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I really like the bit in DS9 where Sisko's Dad quotes from the Bible, it's just a really nice way of suggesting that some people continue their beliefs and it doesn't detract in any way from their participation in and support for the utopian future.

unfortunately once you start noticing the tendency of some sci-fi to flatten every character into ‘ambiguously atheist’, the implication that the only future is one where no one has any religious beliefs is going to piss you off for the rest of time

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Or if you have children, you can do neither.

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This is definitely my favourite dynamic, except I feel he's not so much a Dad figure (who would prioritise keeping you safe) as a deeply irresponsible but loveable Uncle.

the one doctor-companion dynamic i can't get enough of is "cool lesbian and her space dad"

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I grew up in Congleton! Lambert's bridge is a gorgeous little piece of infrastructure.

Lambert’s Bridge no. 77, also know as the snake bridge, on the Macclesfield Canal. location: Astbury Congleton, England

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So now I am definitely building an all-female Cathayan army.

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I've been on HRT for nearly two years, and I feel incredible, to the point that when I look in the mirror, I don't see a stranger any more. My whole life I've always hated photos of me, but the next stage in my journey is going to be getting more comfortable with this, and maybe even learning to take photos of myself that I like.

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I also like the uncomfortable look on people's faces when I say things like "when I was a man". When I say this, I don't mean I was a cis man, but that didn't stop me experiencing life as a man, because that's how everyone treated me.

When I was a man I spake as a man, walked as a man and was treated as a man. But when I transitioned, I put away manly things.

i love cis people cause when i say “when i used to be a girl…” they go “mhmm…. but also….. you’ve ALWAYS been a man” okay ur very sweet but actually i was a weird girl in middle school and you need to know that to understand my personality today

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This is beautiful to see, it's just a shame I'm such a long drive from Bath 😞

Queer, Trans Inclusive, female led, beginner friendly wargaming.

Launching late 2025. Based in Bath, UK

Currently playing Warhammer 40k Kill Team and Combat Patrol.

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I mean they draw heavily on Roman legions and we know what those guys were doing (mostly each other).

Is sex or sexual thoughts (of the straight or queer variety) actually viewed as heretical for space marines in 40k or is it one of those things the fanon has just repeated a lot since the idea is up to interpretation ?

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I had fond memories of my Mum reading me the first and second books, staying up all night to read the fourth one, being autistically annoyed that the films cut so much from the books. But as an adult trans woman, I can put away childish things because their billionaire creator is spending her money to destroy my life and the lives of people like me.

I liked Harry Potter as a child. I do not like Harry Potter anymore. This is because JK Rowling is a heinous piece of shit. You can do the same.

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My wife is a little bit fat. And she's also the most beautiful woman on the planet to me. I love her beautiful belly; it's not only very sexy but it also was my daughter's first home and that is incredible.

btw if you’re fat and your partner doesn’t love you wholeheartedly, if they’re attracted to you “despite” your body, if they avoid touching you, if they look away from certain parts of you, you’re allowed to break up with that person. look at me. you can do better. you are not unloveable and you don’t have to settle i fucking promise.

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Being a Doctor Who fan is loving it despite it being shit about a third of the time, because you believe in how good it can be when it's going properly.

"why are you still watching doctor who if you don't like it?" because i love doctor who? because i would really like to see it do interesting things? i can be critical of it and enjoy it!

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This beautiful big himbo really did nothing wrong.

Happy pride month

Maggy hands you estrogen

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do not forget the patron saint of these weeks that we celebrate ourselves proudly and openly in the streets

her name was Marsha P Johnson, and we have her to thank for so much.

remember, the first Pride was a riot, and she was one of the brave souls who endured it to help carve the path which so many of us walk today. she helped found several activist groups regarding LGBT safety and wellbeing. and she was absolutely radiant, too.

thank you, Marsha. we remember you.

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Two random vent lists

Cis ally shit that annoys some trans people but doesn't annoy me as much

Some misgendering, if you're receptive to being corrected. Much prefer being misgendered and lightly correcting than being degendered or having someone be afraid of addressing me at all. Also there are so many other problems I have related to transphobia that pronouns are not anywhere near my top concern.

Asking the "annoying" or intrusive questions (I WILL counter with explicit detail, though)

"This affects cis women too" in response to anti trans legislation- the root of transphobia is misogyny, this helps attack the root. It also builds solidarity

I have a complicated relationship to my old name, I don't call it my deadname and I'm fine with hearing it sometimes. It does get old though

Cis "ally" shit that annoys me but is too petty for me to talk about in day to day life

Dismissing sexism that trans women face as trivial and/or affirming ("welcome to being a woman" "hey it's just cuz you got hot [in response to being catcalled]") when they would never do the same to cis women

"Identify" as a verb (eg "you identify as a woman" bitch I just am a woman, I also identify as one but why are you avoiding saying I am one)

Talking over my relationship to dynamic/changing gender (eg, I say "when I was a guy" "silly, you were always a girl!" Like sure if that's how you want to see it but my experience in the world is radically different then v now. Also that's not how I see it, it's a much deeper conversation, I don't think "always" being a woman makes my womanhood any more or less real now. It's about who I am now, not the past, and I'm fine treating pre-transition me as a man.)

Centering "validity" as the only issue in trans rights and not thinking about it any deeper (eg, passport stuff being treated as "omg you're valid no matter what the government says!!!" As opposed to "hey the government is legally codifying sexes and what rights they have and those definitions are now used in explicitly discriminatory legislation")

"Third gendering" or "degendering" (eg, they/theming when I use she/her, avoiding using any gendered terms for me and making conversations more awkward, being paralytically afraid of giving me either binary gender. Treating me as non binary is still misgendering.)

Pushing transmasc bathroom stuff as a counterargument to trans bathroom use, eg, "do you want this big hairy masculine trans man in your bathroom" (it was never about the men's room. It's not about sex at birth. It's about policing women's spaces. Also why are you using someone with masculine features in a woman's room as a scare tactic)

Overuse of AGAB to reinvent the binary (eg, "AFAB only" events now in "progressive" spaces)

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I mean he watched Total Recall, decided Vilos Cohaagen was the hero and made it his entire personality. I guess being raised in the ruling class of an apartheid regime fucks you up.

Elon Musk wants a Texas compound filled with women he will breed with to preserve his superior genes.

Imagine watching Fury Road and thinking Immortan Joe is the hero.

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I think Warhammer finally did it.

For years I was the only woman in the stores with my little minis and books and I was a rarity. Luckily I often made friends with the employees. Somewhere post 2010 it was clear GW employees had gotten either some briefing or feminism had seeped through enough that they were *aggressive* at fending off harassment. I was still the only one, or maybe one other girl, but it felt nicer.

Yesterday me and a bunch of other women and queer folks were excitedly watching Skulls and hyping the coming Warhammer games. I know at least for a bunch of us we are buying miniatures and books now.

Here's to more of us getting into the hobby. Here's to me still being a weirdo but not a lonely one.