn't sure that I liked that Kawi kept pushing Pisaeng away and I even mentioned the dreaded Blushing Maiden trope. After some thought, I realise that my initial judgement was very much influenced by a couple of things carried over from ye olden bl times (which may not have been done away with completely but seem to be on their way out in present times).

First, from having seen so many bl/qls with the blushing maiden trope, subconsciously I guess I still expect to see it because it had been so prevalent. And second, despite the re-wiring my brain has undergone when it comes to Krist, I think I still fell back on the earlier presumptions that Krist was either averse to skinship (particularly with men) and/or wasn't a good enough actor to convey physical intimacy (this, of course, mostly stems from his portrayal of Arthit in SOTUS, which for all we know was how he was specifically directed to act - and which many have interpreted as demi- or asexual, which absolutely has a place at the table).

My conclusions to these realisations is that I need to learn to trust these newer bl/qls that they really aren't going to rehash the old questionable tropes of yesteryear.

I remember some discourse before the last three eps of My School President - when we were worried about the ending - about how Bad Buddy taught us that we can feel safe watching it - "safe in the knowledge that tropes were being subverted, that the usual angsty triggers actually got resolved pretty quickly, that the ep 11 curse wasn't actually a curse at all". And we needed to take that knowledge to help assuage our fears about the ending of MSP. And I think I'm in a similar situation here with Be My Favourite and Kawi in particular.

Staying with Bad Buddy for a bit longer (because, really, when can I ever not talk about it in relation to something else?), I remember feeling a similar disappointment with how Pran was being portrayed in ep 9. I felt he too bordered on the blushing maiden with how he shied away from Pat's advances in his room before Korn came in, before the rugby game, and even when washing up after the hotpot date. I don't see that now because, of course, we know Pran isn't a blushing maiden at all - I mean he's not known as Feral Musky Scented HOE Pran for nothing.

Yes, it took time for Pran to get used to Pat's affections but that was probably because he had pined over this man for so long it was all a bit overwhelming at first. Pran probably needed to ease into letting down his walls, to be vulnerable around Pat, and to believe it was all real. And in the end, when he had gotten used to it all, Pran holds back because he likes to make Pat work for it...because Pat also likes to work for it, because they get off on role-playing - as I've said before, it's like foreplay to them.

I'm not saying this is the same for Kawi but it's a similar situation. I knew this about Pran, and that I was wrong in my interpretation of him, and yet I didn't think to approach Kawi and Pisaeng with the same lens. The lens that so many of you have helpfully pointed out - Kawi is a 30-year-old virgin. This is all so new to him, not only to be intimate with someone but also with a man whom he hadn't even contemplated being with. He's spent 12 years only thinking of Pear (emphasis on 'only thinking' as well as 'only thinking').

@burntsuncomet said it well in their tags: "touch gets very very difficult if you don't interact with people much, so intimacy of normal affectionate touches are tough. Kawi would have to start slow and let Piseang just smack a kiss, maybe hold hands, hug a bit, it's a lot of work before intimacy from touch will be like second nature in Kawi's case." @rocketturtle4 also added that Kawi's "general uncertainty could be very well tied in with his loneliness and, especially, his fear of losing Piseang if he does the wrong thing".

@waitmyturtles offered a slightly different perspective, that almost "everything in this show is totally intentional, and...that [Kawi's] discomfort is totally meant to reflect those accusations from Krist’s past about his clear discomfort in acting out intimacy (especially juxtaposed with how much better he’s done with the intimacy in this show)".

So, all of this is to say that I need to start trusting this new wave of bl/qls - a message I obviously forgot from My School President and which has been proven by several other series this year.

And I need to trust Be My Favourite especially, because, as @williamrikers said, "they've swerved and avoided every other trope so far I believe that they're working towards something here". And I agree. Every episode has been fantastic and I haven't disliked a single thing about the show so far.

On top of that, I need to trust my newfound belief in Krist's acting, because he has pulled out some absolutely brilliant performances in this show so far - so why should I think ep 9 is any different?

[wynandcore]

Saw the sonic 3 trailer are you telling me the movie based on Sonic Adventure 2 is Not anti-military??? No anti-authority theming here?? Nothing?? The game where a kid gets gunned down? Where Shadow’s grief and hate for humanity is BECAUSE of the military?? Where Sonic runs from the cops and is consistently annoyed at their existence?

[thethespacecoyote]

so does ford turn away this skeleton because just before this he saw bill possess a bunch of zombie corpses to try to get to him

[sweetjulieapples]

Cullen was watching on with concern, just in case Mother Giselle did something wild like, idk start a camp sing along or something.

[grahoriasfancave]

Airplane Shooting Towards the Sky died because he got distracted by a rant from Peerless Cucumber.

Shen Yuan died because he got too worked up ranting about Airplane Shooting Towards the Sky's latest chapter.

[ann7av]

Back to something that took me out entirely during OS. Are you telling me Violet was born, raised, and even participated in these religious practices yet she's NEVER once in her life questioned how Dunne's follower bleach their hair silver? That temple is in Tyrrendor???

And you also want me to believe NO ONE else in the entire kingdom put those two pieces together??? Like Xaden?? WHO GREW UP BESIDES SAID TEMPLE?

There was a law banning the dedication of children and infants, so presumably it was common knowledge parents did this in the past, and there's this little girl up and around with hair suspiciously similar to Dunne's priestesses (aka a major religious organization) and absolutely no one called fantasy cps or anything??? Most importantly, again, how didn't Violet know about this super special hair tradition??? IT'S HER RELIGION

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Gaslighter? I hardly know her!

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[katescribblesabit]

no fucking way

i cant even make this shit up, here i am watching philza's 5 year hardcore celebration stream of season 4.

and i open minecraft, because i always play alongside while watching Phils stream, and what do i see?

how HOW! what are the odds! i have gotten that specific splash text only once before, and i get it now while we celebrate the 5th birthday of season 4.

I burst out laughing out of disbelieve lmaoo

anyway happy 5 years of season 4 Philza! :D may you live and survive 5 more!

btw will post a philza drawing later on ;D

[rebelcaptain4life]

Look, I'm not a buddie truther but I can't help but notice that the way Eddie was dressed at henren's is suspiciously similar to how Buck was dressed in 7x01, a few eps before he came out

[claraoswalds]

It's racist, my dear, to be blunt. People come from outside, they think we're all witches and druids. For God's sake, child, you walked into a piece of string!

[almostswagkid]

I don't need sleep, I need answers

[tripably]

I'm getting hopelessly lost in the most boring part of a top-down, round yoke sweater project (=the never-ending forever-loop of a non-patterned body) so, in an effort to motivate myself to keep going — look at the fancy details I did some time back !

[clumsypuppy]

i like him

[random-dragon-exe]

Ok maybe it's just me, but it seems like some of the fairies in FOP have a few traits that are associated with the fae from folklore.

I know it sounds like a reach, but hear me out.

One of the main things is the infatuation with shiny objects, which Cosmo shows through his love for Phillip the nickel.

Also under the category of the attraction to shiny things is the fondness for reflective surfaces. Or a simple mirror. Just something that they can see their reflection in as they enjoy looking at themselves.

And the one fairy who's known to do just that is Juandissimo. Sure he does it because he's a bit vain, but it's still there.

Then the last thing I found is the love for sweets.

Which is something reflected in both Cosmo and Wanda (although Cosmo just likes food in general and Wanda has the addiction to chocolate).

But she loves her sweets so much, that it can distract her. Heck, to the point where Cosmo is the voice of reason for Timmy to convince him to not wish for desserts to be the only source of food.

I also find it interesting that the love for sweets was carried over to A New Wish, with Peri joining in. (Which isn't a surprise, he did show a love for chocolate by eating all the brownies in the OG show's episode Balance of Flour) And if you listen closely, the first thing Wanda does is praise the chocolate she has.

And at one point in A New Wish, Wanda said Cosmo made a "Rainbow tie pasta" which sounds like a pretty sweet version of pasta. Also, they were getting giddy about making the popcorn sweet in the episode where Hazel was preparing to see her favorite horror movie.

I know it seems like minor behaviors to pick from, but you gotta admit, they're still there and it's interesting to have some connections to the fae folklore with the FOP fairies.

[littlepikmins]

Bernard's friends all being guys with dark black hair is kinda hilarious. Like yeah could just be a coincidence or he was like "I miss Tim 😔" and made friends with three dudes who reminded him of Tim in some way.

This is assuming all these guys knew Bernard though and not just the guy speaking. I'm dying imagining them all hanging out and Bernard being the one blonde dude in a group of guys vaguely resembling Tim lol

[biblically-accurate-dca]

first meetings (bonus panel under the cut!!)

i didnt wanna add it to the main post bc it's a different size and it would mess up the format lmaooo

i think about these two a lot i think they could be really fun together in several ways. monty golf is right next to the daycare after all!!