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I feel this on an almost sanctimonious level. Also cute art. Apologies if you mind me rebloging to say this

Please I need someone to talk to please

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Don't say when, say "if".

Instead of telling a little girl "When get a boyfriend when you're older", tell her, "If you get a boyfriend when you're older."

Don't tell a boy "When you want to date later in life", tell him, "If you want to date later in life."

Instead of telling a teen "When you start experimenting with things in college", them, "If you start experimenting with things in college."

Don't tell your preteen "When you start having sex as an adult", tell them, "If you start having sex as an adult."

Don't tell them when. Don't pressure them to go on a predefined path.

Tell them 'if'.

reblog to share this around . please .

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I don't even know what this is but I feel like rebloging it just for fun- Ares of the Forge System

YOU THINK I’M JOKING BUT I’M DEAD SERIOUS

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As a part in a system that struggles with having hyper-empathy I don't blame you. Like wtaf I hate people who blame disorders for actions and then are prejudice to anyone with the disorder need to take a moment and reflect on themselves.

putting the word empathy in a heavily locked and secured hidden underground bunker till y'all can be normal about people that don't have empathy.

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guys guys. hear me out. what if we all let other people have their headcanons about whatever they want as long as its not harmful. you headcanon that this character is aroace? awesome! oh but you headcanon that that character is actually dating their best friend? that's okay too! you headcanon that this other character is trans? oh that's perfectly fine :) oh you think that their chemistry is better with someone other than the main love interest? that's cool! guys. it really doesn't matter what you headcanon as long as it's not harmful. tbh as long as it isn't proshipping or romanticising bad things, then who cares . if you share it you might get hate but please just remember that your headcanons are YOURS and you don't have to change them. [excluding problematic things]

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Thank you to everyone who got me to 100 likes!

Aaaa ahhh how and when did this happen???

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This right here. This is so real.

Queer discourse is going to kill me i fear.. someone told me thst being in a qpr is being "" best friends "" and while yeah it can be it's not always?? saying a whole type of relstionship doesnt exist for a joke and a laugh because you dont have that experience is just. so fucking dumb to me?? i want to be on whatever gives them the audacity lmfao 😭

"" qpr? don't you mean.. best friends? heh... gottem bois #libsOWNED "" what if i hit you with my car.

you dont see aromantic people going around en mass saying "" dating isnt real because i dont experience romantic attraction "" because we know how it feels to be invalidated like that?? even aspecs outside of qprs know how common it is to get shit or not be believed about ur identity so like allos are giving entitled and i know theres no way to make them understand because again they just want to put someone down for a laugh but. i WISH theyd be capable of intelligent thought for once in their life and feel Regret <//3

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When people ask what is wrong with me... I think back to one time in a mental hospital when one of the techs said to me "thank God I'm not your therapist, I'd need therapy after working with you"... So ig a lot... A lot is wrong with me- Kaleb of the Forge System

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Man people who think you can't have too much empathy can f*** off, on the same note people who hate on those who lack empathy can also f*** off.

Having hyper empathy is hellish. Like the fym you can have second hand PTSD(it's a real thing) luckily ish I don't experience that, but I do experience major Dissociative episodes when someone I care about goes through something stressful and I learn about it.

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As a part in a system with hyper-empathy... I still don't understand the people who are so adamant about the (false) idea that somebody lacking empathy is automatically a bad person or should be correlated with abusive people who also lack empathy. Anybody is capable of abusing others- do not blame a disorder for any abusive person's actions.

Ffs please stop calling abuse *insert disorder* abuse, just call it abuse. Categorizing abuse based on the Abuser's conditions does more harm than "good".

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what? oh sweetheart no, you're not weirding me out at all. you're weirding me in. keep talking, freak

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As a disabled homeless young adult...

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Hot take but I feel that saying you identify as a system (especially if you're saying it isn't traumabased) is kinda like somebody saying any of the following-

"I identify as a psycho-sociopath uwu because isn't that such a cute idea"

"I identify as a schizo owo, hallucinations are so quirky"

Like none of those things are cute or fun or quirky and ARE NOT identities they are mental disorders and people with those issues need therapy and medication.

Just because DID and OSDD people have different "identities" DOES NOT make it simply an identity disorder.

Finally, an identity disorder and an identity are two separate things yes an identity disorder affects the identity but it DOESN'T make the disorder an identity on its own.

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I have a few things I must say.

1. So you started off by saying it is not harmful for yourself but instead harmful for actual systems... That's incorrect on different levels. It's morally wrong for starters, and factually not entirely correct either.

2. I would just like to point out, systems don't intentionally separate themselves. It's an involuntary reaction in the brain that starts in early childhood and prevents the brain from forming 1 singular and proper identity and all of this happens due to immense early childhood trauma.

This may be a hot take but i think "polymind" people need to take a step back. Because from what ive seen being "polymind" is literally just being a normal human being.

Everyone acts differently around different people. You dont treat your parents the same as you treat your bf. Thats normal. Thats called code switching ffs.

If you wanna roleplay just roleplay. Dont repackage endogenic bullshit to avoid responsibility.

NOT TO MENTION-why would you purposefully cause identity disturbance?? Naming your subpersonalities is fucking dangerous. The more you force a separation of self the more you fuck yourself over.

Plurality outside of DID is real but its normally associated with CLOSED religious practices. Which is stated in the dsm-v to be a completely separate experience.

Tbh im just sick and tired of people making up new ways to mock the system community. Because that is what youre doing. You are pretending to be a system without any of the other debilitating, horrific, uncomfortable parts that come with it.

Its just disrespectful. And if this post upsets you? I dont care. You need to separate yourself from the yes men that make up the "polymind" community.

There are so many systems out there that find "polymind" to be an offensive mockery of our experiences. So. How about you listen to them. Listen to the minority that are SCREAMING at you that this whole thing is harmful.

And if you think that ignoring the voices of systems is acceptable, you really, sincerely, suck.

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Dear whoever this may concern,

Genuinely what is a "poly-mind", like can someone explain it to me WITHOUT making it sound like a misunderstood CDD which from what I have been led to believe it is not?

I just came back from dormancy and there are quite a few things I am having to learn.

Sincerely,

GLAM