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Why Law Of attraction does not work for you?

When I was younger, I felt bad about myself, I didn't have self-confidence and I saw everything negatively. One day I decided to get out of this state and my search for solutions led me to discover the "Law of Attraction".

It is based on the idea that our thoughts are creative, that we attract what we think about the most. So I started to visualize what I wanted to achieve. This was a big step in my life, because I adopted a more constructive way of thinking. However, no matter how much I visualized my dreams, not all of them came true. I tried to figure out why.

I flew to the United States to meet people who had participated in the film The Secret, about the Law of Attraction. I also interviewed artists, athletes, entrepreneurs who were all successful. And this research led me to discover the ingredients I was missing.

Directing our thoughts to succeed

Numerous scientific experiments have proven that when we take a special interest in a subject, we filter the world accordingly using the activating reticular system. For example, it makes a pregnant woman spot the baby stores and be attracted by a poster on a nursery... while at the same time her entrepreneur friend notes the costume stores or the opportunity to invest in a fashionable store.

So, the more we think about a project or a dream, the more we will perceive the opportunities available to us and even provoke them. Our thoughts have an impact on our body and emotions, so directing them towards our dreams does indeed play an important role.

Knowing our true desires

But we still need to know our real dreams! Some people visualize things they don't deeply want: a car, recognition, money... But that's not what inspires them.

By freeing ourselves from the projections of our parents, society, our loved ones, and by going towards what makes us vibrate, we increase our motivation tenfold. Because motivation is not the cause of success, but rather the consequence of a project that really inspires us.

When you do something you love, you become motivated but also creative and organized, which in fact increases your chances of success.

Beware, because the Law of Attraction can lead you to fail even more!

Indeed, visualizing the result is not enough. In one study, high school students were separated into three groups. One group had to visualize themselves having the baccalaureate, thinking about the result, while the other group had to, in addition to the result, visualize themselves revising, seeing the potential difficulties.

The first group performed less well than the control group while the participants in the second group performed the best. Why was this? Because they practiced with the aim of succeeding.

In coaching, I regularly exchange with people who do not understand why they do not achieve what they visualize. By questioning them it turns out that these people want to get the job, the man or woman of their dream, but they focus on their goal, without clarifying how to reach it, without acting.

Yes, it is important that they visualize the result. Just as it is important that they anticipate the obstacles that may stand in their way, visualize how to react to them and then take action. They can train, practice, ask for help, work on their self-confidence, expand their network...

Staying in the fantasy that it's going to be easy or that it's going to fall out of the sky doesn't make it happen. Thinking that it's going to be hard and that you're never going to make it leads you straight to failure. Take the time to visualize every potential difficulty, without getting emotional ("It would be horrible if this happened to me..."), and look for solutions.

The key to success is to say to yourself: "Whether it's easy or difficult, I'm prepared and I can face any eventuality.

After years of research on success and well-being, hundreds of interviews and hundreds of coaching sessions, I can affirm one thing: not believing in a project or a dream guarantees us not to succeed. Believing in it is a prerequisite but does not guarantee the result.

Knowing our dreams, turning our thoughts towards them, preparing ourselves for the difficulties we may encounter, being in rich energy and taking action, these are for me the keys to success!

Let's summarize:

1. Find a project that truly inspires you, the kind of project for which you naturally have energy.

2. Visualize yourself reaching your goal and how you feel.

3. Imagine all the potential difficulties in a neutral and objective way.

4. Clarify how to react to them and practice.

5. Take action and create opportunities.

6. Bonus: take time to appreciate what you already have.

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