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Hey there! Allo from before! Thank you SO much for answering my question (and so quickly too)! I've been doing my fair share of research and please, note to self, never go to the reddits r/actuallyasexual and r/actuallyaromantic, those subs are so weirdly aphobic toward everyone who isn't 100% no asexual/aromantic attraction. Like damn, I did NOT know some other ace people shat on demis and grays so bad and as an allo, I don't know whether to laugh at the hypocrisy/absurdity, or cry because DAMN- Anways, yeah, thank you for answering! Now, I'm going to shove your reply to my other ask in my demirose bf's face because he keeps thinking that he can't use the term, 'aroace' because he's "intruding".

Oh noooo I hate that those communities are clearly so toxic!! I know some aro/ace people get (understandably) defensive around "validity" and other communities have shown before how that can turn people exclusionary in a way that ends up shooting themselves in the foot later.

Glad I could help!

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enough stories about how someone learns to truely be happy through love. i want a story where someone is desperately seeking out love thinking it's the only way to be happy only for them to learn by the end that happiness is what they make of it and they don't need love at all to make it.

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Hey there, allo here! I have a question! Google is playing keep-away with the definition of aroace. Some people say 'belonging to both spectrums of aro and ace', some say 'little to no romantic and sexual attraction' and some flat-out say '100% no romantic and sexual attraction'... Which one is it? Hell! I consulted reddit and then fell into a rabbit hole of, 'Demi and gray people are just low-libido allos/allos with standards!' (Not cool btw, demis and gays, I see u!). I've asked this question a couple times before but I practically got stoned by the comments, so I'm hoping its safe to ask here. Thank you!

thanks so much for reaching out! as with every label & identity, people will identify with them for different reasons. The most common definition of aroace is someone who is on both the aromantic and asexual spectrums, so both of your first listed definitions are true for that

personally i dont find it useful to limit the definition to people who are fully 100% aro and ace, but for some people that aspect might be important for their own personal identity. in general though i think its wrong to then enforce that on other people

basically, anyone who finds the term aroace useful for finding community that they relate with, or for understanding themself, is free to use it in my opinion - labels are fluid and personal and messy and as soon as we turn them into boxes they cease being useful

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If you did all the same things with friends vs romantic partners, would you ever date anyone?

Arospec - I would still want to date people

Arospec - I wouldn't want to date people

Arospec - Wouldn't want to in this situation or IRL

Arospec - It depends / Unsure / Other

Alloromantic - I would still want to date people

Alloromantic - I wouldn't want to date people

Alloromantic - It depends / Unsure / Other

Questioning - I would still want to date other people

Questioning - I wouldn't want to date people

Questioning - It depends / Unsure / Other

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Shout out to aro people who DO show little emotion, who do have low empathy, who are monotonous, who do relate to robotic characters on a level other than the fact robot characters often don't feel romantic attraction

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happy wednesday to all my fellow aroace folks

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ALL THREE AT ONCE LETS GO

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i feel so seen!!

(twitter thread)

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Poll idea:

Aces, why do you consider yourself asexual? What's the main aspect of your asexuality for you?

Please read all options before you vote (has happened to me way too often xD), and of course never feel pressured by the "explain in the tags", only do it if you want to ^^

- I am repulsed by sex

- I don't care for sex

- I don't feel sexual attraction towards people

- I don't care for sex AND don't feel sexual attraction

- I am repulsed AND don't feel sexual attraction

- Something else (say in the tags)

- At least one of the above AND something else (say in the tags)

- It's just a feeling, I can't name a specific aspect

- I have an aspect but I don't want to share it

- Anon you completely misunderstand what asexuality means for me (explain in the tags)

- Not asexual/see results

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Welcome to Aspec Polls!

This blog is dedicated to posting polls exclusively related to aspecs and the aspec communities. You don't have to be aspec to submit a poll, everyone just has to be asking in good faith and obviously no polls can be hateful in any way. Speaking of, if I let something get posted that I shouldn't have don't hesitate to let me know!

Please send your polls to the inbox, preferably with all the options you want listed out. Keep in mind that poll options have a character limit and that there can only be up to 12 options per poll. Unless there is no room for it or you request it be left off, a "show results" button or some equivalent will be added to all polls. If you do not include your own options, I can try to make them for you, but be aware I may not word things the same way you would or I could accidentally leave something out that you would have included.

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aro culture is trying to be a good friend but struggling to connect with allo friends when they have a crush (and it’s the only thing they can talk about)

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"can i identify as aro even if-" you can do whatever you want forever👍

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ACES!!! Look at this Scientific American article!!! It makes me genuinely so happy to read. We’re making it!!!!

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/asexuality-is-finally-breaking-free-from-medical-stigma/

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Petition to give every aroace person a free ticket to a rage room every month as gratitude for keeping their shit together and not pulling everyone's hair off in the face of society's amatonormative bullshit