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Hi! I'm Dara Hoffman-Fox, creator of the "Conversations with a Gender Therapist" YouTube channel. Today I’d like to share with you a piece of fan mail in which the writer was concerned that I’m “throwing away my intelligence” because, here in recent days, I have primarily been using video as my educational tool of choice instead of writing. I spent some time reflecting on it and wanted to share with you what I came up with in response. :)

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Today I’d like to share with you my latest favorite way to address someone who has accidentally misgendered me. The reason I say it’s my “favorite” is because, so far, this approach has lead to having some amazing conversations! It isn’t something I can EVERY time I’m misgendered, but it’s a start. :)

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How Am I Doing 4 Months After Surgery??

It's the 4-month anniversary of my breast reduction surgery! I'm excited to share with you how I am doing, ESPECIALLY when it comes to how much better I feel about my body, my gender identity, and all around finally feeling like "me"! :)

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My Nonbinary Update is a Pronoun Update!

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I Haven’t Posted a Video in 3 weeks! Here’s why.

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“How to Come Out as Trans to Your Partner”: Guest Expert Series

Welcome to a new segment of the Conversations with a Gender Therapist channel: “Guest Expert Series”

Today’s guest expert is Brannen Clark, APSW. Brannen is a mental health professional with a focus on trans health and wellness. Brannen identifies as gender neutral/nonbinary and uses singular they pronouns.

Brannen will be discussing the “101’s” of how to come out as trans to your partner. In this video they discuss:

Identify your support system Practice! Prepare for different outcomes Check in with your support system afterwards

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“What Should I Say When I First Contact a Therapist?”Maybe you are gender questioning, or you’re ready to transition, or you are trans and just need someone to talk to. Whatever your reason, taking the step to first contact a therapist can be intimidating and overwhelming. Don’t worry, I simplify the process for you in this video! I walk you through your first contact with a therapist, step-by-step. This includes advice for those of you seeking out just therapy, those seeking letters for HRT and/or surgery, and those who are looking for both. You’ve got this!Watch here:https://youtu.be/HOiwMnchK7U

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Post Surgery Reflections: 4-Week Anniversary Update! (My Nonbinary Update)

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These 5# weights represent the start to my post-#breastreductionrecovery exercise routine. 💪🏻 I won’t be cleared to increase my workout intensity until the first week of a January but am getting stir crazy! 🤪 More updates to come on my health & wellness plans for 2018 🎉 #nonbinary #trans #2018goals

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A map...a phone with a cord...my hair??? #tbt #90srules #nonbinaryelder

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With this being the gift-giving season, I wanted to address a question I’ve been frequently asked: Is You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery suitable for me to purchase for a gender-questioning adolescent or teen in my life? My advice is that if the adolescent or teen can read at a Young Adult level, …

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(via Gift Idea for Gender-Questioning Teens & Adolescents)

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This is Part Three in my "Post-Surgery Reflections" series, where I discuss having undergone a trans-affirming surgery from the perspective of a nonbinary gender therapist.

In "Caregiver Duties & Partner Support" I share:

- Updates on how my physical recovery is going & search for more post-surgical support - What my partner’s primary caregiver responsibilities were the first few days after surgery - How she felt leading up to my surgery, as well as her reaction afterwards

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Post-Surgery Reflections: Yay for Gender Dysphoria Reduction!

This is Part Two in my "Post-Surgery Reflections" series, where I discuss having undergone a trans-affirming surgery from the perspective of a nonbinary gender therapist.

In "Yay for Gender Dysphoria Reduction!" I share:

- Discussing what is gender dysphoria. - How long it’s been since I’ve known my chest didn’t fit who I was. - In what ways I experienced discomfort (physical and emotional) with my chest. - What I’ve done over the years to try to cope with my chest discomfort. - Why this feels right for “Dara.” - One of the surprises I’ve experienced so far, regarding my results. - Looking to the future: exploring chest support, focusing on other areas of health - Why I think it’s important to share my journey with you! - How my feminine/masculine energy is in moving into more balance now. - How the feeling of disconnect from my body is resolving itself. - Tips for those who are considering getting surgery to change your chest.

Watch Part One: Procedure & Recovery here: https://youtu.be/0BjTeOWzrsg

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Post-Surgery Reflections: Procedure & Recovery (My Nonbinary Update)

This is Part One in my "Post-Surgery Reflections" series, where I discuss having undergone a trans-affirming surgery from the perspective of a nonbinary gender therapist. In "Procedure & Recovery" I share: - What surgery was performed and why I had it done - What steps I took to get as healthy as possible leading up to the surgery - Details about the surgery & the results - What I did during my recovery to ensure proper healing - Pain & discomfort levels experienced - Timeline of increasing range of motion with my arms - The 2 things that are most difficult for me not to be able to do yet - 3 items you can use to help with healing after surgery - How I was able to fund my healing supplies & copay - How the post-surgical binder feels - How my first appointment after the surgery went

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Why Am I Getting a Reduction Mammoplasty? (My Nonbinary Update)

My reduction mammoplasty is coming up in less than two weeks! I thought I’d take this opportunity to answer a few questions ya’ll have been asking me about why I’m getting the surgery (hint: it’s for both medical AND gender dysphoria reasons). I also share more about what I’ve been doing to best prepare for the surgery. Thanks for joining me on this part of my journey!