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Crowley while looking at stars with Az: you know what beautiful, Angel?

Aziraphale, blushing: What?

Crowley, very excitedly: aLPHA CENTAURI

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that asymmetrical hoodie looks comfy as shit but i s w e a r t o g o d ifiseethatdamnthingonmydashonemoretimeiamgoingtolosemy s h i t

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Do you know that there is a city on Earth that actually lives in a dystopian future? and it's terrifying.

Who are the Uighurs?

The Uighurs are mostly Muslims, and number about 11 million in western China’s Xinjiang region. They see themselves as culturally and ethnically close to Central Asian nations, and their language is similar to Turkish.

But in recent decades, there’s been a mass migration of Han Chinese (China’s ethnic majority) to Xinjiang, and the Uighurs feel their culture and livelihoods are under threat.

Nowhere in the world, not even in North Korea, is the population monitored as strictly as it is in the Xinjiang Uighur Autonomous Region.  Oppression has been in place for years, but has worsened massively in recent months.

- Uighurs can no longer openly practice Islam

- Men are not allowed to wear beards. Exception only for old people

- They can no longer learn their native language at school

- They cannot move freely around the country and cannot leave it

- All mosques have been turned into shops and office centers

Beijing has also turned Xinjiang into a security state that is extreme even by China’s standards, being a police state itself. The provincial government has recruited over 90,000 police officers in the last two years alone - twice as many as it recruited in the previous seven years. 

At the same time, Beijing is equipping the far-western region with state-of-the-art surveillance technology, with cameras illuminating every street all over the region, from the capital Urumqi to the most remote mountain village. Iris scanners and WiFi sniffers are in use in stations, airports and at the ubiquitous checkpoints - tools and programs that allow data traffic from wireless networks to be monitored.

Checkpoints are installed in every district of the city. In simple terms, you can not get from one area of the city to another without passing the checkpoint and the police.

The data is then collated by an “integrated joint operations platform” that also stores further data on the populace – from consumer habits to banking activity, health status and indeed the DNA profile of every single inhabitant of Xinjiang.

Anyone with a potentially suspicious data trail can be detained. The government has built up a grid of hundreds of re-education camps. Tens of thousands of people have disappeared into them in recent months.

“Qu xuexi,” meaning to go or be sent to study, is one of the most common expressions in Xinjiang these days. It is a euphemism for having been taken away and not having been seen or heard from since. The “schools” are re-education centers in which the detainees are being forced to take courses in Chinese and patriotism, without any indictment, due process or a fair hearing.

Xinjiang, one of the most remote and backward regions in booming China, has become a real-life dystopia. It provides a glimpse of what an authoritarian regime armed with 21st century technology is capable of.

Uighurs are very intimidated and refuse to talk to the press, even if they miraculously escaped the country. 

What’s happening in China is terrible. Maybe some people finally realize that the concentration camps are the reality of our time. There are concentration camps in America too. Don’t forget that. 

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spotify: *auto-plays introduction to the village by wrabel*

me: *immediately starts crying*

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How to Recognize Compulsory Heterosexuality

Compulsory heterosexuality, also known as coercive heteronormativity* is something that affects all lesbians, everywhere in the world. It also applies to women of other sexualities, and has been observed to occur in men as well (although argued to be to a lesser extent than women). However, it is mostly commonly attributed to lesbians.

*I believe since the creator of the former term was a political lesbian, people have created other terms, but they all refer to the same phenomenon.

What is compulsory heterosexuality?

Also known as “comp het”, compulsory heterosexuality refers to a kind of heteronormativity that affects people on an individual level. Since people are assumed straight until proven otherwise, and society, media, and family life are all incredibly heteronormative, we grow up thinking that we are supposed to be straight as well. For women, comp het also includes the pressure to involve men in every aspect of our lives, including (especially) romantic, as pushed on us by the patriarchy. An example of the effects of comp het is not knowing that liking the same sex was even a possibility, so assuming that you must be straight.

How do you recognize comp het as a lesbian?

This is something I personally have struggled with immensely, and these examples come from both my personal experience and from what other people have told me about their experiences. Of course, not everyone experiences all of these, and there may be other signs of comp het not listed here as well.

Being in relationships with men for validation, attention, popularity, etc, and not because you actually like the men you date

Analyzing every guy you meet to see if you should crush on him (if you choose to have a crush, it’s not real attraction)

Alternatively, randomly selecting a guy to crush on, just to have a crush and fit in with all the other girls

Why you crush on certain men is because of logical reasons and not because of any feelings attached (eg. This guy is responsible and performs well in school, so your parents would approve if you date him)

Thinking that you must be romantically attracted to any conventionally attractive guy you meet, even if you’ve never spoken to him

Thinking you must be attracted to any of your male friends, because girls “obviously” can’t have guy friends without having a crush on them

All your fantasies about men revolve around the future, in order to satisfy a desire of having a “perfect” nuclear family (a house in the suburbs, two kids, husband always at work so you can never see him and be intimate with him)

The thought of doing anything sexual with a man grosses you out

Any sexual fantasies about a man involve a faceless figure that doesn’t feel like a real person

Not being able to relate when your straight female friends talk about guys they like

Only wanting a boyfriend so he can provide you emotional support

Wanting a boyfriend so you won’t be lonely

Wanting a boyfriend to get approval from friends, family, society

Believing those reports that claim every woman finds other women attractive so you can rest safely in the knowledge that even though you find girls hot, you’re still “straight”

Having female friends in childhood or adolescence you were “very close to”, to the extent that you spent all your time thinking about them or followed them around school

Focusing on the woman in sex scenes

All your male crushes were fictional men or unattainable celebrities, so you could be safe in the fact that you’d never have to actually date them

Thinking that a guy being nice to you means you should date him

Thinking guys are cute from afar, but when you get closer to them, you find so many parts of them to be unattractive (eg. hands, hair, body odour, etc)

Liking guys until they reciprocate interest, after which you try to avoid them as much as possible

Knowing that you’re a lesbian from an early age, but try to force yourself to like men because liking girls must “just be a phase” or you’re “just confused”

Testing whether or not you’re attracted to men by trying to like randomly chosen guys to see if it could be possible

Knowing that you only like girls now, but convincing yourself you might like guys in the future, as long as you “meet the right guy”

Assuming you have to like men because that’s what girls are supposed to do

Believing the societal myth that women aren’t supposed to enjoy sex, and that’s why you dislike having sex with men

Misinterpretating anxiety as being romantic butterflies

Convincing yourself that you like men because being a lesbian seems too hard to deal with

Thinking attraction is supposed to feel nauseating and uncomfortable

Having “crushes” on certain men because you admire something they’re able to do (eg. “I must like this guy because I really like how well he plays the guitar”)

Not having feelings for men but being able to tolerate being with men

If anyone has anything to add, feel free to do so in the reblogs, because this is just a small fraction of what compulsory heterosexuality can do to lesbians. Lesbians should not have to “put up” with being with men; we shouldn’t have to “tolerate” relationships with men. Lesbian sexuality is active, not passive, and if you’re not actively desiring men, you’re not attracted to men.

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I just watched Ralph breaks the internet and the one thing I have to say is I am in love with shank

😍

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How to recognize comphet:

Disclaimer: None of this is automatically comp het, but if you experience all or most of these things you might want to look into it

Your attraction to men is super generalized, you can’t name a specific trait you find attractive in men

You are only attracted to very gnc men

You feel really uncomfortable when you think about the men you are attracted to

You dread the idea of romance

You get a little angry when you see a man dating a woman waaay out of his league but can’t explain why

You have no desire to actually act on your attraction

When you visualize your future, if you have a husband he plays a very small part/is away most of the time

You really don’t want to date or be intimate with men

You find very masculine men boring/scary/dull/just plain hard to be around

You only have crushes on men you are friends with

You feel things about women that you would definitely consider attraction if you felt it toward men, but brush it off

wlw content makes you feel like you wish that were you

Any feelings of “trying to orchestrate a crush”

@tackylesbians can you help me boost this? It’s my experience with comphet and I was hoping it can help other questioning lesbians

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i’m really surprised at my growth within the past two months. i am so much more comfortable with my sexuality than i ever thought i would be, and i embrace the fact that i can be who i truly am. i just wish that the people in my neck of the woods (literally) would understand more.

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ayeeee I came out to my mom the other day and her legitimate reaction was “what, you think I didn’t notice?”

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Someone: So what’s your sexuality/gender?

Questioning folks™️: *Incoherent panicked screaming*

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Okay so, I was thinking about how confused I am about my sexuality today and I realized a major obstacle I’ve had in all of this. 

Growing up, I was always told that homosexuality is wrong, blah blah, but also that it’s a choice, which is why it’s wrong. 

So now that I’m actually in a place where I feel like I can be honest about my feelings for girls, I have to deal with this deeply internalized belief that I’m somehow choosing to go against God. It’s honestly part of the reason why when I thought I was bi I never explored my feelings for women, because that would be a choice when I could just keep dating guys like I’m supposed to.

It’s not that I’m particularly religious now. I mean, for a while in like, middle school, I was super church-y and believed being gay was wrong etc, but I eventually realized sometime in high school that people actually are born gay (not me per se, but some of my friends who I cared about). Like, I just spent four years at a social justice university, I guess you could say I’m down with gay rights now. I know unequivocally that being gay isn’t a choice.

But when it comes to looking at myself, I can’t seem to shake this feeling that I’m actively choosing this. I feel like if I’m going to be gay, I need to know that I have absolutely no choice. I need to know that it’s inevitable. But given that I didn’t really start putting all the pieces together until my twenties, it feels like that’s not true. When I dated guys, I wasn’t miserable. I mean, I really thought I was feeling the way I was supposed to when I was with them. Maybe I really could find a guy I could be happy with. Or maybe it’s the comp het talking?

I think this is why I wish I knew I was just completely gay, and not bi. If I know I can be with guys, liking girls just feels self-indulgent, like I’m choosing to like them, especially when I went so long without realizing my feelings for them. I still don’t know if all of my feelings for boys are entirely born of compulsory heterosexuality. The thought of actually falling for a guy scares me, but is that because of comp het? Or is that because I have this deeply internalized homophobic/biphobic belief that as long as I am able to be with a man, I should ignore all my feelings for women, no matter how pure and wonderful they are, and pursue him.

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Tbh holding a girl’s hand sounds really nice rn

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