#system positivity

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for proxy systems!

According to Pluralpedia, proxy systems are “where one functions as a singlet (or approximately close to one, such as a median system) due to a frontstuck host, yet all members of the system are completely distinct in the headspace.” Many systems may find that they function in this way! This post is for all the proxy systems out there!

🧡 Shoutout to willogenic, paromancy, imagian, or other willfully created proxy systems!

💛 Shoutout to systems who are writers, artists, or other creators whose headmates are characters who are unable to switch or front!

🤍 Shoutout to proxy systems with headmates who wish they could switch!

💜 Shoutout to proxy systems whose members often cofront, blur or blend together, or are coconscious!

💙 Shoutout to proxy systems who love, embrace, and celebrate the way their system works!

🧡 Shoutout to protogenic proxy systems, or those who have always been plural even if no one but the host has fronted!

💛 Shoutout to proxy systems who identify as specutien or have some other specific labels for their experience as proxy systems!

🤍 Shoutout to proxy systems with vast, complex headspaces, and to proxy systems with no headspace whatsoever!

💜 Shoutout to those who are questioning whether or not they are a proxy system!

💙 Shoutout to hosts of proxy systems who work hard to help their headmates live the lives they want to live, even if they can’t fully front!

🧡 Shoutout to proxy systems who prefer to present as a singlet in their daily life for their own comfort and/or safety!

Proxy systems have always been and will always be valued, cherished, and integral members of the plural community! To any proxy system who reads this, please know that your system is real and you are valid, regardless of how you experience plurality or the ways in which your system functions! It’s okay if most of your system members interact with the world through your system’s host. That doesn’t negate the validity of your system in any way, shape, or form!

We hope that every proxy system out there can have an amazing day today. Know that you are so loved, and you make the world and our spaces a better place simply by existing in it! Regardless of how your system came to be, you are special, your system is beautiful, and we are so pleased to be able to share this wonderful, diverse community with you. Please keep you chin up, have some pride in your system and how it works, and do you best to take care of each other!

[twylas-plural-positivity]

helloooo hi. wanted to make a positivity post for systems that relates to. gender.

— shoutout to systems who are trans as part of their collective identity or masking identity!

— shoutout to systems where most alters have different genders!

— shoutout to alters whos perception of their gender doesn't match their outerworld body!

— shoutout to levian/eclian/azlian alters!

— shoutout to introjects with different gender than their source!

— shoutout to alters who showed up identifying as one gender, but later identified as another, for any reason at all!

— shoutout to alters who identity as more than one gender!

— shoutout to alters with no gender!

— shoutout to alters with genders others have a hard time understanding!

— shoutout to trans alters in general!

— shoutout to non-human alters whose non-humanity affects their gender!

— shoutout to systems and alters whos plurality affects their gender in any way!

— shoutout to systems who can't express or talk about their gender because they aren't out!

— shoutout to alters who are the only alter of a specific gender in their system!

— shoutout to systems and alters who use more obscure labels to describe their gender!

— shoutout to systems and alters who coin their own terms to talk about their gender!

hope you enjoyed :D gender is a personal topic to me as im eclian/ecligender myself, and thats... quite a difficult label to describe to singlets, methinks. i hope this post was able to make you smile today!

[collectivewarmth]

one of the most important things about dissociative identity disorder and generally being a system that i wish people would understand is that it truly isn’t as cut and dry as it may seem for member count.

you’ll see people who say they have “six alters” and then immediately assume it’s six fully fleshed out equal individuals with no confusion or fuzziness regarding identity. that’s simply not true in a majority of cases, as i have seen.

most systems still VERY much deal with confusion regarding potential splits, go through dissociative episodes where they’re unsure of who they are, sometimes feel no attachment towards any identities, feel like they might have split and then suddenly that person is gone, unsure if alters they haven’t heard from often have gone dormant, not sure how to react when alters do come out of dormancy, etc.

it’s not a fun feeling and it’s genuinely unfair in certain situations to force systems to list every single alter to you with full certainty, as if it will never change. because it will. for so many different reasons, systems will grow, they will shrink, they will fuse, they will develop. you can’t expect the person with the dissociative disorder and lack of core identity to be able to keep up a perfected list of forever, it’s simply impossible. you may have alters who stick with you, but that doesn’t mean changes won’t happen.

and systems who may be reading this — please don’t feel bad. you are not a hassle, you are not a headache, and you are not an inconvenience for simply coping with something like this. it’s out of your control and the only thing you can do is continue to cope to find ways to help yourself retrain from these reactions. please don’t allow yourself to be harmed by others who don’t understand what you are going through. there are people who will accept and love you for who you are, all of you.

past, present, and future.

[urfavoritesecretadmirer]

You are allowed to love being a system, after all, it is what saved your life

[loveloveplural]

plurality is not defined by switching.

plurality is not defined by headcount.

plurality is not defined by an inner world.

plurality is not defined by distinct headmates.

plurality is not defined by communication.

plurality is not defined by getting along internally.

plurality is not defined by an origin.

plurality is defined by multiple consciousnesses/identities in one body. if you say you’re plural, we and many, many others will always believe you. no two plurals are the same, and no one can tell you what you are or aren’t 💞

[positivitycombopack]

Shout out to systems whose abusers tried their best, but failed.

It can be so, so hard to have the good with the bad. You’ll remember the good times — the things they did right, the stuff you remember fondly — and think “it couldn’t have been that bad, if I still have these good memories.”

It can be. Two things can be true at the same time. Your abusers could have loved you so, so much, and done so much right — and still fucked up.

Shout out to all those with a complicated relationship with their abusers. Shout out to those whose abusers did their best to love you, but never could the way you needed. Shout out to those who weren’t purposefully abused, but still suffered.

Your suffering is seen here, and it is just as valid as anyone else’s.

[snowyapricity]

treat yourself with the kindness that you deserve!

[pigeon-system-boys]

I LOVE YOU SYSTEMS

YES YOU TOO

Even if you were told that you are gross

Even with alters with PrObLeMaTiC Source (don't care, you aren't your fucking source!!!)

Even if your persecutors and protectors act like pieces of shit (they are trying and are fucking up. A lot of times. But they're trying!!)

Even if your littles are sexual protectors (VALID) (YOU DON'T CHOOSE ALTER ROLES)

Even if you can't heal right now

Even if you are happy that you are system

Even if you ARE NOT happy about being system

Even if you have NO CLUE what tf was your trauma

Even if you have your trauma 360° full HD scarred into your brain

If you want to know your trauma and if you don't

If your system is full of abuse (don't say you are bad person, you aren't, your brain tries to COPE)

Even if your trauma was "not enoth", even if it was "too much"

Even if you don't love yourself

Especially if you don't love yourself

I am here for you

[nyctocollective]

symptom holders don't have to be constantly, miserably affected by their symptoms (same goes for trauma holders and memories)

protectors don't have to be constantly on edge and hostile

caretakers don't have to constantly be gentle and patient

persecutors don't have to constantly hate & hurt

socializers can be bad at or avoid socializing

we are complex, we are not always the way our roles are viewed, we are also not JUST our roles in a system, we are allowed to be contradictory.

[moonpool-system]

* Hate will be removed. This is for all plurals 👥

[king-system]

SYSTEM ASK GAME!! FOR SYSTEMS OF ANY ORIGINS!! SYSMEDS DNI!!

Which headmates are the iconic couple

Which headmates are the unlikely couple

Which headmates were enemies at first and now best friends and/or a couple

Which headmate is the most different from the body?

Which headmates are city folk

Which headmates are country folk

Which headmates have the most unique music taste?

Which headmate has the most specific role?

Are there any headmates from a specific state/country/etc different from the body?

Which headmates are emo/punk/goth etc?

What are some pet peeves headmates have about other headmates?

What headmate was the biggest surpise?

What headmate has a skill that the body doesn't usually, but when they front the body gets it (or almost gets it)?

What headmate makes the most typos?

What headmate has the weirdest (/pos) way of talking/typing?

[collectivewarmth]

please do not let online system spaces convince you that you need to label and have every single thing in your system figured out. that’s an extremely unrealistic goal and you’re not any sort of faker for not knowing every single thing.

just be.

[thexspiral]

I'm being so real with you all, stop trying to appeal to fakeclaimers.

I am diagnosed with DID, in treatment, have an extremely covert presentation, and pretty much ONLY talk about having DID online. I got the trauma to show for it, which I've been open about before, and I'm heading for final fusion. I don't get mad when people fakeclaim me and just shrug it off bc I know I'm not.

I still get fakeclaimed.

You're never gonna win. You're always gonna be faking in their eyes, whether you are or aren't. No matter how many qualifications you have, they will never believe you.

So just stop trying. Be yourself, be weird about it.

[lefluoritesys]

No, you're not.

(Made by me)

-host

[schrodingerscollective]

[a-systems-positivity]

if you've ever purposefully tried to deny your system/"turn it off" and it still keeps happening, your system can't be fake.

you can't subconsciously fake something while fighting against it.