#cis passing

[emotboyswag]

The bittersweet nature of "passing" as a trans person

I have no regrets in my transition except this one thing which i find it hard to express bcs i dont wanna sound ungrateful for being a passing trans person.

my disclaimer to this post is: it is hard to be a non passing trans person and non passing trans people are far more vulnerable than passing trans people. Also passing is not every trans persons goal. Although it is one of my goals in my transition im not saying "i have it now i regret it" im just gonna say kinda like. a sadder side to passing.

pre T i would say i passed like 60% of the time to cis ppl and when i wasnt seen as a dude theyd always either ask my pronouns or like ask my gender (i live in a pretty liberal place). i was quite rarely out and out just misgendered like maybe 5% of the time in the basically 7 years i lived as a pre T trans person (not including ppl who misgendered me on purpose) but i was sooo clocky to trans people like i am a v socially awkward guy but i found it easy to make trans friends when i met trans people irl when i was pre T bcs they mostly knew and we kinda were drawn together.

Im now a year and 8 months on T and i love passing i pass genuinely 100% of the time even when im not binding (and i have a larger chest that im very dysphoric about) and i have a cis passing voice. I often have a lot of like. not imposter syndrome about it but i have bad dysphoria and often assume im not gonna pass when i do or assume i look more like a girl than i do. Also im 5'3 and have kinda long hair (not long but i used to have it super short and now its a bit longer) but im just seen as a cis guy. so like i am not pretending i dont love passing it makes my life soo much easier and lessened my dysphoria.

What i will say is i miss the immediate kinship of meeting another trans person or being in the same room as another trans person and both knowing ur trans or becoming friends bcs ur trans or automatically having someone to pair up w in a group of strangers bcs u both know ur trans. Also on nights out i miss meeting new ppl and just talking to each other about being trans bcs we automatically recognise each other. like i miss the solidarity u feel as a trans person when u seen another one rather than trans ppl assuming im cis and me actively making an effort to mention im trans around new trans ppl. also i miss that trans ppl used to feel automatically safe around me whereas now i know bcs im perceived as a cis man sometimes they feel on edge. idk its just bittersweet i think <3

[stormtide-leviathan]

I don't actually want to pass as cis, I want to be visibly a trans woman and be gendered correctly because people see trans women as equally women as cis women

[heartinhyacinth]

Started crying this morning over just how overwhelming proud I am every time I remember how that tiny child that was hated and abused by all of his kingdom aside from one, that was so unnaturally small and so utterly powerless, that was suffering so badly he wanted to die—to scorn the world and then never return…became one the most powerful (and wealthy) men in all the three realms, so strong that even the heavenly emperor himself is wary of his power, so strong that only three others could ever rival him. Became the ruler of his own city—a city he built himself from the ground up, a city of misfits and monsters, of those lost and tossed aside by the world. A city where he is adored and respected greatly by all. Became so intent on remaining in this world that he defied and rejected death three times, looked it in the eye and firmly refused. 

[skipblebee]

Drew out a conversation I had with @inkymecha a while ago!! It fits them so well lol

[nothingbizzare]

Take the blame in your bloody hands

[neo--queen--serenity]

I can’t stop thinking about the Mid-Autumn Festival Banquet drinking game from book 3.

Like imagine. You pass a goblet around, duck-duck-goosing it until one of you is unlucky enough to trip the mystery loser wire that signals you're "it," for this round.

The poor idiot gets their name plugged into the xianxia version of an AO3 search bar, and whatever mortal-made fanfiction of your life pops up first gets broadcast in front of ALL your coworkers. Your only hope is that whatever absurd fanfic of your life is written well, because mortals are horny bastards, and you have no control over who they ship you with. Half of these plays are just your mortal fans smashing barbies of you and some heavenly rando together yelling "NOW KISS" and you just have to fuckin'...sit there. I would die.

[beaft]

every time i see that post chiding trans men for using women's restrooms i want to chew on somebody's head. you think i LIKE using the women's restroom? you think i LIKE having to make a grim hobson's choice of "which bathroom is least likely to get me yelled at" every time i need to pee? i'm fucking flabbergasted that this is seen as "men invading female spaces" or "AFABs flexing their privilege" as opposed to, oh idk, a vulnerable group of people doing their level best to avoid being harassed and assaulted. like we are not the ones in the wrong here

[meltinii]

tgcfisms….

[sualne]

Old and new gifts.

(timeline)

[clowns0up-felix]

Been wanting more women. Probably won’t go through w it but it has been on the mind

[gayhenrycreel]

how do i explain to certain trans men that being considered one of the bros does not mean they have access to something that definitionally means having systemic power over every woman and trans person. no you dont have male privilige. try arguing that again when you create a world in which trans men dont face misogyny. you cant have male privilige if you are still in a world where you are barred from abortion

[hualianschild]

[lazycranberrydoodles]

you’d think after 800 years he’d learn his lesson about taking afternoon naps. / prev comic / follow for more sleepy xie lian

[trixxedheart]

It is amazing how the "people that love and uplift transwomen" website will instantly fucking maul a transwoman if she even remotely insinuate that using radfem rhetoric harms trans people