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“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭6:34‬ ‭

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"All my wealth is in the Cross. There's nothing more I want Than just to know His love. My heart is set on Christ; And, I will count all else as lost."

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You're so beautiful Tobi ! Hope you have a great week and I pray all your dreams come true. You continue to inspire me. 💖😘

This certainly made my week! Thank you so much my darling! God bless you, xxx

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Drop the wall. Drop the fist.

Should you need to fight a war, make love your weapon, instead.

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Words Sweet words Nothing but Empty Empty words

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Congrats Tobi on getting your MSc! You truly inspire me and I'm so happy for you ❤️

Thank you, thank you, thank you so so so much! I pray that I'm able to keep doing so! ❤️

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You and Gabby Douglas look so alike omgg!

Think you've got the wrong page darling - not me!

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Hey do you have a Nigerian passport? If so how did you manage to travel to so many countries ? Was it easy getting a visa everywhere?

Passport too green, haha!For one, I had a French residence permit for a year so I could travel freely within the EU. Prior to that and likewise afterwards, I’ve just planned trips properly and made the relevant applications with all requirements met. I think the biggest challenge is usually showing you have sufficient funds for your period of travelling and return. So it’s advisable to keep about £1000 in your account for one to three months (depending on the country of entry) or alternatively, use your parent(s) bank statement. The latter will however have to be supplement with a letter from your parent(s) confirming that your trip would be sponsored.

Happy to help/give more advice, though at a token. Hit me up if you need me: house.of.zahrah@hotmail.comAll the best!

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love your weave, the short one that you have on rn. where is it from pls xxxx ?

I'm not sure when this message came in but all my weaves are from love hair online & coloured myself. Thanks babe, xxxx

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Comeeee back please! :)

Hey hey hey, I'm back!! :) xxx

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"You have serious trust issues" "You have serious trust issues" "You have serious trust issues" These five words You uttered as many times As our palms met. Fixated on the present You failed to see that Just by being in the same space as you Was me trusting you And showing a willingness to overcome My serious trust issues.

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hello, just wanted to ask. Did you get a first in your second third and fourth year or how did it work out? If you don't mind stating your grade in these years? currently on a 2.1 and trying to see if i can pull through in my last year and get a first. Thanks x

Hey babes I would have to go through my files to pull up the grades and that’s effort - sorry. But to answer your question, yes I did get a first in my second third and fourth year. Unless you’re in hull, it’s pointless trying to use my grades to measure yours. Similarly, I would say to stop trying to do the maths and just trust God. You can calculate from now till tomorrow, that ain’t gon change a thing. You can start putting in the work now (whatever the cost) and work towards a 1st. At the end of the day, your grades don’t define you. So if you make it or if you don’t, keep your head up high. Your future is not confined to your grade, and really? There’s more to life. No where grace will not take you.

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How many guys did you go out with before Sweetheart? Is he your first love?

I dated several people before I ever met Sweetheart. I had several serious boyfriends and had two relationships that lasted over 3 years each. Working out the numbers would be difficult, because how do you count – people you said were your “boyfriends”, people you went on dates with and then didn’t like and didn’t see again. What’s “going out”. 

But let’s answer the more interesting question you asked: 

Sweetheart was not the first person I ever loved. 

I think it’s bullshit that the person you decide to marry will be your first love. Sure, some people will marry the first person they love. But I think that for a lot of people, they will have loved many people before they find their forever partner. 

I loved a couple other partners before I found Sweetheart. I loved them for who I was at the time– and they loved me for who I was. But as I grew and evolved, and as they grew and evolved, we grew in different directions. 

Sometimes that love fell away completely and we no longer are in contact. Sometimes it changed form and instead we remained friends. 

Loving other people before I met Sweetheart helped me learn how to love, learn how to be a good partner. 

Each time you love someone, that love will be entirely different from anyone else you have ever loved. Some of those loves will be intense and passionate, others will be based on shared passions, others based on companionship. Each love you share with another person is unique, and will only happen once in a lifetime. 

But I knew Sweetheart was the one person I could love for the rest of my life because the love I had for him was somehow all those types of love at once – it was passionate and based on companionship. It was love with space for growth and evolution. It was love where we both remained individuals, even while being part of a couple. It was love based on trust and respect. Love with something else that had been missing my whole life. 

Real love is not this magical disney thing where you see someone across a room and you know instantly they’re your prince (or princess) charming. For 99.9% of people, your first love will not be your only or your last. 

But having loved other people does not make your forever love less special – in many ways I think it makes you appreciate how incredible it is even more. 

Real love is so much better than the fairytales or the storybooks. Real love is an incredibly intimate experience of trust and communication. Real love is shared withs someone who supports your goals as fervently as you support theirs and who brings the other half in to work towards your goals as a couple. 

Real love has faults, flaws, imperfections. The person you love will have broken places, things that make you crazy. The things you loved about them will sometimes be the things you hate the most about them. Their intelligence will create their dogged devotion to work that means they miss birthday dinners or anniversaries. Their caring heart will mean they spend time helping friends and family and everyone else and not spending enough time with you. Their meticulousness becomes obsession with cleanliness that makes you crazy you can’t just leave your socks on the floor. 

But you love them all the same. You love them even when you’re angry at them. 

Real love is the person you want to work for. Because love is not a feeling. It’s just not. It’s work. It’s getting up every day and deciding that you want to be a better, more understanding partner. It’s wanting to work to be a better version of yourself to make your partner proud. It’s wanting to be the best husband/wife/mother/father/etc you can be in your household. 

I knew I could love this man forever, because every day I wake up and I am amazed that he picked me (and I know he feels the same). We are not perfect, but we are both fighters and will fight for this relationship (and soon marriage and then family) for the rest of our lives. 

We share values, goals, and visions of how we want our lives to be. We believe in the same important things. We share philosophies on the big things – how to raise children, what is most valuable in life, what makes a good marriage, etc. 

The night Sweetheart told me he loved me, I told him that I thought really loving someone was like coming home. I still believe that. Real love is like coming home, and sometimes there’s work to be done and dishes to be cleaned and floors to be swept – but love is that feeling of wanting to work through the mess, because you’re there, you’re safe, you’re home. 

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Let your passion sustain you.

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“Your foolishness is wiser than my wisest”

Lay me at Your feet, Lord.

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In summary, “don’t be your own barrier.”

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After weeks of little to no sleep, running around, building strong friendships, several value checks and a whole lot of shenanigans, I can confidently say I have been stretched, and I am ready to do more.