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U GUYS UP FOR A REDRAW

original from fucking 2013.

2025 - 2013 god

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yes i agree with this. sometimes, something is better than nothing. my major point was that people can be stuck in a loop of anti recovery by being in these communities, and can also worsen the stigma of complex disorders, but i know there definitely are people who receive some resemblance of positive and healthy support here. but it really depends where you look and who you interact with — this kind of helpful experience isn't the same for everyone and sometimes leaving these kinds of communities behind (even if it feels wrong) is the best for your future in the long run.

i think what people are missing from my original post is that i'm not trying to dictate things and personally tell kids to leave these communities because "i know better" or anything. i think a lot of people seriously might've taken my words way too personally. i'm speaking from the heart with genuine concern as someone who has been through the wringer (and is still going through it) like the rest of you. DO WHAT WORKS BEST FOR YOU. no i don't trust that everyone knows what "best" is and that's fine. the hardest lessons in life are best learned by making mistakes, falling and getting up, and being dealt bad cards. i believe in everyone's journey to achieve whatever version of themselves they want to be, but at the end of the day, i don't believe this kind of community is built for people who do want to recover.

“Kids shouldn’t be on jiraiblr!” You’re right, they shouldn’t. They should be enjoying life as a kid. But they’re not, they’re fucking miserable, so shut the fuck up and stop complaining. If that’s all you whine about get the hell off jiraiblr, nobody wants you here.

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Everyone thinks they’re radicalized these days. Well start blowing shit up then

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me when i say "actually as someone who has experienced severe trauma on and off the internet, i think children don't deserve to die and children don't deserve to be enabled by content that subconsciously encourages and glorifies self harm and suicide" is apparently a hot take 😭

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correct, not everyone wants recovery, or can even access it in the first place. if that sounds like you, then fuck around and find out and best of luck when you're older. that's the whole point of my post. but you said it yourself, you're not opposed to it of you were given the chance. i hope you get that chance someday. i know it can feel completely out of reach. really, i've been in that position before. but not all hope is lost, and i believe in you. half of recovery is putting in the work for it, but even if you're not there quite yet, i believe in you.

i addressed the "minors can't have a pd" thing two posts below this one so i won't repeat myself again, but for the self harm take, yes it's obviously an opinion but there is a little bit of objectivity in there too. is it fun to clean up? is it fun to be sent to the hospital and be treated like a pet when it goes too far? is it fun to be looked at weirdly and be judged by your own support system when they discover it? is it fun to have your own self harm and struggles in general be used against you? is it fun to be seen as someone lesser than because you are incapable of taking proper care of yourself? sorry to make it blunt. but this is reality. it's "fun" in the sense that it scratches a very unique itch that we all have. and it's beautiful in the sense that there's some element of self empowerment to it. but this topic is nuanced, and that's okay. i'm not trying to say you're wrong.

it's not exactly a false picture, i'm talking from experience. i'm glad your personal circle has some resemblance of support. that's all i'll say about that part.

i'd be happy to take anyone under my wing who wants it, sure, but as a mentor figure, not a parental one. in my current profession, i work with hundreds of kids weekly, so it's something i seriously don't mind. but calling me desperate to help is a reach. i could care less if no one agrees or resonates with what i said. again, feel free to fuck around and find out.

i wish you the best!

“Kids shouldn’t be on jiraiblr!” You’re right, they shouldn’t. They should be enjoying life as a kid. But they’re not, they’re fucking miserable, so shut the fuck up and stop complaining. If that’s all you whine about get the hell off jiraiblr, nobody wants you here.

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relax in the tags lol you look silly. but i'm sorry i clearly struck a nerve. really, feel free to ignore or block me if none of this resonated with you. for some other people, it might've. you said it yourself, everyone has different experiences and feelings in this community. that includes people who agree or can at least reason with me, and this is really for them. keep scrolling.

“Kids shouldn’t be on jiraiblr!” You’re right, they shouldn’t. They should be enjoying life as a kid. But they’re not, they’re fucking miserable, so shut the fuck up and stop complaining. If that’s all you whine about get the hell off jiraiblr, nobody wants you here.

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and on the contrary i'll reply to everything in order! kinda. i do want to firstly say that i'm not trying to argue with you, i'm just replying with my thoughts because i value your opinion in the same way you've read through mine. all of this is in good faith, and i'm not trying to add more negativity onto your plate. lastly, you're not stupid.

anyways, sure, they can. i made a generalized statement. but children and teens being diagnosed with a pd is way less common than you think. the whole reason most practitioners wait until a client is an adult to diagnose a pd is because a lot of pd symptoms overlap with basic hormone changes that kids/teens go through when growing up, and they have to check that symptoms still remain when your frontal lobe is mostly done developing. in hindsight, i personally had almost all bpd symptoms growing up, but it was always diagnosed as a severe form of depression and gad and it was incredibly difficult to get a bpd diagnosis when i eventually could seek professional opinions beyong my family practitioner.

any kind of pd is something that i strongly believe you shouldn't ever claim to have if you're not diagnosed, because you can easily stigmatize it. self diagnosis is another conversation. but again, i totally understand the take that minors can have a pd, yet it really really really it's much rarer than you think.

yes, not everyone's experience is the same. like i said in my original post, i know the purpose of these kinds of communities is to find comfort in relating to others, and sharing to others that will understand how you feel. that is why i am personally in this kind of space too. my issue is the subconscious enabling that occurs the longer and deeper you stay within these spaces, where you end up in an echo chamber that you don't know how to escape because it's all you've ever known growing up. emphasis on subconscious. again, these kinds of online communities are very predatory and take advantage of the growing minds of kids, and that's what hurts my heart. i'm coming from a place of genuine concern, not criticism. and i'm sorry you were told that by people who fail to support you, i had similar things said to me by my mom growing up and to this day.

however you just said a kid dying can be a good thing. i'm not even going to try to reason with you on that one. that's truly an outlandish take and obviously biased. i wish you the best in unpacking the underlying issues that obliged you to say that.

and it's confusing because in the next breath, you talk about teen suicide and how much it hurts for both the victim and those left behind. i too am someone who has grieved teen suicide, and has also been the teen attempting suicide. i'm deeply sorry for your loss and i know how complicated it is to navigate something so traumatic so early in life, and so recent too. there is never an easy solution or answer to grief, neither is there one for dealing with suicidal intentions yourself. but you're not alone, and i hope you can find solace in that.

i'm not trying to help anyone here, and it's eerie that you think i was. again, it goes to show how these kinds of communities are not in your best interest. not even me. so if me saying that life gets exponentially harder in the future and that living in a bubble does you more harm than good when reality hits you is something that upset you, then you have a long way to go, and i'm sorry life is just mapped out to be that way by default. this world is not built for disabilities.

i don't know you personally. i'm not trying to offend or demean you, or assume anything you're going through. my original post is generalized, opinionated, and not directed towards anyone specifically. if someone takes something positive out of it, i'm glad. if not, i don't really care. if you're one of the latter, i completely understand and again. wish you the best with unpacking things on your own. because you put words in my mouth that i definitely didn't say, and that's a reflection of you. i never said kids need to enjoy their younger years because it's the best time of their lives. i said kids need to take initiative to protect themselves because someone out there (me) genuinely cares about them. if they don't wanna take that advice, fuck around and find out. quite literally the tl;dr of the post.

yes, suicide is always a deeply personal choice. yes, i'm still going to show support and compassion even if i don't know anybody personally because if you don't experience that kind of thing at home, you deserve to experience it online from someone who understands what you're going through. yes, sometimes showing love and support leads to dead ends with some people. that doesn't mean we stop doing it or give up on someone else. this is basic human decency.

“Kids shouldn’t be on jiraiblr!” You’re right, they shouldn’t. They should be enjoying life as a kid. But they’re not, they’re fucking miserable, so shut the fuck up and stop complaining. If that’s all you whine about get the hell off jiraiblr, nobody wants you here.

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for context, before i say what i'm about to say, this post just randomly landed on my feed so please don't take this reblog personally — i don't know you. i'm just sharing my take to put it out into the universe.

i'm an adult on and off recovery with a multitude of diagnosed complex psychiatric disorders (bpd, cptsd, and so on) and i only ever knew about/semi-engaged with these kinds of online spaces (shedtwt/blr, jirai, etc.) throughout adulthood. when i was a minor, i definitely was in my fair share of communities where mental illness was a core issue so many of us shared and bonded with. but never to the extent of modern shed communities.

reading this post kinda stung because of course it's worded with such hostility, but more importantly, it made my heart ache since i've been in these kinds of shoes before. as a kid, you think you're safe and you feel comfortable in this kind of community because you relate to others going through similar, very traumatic things that not most kids would ever really understand. and yes, while i empathize with the desire to connect with others who indulge in such a niche community, there's a blurry line between consuming content and talking to others in the space as a way to feel seen and recognized, or glorifying it and enabling such a tragic epidemic that kills children and teens in greater numbers as the years go on.

the only way i ever understood what suicide and self harm was as a child was because i was exposed to it via internet communities (before shedtwt/blr was ever a thing), and constantly being exposed to it eventually made me worse. that's something i'm not proud to admit because it was something so preventable that was fully in my control, but then again, i was a child. i wouldn't have known that i needed to save myself before it was too late.

as an adult, i know now that surrounding myself in things that make me worse just makes life so much harder than it needs to be. i can safely engage in these communities as a coping mechanism because i know when to pull away for my own safety. please, i urge this entire community, especially if you are a minor, to learn that skill. i know it might seem like you will never make it to adulthood, or it may seem like you will never have a "real" life. but life changes, and it changes fast. when you get into my shoes where you end up living beyond your expectations but are ill equipped with handling it because your adolesence was littered with enablers and communities that simply exist to hurt you, you're going to have a really horrific reality check. and from the bottom of my heart, i worry for you, our next generation, because as social media becomes more predatory, it's difficult to tell what is reality and what isn't. yet i completely understand. i seriously feel for you.

it absolutely shatters my heart seeing such violently graphic posts, comments, and thinking patterns from kids as young as 12 to 15 on here. like. if you are a minor, you in fact do NOT have a personality disorder. no, self harm is not fun nor pretty, and you should not be posting photos of it for the whole world to see if you are still a child, nor should you be complimenting other people about their active self harm. and yes, people who are pro-recovery should be allowed into this space and you shouldn't make fun of them for it, nor should you try to get them to relapse. call me an opp if you want but yes — a lot of you ARE too young for this kind of space if you can't see reason in those last three points i've made. you SHOULD reconsider your choices if you are cognizant enough to do so.

it makes me tear up thinking that many of you in this community don't realize that this kind of space does more harm than good if your frontal lobe is objectively not developed enough to safely stay within it. i want you to live the rest of the childhood and adolescent years that you deserve to have. but despite anything that has ever happened to you, you are the only person in control of your present and future. don't take that for granted.

it's never too early or too late to recover, seek help, and seek validation in healthier ways. i'm not here to "whine" or force anyone to do anything if they don't fully believe in it. if you thought that reading this was a waste of time, be my guest: fuck around and find out when life really hits you when you're older.

but if reading this even changed your mind a little bit about this community, i encourage you to explore that feeling a little more. i believe in you.

take care.

“Kids shouldn’t be on jiraiblr!” You’re right, they shouldn’t. They should be enjoying life as a kid. But they’re not, they’re fucking miserable, so shut the fuck up and stop complaining. If that’s all you whine about get the hell off jiraiblr, nobody wants you here.

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She's been rotting in my folders, sorry.

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sweet dreams

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it’s always been her

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It's Tara. Of Waterdeep.