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Why can't we ever use bullshit bioessentialism for fun things

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Where are you from?

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really everyone you love has something miserably wrong with them or an obvious flaw that won't ever be fixed but like it's up to you what kind of person you can and cannot deal with. someone in my family has anger issues which I can handle and diffuse with no problem, but a person who can't tolerate yelling could not be close to him. another person I know is very anxious & needs constant reassurance and she gets along famously with gentler and more straightforward people than myself, but I can't handle being second guessed all the time. someone who is loosey goosey with their morals wouldn't bother me, but a person with a profound sense of justice makes me feel afraid of getting on their bad side. none of these traits actually make someone a bad person & just because there are personalities I can't handle doesnt mean I'M a bad person either. litany against callout posts for stupid shit and simple incompatibilities we all have to live on this earth together & need to learn how to deal with each other

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PLUSH TOY GIVEAWAY!!! TWO WINNERS. TWO MEN.

GIVEAWAYYYYYYY ENDS JUNE 25TH (the same day preorders on ko-fi will open)!!! READ UNDER THE CUT FOR THE RULES!

One week until preorders open! I’m practically solidified with fear! But [[HERE’S YOUR CHANCE]] to get a free plushie of your choosing… willing we meet the minimums!

RULES:

1. ONE ENTRY PER PERSON PER PLATFORM, however you can get two entries if you share this on both instagram and tumblr. If I suspect you are using dupe accounts I’ll kick you, but there’s nothing against having your friends help.

2. You should be following me even though I get scared when I gain followers at a rapid rate. BE FOLLOWING @SWAGLIOSTRO

3. Share this to your story if using instagram (I must be able to see it) or reblog it (ONCE) on tumblr.

4. Celebrate your completing of this rule list by commenting “ENTERED”!!! Tumblr users must comment “ENTERED” on THIS POST, they cannot comment it in the tags of their reblog.

GIVEAWAY WINNERS WILL BE ANNOUNCED ON THE 25TH WITH THE OPENING OF PREORDERS!!! ONLY ONE OF EACH PLUSHIE WILL BE GIVEN, FIRST COME FIRST SERVE!!!

Secret Rule Number Five: Give Me A Dinosaur Toy Now And You Can Have A Treat.

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HOWTO MAKE IT OBVIOUS I[M BUTCH LESBIAB TO GIRL I LIKE??????????

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me when i see an animal that is known for being in my area

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stay perverted

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EXCUSE ME????

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ok freaks

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so many of the transfems i know spent their time pre-transition performing a kind of lifelong exercise in self-deprivation, the goal of which was to find out exactly how little a person needed to live. they starved themselves, dressed carelessly, shunned friends, and hollowed themselves out so as not to be burdens on anyone but themselves.

i see it now, too, in the girls around me. i'll ask if they want care – a home-cooked meal, relaxed company, sex without the expectation of reciprocation – and they say no, no, thank you, i don't need it; what would you like, what do you want, because in their head they're still doing that awful calculus, still training themselves to disappear in the eyes of the people around them.

i don't think i'd have died without transition – not in the conventional sense, at least – but to take that leap, i had to stop thinking of myself as a human experiment in fuel-efficient living and start nurturing the anemic, atrophied flame of desire in my heart. i had to learn to eat well, to exercise, to style myself beautiful, but harder than that, i had to learn to ask the people around me to work on my behalf in order to enrich my life and give me the things i wanted.

and i did it; i learned. and it was agony, but courage is a muscle you can train, and every day i get better at accepting gifts with the hungry gratitude i never learned in my years and years as a sad, scared, lonely boy.

so be patient with the trans girls in your life. better than that: be proactive, attentive, generous; be forceful, if you have to, and learn to distinguish real discomfort from the terrified reflex of self-denial that so many of us once learned to rely on.

and if you are so lucky as to love a trans girl, you must insist upon her. you must insist upon her happiness, her comfort, her pleasure, and her rest, because she may still not yet know how to make those demands for herself. if you can devote any amount of energy to becoming an engine that nurtures the flame of even a single tgirl then there is a place for you in trans heaven, which as far as i'm concerned is the only one worth going to

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Okay I think this is my best one.