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SAVE THE DATE

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i always answer the phone even when it’s potential spam. i just spoke to a stranger who had a desperate plea. please take a moment to read 😭 the mother of two trans children called me imploring me to spread the word about a very important issue going on in iowa right now👇🏼👇🏼

Gov. Reynolds is planning to introduce legislation that would strip transgender people of their legal protections, one of the most important ones being housing. under this legislation landlords would be able to deny housing to individuals solely on the basis of them being trans.

this is obviously a very scary situation, so please if you have a moment to call or email the offices of iowa legislators, let them know how inhumane this proposal is.

for more info

pester these people

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(conspicuous boner in tight shorts wont subside, attempting to shift blame) yo who put this penis in my pants 

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*gripping my hands so hard on a young trans persons shoulders that their bones are about to break*

do not log on to 4chan.com. do not get involved in passing olympics. you will always lose. do not put afab/amab/tma/tme, that is cisgender society trying to know your “real” gender. you do not exist to please cisgender people. there is no ‘right’ way to be trans. learn your goddamn history, listen to your elders. listen to other disenfranchised groups. listen to intersex people and check yourself for intersexism. listen to trans poc and check yourself for racism. listen to disabled people and check yourself for ableism. be open to learning always. labels are meant to fit you, not the other way around. you are not weird or predatory for simply being attracted to others. you’re fine if you’re not a skinny white twink or a barbie doll. you’re fine if your body is ‘weird’. you’re fine if you don’t have heavy or any dysphoria. it’s okay if you actually don’t want to transition or anything like that. life is worth living at any stage, you deserve to be happy. I SWEAR THAT YOU ARE OKAY!!!!!

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my official stance is a pregnancy is whatever the pregnant person wants it to be. if it’s a 4 week old clump of cells and they want to call it a baby it’s a baby. if they're 20 weeks and they want to call it a parasite it’s a parasite. if they're 39 weeks and call it a fetus it’s a fetus. “why are you so sad about miscarrying at 6 weeks it was literally just an embryo” because that was their baby. “how can you get an abortion at three months” because that wasn’t a baby. hope that helps.

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yeah. i've got the wikipedia page for rat. on cassette.

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no, spotify, i don't want to use ai to "turn my ideas into playlists". i already fucking do that with my brain and hands and i do it for fun. what, should i get ai to pet my cat for me? to play my silly games for me? to spend time with my beautiful wife for me? how about i rend you asunder

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"Trans women are actually women for real, not in a metaphorical sense, not in a "anyone can be anything" sense, but genuinely actually make more taxonomic sense to classify in the category of women than any other group" is a position you'll find is pretty radical even in queer spaces

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No joke this vine has a better understanding of transmisogyny than 40% of this website

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is anyone else constantly afraid they’ll be “caught” doing stuff they’re obviously allowed or even supposed to do

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the trick is to never want

why am i the one who has to reach out when i want something. it's all so much work

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Personal story:

I knew I wanted to be childfree (a “childless cat lady”) before I even realized I was queer or trans. There are some clear intersections between these experiences that aren’t often explored. I “came out” as not wanting children when I was in preschool. I could never see myself as a parent (with no judgment for those who do, of course!). The rhetoric used against me when I came out as queer and trans in elementary school was remarkably similar to that of not wanting children. They told me I’d “grow out of it” or would “regret it later,” especially because of my age. I was allegedly too young to know that information about myself. This “compulsory natalism” has followed me throughout my life.   The current moral panic about population collapse is part of the same paternalism over self-determination and the struggle for bodily autonomy. Whether it be Elon Musk’s racist fearmongering over “low birth rates” or JD Vance’s “childless cat ladies” comment, it’s no coincidence these figures are also campaigning against trans people.   Recently, these natalist groups are claiming we’re pressured to live childfree by our culture. I find it as ridiculous to claim that society pressured me into not having children as it is to claim it pressured me to be trans. Unequivocally false. Society glorifies parentage as the pinnacle and purpose of human experience, particularly for women. But I could not be happier with the sterilizing effects of hormones and surgery. I consider it an added benefit to transitioning that few people talk about.   We can - and should - be invested in society’s future regardless of whether we have kids. Neither parenthood nor its rejection is fundamentally individualistic (although both can be). We can care for one another no matter who we are. But the belief that parenthood is morally superior is a deeply reactionary and coercive idea that we need to flush out of our communities. We must respect one another for decisions about our own bodies. This childless cat lady wouldn’t have it any other way.

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sometimes you see with sudden clarity that you are a transsexual doing drugs in her room alone on a thursday and comprehend the sheer extent to which your parents would be horrified by the course of your life and how funny that is and it does genuinely make it a little easier