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As an Indigenous System this. So fucking much this. Denial of non-disordered systems is absolutely rooted in racism and the denial of cultural wisdom, knowledge and spirituality.

We are absolutely sick of having to rehash this point.

CWs: racial slur / derogatory term, talk of racism, heavy talk of religion and spirituality, anti-endo ideology.

to be honest I think there is no possible way to be anti-endo and anti-racist, because fun fact denying spiritual belief and equating it with “delusional��� is rooted in racism, and fun fact spiritual plurals are very much plural if they want to consider themselves such.

I am Buddhist, and a very spiritual creature in general. My plurality, I attribute mostly to trauma- but not wholly. In my full belief, I think my being started as plural, and this inherently rooted in my spiritual belief. I also experience soulbonds and walk-ins— once again, tied to my spiritual belief.

I am also Indian (well- mixed mutt with several ties). I feel like my race and my spirituality are intertwined with each other on a deeply personal level, and to discredit my spirituality also feels to discredit deep cultural beliefs and even my racial identity as a whole.

When anti-endogenics say spiritual plurality is impossible “because science”— they are parroting the same racism ive heard for years about numerous topics. Why is it still so acceptable? It’s racist.

I see people say that science is just stone cold fact- but no science can accurately prove or disprove any spirituality, really. Not to mention, most antis are parroting western scientists, from western cultures, working in the western psych field, accredited by western institutions and universities… and I’m sure I don’t need to remind you what the west is know for, historically. (Hint; it starts with race and ends with -ism.)

To all plurals out there with spiritual beliefs related to their plurality, spiritual practices related to it, or plurals who just feel as if their plurality is influenced by their spirituality in any way— i see you. you’re valid, and you’re welcome, and you always should be. and this goes for white spiritual plurals too, btw— race was just a big motivator for me personally when making this post. all spiritual plurals have a place in the community.

[ not syscourse. do not tag as syscourse. do not derail. do not debate. I am not a discourse blog. ]

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We are an advocate in our area so we are out to most everyone. We have spent years teaching our doctors and insurance company about plurality. We have even helped our insurance provider interview and compile a list of therapists, psychologists and other specialists that have at least the bare minimum of understanding about plurality and CDDs to offer to other systems navigating the healthcare system. (That was a hell of a time but I very much appreciate the team I was working with at the company who learned our names and knew when a specific one of us called in it meant an interview went horrifically bad 😅)

Now we are trying to work with local LGBTQIA+ organizations to build resources and eventually meet-up groups for the plural community in our area.

Being open and talking to so many singlets, often for the first time, about plurality and its reality can be daunting at times but it's absolutely been worth what hardships we've faced to be openly and unapologetically ourselves as we advocate for this community.

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I highly suggest everyone read all the reblogs if you aren't familiar with what disabled individuals have to put up with on a daily basis.

I just want to add that this type of abelism is a cornerstone of eugenics. Demanding people 'prove they're disabled' by providing a diagnosis reinforces the ideas that 1. Disabled individuals are unreliable witnesses to their own condition 2. That only people whom have been 'confirmed by a medical professional' to have some kind of disability are truly disabled 3. That to be worthy of accommodations we must be willing to expose our diagnosis/status/private medical data.

It is a dangerous stepping stone that our culture has gotten far too comfortable with. It dehumanizes and delegitimizes disabled individuals and their lived experiences.

Here's the thing.

Why do some people demand proof of existence and diagnosis when people say they are a system? Why is that your business? "If you don't have a diagnosis, you aren't real." Good for you, but not everyone can get a diagnosis, whether it be because of affordability, accessibility, or even just busy life. Are you gonna ask a person with anxiety proof of their anxiety? How about a person with bipolar proof of their bipolar? What about a disabled person? Would you ask for proof that they are disabled?

If you wouldn't wanna be asked for your diagnosis on something, then maybe don't ask systems for proof of their diagnosis.

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Things that are funnier when you're plural:

You've got a friend in me.

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plural acceptance to me looks like the concept of one body being multiple people being entirely normal. plural acceptance to me is "hey, whats up? who am i talking to?" being the most normal question in the world. plural acceptance to me is it being nothing of note when someone uses plural we/us. plural acceptance to me is online conversations not dying when someone uses a proxy or signoff. plural acceptance to me is in-sys relationships being treated as serious and natural as any other kind of relationship.

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It's wild we've been out as a system for six years now. We've known about each other since well... forever, even if some headmates weren't as aware as others but our entire system openly came out to most of those around us six years ago. It's been a wild journey with alot of unexpected roads and alot of advocacy but we honestly wouldn't have it any other way. We deeply and profoundly love our system and all those in it. Accepting ourselves has lead us to more blessings than I can articulate. I am so happy we can be authentically ourselves.

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we love and support nonbinary systems, plurals, headmates, alters, and parts, here! forever and always!

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Just a reminder while things get scarier out there.

Yall are loved.

Yall are valued.

Yall are sacred.

The world is a better place for having you in it.

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Not exactly sure I'd call it a preference but we tend to date other systems. We are polyamorous and all but one of our current partners are systems. There is something super comforting about dating other systems and not having to explain the basics of our existence. Though our one singlet partner is absolutely fantastic at getting to know us 🙂

Like I said it's not exactly a preference because we don't go out of our way to look for other systems to date. It just sort of happens that way for us.

Why?

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I am so thankful for my culture and my elders insights on Plurality.

Viewing Plurality as a natural state of being has fundamentally changed how we view and differentiate the negative symptoms of our CDD vs our system itself. Reconnecting to our culture and grounding ourselves in Spirit has been life changing.

I am eternally thankful for our system.

I am eternally grateful for our culture.

I am eternally grateful for our elders.

I am eternally grateful for Spirit.

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First two attempts at an angry/aggressive Aro/Ace flag. We still aren’t super happy with it but we’re making progress

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Just your periodic reminder that we run a small discord server for systems/plurals regardless of origins. We just ask everyone stay respectful.

If anyone is interested in joining feel free to send us an ask or dm or something and we'll send a link :)

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Sit and share with us:

What's something special or unique about your system that you love?

We'll go first:

Our dreams are more often than not scenes from our inner world. They have a distinct 'flavor' to them that makes them distinct from regular dreams. This has allowed us alot of extra bonding time and has strengthened our community.

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native queers I love you 2Spirit fags and dykes I love you indigenous genderqueer people I love you third gender people I love you māhū I love you ahhhhhhhh

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PLURAL ASK GAME!! ⋆˙⟡

⊹ ࣪ ˖͙͘͡★ the randomest and silliest questions :3

!! this post is for everybody! u may use this regardless of origin/beliefs, just remember to follow ur own dni

🌸 - if ur system had a theme song, what would it be?

🍃 - if ur whole system got stranded on an island, who would survive the longest?

🌷 - do u have any alters with an oddly specific role/purpose?

🍏 - what’s one experience u look back on from before u knew u were a system and go “oh my god, it’s so obvious i was plural!”

🪷 - what’s ur most obscure/unusual introject source?

🍀 - what’s the weirdest thing u have overheard another alter say?

💞 - which one of ur headmates would u trust the least with the task of babysitting?

🍬 - do u have any in-sys relationships? if so, which one(s) is the most iconic/important?

🌱 - if u had to assign each of ur alters an energy drink flavor to describe them, what would they be?

🌺 - do u have any belongings that are owned by a specific alter? if so, what are they?

🍡 - which one of ur alters would u think would be the best president?

🧩 - does ur system have any nonhuman alters? if so, what’s the silliest creature u have?

💗 - do u have any rivalries in ur system? lighthearted or otherwise!

🌿 - what’s the most oddly specific front trigger u have?

🎀 - who was the first alter u discovered in ur system?

🥝 - which one of ur headmates is the most likely to participate in stupid internet trends? (e.g. cinnamon challenge, tide pod challenge, etc)

💓 - if ur system had a dance-off, who would be the champion?

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Video Games

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Shout out to Indigenous systems/plurals.

Shout out to those who's spirituality and culture influences your systemhood/plurality.

Shout out to Two-Spirit and Indigiqueer systems/plurals.

Y'all are valued.

Y'all are loved.

Y'all are sacred.