demiro

[demiro]

people can do whatever they want with fictional characters forever but one thing that always pisses me off is how aro/ace characters are treated in shipping.

while it is a naive mentality to tell people never to ship aspec characters, saying “aces CAN have sex” and “aros CAN be in a romantic relationship” to defend erasing their aspec identity just to ship them as if they were like an allo person means you don’t respect their identity, nor ours. yes aces can have sex. yes aros can be in a romantic relationship. but they will still be aromantic and asexual while in that relationship. and don’t even get me started on using demi identities as an “easy explanation” for why it’s okay to allowash them. other identities are treated with such absolution, so why should we continuously get the short end of the stick?

so i guess the thesis of this post is that people are absolutely allowed to ship aspec characters but if you mfs don’t care enough to understand the nuances of our identities i’m taking your aspec blorbos and putting them on a high shelf

[demiro]

Anyway, fellow sex-repulsed aces with moral OCD that might be triggered by the "you MUST be horny and write porn and be sexual or else you're functionally a conservative" wave on this site, because I know it's making mine act up something fierce:

No you don't

Your discomfort with sexuality and sexual themes is morally neutral and does not make you even remotely similar to Moms for Liberty

Porn is not the only thing they're trying to censor

Porn is not the only thing they're trying to censor

One of the most challenged books of the 2020s so far is Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe, a memoir of a trans AROACE person

You do not need to write or draw things that trigger you to be a politically progressive artist

You do not need to be sexual to be a good person

You have stories that need to be told too, and your stories are as vital to fighting censorship and protecting free expression as any other queer story

We're all in this together and together is the only way we're all getting out of it

[demiro]

This page is for not only demiromantics but all of the fringes of the community, from both sides of the spectrum — romance-favourable to aplatonic and nonpartnering aros, and any personal choice that someone takes on their personal journey with aromanticism. You are seen. :)

[demiro]

I made this account years ago when I was insecure in my orientation and wanted to see more demiromantic representation out there. And I haven't done a great job of being it, because I was truly not very committal haha. But I still get some stray follows and still get @'d by other aromantic + demiromantic blogs, and it reminds me that though the community is small, we're out there. I'm still kicking! Still aro, still demiromantic. Hope you're all well ♥️

[demiro]

The way so many aro people see other aro people talk about aro loneliness and their solution isn't to support them, or lend an ear or a shoulder, but instead to say "have you tried getting more friends?" "you still can have friends though!" "QPRs are out there! Try one of those!" "Hey have you heard of a QPR yet?" You are not better than people who treat getting a romantic relationship as a cure-all. You are doing the exact same "a relationship will fix you!" routine and I'm kinda tired of aros treating it as different because it's platonic.

[demiro]

aspec people are queer. aspec people deserve to be in queer spaces. aspec people are welcome to pride. aspec people are queer even if they're cis. aspec people are queer even if they're heterosexual. aspec people are amazing and deserve the world.

[demiro]

I have done a meem

[ID: Drake hotline bling meme. In the first frame, Drake does not approve of: "Romantic behaviours and flirting." In the second frame, he approves of: "Romantic behaviours and flirting but with that one person you've bonded with over two years. End ID]

[demiro]

Fun fact: Not all aros want a qpp.

Another fun fact: You're not doing aromanticism wrong if you don't want a qpp.

[demiro]

Happy pride specifically to the heteroromantic aces, and heterosexual aros. I love you all. You are wonderful human beings and an important part of the lgbtqia+ community.

[demiro]

If you're arospec and experience romantic attraction and would rather engage in a qpr or have no partner at all, you're very cool and valid! Your romantic attraction doesn't diminish your other relationships or lack thereof, and you're an important and valued member of the aro community :]!

[demiro]

Huh. So, apparently the demiromantic subreddit has been resurrected?? It was dead in the water when I was questioning…

(Considering the tumblr tag was pretty quiet until a few months ago too let’s have a big cheer for the demiromantic community renaissance 👏💚)

[demiro]

NORMILIZE👏 GREYROMANTIC👏AND👏DEMIROMANTIC👏 PEOPLE👏LIKING👏ROMANCE👏

😤😤 I'm a greyromantic person who really loves the idea of relationships I just never seem to have romantic feelings for some one. No, this is not the same as wanting to have a relationship for validation or societal standards. WE'RE ALLOWED TO BE ROMANTIC, TO LOOK FOR AND SEEK PEOPLE WE MIGHT LIKE ROMANTICALLY AND WE'RE ALLOWED TO ENJOY BEING IN LOVE OR BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP

And to all of y'all who haven't yet felt romantic attraction and don't want to, THATS FINE TOO WE'RE ALL VALID 💕💕

[demiro]

One thing that bothers me is when people says demisexuality is not a sexual orientation. Because that’s just not true.

Demisexuality has everything to do with attraction, like any other sexuality. Let’s take lesbian as an exemple. Lesbians can only by attracted to women. Demisexuals can only be attracted to people they have a strong bond with. That’s it, that simple! Sexual orientation is about how we experience attraction to other people so yeah, demisexuality falls into that to!

Some demisexual will have preference when it comes to gender, of course, and will like to add demisexuality as a plus to their prefered gender attraction, like demipansexual. Other demis, like me, will simply use demisexual has a label, because it is a full sexuality! For me, it’s not a “micro-label”, it is my full sexuality! That’s how I define my attraction!

Same things goes for demiromanticism!

[demiro]

Any other ace-spec/aro-specs a little put off when people tend to acknowledge Aspec identities outside of ace and Aro is when it comes to shipping discourse?

[demiro]

Aro culture is getting confused when people don't stay friends with their exes when they broke up mutually and/or on good terms

[demiro]

can we make a thread suggesting help blogs for aspec’s micro-labels?

could really help people

[demiro]

I would just like to make it known that it’s okay to also talk about your attraction if or when you experience it. I know we often put our lack of attraction on the forefront, but it’s just as okay to talk about your relationship with attraction. It does not diminish your identity nor make you any less aspec.