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[britknee90]

Due to mine and my ex’s friends I'm told about my ex and his fiancé. (Yes, even his friends call him a pussy and the truth has been/is revealing itself in his complaints about me/victimhood). It's been almost 3 years(2 years of being divorced) since I left my abusive ex and apparently I'm still being complained about and insulted, mostly by ex’s new victim. I checked it out and her Instagram is full of insults of me as the abusive one and that I’m insecure and she's confident and treats him how he deserves(Que laughter). 

All I got to say is girl why are you so obsessed? I want nothing to do with your fiancé. I have no desire to ever come in any contact with him ever again. He threatened to kill me. I'm in a very healthy relationship with the greatest guy I have ever met. She literally has no reason to feel so threatened! It's just...creepy. But soon she will find out the truth when they move in together(according to friends it's a long distance relationship...yikes). Ah, poor girl. I feel sorry for her. 

[britknee90]

To My Abuser’s Next Victim

I write to you out of compassion. I don’t want you to go through the things I did. You’re still now in the phase where he treats you great. He gets you gifts. He compliments you all the time. He makes you laugh. He makes you feel so special, so much more special than all those ex girlfriends who did him wrong in the past. They were psychotic bitches. They did awful unimaginable horrible things to his poor innocent self. I know how it feels to feel like you’re the first person to truly appreciate him.

This will change. He’s just getting you to bite. He’s manipulating you into thinking he’s this great guy as he does to everyone. Changes will be very subtle at first. First it will be slight jealousy. Then that turns into not being able to have any friends...except it won’t be so obvious. He’ll make you think your friends don’t care about you. He’ll start blaming you for things that he did and turn things around. He’ll get angry if you make plans with someone instead of him. He’ll start cutting you down and make remarks. He’ll start getting more cruel and call you names. And then he’ll apologize and beg for forgiveness and it’s a huge apology with gifts. You’ll forgive him and it’s back to what it was.... Then the cycle starts all over again. You see,  masks only last for so long. The truth always comes out. His true self didn’t truly come out until we were already married. That’s when the physical abuse happened and the verbal/psychological abuse got even worse.

He’ll pin you down and then he’ll call you bitch, cunt, stupid, idiot, worthless, crazy stupid bitch, slut, whore, and many more. He will attack every aspect of who you are. He’ll try to make you listen to him. You can’t run away because you’re pinned down and the more you try to ignore it, the harder he tries until you cry because your mind just can’t take it anymore. Then he’ll laugh in delight and call you a baby and a princess. He’ll be so happy he caused pain. Then he’ll get mad you’re crying and the neighbors might here so he’ll cover your mouth and nose too. It will finally stop and then you lie crying, restless and alone in bed because you have no idea if he’ll come back and try to torment you more. All you want him to do is to stop. He’ll apologize later but by now apologies aren’t as extravagant as they once were. The cycle will continue and continue to escalate. He’ll start getting mad over tiny things, like how you’re breathing bothers him. Don’t ever look out the side window of the car. It pisses him off. He’ll blow up at you because he forgot the drinks to a party and you didn’t get them. You’re so stupid for forgetting them. When you try to bring up things about how you feel? Well forget it sister. He’ll invalidate them. He’ll either totally ignore you(and i mean ignore. He will pretend you don’t exist) or make it about him and then blame you for causing a fight. You’re not allowed to have feelings. And I’m not talking about things like leaving the toilet seat up. I’m talking about things like talking to other women. Oh boy did he love to talk to other women. He’ll also love to tell you how he wishes you were other women. How much he wished you looked like them because you’re ugly and no man would want you. How he wished he cheated on you with his ex girlfriend. Then he’ll accuse you of cheating on him when you go the the Y with your grandma at 6am when all the 70 year olds are there....You’ll also be called a whore and slut while he’s at it.

You’ll start leaving the house during fights because you feel like you are going insane. You aren’t allowed feelings and are this horrible wife he wants to divorce and everyone thinks is a bitch(It’s a lie. Don’t believe it.) He’ll start getting even more violent. He’ll push you. He’ll try to twist your neck. And when you leave to get away from him he’ll hit you from behind.

The day the cops were called on him? He hit me in the back of my head. He pulled my hair and then pushed me up against the wall and threatened to snap my neck.

You can say that I was the one who threw things at him, called him names, told him that he would amount to nothing, that no one will him after I left, and that he would die alone but sweetie you’re just being spoon fed lies like I was. In reality he did all those things to me. I mean he wanted to report me to the cops for “raping him in his sleep.” It’s nice to see things haven’t changed. He is still switching the blame onto me. You can call me a childish attention seeker who play the constant victim but please open your eyes first and realize that’s exactly who you’re marrying. He’s a perpetual victim, a sociopath with no accountability. I’m not the victim. I’m a survivor. I left. I got out and saved my life. I’m PROUD of myself for leaving. I’m not over here wallowing over how bad he treated me. I’m CELEBRATING my survival and want to spread the positive things I have received and help people have hope who end up in abusive relationships like my own. You’ll realize the truth eventually, and I am so sorry that you will because I really don’t want you to go through such pain. I just hope you save your life too. 

-the stupid crazy bitch ex wife he talks about

[britknee90]

You know you’re a survivor when the new guy you’re dating 2 years later doesn’t get mad at you when you are upset about something. Instead he truly apologizes, says he won’t do it again, and then keeps apologizing. Then you start crying because A) it feels amazing to FINALLY have someone care about your feelings and B) part of you is still expecting to be reprimanded for having feelings and for bringing those feelings up.

[britknee90]

Because people just don’t understand.

Leslie Morgan Steiner: Why domestic violence victims don’t leave …

[britknee90]

The abuse I have endured did not make me weak, broken, or bitter. I am not damaged goods. It made me strong and appreciate the joy and happiness in life. I'm optimistic and confident for the first time in my life. Through your abuse I learned so much about myself and how capable I truly am. You may have tried to kill my spirit, but you will never take my soul.

[britknee90]

Ah!

Found out my abusive, sociopath ex husband has been telling his fiance that I abused him. (Then again, he also threatened to tell the police I raped him...in his sleep...soooo his words only mean so much.)

I find this hysterical, aggravating, and terrifying.

Hysterical that he would even try to lie about that.

Aggravating that he would say I was the abusive one after all the fucked up shit he did to me that I am STILL recovering from. Emotional/psychological abuse is no joke.

Terrifying that his fiance of course believes him and now has been manipulated into thinking he’s this great guy who was abused. I honestly fear for her life.. I sincerely worry about her! The things he did to me were awful. No one deserves to go through what he put me through and just imagining someone else experiencing what I endured makes me really sympathetic towards her. I mean I don’t even wish that he go through the things he did to me! That’s how awful he was!

I’m also mad at myself that this all still just deep down bugs me. I feel like it shouldn’t anymore. However, I am also so relieved and happy I’m on this end of things and not the end of his fist anymore. It’s also nice to see that I made the right choice in leaving him. I didn’t really doubt my choice but I did wonder at first if he would actually change so it’s nice to see he hasn’t at all!

[britknee90]

“120lb women look like 13 year old boys!”

Tell that to my vagina.

[britknee90]

Yeah someone is insecure alright. Her.

What the fuck was she trying to get at. I called her out for being rude as hell towards girls with small legs (like me) and she calls me insecure? Okay???

[britknee90]

quick shoutout to emotional abuse survivors who still struggle with the idea that they didn’t deserve it

it’s hard to accept that fact when the abuse itself has you convinced of the opposite

but here’s your daily reminder that you didn’t deserve it, no matter what reasons you or your abuser have come up with to justify the abuse, it was undeserved

i hope you’re healing up okay

[britknee90]

so true

More people are concerned with why women stay in abusive relationships than why men are abusing women

[britknee90]

Venting!

I don't spend a lot of time thinking about my abusive ex anymore, but I found out he is now engaged. The fact he's engaged doesn't bother me. Honestly I feel sorry for this poor girl who's going to end up getting beat. What bugs me, is the massive amount of people who I thought were my friends are excited for this monster. These people knew he threatened to kill me. I don't understand how people can support that. It's not that I don't want people to be happy for him. I just don't see how people can be happy for someone who's inevitably going to beat someone and tricked his next victim with his lies. I know it's none of my business and I really shouldn't care, but when you are put through such a horrible situation like that you can't help but worry about someone else who will. I definitely don't want her to go through that. She might get it worse than I did. She might not be able to get out like I did. And that's scary to think about.

[britknee90]

Ah! I made the one this is a stick and this is a woman thing :D I’m famous! Haha

15 Flawless Responses You Can Give When Someone Thin-Shames You

[britknee90]

I relate to this soooo much!

I always hear overweight/ obese people talking about how their thin family members are always giving them shit for their body. Well what about if it was reversed.

A majority of my family members are on the heavy side and since I’ve lost weight I’ve had to endure snide, backhanded comments like

“oh my god stop being so obsessed with fitness”

“Wow that’s ALL you’re going to eat? That’s hardly anything!” Even though my portion sizes are controlled and they have a heaping pile of food on their plate.

“I hope she doesn’t lose too much more weight or she’ll start to look sick!!” I was aprox. 180lbs when this was said. FAR from being underweight

“Where did your boobs GO! You’re so flat chested now!!!

So much thin privilege amirite???

[britknee90]

Cashier: Oh what a pretty dress. Love that!

Me: Yeah! Usually long dresses make me look like I’m swimming in them so I was super happy with this one!

Cashier: Well yeah because you’re such a stick.

:|

[britknee90]

Hmm that sounds fishy...

[britknee90]

Personally I think you look cute! :) I love your outfit.

I just got glared and stared at by maybe 40 people because of my outfit. Does me wearing a skirt make you uncomfortable? Is it because I have a stomach and I’m not afraid to hide my body? Is it the scars on my legs? Can you maybe just… not?

[britknee90]

Definition of my ex husband! Except people are realizing now how full of shit he is.

Emotionally abusive people fucking suck because they act like they’re the victims and that they’re the nicest person in the world. They make you feel like utter crap and make it nearly impossible for you to prove that you’re the actual victim.