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ai tiddy drop

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Bouncy boy

(via)

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Emporium Spring Cleaning Sale

Over 20 items on sale. The last chance to get these items (some of them up to 85% off) before they are gone forever.

The Air Hockey table Ibble bought will be here on Friday so we need to move some product to make room.

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Tumblr University t-shirt

We're back in business! The crabs are happy as... well, crabs, that I'm back, and that I've given them all a raise! It just seemed like the right thing to do! I think I learned my lesson about leaving a job on short notice—not a synergistic thing to do at all. It won't happen again! —Brick Whartley

Did you receive a quality meme education at tumblr university? If so, show your school pride with this shirt.

Canvas 3001CVC Shirt

Stealth color combo

Retail fit & Unisex sizing

Side seams

Tear away label

About the Artist

This design was created by Justin Carlson. When not helping us make fun products for the tumblr shop you can find him do collaborative drawing projects on Instagram.

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How to achieve better relationships

I hate Relationship Goal Lists. You see them on pinterest and various other social-platforms. The problem with a lot of these is they read like christmas lists.

"And Santa I want a rich man with perfect teeth, who is not shallow and loves me unconditionally, but he must have bright blue eyes and must buy me roses. He will never cheat on me or betray me and we will stay up all night talking about all the deep and meaningful things i nbetween making-love and bathing eachother in love and praise. He will understand that words of praise are part of my love-language but so are acts of service because what's the point of words without deeds that prove love?I want to get married in tuscany, and have three children. I expect to get flowers on a friday , and for him to know my favourite colour is baby-blue. he must charm my parents and be able to switch into bastard mode in the bedroom".

Effort comes before expectation. Sure you have a right to set a standard but having skills to see what healthy and fulfillment is to you will be far more useful than simply demanding to have a requirement met.

So here is a list of relationship skills. These skills may just help you achieve some of your goals too.

Effective communication involves both partners clearly communication your own thoughts and feelings and actively listening.

Being more accepting and undertsanding encourages these conversations. You may well dissagree but try to establish the full story before putting forward dissagreement rather than shutting your partner down if an opinion seems unfair.

The aim is not to punish anybody for their thoughts so you need to build confidence and esteem when you interact. It is your role to build eachother up so you can say the things that are hard to say.

You can't rescue your partner from all negative emotion. Sometimes people have sadness. The best way to promote healing is to create an environment where it is safe for the to express the "sadness, anger, frustration" without fear of offending or being judged.

Recognize that couples still have individual goals and can manage perfectly well with dissagreements on subjects. It is not your role to say yes to everything or to please your partner constantly. Sometimes human beings simply dissagree. If you can agree to dissagree then that's a resolution.

Set boundaries around the things that are absolutely required for you. When boundaries conflict to greatly sometimes individuals find they are not compatible.

Your partner does not to be the source for meeting all your needs. if you need more debate , or more agreement, or to share a specific goals there is nothing stopping you meeting these needs outside of the relationship.

In a relationship we are trying to balance your needs and the other persons also. It gets even trickier if you're poly.

Lets begin with you. This is Maslows Hierarchy of Needs . The foundation is your basic phsiological needs, which we hope you are meeting and nobody is denying you, as this would constitute serious abuse.

Catgeory 2: it starts to get more complicated. There may be reasons in a relationship that you feel less safe and secure, for instance if the other person does a high risk job this can impact your sense of safety and security. perhaps you have to travel with them or perhaps you feel unsafe around some of their family members or friends.

Category 3+4 The emotional psychological needs . Do you feel valued , loved and like you belong? The 3 & 4 are the aspects we can address because they actually make achieving the goals at the top far more possible.

Consider your psychological needs, break them down to concrete examples of how your needs could be met with specific actions and express this to your partner. Ask your partner to do the same. You are on the road to learning how to nurture your relationship. You already have the answers. There are no guru's who can tell you anything you don't already know. You just need to to talk and listen and hear eachother.

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Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.

- T.S. Eliot

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Dentro del tornado, Little Rock

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...And it tasted good too.

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#my life motto

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La música es de Bach, pero el instrumento es la primera vez que lo veo. Parece una zanfoña, pero no, no es una zanfoña. Si alguien sabe como se llama ese instrumento que se manifieste.

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tu gótica culona favorita

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Unmute !