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women be like "i can't believe women of the past were so restricted by men like that, i'd never accept it" and then wear heels

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"Nice guys" will complain that women won't fuck them and always go for toxic men, not realising that their nice guy act is incredibly easy to see through. Do they seriously think women don't notice how horrible they become when they realise that whoever they're pursuing isn't into them? Do they not realise that their "niceness" is basically just pandering to what they *think* women like? These men are all carbon copies of each other, because they think women are a monolith who are into the exact same things. No, your sweater and circle frame glasses don't hide that you view every woman you meet as a sexual conquest. It's so painfully obvious. They treat women they aren't sexually attracted to horribly, if they acknowledge they exist at all. If they really were nice, they'd have female friends, yet they never do.

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okay so let me get this straight… “boy pretty” faces are women with dark sexy cat eye makeup and big lips while “girl pretty” is women with more cutesy features and soft makeup but also male gaze makeup is soft, flushed/pink makeup like the “girl pretty” women and female gaze makeup is dark sexy cat eye makeup like the “boy pretty” women BUT male gaze clothes are tight sexy clothes that actually fit with the female gaze sexy makeup and female gaze clothes are airy loose floral dresses that fit with the male gaze soft makeup……………………….

i hate y’all so much it’s unreal

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I have read through your posts; and I have read a few times the following sentiment- "Trans women still enjoy male privilege" or something along the lines of this.

In an effort to understand this; I find myself thinking about various, similar radical feminist sentiments. One I found particularly interesting - that I will paraphrase - a woman talks about how her trans woman friend is really into guitar. She laments, this is an example of male socialization- that he can just get into guitar. She laments that she as a growing girl did not want to pursue the guitar out of fear that she wouldn't be good at it, and that all women are raised with a similar mentality- she laments that in this way her friend will never be a "woman" in the same way she is. She wouldn't have pursued the guitar if she was raised as a woman, and likewise would be an entirely different person.

In your opinion, is the male privilege trans woman hold created by male socialization and upbringing? Do you think a fully passing trans woman has male privilege at all, if so, how? Without any further analysis, my natural conclusion would be that trans women should suffer from being incapable of performing as men.

hello, thank you for reaching out and sending me this interesting question, one that i would like to engage with & answer.

the scenario you have described can be a very good example. sure, there are women out there who play guitar, yes (in fact, my parents wanted me to play guitar– but i did not want to, because i feared it would reflect badly on my academics which i wanted to focus on)– but the point here (from what i can see, at least) is not about the trans woman playing guitar, it is about her friend, who felt discouraged from playing guitar, fearing she wouldn’t be good at it. i wouldn’t exactly say the trans woman in this scenario is highly privileged or advantaged per se, but i can see how her friend might think so, and i can see how the female upbringing of her friend might be an important factor as to why she herself felt discouraged from pursuing such a career. she might’ve been told by her surroundings, “this is no career for a woman”– triggering such a response in her, building a deep sense of self-consciousness produced simply by the type of female socialization she’s underwent in her formative years. yes, female socialization in fact can take a hold on someone’s personality & affect it in very significant ways– this is largely why women are assumed to be more empathetic, gentle, nurturing; it is a nature versus nurture factor, it has nothing to do with female biology. female socialization limits women’s lives in numerous ways, and some women might in fact give up on their biggest childhood dreams, exactly because of how they were conditioned. female socialization teaches girls to hate their own bodies, to view their own abilities & capabilities as inferior– which can very much affect what careers they later pursuit– this is why “pink collar” jobs exist– women are taught that their field of speciality lays in caring for others, and putting their own needs at bay.

does this mean that the trans woman in this scenario would, therefore, automatically not pursuit her chosen career, had she been raised as a woman? we cannot talk about the what ifs, because she was not raised as a woman– but we do know that women, throughout history, absolutely have gone to fascinating lengths at tearing down societal norms & thus directly confronting their female socialization. female history is long, beautiful & something to be glorified– despite the fact that the majority of it is not tracked & that we have limited access to it, exactly because of the patriarchy & the way it operates as a hierarchical system; acting like women are fate-bound to their oppression is nihilistic, and does nothing good for feminism ultimately. if we use the theory of gendered socialization to imply that women are never going to make it out of the patriarchy, or that it is our decided fate to be oppressed forever, we are engaging in biological essentialism & biological determinism, despite using the feminist theory that goes directly against it. female socialization is not synonymous with female nature– quite the opposite. female socialization rigorously punishes women & girls for going against it & thus showing that their learned behaviors are, in fact, learned, and not innate to them. therefore, i do not believe that simply using the theory of gendered socialization is a valid enough merit for deciding who is a woman, and who is not. other factors should also be considered– there are women who did not undergo female socialization (at least not to the fullest extent of it– female & male socializations aren’t clear binaries without any nuance– they were coined to provide a brief understanding of how the differences between female & male people aren’t biologically fixated & are rather sociologically influenced, not as perfect distinctions that can never ever intersect or have nuance to them)– such as detrans women who were allowed to socially transition at a young age & were perceived as male to their peers, or intersex women who found their condition out at a later age, and many other women with admittedly rare situations, but however rare they may be– their situations & lives are worthy of being considered. being able to see that a detrans woman who transitioned at an early age has had a significantly different childhood experience from other women, also means being able to see that a trans woman has had a significantly different childhood experience from cis men.

“trans women have male privilege” is a blank statement, is not further analyzed, expanded on, nor is there any nuance in it. yes, i have said this exact sentence quite a few times on this blog, but i never said it in a way meant to do harm, and i never said it as a blank statement. i believe that, yes, even fully passing & transitioned, stealth trans women will have access to varying forms of male privilege– they will experience social & economic misogyny, but they will never experience the fullest extent of medical misogyny (they will, however, experience medical transphobia, which can be as deathly & as dangerous as medical misogyny, and it often is), nor will they experience religious misogyny– and, of course, the majority of them were undoubtedly socialized male. however, just because they have access to varying forms of male privilege, does not mean their struggles aren’t real, or that they don’t experience legitimate & tangible discrimination, persecution, and oppression. trans people are at great risks of prostitution & homelessness, in general, and this oppression can be detrimental to fully stealth & passing trans women. black trans women are especially vulnerable, being at horrifying risk of violence. denying that transphobia is a real & dangerous form of oppression is not productive. we also generally know that same-sex attracted trans women are especially vulnerable when in a relationship & if they are outed as trans, and while yes, it is every trans person’s responsibility to tell their intimate partner they are trans– excusing & justifying male violence against trans people is inherently an anti-feminist act. trans women might be privileged in some ways when compared to cis women & trans men, but stating this as a blank statement blocks the need for nuance & the need for intersectionality. even the most trans women-exclusionary feminist can see that the experiences of a middle-class white trans-identified non-dysphoric male person who lives in the west, are significantly different from the experiences of a heavily dysphoric lower-class/proletarian trans woman of color– regardless of her passing (and, of course, she is more vulnerable if she does pass). even if a trans woman does not pass & does not face sexism– she is still likely to experience homophobia & gncphobia– both forms of bigotry directly tied to the oppression of women. even if you do exclude trans women from your feminism, ignoring the fact that transphobia is a real axis of oppression will do nothing to help our movement. a trans woman might be privileged in some ways, but that does not mean that a non-trans woman immediately holds no privilege over said trans woman. a perfectly gender conforming, heterosexual middle-class white girl will hold tangible privileges over a gender non-conforming homosexual dysphoric boy of color (regardless of if he later identifies as trans or not) who most likely suffers homophobia at school & at home. intersectionality is always important, and if you can acknowledge that oppression isn’t based on identity– you can also acknowledge that dysphoria is agonizing & that although a trans woman might not explicitly face sexism/and or female socialization– the way she experiences male socialization will be different, and it might marginalize her uniquely, just how female socialization marginalizes us.

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People on this website are like reversed racism and heterophobia aren't real you dumbass, those are just lies created by the oppressors to discredit the fight against racism and homophobia! but misandry is so so real and a serious problem btw

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Something I've noticed throughout various retail jobs I've worked is the difference in how staff are treated by management based on gender. Even when management are female, I still notice that more is expected out of women than men. The men get away with not pulling their weight, meanwhile a woman will simply stop and ask her coworker how her weekend was and get scolded for talking and told to get back to work. Men can get away with barely even looking at customers they're serving, whereas women will be perfectly polite and friendly, but get told off for not smiling enough. I've seen male coworkers get promoted despite literally doing nothing but fuck around with other men we work with all day, meanwhile, their female coworkers end up picking up their slack. If they don't, then they're usually getting blamed for stuff not getting done because management expect so much more out of women than they do men.

An example I can think of is the time I had two coworkers who liked to go out partying all the time. Management thought the man coming in hungover and late to every shift was endearing. He never got reprimanded for it. Even when he'd show up two hours late it was okay because "that's just what he's like!" Meanwhile, the female coworker who went out partying would show up on time, be a little hungover but would still do anything that was asked of her, and she was always presentable. Yeah, she got fired for coming in hungover.

Or another one I remember is when a male coworker was on extended sick leave. Management were so worried for him and constantly checking in to make sure he was doing well. A female coworker got diagnosed with a neurological condition and needed some time off work while she adjusted to her medication. She was called dramatic, attention seeking, and no one bothered to check in with how she was doing.

Even on our breaks we aren't free from these weird double standards. I always got snide comments about eating processed food on my break. I'd constantly have people in my ear saying it's bad for me and told I would ruin my body if I kept eating like that (ironically I had a restrictive eating disorder at the time, so I was damaging my body, just not really in the way they were thinking I was). Most of my male coworkers would have eaten similar things, but no one made any comments on their dietary choices.

It's just so insane to me that people pretend that workplace misogyny is a thing of the past, when it very clearly isn't. Male mediocrity gets celebrated, while hard working women never get any recognition.

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Please reblog this even if you don’t care

They’re trying to erase the existence of the rape victims of Japanese soldiers in World War II because they think the reminder of their crimes might make Japan a little bit cross

Duterte, the absolute coward, is more worried about women criticizing him than actually honoring the women this country needs to remember

Please don’t let these women be silenced.

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if you fantasise about raping a woman you disagree with, please kill yourself

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"abortions are violent" birth is worse

"abortions are traumatic" birth has a higher trauma rate

"abortions are painful" birth is significantly worse

"abortions can botch your body" birth can result in a myriad of debilitating and life-altering disabilities and complications

"abortions can cause women to bleed out" the death rate is higher in birth

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oh yeah makeup wearers, can you do THIS? *proceeds to rub eyes in circles with fists*

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It had been really hard (and y'all know that I'm an unfeeling robot by this time) that the general response to Afghan women being banned from living and SK women and girls being systematically sexually abused is "oh no... Anyway" Iike the Top Gear meme.

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im sorry but this is a hilarious arguement😭 but what about the homeless people who want to have sex?😢😢😢

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since no one will say it, you are not crazy for not wanting to have sex on the first date. you are not crazy for being vigilant about STIs or risks of pregnancy, you are not crazy for being afraid of pregnancy or marriage, you are not stuck up for not posting pictures of yourself online, you are not unreasonable for being afraid to initiate a romantic relationship with the same sex in a homophobic culture, you are actually very normal for not "putting out" and people who are okay with these risks consent on their own terms, as you yourself should

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These headlines are just from the last 24 hours.

Every hour, almost 4 women are raped in India. Every day, almost 90. Every year, over 31,500 women are raped, according to NCRB.

In 96.6% of rape cases, the rapist is known to the victim.

Our outrage must not stop this time.

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Pregnancy is not "inconvenient"

Missing the bus is inconvenient.

Losing your purse is inconvenient

Pregnancy is intrusive, risky and life-changing and no one should have to justify not wanting to go through it.