#queer stuff

[my-castles-crumbling]

Creepy men: Ooooo you're married to a girl? What do you and your wife do together, huh? Huh?

Me: Well, my wife just listened for 20 minutes while I told her all about how ao3 and tumblr are now dating, and responded with appropriate 'ah's and 'oh, cool's when I showed her my favorite fanart of the ship. So yeah, I'd say I'm pretty fulfilled, if that's what you're asking?

Creepy men: I-

[kla1991]

And also why so many treat it like an inherent, mandatory aspect of all sex acts instead of one of a variety of mindsets about how to approach sex.

made me think of some of you <3

[phoenixyfriend]

Someone who is not me (someone who is a trans woman and knows k-pop) needs to write an essay on:

KPDH provides us with both a character who is a queer/trans allegory and a character who is queer/trans coded. And they are not the same character!

Rumi is an allegory with no suggestions of actually being queer or trans, while Mira is coded in such a way that it is easy to read her as queer or trans.

Rumi's story parallels a lot of the queer experience in terms of the presented anxieties, the fear of rejection by friends if they Find Out The Truth, and for trans people in particular, the feeling of your own body betraying you and trying to reveal, as you get older, the ways in which you are not what you wish to be. The bits you want to hide and get rid of.

Mira's a 'problem child' and was 'cast out by her family.' From an early age, you're shown that she's stuck with pink in a way that's not 'normal,' she's rebelled, and she finds it difficult to make friends, viewing her own self as difficult despite putting so much care into her friends, and fearing that she'll never find people to fit in with. It's easy to look at her story and see it as 'her family didn't like that she was queer, and so she struck out to build a family that did.'

It's such an interesting dichotomy to encounter, and it's led to sort of equal amounts of trans girl headcanons for both, at least as far as I've seen.

(And Zoey is written in such a way that any identity in this sphere could be projected onto her, and it would work because she's not coded in a way that suggests or disproves any of them.)

Anyway, someone who knows the context better please write this, because I'm not qualified lol

[thankyouforthefunny]

[nedlittle]

for $1 name your favourite fictional lesbian. and no "straight female character popularly fanonized as a lesbian" or "this male character is a lesbian to me" allowed

[summoningspark]

"Nor is it true that reacting to the news of someone else’s transition must necessarily involve mourning, grief, a sense of loss, painful adjustment, etc"

Finding out that someone you love is transitioning is only an occasion to mourn the life they could have had if they had been able to transition sooner. You do not mourn the daughter you think you are losing, you mourn the son you did not get to raise.

(of course, we know that what they're really grieving is their ability to carry on with their gender essentialist assumptions unchallenged)

I really wish this article existed when I was in my 20s. It might have saved me from the 13 year slow crawl from coming out to starting HRT that plunged me into a deep depression, destroying my mental health and most of my finances. I wish I had the awareness and confidence then to stand up for myself and transition so much sooner.

[pharawee]

Marriage Equality Achieved!

Today, January 23, the marriage equality law officially takes effect. Thailand now recognizes the right of all couples, regardless of gender, to legally register their marriage.

At 6.15am, the first couple, 33 year old Ploynapas Jirasukon and 32 year old Kwanporn Kongphet arrived, hand in hand, to register their marriage. Together for 17 years since high school, the Bangkok-based couple radiated joy as they became Thailand’s first officially recognised LGBTQ+ married couple.

Ploynapas shared her excitement, “We’re thrilled to be the first couple to register our marriage. It’s a proud moment, but there’s still more to achieve, like equality in child custody and legal titles.”

Sumalee, 64, and Thanaporn, 59, became the first same-sex couple to register their marriage at Bang Rak today.

Traveling all the way from Phetchabun, they chose Bangkok's "district of love" for this special occasion.

Permsap and Puangphet, the second couple to register their marriage in Pathumwan District, shared that they had waited 17 years for this moment, calling it a meaningful achievement.

Although they could have registered in Pai, they chose Pathumwan to express pride in exercising the same legal rights as other Thais. They wore traditional Tai Yai attire from Mae Hong Son, reflecting one partner's heritage, to make the occasion special.

They described the milestone as a collective success for the LGBTQ+ community, achieved through shared efforts.

They hoped future legal changes would address honorific titles for transgender individuals, ensuring fairness for all. The couple encouraged others to stay determined in the fight for equality, believing that persistence leads to success. They also urged countries without equal marriage laws to continue advocating for change.

Reflecting on a past accident, they shared the difficulties caused by the lack of legal recognition. Despite being together for eight years at the time, one was unable to sign medical consent due to the law, underscoring the need for equal marriage rights.

Source: Thai Enquirer, Thairath & The Thaiger

[darlingofdots]

it really is all of us or bust btw. we cannot accept conditional acceptance of queer people, we cannot accept the exclusion of some in exchange for inclusion of others, it's all of us or nothing and we have to be so fucking clear about that. don't let conservatives or terfs or twitter discourse convince you that there's any other option. don't let them get away with it. we're all going to fucking make it and we're not leaving anybody behind

[sharkfinsoap]

I posted this to tumblr over a year ago.

What’s funny (and admittedly kinda sad) was at the time, I only half-believed that third panel. It was more of me trying to convince myself to believe that notion. And, in some ways, it really did help to put it out there. When I saw others resonate with the post in solidarity or support, it helped speed up my peace with my own hair.

All my life, my relationship with my hair has been somewhat tumultuous.

I always suspected that my mom wanted a living doll more than to raise a human person. She liked the idea of having me more than the reality, and it translated through how she dressed me, especially with my hair. She was obsessed with it and showed it off like a prized poodle, putting it in model-esque ‘dos way beyond my age.

My hair is thick and wavy, and I have a pretty sensitive scalp. As a child, it was heavy, itchy, and in the way of my ability to run around and be an animalistic, grass-stained little rascal. I wasn’t allowed to cut it, so my default style was having it pulled back into a low ponytail.

Needless to say, cutting my hair to a more masculine style in adolescence devastated my mom and made the rest of my family uncomfortable. It was a complete betrayal and seen as me throwing away something valuable about me. I felt like an instant downgrade that made me go from beautiful girl to ugly fake-boy, and the idea that I was uglier by my own choice followed me for years.

When I learned that going on T increased my odds of male pattern baldness as I aged, I feared it like the Reaper. I began to obsess over my hairline, watching it for any changes.

By my mid twenties, I’d been on T for several years. It was around that time when I fully grew into my adult hairline with an average widow’s peak. I thought that this was the beginning of the end, and became insanely insecure about it. Combined with my round forehead and small brow bone that would have served me well if I were more feminine presenting, I felt like a goofy-looking bug-eyed dome.

Now I’m in my early-mid thirties, and…

Nothing’s changed. Not really.

If I had to split hairs (no pun intended), I’d say that at most, my hair is a little thinner than it used to be. Otherwise, my hairline hasn’t budged.

But should that REALLY matter?

The older I get, the more grateful I am that I made it this far in life. My values keep developing and changing, and I can feel it translating into my body as well.

“I want to be desirable” is turning into “I want to be healthy”.

“I want to be better than everyone else” is turning into “I want to be happy”.

And with every passing year, the terror of being stalked by potential hair loss has lost its power. At this point, if it comes for me, I think I’ll finally be able to say “you took a long time to get here, and I’m sorry it took me so long to be ready to accept you.”

On balding.

[somethingmissingthiswaycomes]

Not everyone who is a woman is a non-man, and not everyone who is a man is a non-woman. Some people's genders aren't non-anything. Sit on that and nurture it and let it hatch and grow up to be a healthy worldview love and peace on planet earth

[infiniteorangethethird]

it's aro week so here's a quick reminder to all my fellow aros that you don't have to "make up" for being aromantic. You don't have to love your friends twice as much to "make up" for romantic attraction you don't have to have a wide family you don't have to find The One in a qpr instead. If those things are something you want, go for it! But you shouldn't have to feel forced to go into any relationship just to make your aromanticism more palatable to outsiders.

Aromanticism isn't a hole that you need to fill. Sure it's a lack of romantic attraction but it's not a lack of self. You're already full and complete, whether or not you have more or less love in other areas of life. Do what you feel is right for you, not what others expect of you.

[oneawkwardcookie]

[image description: three cartoons, with the same format of Person 1 saying "I'm Non-binary." and Person 2 responding. Person 1 gives Person 2 a look of frustration. Person 2 looks unbothered.

Image 1: person 2 asks "AMAB or AFAB??"

Image 2: person 2 asks "TME or TMA??"

Image 3: person 2 asks "transmasc or transfem??"

/end id]

*wokely* tell me what genitals you have, stranger i just met

[absaart]

Me, seeing a beautiful gay photo, "Oh I'll make a quick study/wriolette !" hm, maybe not so quick 👀

[avengersnewb]

There has been like 50 interactions like these between them since 2020

And then DJ said he is marrying Ty and yet y’all were like hmmmm it’s probably a different Ty.

Well. no. it’s that same Ty.

Congratulations to DJ and Ty 💕 🌈

+ bonus

[ostriches-because-i-said-so]

The gay duck (Courtesy of picrew) respects the gays and knives the hommophobes. Reblog to support the gays, scroll to get stabbed by the gay duck

If you support gay marriage reblog this. If you're on the homophobic side, keep scrolling.

As a bisexual, it sickens me that some people WILL keep scrolling.