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I hate that you can both see posts from asexuals saying "the queer community needs to be less focused on sex and sexual desire as the be-all and end-all of things" and posts from alloaros saying "the queer community needs to be more chill about hookups, sex with friends, sexual desire, and sex" and they're both right and necessary! Like. It would be easier if everyone was weird about sex in the same way. Then there would only be one problem to fix. But no. Instead sex is mandatory, but also there is a wrong way to do it (outside of romantic relationships), and you can't like it too much, but God forbid you like it too little or not at all.

I literally saw two posts that were just the inverse of each other from an ace and an alloaro within 24 hours and it's just like. How hard is it to respect people's decisions? To not make statements implying that everyone should have the same approach to sex? To not imply that anyone is having sex the wrong way or in the wrong amount (be that having too much or none at all)? I don't want either of these posts to be necessary.

It's just. Like. Exhausting that the world is full of nuance. You can't say that society either loves or hates sex. No, instead it has very rules you have to follow and I hate it.

Like, for as different as being aroallo and aroace are? They're also both the exact same. We're both doing sex wrong. Either by not having sexual attraction, or by having it without romance.

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being sexually attracted to a people without the romantic attraction (eg. aroallos, bisexual hetero/homo roms, etc) will make so many people think it warrants the worst purity culture ass shit i stg. like no that bisexual homoromantic man is not misogynstic for not romantically liking women. no that aroallo is not just a whore that sleeps around and breaks hearts. you all need to unlearn this shit. being lgbt is not some cutesy clean thing. there are going to be 'unsavoury' identities. there is going to be identities that you think are 'too weird'. my advice? get over yourself.

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Oops I embarrassed her

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my partner said something that kinda rocked my world

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my medical records say I was given forcefem hypnotherapy when I transferred here but that must be an error because I've always been a girl?

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Why did nopony warn me that a symptom of being less depressed was that I’d actually miss people and not want to be on my own all the time?

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how transfems talk about their fav characters

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continually astounded to learn that someone around me is actually for real christian. like. aren't you supposed to grow out of that

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i didnt know you were allowed to do things for the sake of wanting to do things. i thought you were just supposed to keep that locked inside your ribcage and let it rot you inside out until youre limping around as the desiccated corpse of who you could have been

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how to tell mutual hey i think ur really cool we should talk more but like also im bad at talking and am always exhausted

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fuuuuck i just realized that the future idealized version of myself cant exist without current me being the catalyst for change and doing hard things. has anybody heard about this