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i pray you heal from things no one ever apologized for

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You didn't grow the way intended, but you grew. Someone else bent your path, changed your course, but you are the one who became something, you are the one that corrected your fate and will forever be better than the ones who hurt you. It may have took you longer than others to reach this point, but you put in the work and I am so incredibly proud of you.

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one of the most important things i’ve learned in therapy is that when you’ve experienced prolonged trauma in your childhood, pleasure feels uncomfortable. like, not that you don’t feel it, but that when you do feel it there’s an impulse to make it stop, because it’s extremely unfamiliar. and pleasure can mean many things, as simple as feeling cozy, and as complex as feeling loved. the neural pathways for feeling good have not had a chance to develop, and the neural pathways for feeling bad are quite practiced. feeling good, too, takes conscious practice.

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hey there. this is so stupid. but, i am also a csa survivor. my abusers were male & female. i have a friend saying they think that’s the reason i’m bi. do you think that’s possible? and if so do you think i could train my brain not to be bi 😣

hi, its not stupid, but your friend is entirely wrong and dumb. trauma doesnt make you a certain sexuality. no, you cant train yourself to not be a certain sexuality. if youre bi, thats something about you that wasnt caused by anything and cant be changed. the fact that your friend thinks that means they are probably very ignorant and uneducated about both trauma and beint lgbt. you should be proud of being bi and know it wasnt caused by anyone else esp your abusers.

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be kind to the younger version of yourself. nurture them. it wasn't their fault.

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this isn’t even an opinion, it’s an actual fact that no child deserves to be abused 

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Just because your abuser was abused the same way they abused you, it does NOT mean you will abuse somebody else. You can break the cycle. You are not your abuser.

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dear trauma survivors,

here’s a little something my therapist told me that helped me out:

even people with the worst trauma tell themselves “it could have been worse”

even people with the most unpreventable trauma blame themselves.

every single person who has gone through trauma beats themself up over it.

those thoughts that you shouldve done something different or that you just need to “get over it”… they aren’t true. they’re just symptoms of real, valid trauma. what you went through was hard. no human being deserves to go through that. you are allowed to be upset. you are allowed to feel angry and scared. your feelings are valid, and it was not your fault.

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“healing yourself

is a brave step

toward recovery—

you deserve this.”

s.s. (stephenstilwell)

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To all the victims who no one believed:

I see you.

I hear you.

I believe you.

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you deserve a happy, healthy, consensual sexual relationship if you want one