#partial did

[botanical-garden-system]

Hey, it’s not your fault. You were just a kid. You may still BE a kid. But I know a few things for certain:

You didn’t ask to be born into this world.

You didn’t ask to be treated the way that you were treated—whether it was by bullies, parents, or other family members.

You didn’t ask to “be a burden” to your caregivers, you deserved that space to be loved and safe

You didn’t ask for your consent to be broken.

You didn’t ask for the shame and guilt someone put you through.

You aren’t bad for something happening to you. You aren’t your trauma.

I’m sorry if you were ever made to feel that way, and I know that may never mean much coming from a stranger, but I know it’s something I wish I heard more.

[echoing-brain]

♠️

Cassmate : a headmate primarily characterised by their lack of emotion or general apathy; they may have a role similar to a protector, in that they take front to shield the system from harm.

[coolhumanoidbeing]

Shout out to people with Complex Dissociative Disorders (parents edition):

If your parents genuinely changed and improved overtime

If your parents were absent when you were a kid because they were sick / ill / working / otherwise indisposed

If your parents were not your abusers

If your parents would have acted differently if they knew you were being abused

If your parents didn't have the resources or knowledge to help / understand you

If your parents were loving and yet still neglectful

If your parents inadvertently invalidated / didn't believe you, but now do

If your parents weren't your primary caregivers when the abuse happend

If you weren't abused at all and your trauma was medical / environmental / etc

Had emotionally and physically present parents but you still had disorganized attachment with them as a kid because of your delusions / paranoia / etc.

If your parents regret how they treated you

If your parents loved and love you but acted the way they did because of substances / mental illness

If your parents are not completely bad people, or bad people at all

If you still get along with your parents regardless of what they did

If you ever invalidated your own traumatic childhood experiences because your parents were "too nice"

Your trauma is not less valid if you get along with your parents today. Sure, you needed disorganized attachment to your primary caregivers as a kid to develop a CDD. But that can take plenty of formes, and they don't all include your parents being monsters.

Edit: any other emotions regarding your parents are also valid and okay, and I couldn't mean that more. Childhood trauma survivors go through so many rough emotions, and self-invalidation is sadly way too common. Your feelings are a direct result of what happened and that makes them normal.

[strayk9s]

I have a hot take and opinion. I find it so strange when other systems say they support all systems (those with DID/OSDD), but the moment they have differences within their system, suddenly some of you become cold.

A common one is how people feel when a person talks about their inner world as a real place. Why does that bother you so much? I’m genuinely wondering. And don’t hit me with the “it’s weird, it’s not okay, that’s not how systems work” or something else that is absolutely ridiculous. I want to know a full-depth answer on why someone with DID or OSDD (a fellow system) talking about their inner headspace causes such distress for you?

In my opinion, who really cares lol? Why are we policing how people interact with their system if they are a legitimate traumagenic system that is not spreading misinformation about systems? It’s like when people say they have a front room, cool! If someone talks about how it’s like an empty void, also cool! A person mapping out their inner world or drawing it? Lovely! But then god forbid someone talks about the inner world like a real place (which usually they know it’s not real as far as IRL goes).

It’s always systems support systems until they’re a little different from you (and no I do NOT include endo’s/nontraumagenic people, they are NOT systems). A professional wouldn’t put down someone for talking about their inner world so why should you?

-K9

[asher-012]

I wonder if anyone else feels like they've only started existing since they where like. 12-13

Like, I feel like I've only been existing since maybe 12, but I have memories from before that age that are DEFINITELY mine, but it's also sort of hard to tell what age I've really started existing by, since I'm an introject of our literal body, it's just so.. Confusing? Is this a normal experience? Does ANYONE exist before those ages? Does anyone actually exist before the personality (tries) finishing it's weird stuff or??

[lokilysolbitch]

y'all know when someone keeps talking about their "quirky" childhood and adult habits but it's just like. textbook examples of a complex dissociative disorder. but you can't just be like "maybe you're a system" bc that could freak them out way too much all at once.

or you'll offhandedly mention a Uniquely System Specific Experience and they go "wait i relate to that lol. it must be from my depression/anxiety/etc" like. uhmmmm. not quite, not quite. time loss and seeing people in your head that grow and change independently of you is not uh,,,,,,,,,i don't think that's anxiety uh,,,,,,,,

[cemetery-drive-sys]

tw // mentions of abuse (no in depth descriptions)

You can be a system if you haven't gone through physical abuse.

You can be a system if you haven't gone through sexual abuse.

Trauma comes in many, many different forms. For us it was a family member becoming repeatedly sick during our childhood and a few other more minor things, most notably a bit of unintentional emotional / psychological abuse.

You do not need to remember your trauma. You do not need to have "super severe" trauma.

Children are extremely susceptible to trauma. If someone ever tells you that your trauma "isn't bad enough," they're wrong. You are valid. Your experiences are valid. You are allowed to be upset.

- 🕸️

[emotion-symptom-holder-culture]

jsyk this blog isnt really "traumagenic safe" if youre excluding everyone who isnt 100% traumagenic which does include those who arent fully traumagenic.. mixed origin systems exist

sincerely, a tired traumaendo system

Oh, okay, I understand. I'm really confused on how a traumaendo even exists. Taking the "invite both sheep and wolves, you'll only get wolves" thing into consideration, if I invite a sheep and wolf hybrid then what happens??? So I'm just going to keep my sheep. Should I change it to "safe for 100% traumagenic systems only" or something similar? Sorry you're tired. But just so you know, it's really uncool to break a DNI as you do in fact count

-🌺

[botanical-garden-system]

Someone drowning in 6 feet of water is as equally dead as a person drowning in 20 feet of water.

Please stop comparing trauma and making it a challenge. It’s trauma. Not a competition or medal.

[pride-stars]

P-DID : a dissociative disorder described in the ICD that is similar to Dissociative Identity Disorder, but rarely exhibits full switches. It is defined as having one dominant headmate with one or more non-dominant headmate(s), that primarily influence the dominant headmate or go co-conscious with them.

[und3r-k1ds]

Shout-out to factives. Y'all r so cool

Yes, even those factives. :]

[624sys]

[the-stranded-planet]

I uh made the mistake of opening pluralpedia, and i fucking regret it, i saw i kid you not

Food/cheese genic system origins

I shouldnt have to tell you that you cant form a system off the concept of cheese

Like they want us to take their experiences seriously but then come up with this?

I just cant anymore

[only-knives]

shoutout to systems with only a few members that front, even if that's only one member. no matter how big or small your system is, no matter how you count how many of you there are. your experience is real because you experience it. our brains are very complex and weird and there's no reason your experience is "wrong" or "invalid." you don't have to live up to anyone's standard. you can just exist. all of you.

[pdid-culture-is]

P-did culture is deleting our simply plural because I don’t leave front so I decide I must not be system. Then 10 minutes later having someone yell at me for being an idiot

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[pdid-positivity]

hey you! yes, the p-did system who's reading this!

your system is beautiful! you may struggle with imposter syndrome, over not feeling "real", god knows i do, but your experiences are valuable to the plural community!

just by existing as a p-did system, you're doing a great service to other plurals.

i love you, p-did systems 💚💚💚