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Are we gonna hear about Cody's nipples? Who wants to do shots with me when we do? 🥴🥴

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Don't forget Wade and his cat!

starting a collection.

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I've been extremely quiet on here (save messages with one of my most treasured pirate friends), but I've been working my ASS off, getting ready to finally, FINALLY get back out on the course and show my horse. He turned 20 this year, but physically this is the best shape he's ever been in. First show is on the weekend of the 10th and I'm PUMPED. Lots of pictures to come, I promise.

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I think I'm in danger? Not sure what from, but... Jerky is involved so shit ain't that safe 😬 (think I'm gonna run away to hide with @piratewithvigor)

the og post was way too long so I'm making a new one

thanks for the tag @lombolica !! :D

You're stuck in a room with the last character in your gallery how safe are you

very safe

the worst thing that could happen is him being clumsy, so I think I'm alright (unless monsters find him I guess)

tagging (no pressure): @flaretheidiot @lemonic-whimssyy @wibbly-wobbly-blog @cryptidanathema @virtualunease @aurlworthfightingfor @angrysheep @sugarplumanderson @time-travelling-chaos @fateisnotafactor @monstrousmaws @sinfulauthor @idkaguyorsomething @vampireopossum and anyone who wants to do this!

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To expand on @d-lanx post earlier... cat. Named Matey, apparently.

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It's my 13 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

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We're just asking for trouble, aren't we Wadesy?

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Hey guys? Did ya'll know Stuart has a cat? At least, he says it's a cat...

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Working in the yarn shop on Sundays, I have a group of regulars who come in specifically then for my advice on their knitting projects and over the years I've gotten to know a lot about them - their ailments and their spouses and their children and their careers and their mothers are all things they find themselves telling me about over the course of trying to bring forth a knitted piece. Most of them are women, most of them are over 50, and most of them have been through a lot and are trying to reclaim something for themselves through the act of creation. A while back, one of these older women opened up to me about how when she first came to this country it was just her and her daughter and they were so happy until her husband joined them, when he promptly began making her miserable. Now, decades later, all her children live far away, she spends all her time taking the husband to dialysis, her sciatic is bad and she may need heart surgery (who will take care of her, I find myself wondering), and she comes to see me once a month or so to talk about a new project and tells me it is the only thing she does for herself.

Today she came in with a smile on her face and delightedly introduced me to her son, who will soon move closer to home with his family. Then she says, as if commenting on the weather, that on Friday her husband died, and tomorrow they will hold the funeral. For a second I had tonal whiplash from the conversation and then I realized, oh, you're unburdened now. Like the relief in her face and her body were palpable. The son shows a picture of a cardigan to me and asks if it can be knitted, and we pick out yarn and a pattern. She's so excited to make it for him. She beams when she looks at him; he is tall and handsome and polite, and wants to wear something she made for him. She is proud of this man she raised.

It just made me think of the many, many women who come from cultures where leaving a crappy spouse isn't an option so they shuttle along doing their best and trying to find some beauty and joy in whatever way they can. Kids may not visit often because their spouse isn't welcoming or there is bad blood, so they are lonely. I remind her, we have our social group. She hasn't come to it much before because she is always taking him to dialysis, but now she says she will come often and meet the other women. Many of them are like her, but in the craft they find companionship that has been absent for so much of their lives. I hope there will be renewal for this dear lady and that she can learn more about herself and what brings her joy.

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At least he tried. Maybe next time he needs to have a Snickers at the ready?

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Since I went fishing with the paternal unit yesterday, I thought I'd share some Wade appreciation.

(The only man in the world that fishes while wearing Armani lol)

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There's not enough Wade love on here. So, let's enjoy this handsome Brit, only a week or so away from his 44th and sexy as ever. So glad he got to go home and see family during his time off.

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As some of you may know... this was my four wheeled baby...

However, on the 10th I was nailed by some 17yo prick in a cheap little Honda and Ozzy was a total loss. He was 1000% my dream car and I'm still upset over losing him. (Ngl, teary eyed right now thinking about him.)

I was going to put the pictures of what had happened to him but they're not pretty and I don't want him remembered like that. If you're interested in seeing what kind of damage a Honda can do to a 5th gen Camaro at 70+mph I can send the pictures privately. So, RIP Ozzy I'll miss you always, but welcome home Drew!