#lifting problems

[the-moon-loves-the-sea]

Shared here today by Matthew Boroson on Facebook. (ETA: Gaining inspiration from other authors is great. Lifting passages and avoiding giving credit isn’t.)

Tanith Lee was the first woman to win the British Fantasy Award for best novel, for the second book of the Flat Earth series. She died in 2015. You can buy Tales From the Flat Earth here and here .

[daekiyu]

grunkle attack

[teaboot]

Sometimes at work it's not my place to tell people the things I want to say, and I find I often go home at the end of the rougher days to stand blankly in my shower and tell myself over and over what I wish I could pass on.

This accomplishes very little, and mostly just gives me a tension headache, but through it all I think I've narrowed myself down to a few solid things I'd like to tell people the most.

You can't change people. Not permanently, not for anythig. You can support them, encourage them, love them, give them tools and opportunities and resources, but you can't make them change. They can change themselves if they want to, but they have to want to, and they have to want it for themselves, because they're the only one that's certain to be with them forever.

For better or worse, you make your own choices, and blaming bad choices on others doesn't only work to absolve you of responsibility- it also robs you of control. Because if you say you only did something because I did something, then you arent only shifting blame- you're admitting that you cannot control yourself, that you cannot truly make choices for yourself, that other people can control you- and as long as you truly beleive that, you'll keep facing the same problems over and over. You'll keep letting others dictate your choices, because you'll beleive that they can, and you'll never be free.

White knights on horseback are from fairytales. Nobody can help you if ou're not willing to help yourself. To try, to put the dirty work in, to belive you're worth that effort- Act as though nobody is coming to save you. From a struggle, from pain, from bad relationships, from yourself. And when you do save yourself, because you will, because failure here isn't an option if you want to survive, you'll never find another dragon that can keep you prisoner.

Don't say anything to anyone that you wouldn't want them remembering forever.

Doing the right thing in bad circumstances is hard. It's the hardest thing. But if you make the choice to do that hard thing anyways, despite your fear, you'll go on the rest of your like knowing that you're the sort of person who did something.

The present only seems the hardest because the past I over and the future hasn't happened.

There's so much joy ahead of you, the kind you can't possibly understand until you see it yourself.

The responsibility of consequences is often disguised as the power of permission. "I won't do this if you help me", "I'll work on my anger if you do this for me", "I promised you I'd quit, but can I have just one?". The unspoken question is, "Can it be your fault if this goes badly?"

You cant make someone love you the way you need to be loved. Someone can love you very much and still be bad for you, even if you love them very much in return. Two people can love each other very, very much, and try their very best, and still be wrong for each other.

Sometimes being near to someone changes you, even in good ways, and the people you become don't fit together as well as the people you were.

Caring takes work. Even if it's real. Especially if it's real. And the most important gestures aren't the grand, poetic, songs-and-flowers-and-tears moments; they're getting out of bed even though you don't want to. Paying attention to things you don't enjoy. Scrubbing pans, or opening a window, saying "thank-you", or helping carry groceries into the house. The small things fill the big things- without the small, boring, mediocre things, big things feel hollow.

Thrre is honour and dignity in humble work.

If you are a cruel and spiteful person, then you will find every place you visit to be full of the same cruel, spiteful people. This is not because the world is as cruel as you, but because everywhere you are, you will be disliked. This is the curse that comes with being persistently cruel and spiteful.

If you are a kind and ppsitive person, you will repeatedly encounter kind and positive people, because as they grow familiar with you, they will be happier to have you near. This is the reward of being a kind and positive person.

When splitting paths with loved ones, briefly or forever, aim for your last words to always be "I love you".

[on-a-lucky-tide]

Partner just sent me this with "took a photo of you", and if looks could kill I woulda sniped a perfect headshot from the other side of the gym.

[lubdubology]

Do we know what his deadlift pr is? 🫣

435 pounds, that absolute beast of a man

[kaizokuseb]

buffy the vampire slayer is a show about a badass young woman doing everything right while the people around her act like she needs to walk on eggshells to protect their fragile little egos and also save their lives on the daily

[scoriarose]

She came up with a new activity

[sysig]

Justify away (Patreon)

[coridallasmultipass]

Yeehaw, Mama!

[nokiambv]

just got back from mission

[tempered-grace]

something is lifting the bones!!! something is dancing in revelry!!!!! wider than oceans below!!! higher than titans on box springs!!!!

and the waters are warm!!!!! where they used to run freezing!!!!

[pumpkin-padparadscha]

fuck eurylochus

marry polites

kill odysseus

[denamelesshuman]

Antis who throw insults and harass others online over fiction really never learn that the more you do that, the more you show you are the problematic ones and that your harassments only fuel us to create more to show our love to our ships that you hate. We're just here loving our own fictional ships with fictional characters and do our own thing and they will be so affected and riled up out of the blue. It's actually really funny how much energy they spend on hating and cursing strangers online but it doesn't do anything to us 🤡🤡🤡

[preciouslittle-bhaalbabe]

Not me thinking "could Raphael actually pick Val up like this?"

then I remember the man is fucking shredded in both forms so

[sunwayholm]

There will definitely be more art of this guy today, I love him so much

[babymorte]

i want someone to grow with im tired of doing all the heavy lifting