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Family Tribulations

So, family I personally believe is the MOST important people you can have around to support you or they can be. I say they can be with the upmost respect. While some family members can very supportive, understanding and keep it a buck all the way many are envious, jealous and out-right unforgiving.

Looking among different cultures, and age ranges I have to stay I believe that regardless of all those many factors you will have family rooting for you and some may be rooting against you. As a young adult it can be hard to differentiate the real supporters from the doubters, especially if they are family because ideally, we are taught to love, unite and defend our family no matter what. But often times family doesn't have our best interests and that makes it difficult on younger adults. I mean ya, all families have their issues but even if there is family drama you should still support your blood and try to help them become a better person (IF YOU CAN).

Not every family is perfect, after all we are humans.  

My family is filled with so many generational curses that I want to break I am going to break. It’s time for a change, its time for: 

UNITY, 

POWERFUL SUPPORTIVE systems,

openness and UNDERSTANDING,

 EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION 

(and most of all) abundance of LOVE.

I know every case is different and every person is different and will be a difficult task to grasp, but believe it or not, there are some family members that will walk past you like your strangers. My heart isn’t made for that. I am a very family-oriented person and I have love for all my family regardless of any situation. I wish them well always. Like Popcaan’s Slience song says “Mi love mi family but mi nuh trust di whole ah dem”. I can only hope and pray that when I finally start my family things turn around.

Think about the changes that you can make with your family to improve your family unit. 

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you been dating someone for 10 years and u bring them to the family events yu guys break up... Your famz are cool with him and he's having a bbq and invites you and your fam.. You say no however your family goes And your fam goes..how would u feel and would your relationship with your family member change??

Great question! So it’s your ex’s event and you and your family are invited but you chose not to go and your family went. I personally don’t see anything wrong with this scenario. Your ex and your family has gotten closer over the years and mostly likely formed a friendship regardless of how y’all ended y’all relationship. I would hope they both enjoy themselves and not choose to discuss me and a main topic whenever they “link up”. You can’t stop bonds from happening whether you introduced them or not. Just because you and your ex split up doesn’t mean the mutual friends have be split as well. You don’t know how people effect other people’s lives. I wouldn’t have any change of feeling for the family member and or the ex. I know most people feel if the relationship is over it the mutual bonds are over too. But how is that fair? What if that person you’re tryna split impacted each other’s lives in away it’s very difficult to just walk away. You should never force people together or apart. Let it flow naturally. JUST MY OPINION! Thanks for the question! Don’t forget to follow me on social media @cherridawne

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Do you think your boyfriend is the right one for you ?? Would you consider marrying him after your last response ? How would you discribe your relationship??

I think we are very compatible but anything can happen. After all we are human and no one is born perfect and we all change over time. I would describe my relationship as “perfect enough for me right now”. I can’t speak for him. Marriage however is something I would consider period but marriage isn’t for everyone. Thanks for the question! FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA @CherriDawne!

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How committed would you say you and your boyfriend are at this moment in your relationship ?? How do I know when taking the next step is the right decision to make ??

Every relationship is different and you should never compare other relationships to yours. This is why I never comment on my relationship, boost or brag about it. Superman and I are committed enough to each other to still have a great bond. Our biggest commitment is to our future! To be completely honest you’ll never know when it’s time to take it to the next step. But you’ll know your breaking point and know what you cannot tolerate. If both y’all are on the SAME wave, in terms of growing and building your relationship with the same beliefs or are both willing to bend and form to each other, then you are making the right choice in taking your relationship to the next step. If he/she just wants to “idle” for lack of a better term and not grow after years of dating then you are just wasting your time on false dreams and hopes. Although there’s no specific timeline for relationships (as in proposal after 2 years of dating for an example) you should feel growth of some sort. Either you will want more or vice versa (especially with age). Maybe you should test them to see if they see some sort of growth in life with you. Ask about a five year plan or a business project you might need help on. Try to get them involved in your future goals for a start. See if they seem engaged. Thanks for the question! FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA @CherriDawne!

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Love your flaws ❤️

Perfection?

What is it anyway? 

Everyone can’t be perfect, and many of us are NOT.

Often, we are taught to hide our flaws and/or differences to blend in with the norm or to what people are used too. But why?! Our flaws and our differences make us unique. They make us, US! (WHY ARE THEY EVEN CALLED “FLAWS”....SOUNDING SO NEGATIVE!)

Most of us only think of flaws as physical things. Imperfections don’t only come physical but can be mental or medical as well (or viewed as such anyway). Its always easier to hide a birth mark, a skin condition or even a part of the body you aren’t too fond of. But not all physical flaws are hard to hide. A lisp or stutter (which can be argued as a mental one too) are nearly impossible to hide along with a bunch of other mental and medical imperfections. Think about it. There are a large number of people who just cannot hide their flaws even if they wanted to. These people (I believe) are strong and had to be even if they weren’t. Literally anything you don’t like about yourself can be a flaw whether you choose to hide it or embrace it. Or even accept it as a flaw or not because I don’t believe in flaws.

Have you ever considered that our flaws are blessings? Have you thought that you were blessed with such flaws for a reason? By now ya’ll know I believe in a higher power and I personally know that He gives his strongest the most to handle. He knows you can handle what ever He throws at you. He doesn’t make flaws, because then that would mean he makes mistakes! Even if you don’t look at it from a religious stand point I’m sure many of you readers can understand that difficult situations can make you stronger person. 

One day, a friend of mine was just talking to me and he explained how my biggest flaw was effecting him so positively. I was shocked to hear him express his views regarding my flaws just because we never really spoke on it before. I mean, I didn’t really care what he had to say about it (regardless if it was good or bad), but I respected his opinion nonetheless. He said admired my bravery and strength for just simply not caring about it anymore and not trying to change who I am. It took A LOT for me to get to this point and of course nothing was easy about it. He understood the things I went through although he wasn't there and he knew I was a lot stronger because if it. He told me he hoped his children one day would understand the same values I taught myself as a kid and it would make them stronger beings for it. 

I’m sure by now, ya’ll are wondering what the hell is wrong with CherriDawne?! What is this FLAW?! I suffer from have a deformity condition called brachymetatarsia (click the link for more information) on both of my feet. In simple non-medical terms is just a shorten toe. I can’t recall if i was born with it (after my own research I found out you actually can..but from what I heard learning to walk around things was always a challenge and I might of hit it among many other body parts while learning how to walk. LOL. SOMEHOW FINALLY MASTERED IT THOUGH!) but I don’t remember having "normal” feet. Either way, I was teased by family and children for years to the point I hid it. In Grade 6 it started to bother me less. I was asked if I wanted a surgery to correct it and have normal feet. I declined. In the sixth or seventh grade I knew that if I altered myself I would NEVER be fully satisfied with my body and not be who I was intended to be. It wasn’t like I was difficult to walk or my shoes didn’t fit so why make such a drastic change just to convince myself nothing was wrong with me. Nothing IS wrong with me,though. I was made to be this way. 

So I say love your flaws! Accept who you were intended to be! Embrace your uniqueness! I have had a long battle and excepted mine. Maybe your flaws have nothing compared to others people’s, but you should never compare them anyway. Whatever your “flaw” is still will be a “flaw” until YOU say it’s not. Your opinion is the only one that really matters. Its time to toss all insecurities out the window and just be you! It’s not going to be easy but it is worth it! BELIEVE ME! 

P.S I have met people that also have brachymetatarsia and JENNIFER GARNER has brachymetatarsia too!

Also guys, I’m not telling to you not to hide your flaws. At the end of the day you gotta make that ultimate choice and decide. “Do you Boo Boo!” This is just MY outlook on what flaws are and how I dealt with my flaws.

[cherridawne]

Is your boyfriends name Kevaughn??

My boyfriend’s name is Superman. I like my relationship to be private so I don’t disclose his name online. I’m only assuming you think Kevaughn is my boyfriend. Since this is an advice column I think you should talk to Kevaughn. Don’t just listen to what he has to say but his actions too. From there you will get the answers you need and not from an anonymous ask me tumblr page. Most times though a woman’s intuition is right. If you feel your intuition is right they you will have to make the next move. 
Thanks for asking. Follow me on Instagram and Snapchat 😝
@CherriDawne ❤️

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A guy that is interested in me keeps calling me babe. He and I are friends but we are not that close. I am in a relationship and he is aware of it. But I kind of feel weird that he calls me "babe" when my boyfriend calls me that too. I do not wanna make a big deal about it and ruin our friendship especially if it doesn't mean anything. What should I do? Is this the new norm? Calling everyone babe without meaning? HELP!

If he’s just a friend to you and nothing more. Just talk to him. Ask him to stop if it’s seriously bothering you. You could also remind him what your name is. I’ve noticed men try to call women nicknames when they can to see how far they can get. Dude might just be pushing his luck and tryna get out the friend zone.

GIRL TALK TO YOUR MALE FRIEND!


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Don’t hold on to the Past!

There comes a time when all that you hoped and prayed for will come to past. All the changes you asked for, that growth that you were waiting for, will eventually come. Don’t revert back to the old habits and old ways. Don’t hold on to the past. Let it all go! Open up to the new opportunities you’ve asked for. Don't forget things happen for a reason whether they are good or bad. Trust the process and trust your faith. 

Accept the life you’ve been wanting. Don’t just be comfortable living with what you are accustomed to when there are greater things in life to strive for. Keep goal obtaining and goal changing because that’s how you really grow. You cannot change if you’re still in the same mind state. You won’t be able to. You will definitely be tempted to remain the person that you are, maybe often tested to make sure you really want to change to be a better and stronger person. Stay on the right path. When you feel like reverting back to who you used to be, read and educate yourself with the tools to overcome those temptations. Regroup your thoughts as to why you wanted to change in the first place and that should steer you back on track. The worst thing you can do is not accept the changes, the growth and the positivity you’ve been asking for. 

Understand that this is your process; your journey and this is what is needed for your growth. Everyone is different, therefore you cannot always seek change with other people or from other people. Sometimes, most times, you are on your own as you change. You might form different friendships and bonds with new people or rekindle relationships with people from your past who have also changed. You also might out grow others. Once you reached your desired goals do not revert back. Butterflies can never go back into their cocoons.

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The fundamentals of life ❤️ . . . #Cleanse #MindBodySoul #TorontoBlogger #ChatWithCherri #CherriDawne

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Another one of Gram’s Proverbs . . . “Doh laugh, cuz yuh laughin’ at yuhself.” . . . She means don’t laugh at other people because you’ll never know if you’ll end up in the same position. #GramsProverbs #Metaphors #WestIndians #WiseWomen #Writer #TorontoBlogger #ChatWithCherri #CherriDawne

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I take my intuitive thoughts and find the logic out of it. Sometimes I be wildin for no reason tho 🤣😂🙃 ~ I N T U I T I V E R E A S O N I N G ~ . . . #Intuition #Reasoning #IntuitiveReasoning #Psychology #Blogger #ChatWithCherri #CherriDawne❤️

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POTATO-LEMON MASK

So lately I have tried my fair share of experimenting with these things I seen online everywhere. I’ve tried a few of them and so far they have been a HIT for me. I had to fully try these hacks before I blogged about them so I apologize for the lack of inconsistency but I was experimenting.

 The first one a POTATO-LEMON MASK.

I honestly don’t know how I stumbled upon this mask but I’m so glad I did. My face is my world but when I’m nervous I tend to pick at it. SUPER BAD HABIT that I’m trying to stop. I love skin care and I have a decent basic skincare routine that has helped maintain the balance of oils in my skin preventing break outs. BUT because of my SUPER BAD HABIT of picking my skin I have some scars. Some I’ve managed to fade but because I used to pick my skin I have some more.  Having a history in the beauty industry I’ve gotten used to some of the ingredients they use in high-end products. Most of the great ingredients come from a plant or a fruit and of course, they break down the molecules and get super scientific with it. Apparently potato is great for the skin. It’s said to help fade dark marks and brighten the skin. Lemon juice is a commonly known whitener/lightener. The mask literally consists of these two ingredients only! But your girl had to be different and drop a few drops of tea tree oil in there. Tea tree oil is LIFE. I literally use it everywhere. I tried this mask for 7 days straight. I seen a huge difference in the texture of my skin by the third day. By the sixth day I seen some of the spots lighten and I could tell my skin was brighter and tighter.

MAKING THE POTATO-LEMON (-TEA TREE) MASK

You will need: 

1 white potato (about the size of your fist)

tea tree oil (OPTIONAL)

lemon or lemon juice

1 knife

1 potato peeler 

blender 

Disposable straw/stiring stick/popsicle stick

2 small containers 

Method:

1 - Wash the potato and remove the skin. Cut the potato in slices. then into squares.  

2 - Blend the potato until it’s a puree texture. Add some of the lemon juice (freshly squeezed or not). It’s ok to have chunks of potato in it.  

SIDE NOTE: This is where it becomes tricky with the measurements. You know black people don’t really measure when they cook, so it was hard to measure out the right about of lemon juice. You DO NOT want to over lemon the potato, and it also depends how much potato your working with too. I’d say about a shot glass will do. You don’t want the mixture to be too thin. (MAYBE I SHOULD MAKE A VIDEO. Comment if I should.)

IF YOU’RE MAKING THIS WITHOUT TEA TREE OIL THEN SKIP TO #4

3 - Pour out the mixture in to a container. Add 3-5 drops of tea tree oil and mix with a straw/stick.  

ANOTHER SIDE NOTE: Tea tree oil is OPTIONAL. I love tea tree oil and my skin loves it so I’ve added it to MY mask. It has a very strong smell and tingles because it is antiseptic. If you are planning to using this around your under eyes I just recommend making it without the tea tree oil as that skin is MUCH thinner than the rest of your face and might burn.  

4 - Divide the mixture into two. One will be going into the freezer and the other in the fridge. Label it if you NEED to with the date made and what it is. That way no one throws it out.  

APPLYING THE POTATO-LEMON-TEA TREE MASK

You will need: 

2 Clean face towels 

A (old)Flat foundation brush or Cotton pads

Your favorite moisturizer

1 - On clean skin, use the foundation brush/cotton pad to apply the mixture to your face and neck. Avoid getting too close to the eye area. If you do get it in your eye FLUSH OUT YOUR EYE WITH WATER IMMEDIATELY.

I did mine over the sink because it drips. 

2 Go over the face and neck as much times you would like. Its OK apply the potato chunks/pieces to the skin.

SIDE NOTE: THE MASK CANT GET DRIPPY SO HAVE THE TOWEL CATCH THE DRIPAGE FROM YOUR FACE, BUT DON’T PAT YOUR FACE WITH THE TOWEL. 

3. Let dry completely. Use the dripage towel to catch anything in the drying process. The mask will tighten and this is normal. It should be dry in 15 mins or so. Go watch a TV series episode or read something.   

4. RINSE THOROUGHLY AND REMOVE POTATO CHUNKS. 

5. Using the clean towel, pat dry and apply moisture to our face and neck.

Make sure you are wearing an OLD top you don’t care to get stuff on the dripage is real! I apply and rinsed my mask over the sink, which leaves it starchy. You will need to clean the sink really well afterwards.

Try out this mask. Let me know how it worked out for you. Comment if you want to see a video for this.

[cherridawne]

What is your boyfriends name ?

SUPERMAN! Thanks for asking. Follow me on Instagram and Snapchat :)@CherriDawne New post coming soon. I promise.

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A day doesn’t go by without me thanking the Lord for the people he placed in my life. But our MEN need all the prayers and support right now. They face sooo much on a daily basis and these days there’s more hatred out for men then love. So I constantly pray for his health, strength and success. . . . . #PrayForYourMan #Health #Strength #Success #ChatWithCherri #CherriDawne

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In the mist of Family Day, I’m sharing one of the many things my Grandmother says. “When you marry a teef, you get teef pon?” What does this mean to you? Feel free to answer in the comments! #HappyFamilyDay #GramsProverbs #Metaphors #WestIndians #WiseWomen #Writer #TorontoBlogger #ChatWithCherri #CherriDawne (at Family Day)

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A Change Gone Come

2018 so far has become a very positive life change. I’ve started to own my own life a lot more and accept what is and what is not.  Learnt to appreciate the LITTLER things, that many seem to over look. Learnt to turn ugly into beauty and understand that positivity keeps me going. Although there were a few times I slipped out of my positive bubble, but we all do it right? I mean its only the second month but January seemed like a solid 3 months to me. 

Starting off this year I told myself “I’m not living like last year; not repeating last year this year. Not that last year was horrible. I’m just looking for improvements, growth and more structure. I wanna see my skin glowing and hair growing! With that being said I have decided to strengthen some of the relationships in my life to form a solid foundation for the rest of the year. Forming the right relations with the right people not only boost your growth alone, but you will have a solid support system to always fall back on. And that is SUPER important! Having a solid foundation will motivate you in a way that you cannot. Also, they are very useful to whip yo ass back in shape if you fall off the positive road. 

These bonds heal everything and I have some strong bonds in my circle. The key is to maintain those bonds. Communication keeps relationships strong no matter what type it may be. Be open, honest and direct about what you need in order to form better bonds. Work on compromises even (if need be); not everything is easy. Most of my closest friends love the fact that I speak my mind so freely but respectfully…sometimes….most times lol. 

Not everyone has had the chance to have a support system they can fall back on. I am most grateful for my team. #ChatWithCherri can be your support if you need. Feel free to talk to me, ask me questions or just share some insight. I am down for it all! I know what it feels like not to have anyone around when I needed someone. My world is honest and who am I to judge anyone, I am not God. 

Appreciate everything you have and don’t have (including the support team). Don’t be envious of what or who someone else has. You do not know what they might of had to do for it. And you might not be willing to put the same work in for it. Work extremely hard for what you want and harder for what you need. Once you put dedication and effort into anything your support team will most definitely aid you the rest of the way to success. 

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Many of you barely see me but I’m just busy flourishing (and I’m a low key introvert). I’m living my life for me obtain my goals and my life desires. Trust me when I say I GOT THIS! 👊🏾 . . . New post coming soon #Writer ✍️ #TorontoBlogger #AdviceGiver 🗣 #ChatWithCherri #CherriDawne ❤️