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when he makes you squirt so much you can’t tell who’s cum is all over your thighs >>>>>>

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Pantone cornflower blue is the ugliest colour. Fuck you you dusty-ass blue pastel bitch.

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my personal hc is that alex brats when he’s feeling self destructive because he wants to be berated and have all of his self-hating thoughts echoed back at him and as soon as henry realizes it he colors out every time alex gets bratty bc henry would rather lay in moving traffic than make alex feel bad about himself

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and if i said henry is a pillow princess!! if i said henry has sexual trauma and has felt used and objectified through his entire sexual life!! if i said he wants to be worshipped and allowed to lay back and just feel and enjoy sex!! if i said henry starts having panic attacks while blowing alex because of his oxford slut era trauma and alex does not give a single fuck! if i said alex never asks for or expects reciprocation for any sexual act!! WHAT THEN!!

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i just know halsin eats pussy like a champ

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astarion is a pillow princess change my mind

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Halsin is a dom but not because he’s muscly and burly and masculine and strong Halsin is a dom because he spent three years chained to a bed with absolutely no ability to control anything around him and experienced firsthand how control can be used as a weapon and a tool of abuse and being a dom both allows him to take back that control and wield it with care and trust and love in a way entirely antithetical to how it was used against him at one time

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i think a lot about how astarion probably has no idea what he enjoys in bed. because. you know. The Circumstances. and then halsin, ever the devoted pleasure dom, spends hours touching and kissing and caressing and doing all manner of things so astarion can test out what actually feels good because it’s never felt good before. and halsin never bats an eye or offers a word of judgement. astarion doesn’t like giving oral? no problem. doesn’t feel comfortable in positions where he can’t see his partner? all good. neck kisses are triggering? halsin kisses his shoulders instead. there’s no accommodation halsin won’t make, no boundary he won’t respect.

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anyone out there in the mood to write brat!Alex but Henry notices pretty quickly that Alex is genuinely struggling and frustrated and so instead of punishing him or being mean he gives Alex everything he asks for and lets him take the lead and they have a chat abt Alex dealing with some internalized shame re: asking for what he wants and its fluff disguised as smut. anyone at all.

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Halsin would eat you out for as long as you wanted before ever getting undressed. i know feral/in heat hcs are popular but its better supported by what we see of him that his partner’s pleasure and enjoyment is his priority. he’d let you lead, asking what position you’d be most comfortable in and where you want to be touched. at the slightest muscle twitch he’d kiss your thigh, rub circles on your hip, ask if you’re okay and remind you that you can change your mind at any point. i think he picks up on how much shame is associated with sex and nudity outside the grove and he wants nothing more than to help his partner release that shame. he asks you to be vocal about your wants and praises you for sharing them. he tells you that you taste amazing and smell divine. he goes slow, lets you languish in feeling good instead of chasing an orgasm. if and when you come, he praises you for relaxing and letting go and thanks you for trusting him. then and only then does he consider penetrating you, when you’re dripping in arousal and fully relaxed and and feel comfortable asking for it.

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what i need is for halsin to rail me slowly and gently while i lay with my head in astarion’s lap and he cards his fingers through my hair and says things like “you’re doing so well, my sweet” and “you can let go, darling” and after i cum halsin kisses my hip and holds me until i fall asleep. i think that would fix me.

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WOMEN SHOULDN'T BE SCARED!

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no offense but you guys need to learn the difference between someone implying their experience is universal and a post simply just not being about you

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i wish people would stop making well-intentioned positivity posts for stone bottoms/pillow princesses that begin and end with scolding people for ‘not respecting our boundaries.’ like yeah it’s partly about boundaries but it’s way more about how sex- topping in particular- is viewed as labor, and therefore must be a reciprocal or somehow equal exchange. the same way one might talk about household chores. shit-talking pillow princesses is so common within sapphic spaces because it is perceived to be a MORAL stance. treating this problem as if it’s purely an interpersonal matter of respecting individual boundaries is not gonna get us anywhere.

sex is only work when it’s sex work. if you think topping is a chore, you shouldn’t be doing it. if a satisfying sexual encounter for you involves taking turns, or trading orgasms, or whatever, of course that’s completely fine and good! the problem arises when people assume that’s the default, natural, moral, correct or only way of having sex as a queer person. when people assume that it goes without saying. stone folks exist in defiance of that. and everyone benefits from shedding normative, restrictive ideas about sex. which, by the way, is a value-neutral 100% optional activity with infinite variations. we need to work on tearing down any moralizing about how it should be done, beyond risk-aware consent, which is really all that matters.

people feel justified in disregarding, mocking, belittling or shaming stone folks’ boundaries because they do not think those boundaries are morally or socially correct. i know these positivity posts mean well, but shouting ‘respect boundaries!!’ over and over is missing the bigger picture.

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Thoughts on pillow princesses?

love them. crave to protect them. it’s a powerful title. “bottoming” is not just that. stone femmes are powerful, divine givers who deserve to be worshipped

in my experience, femmes who identify as such have a lot of trauma being expected to do more than they’re comfortable with. for example, i approached my ex assuming she was a pillow princess, and i liked that. i didn’t want anything else. she got unexpectedly (to both of us) dominant, so i encouraged her to explore it, which she thanked me for. but i know there was fear there that i secretly wanted more. that someday i’d change my mind and want something she didn’t want to give. and in my experience, i wasn’t ever believed when i said i was more than okay (i actually loved) the idea of being with a stone bottom. i was expected to want more. no matter the amount of reassurance, no matter how many times we had the same conversation, i wasn’t trusted. and sure, when i feel safe, im open to exploring. but i do not expect it, or want it unless the other person does.

i think past experiences and insecurities can warp how we believe others, and both people end up in positions they’re uncomfy in. i know for myself, i did things that made me uncomfy bc i wanted to make her happy n help her explore. but i just want to be believed when i say it’s enough. it’s more than enough. that i genuinely am satisfied and fulfilled. i just want us to be safe.

so dear pillow princesses, and you are princesses, believe me. this blog is a love letter to you. you are valued, respected, and loved. you are so important. you make me feel safe. please believe us when we tell you this, please don’t assume we want more. you are enough. if you want to explore more, if something new comes out in you while we’re together- we will explore it (assuming it’s safe for me). but there is no expectation. you are enough just how you are.

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i love the idea of someone eating my pussy or playing with my clit whenever and wherever they want bc they cant get enough of the pretty noises i make for them

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god if i dont get dicked down and used soon im gonna lose my mind i feel like im in heat