#passing as a cis man

[hamptersadness]

FUNNY TRANS STORY

So my name is quite common but it's spelled differently. And this guy in my gym class was asking how to spell my name and I told him and he's like why do you have that letter instead of another. And I joked and said 'i dunno ask my mom'

Well then later we had to sign in on the school laptops for a assignment and he was looking over my shoulder as I signed in. And on my school email address has my legal name. And he goes "are you hacking into someone else's account?"

I looked at him and was like.... No?

Now this guy we've been friendly since middle school. I only came out two years ago and it's my senior year.

But it's absolutely hilarious that he thought I was cis.

Even when we joked about how I don't have the right "equipment" for certain things.

But yeah thought it was fucking funny.

[gayhenrycreel]

how do i explain to certain trans men that being considered one of the bros does not mean they have access to something that definitionally means having systemic power over every woman and trans person. no you dont have male privilige. try arguing that again when you create a world in which trans men dont face misogyny. you cant have male privilige if you are still in a world where you are barred from abortion

[some-rambling-guy]

"a non-passing trans man is treated just like a cis woman" no the fuck we are not

[plaguedoctormemes]

“But what if one of or both halves of the seemingly cishet couple at pride are passing or closeted bi or trans!” how about we shut the fuck up and stop headcannoning Jessica and Nathan’s theoretical orientations because cishets at pride that are attending in earnestness will not give a shit whether or not i decide to show up in fishnets and kiss and hug my friends and serve bisexual trans goth realness. Them being around does not hinder my endeavors whatsoever. If they had a problem they wouldnt show up or just leave. The only people that would be baffled at gay and trans people being at the gay and trans event are other gay and trans people that think there is a “right” way to be gay and trans

[unqualifiedlemon]

When I wear my he/him pin AND my binder while working and still get the "thank you ma'am" thing from people I don't know it's a stark reminder that I don't pass. Someone online said "this (referencing post-t trans man) is the kind of trans person I respect. The one that looks like the gender they're trying to be." Some of us can't. Some of us don't have access to surgery or hormones, or don't want them for some reason or another. Some of us don't look naturally masc/fem/androgynous. Some of us struggle hard to look like who we feel we are but we *can't*. That's not our fault. We still need to be respected and supported.

[faelapis]

i think any attempt to calculate what trans men "are treated like" is trying to create a theory of unity that doesn't exist. i am basically fully stealth now. i am treated like a cis man. i do not have the same experience as my closeted 16 year old self. but we're both trans men.

[witheredradiostar]

It’s actually crazy that most cis people unironically do not think you as a trans person are deserving of respect/love/basic life experiences unless you’re appealing or fitting in or passing to them in some way

[jawz]

Do you care about detransitioners or do you care about gnc people re-conforming to the expectations of their assigned sex? Do you care about lesbians, gay men, bi people, and any other gnc person, or do you care about hyperfeminine women supposedly being “nature’s counterpart” to hypermasculine men, both of whom are expected to perform heterosexuality and only heterosexuality (these concepts, in the Western world, backed up by oppressive Christian ideals)? Do you care about doctors and surgeons, most of whom are NOT TRANS OR GNC, coercing gnc people into “acceptable” binary gender and promoting treatments that can sometimes decrease quality of life and cause health issues, or are you only interested in pointing & laughing at trans people and gnc people because you consider us to be freaks of nature? Do I embarrass you? Does my noncompliance make your skin crawl?

Do you only celebrate detransitioners “finding ourselves” when that involves re-conforming to the standards we initially ran from, or do you support those of us (in fact, a majority) who still look to the outside world like trans people/gnc nonbinary people and are treated as such? Do you actually believe that biological sex exists regardless of physical appearance, chromosomes, secondary sex characteristics, “gendered” behavior, and sexual orientation, or are you a servant of the binary gender spectrum just like those you claim to disagree with?

[testodyke]

Now more than ever I need lesbians to consult on my outfit choices. How do I communicate that I'm an eligible butch to gay people I don't know with my appearance

[soundleer]

"#to compensate ill figure out which of the male sprunkis (besides durple and jevin) to be hit with the transmasc beam"

may i suggest transmasc simon 👉👈 /nf

ive been thinking of 3 to turn transmasc and it so happens that simon is one of them

i think i might hit him with it whee!!

[vyrsm-txt]

“I girlmode for this” is so funny like. I’m only cis for sex purposes. #felt

*shaking your hand* though tbh on my end I wouldn’t even go that far cuz calling myself cis makes my skin crawl LMAO But I will let people believe I’m a she / they femme bisexual if it gets results 😌

[funkle420]

dude i was feeling so great before a pathetic cis man once again questioned my intelligence

[theswisscheeserag]

I’m a cis woman but don’t care what pronouns ppl use for me so it’s fun seeing what pronouns they decide i should have since im kind of ambiguous looking. I have once again been assigned he him in airport. Always in airports, i am a man

[nightyraven-art]

Ik I wouldn't pass as a boy bc femmine features and voice yet im scared for my safety to come out.

I really want to pass but not in a traditional sense but at least I'm slowly happy that I don't get bullied and I have at least a queer friend...I still feel lonely

[derbophobia]

me (8 months on T) and my girlfriend (8 months on E) are trying to move in together in a new place and this is texas so its like. [said with extremely low tboy voice] "hello landlord. this is my boyfriend whom i am cisgender and heterosexual with. do not mind the impossibly soft skin and feminine fat distribution on the person ive just introduced. please allow us to pay you rent please please please."