You're allowed to change your mind on things. Your opinion can evolve, your desires can change, your priorities can shift. What made you happy at one point in time doesn't have to be your focus anymore. Your attention can go to other things, new ideals can form. Things don't have to be so black and white. What is now doesn't have to be forever. It's okay if you decide to stop being a vegan 5 years from now. It's okay if you stop caring about fashion. It's okay if you sell your collection of whatever, even though you've built a big brand off of it. Not everything that you engage in must be with you for life.
Intimacy is about safety. the peace you feel in someone's presence. The ease in their voice even when you disagree. Someone's attentiveness when you are struggling. Their language when they speak about you. Someone's curiosity to learn you and the surrender when it comes to you.
Don’t ignore red flags, believe people when they tell you who they really are, validate yourself instead of relying on others opinions of you, use common sense, be self-directed, once you figure out what makes you happy and fulfilled you need to furiously chase after that, stop trying to contort yourself to fit the trends of the world every time they pop up, trust your gut
nothing compares to a man who’s healthily protective & obsessed, athletic, career oriented, believes in princess treatment to his woman, emotionally mature, and well mannered.
love love love that i’ve found my passion for studying back this school year. uni feels so much more exciting, and it doesn’t even feel like i’m working. i study ahead out of pure curiosity, and it does wonders.
more studying, more walks, more reading, more skill-based hobbies, more experimenting w pretty fits and hairstyles, more gym, more exploring new things in general, more whole foods/healthy recipes, more financial literacy, more time management, more time off the phone, more being out the loop. nothing else matters
I’ve learned to only seek validation from myself. When I live by my own standards, I feel happy and joyful and pleased with my choices. When I live by other people’s standards, thats when regrets or inadequacy or anxiousness enters the premises.
It really just comes down to, like, why wouldn’t my standards for my own life be good enough? What does other peoples wishes have to do with me? I like it, I’m enjoying the process, it makes me excited, I’m not hurting myself or anyone else, I’m not being a nuisance to society, I’m not stepping on anyone to get ahead, so there’s no reason why I shouldn’t be content with living by my own standards. And when I see others out and about, the need to judge them or feel judged by them just disappears. We aren’t living by the same standards because we are not the same. Our lives are different, our needs are different. And that’s perfectly fine.
This goes for how I choose to conduct my life and also simple things like my standards for beauty and appearances.