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i’m free on thursday if you wanna start a toxic codependent thing

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As a kid I tried to memorize Titanic and We’re Back and a few other movies so I could watch them in my head while I was out and about and bored.

i'm still mad about that post thats like "humans USED to be able to memoriize long epic poems, but we no longer have Bards so our memories arent as good" boy shut the fuck up. a good chunk of people i went to high school with had the entirety of hamilton memorized for fun and they weren't even autistic.

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becoming an adult cheat sheet!

learn to coupon

what to do when you can’t afford therapy

cleaning your bathroom

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

stress management

quick fix meals

find out if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

resume workshop

organize your closet

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

what you should bring to a doctor’s appointment

what’s a mortgage?

how to pick a health insurance plan

hotlines list

your first gynecology appointment

what to do if the cops pull you over

things to have in your car in case of emergency

my moving out masterpost

how to make friends as an adult (video)

how to do taxes (video)

recommended reads for surviving adulthood (video)

change a flat tire (video)

how to do laundry (video)

opening a bank account (video)

laundry cheat sheet

recipes masterpost

tricks to help you sleep more

what the fuck should you make for dinner?

where should you go for drinks?

alcohol: know your limits

easy makeup tips

find seat maps for your flight

self-defense tips

prevent hangovers

workout masterpost

how to write a check

career builder

browse careers

birth control information

financial management software & app (free)

my mental health masterpost

my college applications masterpost

how to jumpstart a car

sex ed masterpost

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Maybe I could make like a side blog? And just keep track of rules and ideas there.

I want to make a 2d20 ttrpg based on the sims 4

Mostly because I’ve been learning game mechanics/numbers from the sims to roleplay characters/generate ideas of what some might do when I’m running low on inspiration/mindfully approach my life, and I’ve come to realize that the amount of detail that can run background in a video game is not something that can be managed as you mess around real time very easily

Also because im tired of trying to look up specific numbers and chances and annoying people who actually know how to read the code/have access to the computer by asking (though it would still be helpful)

But basically I want to change the system to kinda hybrid mesh it with 2d20 so that it’ll actually be usable because I really enjoy it but can’t keep up using any specific character for very long

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I want to make a 2d20 ttrpg based on the sims 4

Mostly because I’ve been learning game mechanics/numbers from the sims to roleplay characters/generate ideas of what some might do when I’m running low on inspiration/mindfully approach my life, and I’ve come to realize that the amount of detail that can run background in a video game is not something that can be managed as you mess around real time very easily

Also because im tired of trying to look up specific numbers and chances and annoying people who actually know how to read the code/have access to the computer by asking (though it would still be helpful)

But basically I want to change the system to kinda hybrid mesh it with 2d20 so that it’ll actually be usable because I really enjoy it but can’t keep up using any specific character for very long

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Hercules (1997) dir. John Musker & Ron Clements

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The way I watched this movie on repeat as a child and it took this post and its tags for me to finally know what the hell was being said when they said Dewitt Bukater

Titanic (1997) dir. James Cameron

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since mrs, ms, and mr are all descended from the latin word magister, i propose the gender neutral version should be mg, short for "mage"

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I’m on House MD Season 2 episode 3. (3 is the next I will watch, just watched 2)

This show is getting worse

Also if they change this cast soon I will die

(Except Stacy kick her out)

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I’m hitting season 2 of House MD and 2 episodes in boy howdy they dug their heels in didn’t they

The way I cringed when Chase actually kissed the 9 year old with cancer 😬 you have no idea how relieved I was when House was not right about her being a molested child purposefully lying and manipulating Chase right there, but regardless, god, Chase, if you can’t stand the begging walk out please

I’m not saying I think he was a disgusting pervert about it or anything but I think if you want to play the “last wish kiss” or something sympathetically you gotta be reaaaaally careful, that man may be saving lives but he wouldn’t be saving many more if that mother walked in and saw him kissing her daughter, “she was asking me to” be damned

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hi, a lot of you need a perspective reset

the average human lifespan globally is 70+ years

taking the threshold of adulthood as 18, you are likely to spend at least 52 years as a fully grown adult

at the age of 30 you have lived less than one quarter of your adult life (12/52 years)

'middle age' is typically considered to be between 45-65

it is extremely common to switch careers, start new relationships, emigrate, go to college for the first or second time, or make other life-changing decisions in middle age

it's wild that I even have to spell it out, but older adults (60+) still have social lives and hobbies and interests.

you can still date when you get old. you can still fuck. you can still learn new skills, be fashionable, be competitive. you can still gossip, you can still travel, you can still read. you can still transition. you can still come out.

young doesn't mean peaked. you're inexperienced in your 20s! you're still learning and practicing! you're developing social skills and muscle memory that will last decades!

there are a million things to do in the world, and they don't vanish overnight because an imaginary number gets too big

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Can we talk about how Dylan George is presented as a piece of shit but ends up being the only one of the outies who truly treats his innie as an adult, taking into account their desires and feelings, and even sees them as a part of himself to admire and look up to? Can we talk about how Dylan George never paternalizes Dylan G like Mark Scout does with Mark S, nor does he treat him as a tool like Helena Eagan treats Helly R? Can we understand how Dylan George, despite everything that might bother him about his wife’s relationship with his innie, understands that his innie is attracted to her because, despite everything, his wife is his world and it makes sense to him that his innie would see her that way too, and admires his innie’s ability to be the person that, due to circumstances, he has stopped being? I mean, what a marvel Dylan George is. He basically gets it all. That “I would like you to stay alive because I think knowing you’re there makes me a better person, but you can choose whatever you want because I understand you are independent of me, and I have no right to decide for you, because even knowing you are part of me, I still see you as an individual and not as an extension” that represents his letter is pure brilliance. Mark Scout treats Mark S like a rebellious and ungrateful child, and Helena Eagan treats Helly R like a means, not even considering her a being with her own consciousness, but Dylan George treats Dylan G like a fucking person. Totally unexpected but wonderful.

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WHEEZING

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Okay had a thought from a comment on one of my posts that helped me articulate something

I was a few paragraphs deep into defending innie Mark’s feelings for Helly despite the persons issues with it (they’re only being together for a few weeks/months, the focus on whether Mark could tell the difference between Helly/Helena never being resolved, the shows sudden shift to having so much romance)

And like, I have arguments defending my opinions on Markhelly, sure. But I realized as I rambled them- my real feelings about Mark’s decision at the end of that hallway were not about Markhelly or Markgemma. Just like the show isn’t really about shipping or romance.

Here’s the thing: I’d argue that if Petey was still alive, (and their relationship remained platonic), he could have been the one at the end of that hallway, with a bit less romantic of a look, and I would have still bought the decision. Hell, I might have bought it as things are if Irving miraculously appeared. (would have been on the edge of my seat for how they explained that in season three, but just as an example.)

Because it’s not about the romance. It’s about the innies.

The show took a turn at the end of season 2- a predictable one, but at the same time one that seems to come out of nowhere.

We spend two seasons building up these characters, and their issues, and a whole new sci-fi-esque oppressed group of people.

And yet what was our conflict and goal really about? Who was our main character?

In one sense- Mark, of course.

But if we divide it between Innie and Outie Mark- Outie Mark is significant, but the show is not about him. And yet it has been. This whole show has been like- is Outie Mark gonna choose to help Petey? Reintegrate? Omg, his wife is down there? We have to save her!! And saving her has been the main goal for a while.

And Innie Mark wants to save her. He does. He’s a good person, he doesn’t want her to suffer.

But all this running around, romance with Helly, revolution, all that- it’s led to something else- he values his own life. We know it, we agree with it, and yet we still almost have the same surprised reaction Outie Mark does when he asserts it.

There is a distinct, hopeless tragedy looming over Mark and Helly this whole episode, because despite all we’ve been led to care about Innies being people and Innies having autonomy and innies having lives that end if their Outies never come back to work- in the final episode, doing the “right thing” is going to trap them.

It’s not the Innie’s world out there. Tomorrow they’re going to be gone no matter what they do. The last bit of good they do, is an act of good for the Outies. Mark *may* reintegrate if his Outie isn’t lying. If his outie will risk it after he has everything he wants. If that even still means some form of existence for innie Mark, cause won’t his 40 years swallow up innie Mark’s two? And Helly simply has no chance. Helena will never reintegrate. And Helly probably doesn’t want to be reintegrated with that kind of person.

So they are trapped. Alone, really. The show that seemed to be about the Innies has become Outies vs Lumon, using the Innies and their rebellion as foot soldiers to save one Outie woman. Innie Mark has been holding on by his finger nails trying to find a way to choose Innies, but there’s no way. No Option C. Mark and Helly expect to die.

But then our protagonist is faced with a pivotal decision. A couple of steps from leaving, making the final sacrifice for the Outies, ceasing to exist- which he hesitates to do even in his rush because that’s fucking scary-

Helly appears. Finally, Option C.

She’s not just the woman he loves. She got more Innies on her side. She’s got a minor resistance going. There’s a chance they could hold things off for a day. A few hours. An hour. A few minutes. Anything. Of course they’re not gonna win. Who said you have to win to make a difference?

Is it really love between them? Something objectively as true and full as what Outie Mark has with Gemma?

Who fucking cares? He’s been alive for 2 years. A couple of months must feel like a couple of Marks years, relatively. Not to mention, she changed everything about him. Set him free emotionally. Revolutionized him.

Who cares if it’s not quite up to Outie standards?

So what if they have half a love?

So what if they have half a life?

You expect them not to fight for it?

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mark s you poor man. half of the fandom hates you for literally wanting to live, and not end your life for two strangers. one of which is your outie who doesn’t even see you as a full person. you don’t even owe him anything, yet you still helped his wife escape because you are a good person and you knew it was the right thing to do. then all you wanted was to be with the woman YOU love for as long as you could. don’t even worry about it i will be defending you like there’s no tomorrow

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Some people: mad at Mark S for choosing himself for a few more minutes with Helly

Me: just relieved that he didn't kiss her in front of Gemma even though he wanted to so bad

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king of reclaiming his agency as a person in the terrifying face of oblivion #TeamInnieMark