also also- I wanted to respond to this just for the sake of covering my bases
since so much of the brotherhood got rewritten in oblivion, (see this interview) to me their appearances in previous games are kind of dubious in terms of lore. so, up to whatever your opinion is on that I guess
also, it can be brought back to the idea women are only preferred, and it could be a man if needed
haven't heard anyone talk about this before but,, one theory I have is that the leaders of every dark brotherhood sanctuary are always women, or at least preferably women. I only say this cuz so far all the canon sanctuary leaders (ocheeva, astird, astara) have been women and called 'matron' as their official title. I like to think of it as a way of reflecting the night mother, especially with sanctuaries being treated as their own family units a lot of the time
genuinely so glad this resonates with everyone since I'm definitely going with this in all my dark brotherhood writing
if tes6 comes out and the sanctuary leader is a man I think I might actually turn into the joker
haven't heard anyone talk about this before but,, one theory I have is that the leaders of every dark brotherhood sanctuary are always women, or at least preferably women. I only say this cuz so far all the canon sanctuary leaders (ocheeva, astird, astara) have been women and called 'matron' as their official title. I like to think of it as a way of reflecting the night mother, especially with sanctuaries being treated as their own family units a lot of the time
Imagine your F/O helping you recover from top surgery...
♡ Theirs being the first face you see when you wake up afterwards, carefully giving you some water and crackers to help with the nausea.
♡ They help you change your dressings daily, making sure to look at how everything's healing, and having you look away if you're feeling a bit squeamish.
♡ They empty your drains for you, asking questions to make sure you're comfortable and nothing hurts.
♡ They get fun activities ready for you to do while recovering, getting DVDs of your favorite movies, your favorite games are all close by, a good book is at your bedside table.
♡ They wash your hair for you, since you shouldn't be reaching your arms that high yet! They'll dry and comb it for you too, having you check in the mirror to make sure they styled it the way you like.
haven't heard anyone talk about this before but,, one theory I have is that the leaders of every dark brotherhood sanctuary are always women, or at least preferably women. I only say this cuz so far all the canon sanctuary leaders (ocheeva, astird, astara) have been women and called 'matron' as their official title. I like to think of it as a way of reflecting the night mother, especially with sanctuaries being treated as their own family units a lot of the time