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apologue-system

Houston, we have so many problems

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_✦_ System Problematic_✦_ | Adult | 1000+ alters (26 active) |Trans-masc| |Host(s): Davey and Dammek| Hey, we're The Apologue System and this is our personal blog. This blog is owned by a handful of introjects and kin. We aren’t very active here as the lot of us are manning our side blogs. The posse are just vibing; you're welcome to come along for the ride.

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I wanted to talk to you about something that’s been on my mind for a while. Please know I’m saying this because I care about you and want to support your wellbeing.

I’ve noticed you’re really into the Xefros x Dammek ship. I know shipping can be a way of exploring intense feelings or processing experiences, but I also want to be honest: that ship portrays some really toxic, abusive dynamics, especially the way Dammek treats Xefros. When I see people romanticizing that, it can be pretty upsetting—and I think it could be harmful for you too, especially with everything you're dealing with mentally.

I understand you’ve mentioned having DID and moral OCD, and I really respect how hard that must be. But I want to say that mental illness doesn’t excuse harmful behavior—it explains it, but it doesn’t make it okay to dismiss how it affects others. I think it’s totally valid to want comfort and connection, but I worry that this ship might be reinforcing something painful rather than helping you heal.

You deserve healthier stories and connections, ones that don’t retraumatize or isolate you. I’m here if you want to talk more about it or find ways to explore this stuff in safer, more caring ways. I love you and just want to see you safe, respected, and growing.

Hello! So sorry about the wait, we didn't receive a notification for your message. There’s been an influx of donation bots, and our letterbox is getting overwhelmed, I think. I don’t know where they're coming from. I'm sorry about that. I read your message here. I'll be honest, I'm a little confused. This reads personal, but it's not addressed to anyone in particular. I don't believe we've met. Sorry if we have!

This blog is available to all alters. Anyone can use it. I'd rather not make assumptions. I'm not the best at deciphering tone. It feels like you meant to reach someone in particular. Sorry. :c I don't know. My husband typically answers the shipping questions. But this does not read as a question. Did you mean to reach Host Dammek?

I don’t know how to respond. I will try. We don't share the same perspective. Every alter is different in how they feel about shipping matters. Some are for it, others are against it. If I'm not the one you sent for, please disregard what I say.

Good golly I don't know how to respond to this. I think there's some confusion. Right. Okay, to prevent more confusion; context matters. I'm Davey. I'm the other host alongside my husband, Dammek.

We are both fictional introjects. If you're unfamiliar with DID terminology, an introject is an alter of specific origin. Our origin or "source" is a fictional being. How similar we are to our source varies from alter to alter.

Some choose to separate or be estranged from the media that inspired them. Alters can't decide what they are. We can not choose our source. We were created this way. I feel it's important to clarify this because an introject's source can inform their preferences, behaviours, or biases.

To some of us, we ARE the character. To others, we are made in their image but don't reflect the character's values or preferences. It's the nature of DID. It's a dissociative disorder. We are fragmented. We are disconnected from what many perceive as reality. It's very confusing, I know. But I stress the importance of it because it will help you understand our position.

My husband is an introject of Dammek. I'm an introject of Xefros and Dammek. Both. I have two sources; due to trauma, I can only align with the latter. Essentially, that makes us both introjects of Dammek.

I have a small degree of separation from my source (the character). I do align with him. But. I'm an adult introject. I don’t share the same mentality, my emotional intelligence is further developed. I know what a healthy relationship is—I have many! I'm in therapy, and I have supportive partners who love me. My moirail is a Xefros introject. We have a lovely relationship. We communicate throughout the day, we motivate each other when we're down, and we're very affectionate.

I understand how confusing it all is. It's troubling. I don’t care for the current state of Xefros and Dammek's moirallegiance. It's not right. I do find it unsettling. It's unhealthy, and it reminds me of my own past behaviour.

But I know it'll change. The canon Dammek will grow up. He'll learn how to value Xefros as a partner, if not a friend. He's going to learn compassion and the power of camaraderie through Jude. I don’t believe their relationship is doomed. It can be saved, even if they have to separate until that trust is earned. A hearty conversation is what Xefros and Dammek need. A setting of boundaries. That's what saved my relationships. It'll take some time.

When I draw the two together, I hold on to the hope that things will change. Xefros and Dammek used to be my comfort ship. That is no longer the case. I seldom draw the two unless they're requested by introjects in our system, or I'm drawing my partners and I.

Shipping is difficult for me as an introject. I find it cathartic. I take a therapeutic approach, and I draw the relationship I want for them. I try to make it as soft and silly as I can. I just want them to be as happy as I am with my moirail. I know it takes honest work. I can’t control the game's portrayal of my source. I can’t control how the fandom feels about him. My therapist says I can't control or be responsible for other people's feelings, only my own.

Not all aspects of Dammek are bad. I've met kind Dammek introjects. My husband is one. I am one. I am not an apologist, I do believe in accountability. I do believe something has to change, and it should. It will. I'd change it if I could, but I can't. The best I can offer is sweet and silly fanart of the pair. Dammek does care about Xefros. He just has to learn how to show it. If I can do it, he can do it.

#nonny mail #mod davey #long post

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