allthatisadmirable

[allthatisadmirable]

I'm curious, that kind of response do you want from your parents? I know some have stated that they might get discriminated against or looked as if they're freaks; or in your situation, it seems like you don't like that they were dismissive to your asexuality.

I'm 23 y/o and I think I've just found out that I'm asexual literally like 1 hour ago. I hope this doesn't seem to minimize your distress but it's really not a big deal to me. I"m more relief that there are people out that who are the same as me. It would be that I"m not bothered by it because I'm heteroromantic asexual, which isn't too far off the "norm".

In your situation, are you biromantic or homoromantic?

i want some advice on how to finally get my parents to accept that asexuality is a real sexual orientation because if they say im just begging for attention one more time im going to cry

[allthatisadmirable]

Heteroromantic asexual

While I was looking online to see if other ladies have had problems with guys thinking misinterpreting the ladies' friendliness, I came across this website, http://www.asexuality.org/en/

I understood asexuality to be someone who was not sexually attracted to anyone. And that is the correct definition. However, the misunderstanding I had, which I'm sure many people have too, is that sexual attraction is not the only type of attraction. I thought to be asexual as a female, I would have to not be attracted to either sex. What I discovered on this website was that there are several types of attraction: sexual attraction,esthetic attraction, romantic attraction; and types of asexuals. And asexual does not mean that one cannot be sexually aroused, one could be aroused by the physical activity or not. There's a lot of gray areas/spectrum.

I don't know that I would label myself an asexual but I don't recall ever being sexually attracted to someone i.e. wanting or fantasizing a physical sexual activity with the person. However, I do feel attraction for the opposite sex so here's what I learned from the website above, I may be heteroromantic, meaning that I'm not necessarily sexually attracted to the opposite sex but I'm emotionally and esthetically attracted to the opposite sex.

And here's another article I found, http://www.vice.com/read/asexuality-the-peoples-choice-for-people-who-dont-want-anyone

It's on asexuals wanting to joint the LGBT community as a group in "queer".  And it discusses how some in the LGBT community don't think asexuals belong in it.

As a heteroromantic asexual (since hetero=straight in layman's term), I don't identify with queer or with the LGBT community. Maybe if one were a homoromantic asexual or biromantic asexual, it would be included in the LGBT.

[allthatisadmirable]

when the guy just doesn't get that not interested means not interested

I recently graduated college and for some reason, guys seem to think I'm looking for serious relationship/marriage. *insert WTH face*

  I've always given of no dating, not interested vibe and have never dated. It's Simply because I'm not emotionally ready and I'm focusing on my family, school and enjoying the single life.

  and there's this guy who after I've politely rejected him, kept coming back even when I've HONESTLY told him straight out, I'm not interested in him or anyone and won't be looking for a relationship for YEARS. And there he is calculating our age differences and when I'll be done with school so that we can get married.

it's one thing to be open minded, but I know enough about attraction and relationship to know I'll never be attracted to him, he's deep in the friend zone. And I'm smart enough to know that it brings more pain to get in a relationship with the wrong person just because you're lonely and/or not ready.

[allthatisadmirable]

Don't be fooled easily. He could just be bored. If he's really changed into a better person, he should prove it by how he treats you AND the people around him.

what do i do when a guy i used to like randomly messages me on facebook?? but then this guy acted like a douche towards me in the past...should i message him back or ignore him?? decisions...

[allthatisadmirable]

when something like this happens, 1) logically, are you or your friend more compatible with the guy. 2) if you aren't, let her have the chance first. And if they don't work out, you give it a try. Or 3) tell her that you like him. If you don't, and if she tells you she likes him, you'll be one of those sad characters in a movie who get sad about the one that got away or playing the 'what if' game. If you tell your friend first, it automatically gives you first dibs. At the end of it all though, it depends on who the guy likes back, you or your friend.

I need help. On the male gender… I like my best friend. I think my (girl) best friend likes him too but I’m afraid to ask her because I’m afraid of her answer.

[allthatisadmirable]

Tis the season, this is my new favorite Christmas song, “Light of the Word”.  

I love her raw, husky voice that is soft and soothing at all the right places in the song. I can feel the message of the song. 

The world waits for a miracle The heart longs for a little bit of hope O come O come Emmanuel A child prays for peace on earth And She’s calling out from a sea of hurt  O come O come Emmanuel And Can you hear the angels singing Glory —- to the light of the world Glory —- the light of the world is here The drought breaks with the tears of a mother A baby’s cry is the sound of love come down Come down Emmanuel He is the song for the suffering He is Messiah, the prince of peace has come He has come Emmanuel For all who wait For all who hunger For all who’ve prayed For all who wonder Behold your King Behold Messiah Emmanuel, Emmanuel

This is the acustic version, but she’s also got a studio version with lyrics, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_cLhaZIBSpo

[allthatisadmirable]

This vest features faux double color layer. The colors contrast and the faux side buttons are a fashion forward piece.

I love this vest. It looks so comfortable. Gift idea? hmmm..

[allthatisadmirable]

The underdog of Christmas plants, the Christmas cactus

My Christmas Cactus flowers. When you thought nothing blossoms in the winter, a cactus of all things, proves your wrong! :p

I love the fact that it’s a cactus plant, meaning it doesn’t require much water or care. Whooo…because I forget to water my plants and if I do, I sometimes over water. RIP baby basil.

[allthatisadmirable]

Best nonprimer-primer

Before you freak out, don’t worry, it’s not the yeast infection Monistant kind.

This is the best nonprimer-primer I’ve ever used and it’s only $6-8 per tube and you really don’t use much per application. And if you research, it’s the same ingredient in this tube that’s in some of the popular expensive primers out there. 

It comes out as clear gel like consistency. And I only need 1/4 - 1/2 pea side for my whole face and neck. I’ve had acne all through out puberty and that left a lot of ice-picking scars on my cheeks. Although I only get a few blemishes here and there now, my face is far from smooth.  But using this under my makeup has improved the smoothness and softness of my skin, oil control (I have a huge problem with this), and my makeup stays on the WHOLE day! I’ve actually gotten compliments from family for my skin, and that has NEVER happened before. 

I share this with my friends and family because really, when you’ve got something this good, you can’t help but share.