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Are you working towards your dreams

Omg no I’m not!!! But thank you for asking

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Roses are red, that much is true, but violets are purple, not fucking blue.

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@katiehahnbooks

McGonagall: Mr Black, is that a dragon?

Sirius: This is Herbert, Professor. He’s here for emotional support.

McGonagall: In what way?

Sirius: When he breathes fire on the Slytherins, I feel positive emotions.

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Holy shit this is so valid.

And sadly the reality of most of the systems in our society that appear on the surface to benefit people. Another really good example (from personal experience) is Foster Care Agencies. 😟

My dad works in healthcare and he went to a conference this week. Someone said in a presentation, “The heathcare system is not broken. It’s working exactly the way it was designed, it was just never designed to benefit patients,” which I honestly am blown away by as the most accurate and concise description of US healthcare that I can’t believe I’ve never heard anyone say.

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A series of events:

1. I put in an Annual Leave request form almost 3 weeks ago and my boss has not approved it yet

2. I went into my office today and replaced every single writing utensil with crayons in preparation for April Fools Day on Monday

3. Whilst searching for pens to remove, I found my unsigned Annual Leave form in my boss’s drawer

4. I placed my unsigned Annual Leave form in a photo frame and put it on his desk

5. The frame I used was from a photo of his kids that I deemed less important than my Leave form

6. My boss sometimes goes into the office on Saturdays to work

7.

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hey @softsheithweek, can this count for ‘home’, ‘au’ and ‘family’ 🙈🙈🙈? [featuring eve from @/comettron’s au c:] 

bonus:

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This is SO FUNNY 😂😂😂

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My job hunt is complete. 😂

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February 2019 Illustrations  ヽ(• ‿•)ノ

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Here are some of our early concept art of Callum, Rayla, and Claudia by one of our artists, ctchrysler! 

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I feel like hurting people today, so HAVE SOME ANGST.

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He'd never been here without Shiro before. It was weird. But he needed to do this.

"I'm--" he stopped abruptly. Did he need to say it out loud? Maybe he should just... Say it in his head? He shuffled his feet. Maybe he should kneel? But that felt kind of like praying. Which was even weirder.

He groaned and dropped onto the grass. "You would be laughing at me right now. Not out loud. Never out loud." He rolled his eyes. "That like... Look. I think you taught him that dad look. Or maybe Colleen..."

He trailed off again and closed his eyes. He should not be this nervous.

"I'm going to ask Shiro to marry me, and I wanted to... Not ask permission? Because you can't answer. But. I felt like I should... Tell you. Because you were -- are -- important to him..."

Why was he so nervous. He was literally talking to a rock.

Headstone. But same thing, right?

"I know you guys broke it off, before. But, well I think it's important... I love him. And I'll take care of him. I promise, Adam...."

He set a hand on the stone and looked over his shoulder. "Was that...?"

He got a nod. "It was fine, Curtis."

"Thanks, Keith."

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Husband human and I are having one of those extremely weird weekends where we spent 20+ hours not talking to each other, 8 drunkenly playing truth or dare, 12 being gross and sick, and have now gotten in a fight about something I may or may not have done...

Just. Oh my god. Cis-Het men are just the weirdest, most non-communicative, emotionally stunted little creatures and I do not understand them. At all.

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/rainbow hands

Glorious, OP. Simply glorious.

chose not to warn

I almost never use that warning. Chose Not To Warn. 

I’ve considered it, though. I’ve had a few experiences where I wrote something, devoted a lot of thought to the tags, pointed out everything I thought could be problematic, and still wound up with a nastygram in my inbox because something triggered someone, something I’d thought was pretty well-explained within the text (drug use, but it was a prescription drug taken as prescribed; noncon, but it was consensual, just one of the characters had a drink to fortify himself before he went for it; underage, but both characters were of legally consenting age in the relevant jurisdiction and I just hadn’t specified enough, I guess?)

There have been a couple where people weren’t mad about it, but let me know that I triggered them severely, because I described something really vivid that happened to be something they’d experienced. But it was so specific– I’d put on a general warning, but short of having summarized the fic in detail there’d be no way to realize– even then, it was a descriptive detail I’d used that gave them a flashback, in one case, and they wouldn’t have known to brace for it, and I certainly wouldn’t have known to warn for it. It’s not possible; some triggers are so idiosyncratic, that if you just tell a vivid story, you’re going to risk setting someone off. 

And even if the person wasn’t mad at you, it’s still upsetting. You tried your best, but you still upset someone, and that doesn’t feel good.

I write pretty straightforward stuff; I’m kink-adjacent, but not really very kinky, and my shit is generally pretty vanilla; I go in more for emotional self-torture than anything else, and it’s usually pretty obvious that I’m gonna fall short of the dark side of fic, even in the darkest stuff I publish. 

And even I sometimes have trouble tagging my stuff. I’m a person without any triggers, but with some pretty serious squicks, so I get how serious it is, but just enough really to understand that there’s a lot I don’t know. 

If I wrote more complex stuff, I’d probably use the CNTW tag. Like, I can’t guarantee that I’m going to get everything tagged correctly. Proceed with caution. I’d prefer a wider audience, so I’m gonna try to use the archive warnings and tag as specifically as I can, but it gets to a point, sometimes, where you’re just sure you’re going to miss something, or you’re just not sure how to tag it.

That’s why the CNTW tag even exists. That, and some people just don’t really understand the warnings system. If you haven’t spent eight years on Tumblr reading the various discourses, if you haven’t had much experience reading up on how fandom specifically handles this shit, if you’ve never been to therapy and you’re not entirely sure what any of that means, how the hell are you going to know how to properly tag your shit?

That’s why that option exists. Some stuff, you can’t warn for. Other stuff, you don’t know how to warn for. CNTW is a big general-purpose warning flag. If you are the sort of person who’s going to be triggered by something, if you’re someone whose entire day could be ruined by an untagged major character death, if you’re someone who’s going to go into a horrible anxiety spiral over something too vivid, then please, for the love of God, take care of yourself, and steer away.

It’s not a “fuck off, we’re too good for your kind here.” It’s a “I’m so sorry, we don’t know how not to hurt you, and we want you to be safe.” Maybe it’s a “we don’t understand you,” or maybe it’s a “we have to take care of ourselves and the way we do that is by creating painfully cathartic content that we know hurts other people but our own compass for that shit is so broken we don’t know how to tag it anymore”, but either way, it is a big, bright, sparkly “this is not a safe space!” neon sign, and it is really important, and it is there on purpose, and it is there so you can take care of yourself.

You can take care of yourself. And that is really the only way to guarantee a safe space: giving you the tools you need to make it safe for you. That’s what all warnings are, what all tags are. But you need to use them. You need to curate your own experience. You need to understand that other people have vastly different requirements from their fictional escapes than you do. You need to arm yourself. You need to empower yourself.

That’s how it works. 

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These babes 😍

hwappy vwalentine’s dway

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some iconic dialogue that sounds like its from the great canon of literature but are actually from memes

I will face God and walk backwards into Hell

“I’ll do whatever you want” “then perish”

I have been through hell and come out singing

feel free to add more!