#so im constantly in a state of

[elftwink]

tbh if you worry about people secretly disliking or being annoyed by you despite reassurance to the contrary AND you are someone who says "no worries" or "its okay" when there are worries and it isn't okay, those two things are extremely correlated. idk enough about the human brain to claim a causal relationship but just from personal experience it is much easier to accept that other people aren't just placating you and mean what they say if you yourself stop responding to everything with platitudes you don't mean just to avoid conflict. btw the easiest way to stop doing this is not to have the awareness in the moment that's what you're doing (that will come with time and practice) but rather later when you're annoyed and justifying to yourself why they should Just Know it's not okay because of xyz subtle social cues, you have to stop yourself then. and you have to recognize that that's a deeply unfair way to treat someone. and if you aren't able, for whatever reason, to reach out to them and say "hey i know i said everything was fine but it really isn't and i would like something to change", then at the VERY LEAST you MUST be able to say "well I told them it's okay so until such time as I am ready to retract that and discuss this openly, it will have to be okay". this goes quadruple if someone's behaviour is annoying you and you're acting annoyed but when asked directly you go "haha no its fine!" like idc what cues you're using it will never be enough to counter that you directly told them that behaviour is fine with you. it is unfair and cruel to enforce boundaries you never communicated. you cannot tell people how much you love being a doormat and then get mad when they walk over you. and going back to the original point of this post, you will NEVERRR believe that others mean what they say if you never mean what you say. i know we're all just joking around but mentalities like "[throwing up blood angrier than ive ever been in my life] haha sounds good!!" are poisoning you they are ruining your relationships. conflict avoidance is so alluring but all it ever breeds is resentment. if you tell someone there's nothing to worry about, that is how they will act. and that's how they SHOULD act. if you say everything's fine when it isn't, YOU are the one in the wrong, YOU are the one who isn't communicating effectively enough, and the onus is on YOU to fix it or live with it. if you ever ever ever want to believe that people mean what they say, you have to start by meaning what YOU say.

[casualavocados]

#he doesn't want to fight with you ai di, he wants to Kiss🙄💘🥺

Nat Chen as CHEN YI KISEKI: DEAR TO ME (2023)

[stratopshere]

i havent been into tog in like 4-5ish years but one thing that really bothered me when i was into it was the whole simp bam thing idk. i think people need to stop seeing rachel and bam as exes and start seeing them as mother figure and son. yes even though they look/act somewhat close in age. like i mean quite literally she raised him and taught him everything he knew up until the point he entered the tower. even his kindness was taught to him by rachel even after every horrible thing she's done. yes this is even though she looks more like his older sister. i feel like her youth/youthful appearance is intentional (at least to me) since irl girls and women are also forced into motherly roles much younger than theyre ready for

[kitamars]

listen. hijikata has TWO HANDS

[watcher0033]

Almost 1AM and this exchange brought me to tears.

Hear here, we’ll never stop till the world listens. It’s not forever. It’s now.

[sans-guy]

pictured: the christmas party animals

[sirtotallynotatimetraveler]

Plush Pep's travel in Europe (more photos below the cut)

I wish I could have took more pictures with him but I was a little too socially anxious to haha. Maybe next time!

(I posted some of these photos like a month or two ago on reddit, so don't mind if you've seen the pisa tower pics before)

[transmechanicus]

Yipee hooray i ate one full meal today at 9pm after giving like a quart of blood to check my hormones and almost passing out on my walk home. Surely a few hours later i won’t already be-*

…Why am i hungers? 🤨

[bulbabutt]

apologies for another crazy vent. i feel weird being such a between gen of internet users. like im not old enough for the real peak forum days, but im too old to deal with half the shit people expect outta you now.

you wont catch me w a dni list cuz im a fuckin adult so if people piss me off when they rb my shit i just block them OR if a post gets outta hand i will simply turn off rbs.

take your twitter bullshit outta here. that concept did not EXIST 12 years ago. and when it started everyone knew it was really weird. cuz like..... nah man its everyones internet? the internet is public. if you post on a public forum people will just interact with you as that is what you do in public. why do people need to like.... look through your whole shit? and vice versa? thats some surveillance state shit... like tbh i remember 'before you follows' being weird enough, so this is so much weirder.

like the concept of like. 'hey im gonna make art but if you like it you better not have any of the following apply' or 'im going to need your entire history of making art before i decide if its okay to like this'

like bruh. your followers aren't your friends. your audience is not your friends. people who see your posts in a tag dont need to know you. youre not going in to business with strangers. its just..... people who see you on the street in passing and throw a coin in your guitar case, yknow what i mean? you dont need to know anything else about them, theyre just saying 'hey nice!'

like imagine if every time you went to a coffee place you told a barista 'you better not have a foot fetish' like. okay i mean. youre nuts. you are fully nuts. why would it matter, you are going there for COFFEE....... what does the interpersonal desires of a stranger fucking matter?

idk its weird to try and normalize that behaviour. it really disgusts me that this is how people speak about each other. hyping up their 'moral compasses' while painting strangers with monstrous labels and getting them hurt. it sounds so fucking puritanical. like literal puritans. 'PURGE THE DEGENERATES!'

like i do understand wanting people not to make you uncomfortable by misreading something you do, i fully get the desire. but the way people go about handling it is so fucking WEIRD.... all on the defensive 'are you a this or a that, i need all the details about you or else i will harass you and tell everyone your inner most demons' i am. a person. on the internet just posting shit. can i help you? i dont fucking know you??

like why not, idk, save the 'dont interact with me' until someone actually does something to cause you harm? where in that case the 'dont interact' is called blocking people. what the hell are we doing? youre in public? and youre screaming as if the person playing guitar is trying to kill as you walk past because you snooped into their purse and found drugs or some shit. wheres the etiquette?

but then thats the point. its not there as a warning, its a label you have to put on yourself to save yourself from being perceived as something evil.

some people act like every person who doesnt wear a specific badge is literally a serial killer and i really cant stand this culture at all. fucking LOOK AROUND right now. where this kind of culture leads. this is getting so dangerous.

but i guess saying all this is just gonna get me labelled something anyway. cuz everyone gets painted the same. no little nuances of humanity. just righteous good people who are wholesome and the rest are evil doers. sigh.

fascism is on the rise world wide. dunno what else to say.

[gearsphere]

Courier for an art trade!!!

[legally-distinct-corpse]

"chilchuck is that one 'she is 10000-year-old dragon' trope but he is guy so no one ever think it is weird" "people who thirst over him is a pedo" Do. You. Even. Read. The. Manga.

[coridallasmultipass]

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[novelconcepts]

hi! i hope this doesn’t sound weird but your recent post hit a chord with me. the work prospects (& high taxes) look pretty shitty over where i am too so i’ve been looking into temporarily moving to another country with better pay. i don’t know how you feel about it but that’s atleast a thing. i hope you feel better !

Yeah, I keep thinking about this, but I have a house and four pets, so it would be. A lot. And I’d be putting my wife through a lot of stress to probably just find out my brain will follow me to Australia or whatever. But thinking about it constantly anyway.

[clumsypuppy]

reading life changing fanfiction of a subjectively underwhelming source media is a special kind of hell

[linogram]

everyday europeans find new ways to piss me off

[gremzon]

I might have OCD actually